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Have you ever refused a meet because of the state of someone's home?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has a home been so unclean and untidy that you couldn't go through with a meet? I just think that if they are lazy around the home, then what else are they careless with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often noticed the mess in the back ground on pictures. Some look like landfills it would certainly be a no from me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I've often noticed the mess in the back ground on pictures. Some look like landfills it would certainly be a no from me "

I'm glad I'm not the only one that does this x

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I always loom at the background of pictures. They make a difference to whether I reply

Mrs N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I've often noticed the mess in the back ground on pictures. Some look like landfills it would certainly be a no from me

I'm glad I'm not the only one that does this x"

They don't seem to even try to hide the mess .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would definitely put me off hygene is a must for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What's the worst thing you've seen in the background? There's plenty with dirty washing on the bedroom floor etc but I've seen some truly horrific things x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the worst thing you've seen in the background? There's plenty with dirty washing on the bedroom floor etc but I've seen some truly horrific things x"

I've seen one that had dirty dishes all over the background, an overflowing ashtray among other things generally looked dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the worst thing you've seen in the background? There's plenty with dirty washing on the bedroom floor etc but I've seen some truly horrific things x

I've seen one that had dirty dishes all over the background, an overflowing ashtray among other things generally looked dirty "

That must have been a big picture!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Stained sheets, a dismantled motorbike, a woman laying seductively on the bed with a half-eaten pizza next to her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the worst thing you've seen in the background? There's plenty with dirty washing on the bedroom floor etc but I've seen some truly horrific things x

I've seen one that had dirty dishes all over the background, an overflowing ashtray among other things generally looked dirty

That must have been a big picture!"
big enough to see the mess

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's the worst thing you've seen in the background? There's plenty with dirty washing on the bedroom floor etc but I've seen some truly horrific things x

I've seen one that had dirty dishes all over the background, an overflowing ashtray among other things generally looked dirty

That must have been a big picture!"

Or maybe she just used her eyes x

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

ive been to a house and i swear the carpet was moving lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the worst thing you've seen in the background? There's plenty with dirty washing on the bedroom floor etc but I've seen some truly horrific things x

I've seen one that had dirty dishes all over the background, an overflowing ashtray among other things generally looked dirty

That must have been a big picture!

Or maybe she just used her eyes x"
this too

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No, I've never been to anyone's house that made me want to walk back out,thankfully.

I did see a picture of a guys bedroom with a banana peel just lying on the carpet, which I thought was a bit strange.

Mingeman used to have amazing pics for spotting odd stuff in the background, I miss him.

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By *erlin76Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes, I went to meet someone at theirs and there was at least 10 dog shits on the floor.

I told her straight thats why I was off. She was begging me to say but not a fucking chance in hell!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stained sheets, a dismantled motorbike, a woman laying seductively on the bed with a half-eaten pizza next to her x"

You had me at half-eaten pizza... admittedly that was the end of the sentence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, I went to meet someone at theirs and there was at least 10 dog shits on the floor.

I told her straight thats why I was off. She was begging me to say but not a fucking chance in hell!!"

Oh that's grim x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

The garden was so overgrown that I didn’t even go in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*hides clothes under bed *

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The garden was so overgrown that I didn’t even go in. "

Is that because you couldn't find the door in the jungle?

Great profile by the way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stained sheets, a dismantled motorbike, a woman laying seductively on the bed with a half-eaten pizza next to her x"

Hahaha nothing says come seduce me like a half eaten pizza

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By *nunknown1Man
over a year ago

Cambs


"Stained sheets, a dismantled motorbike, a woman laying seductively on the bed with a half-eaten pizza next to her x

Hahaha nothing says come seduce me like a half eaten pizza"

Sex and a snack - what’s not to like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always check whats in the background in peoples photos, some are disgusting.

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By *umbrian GuyMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

it kind of puts me off when a couple are shagging on cam and there's a dog wandering about in the background or they have to stop to push the dog away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*hides clothes under bed *"

??????

Loved this made me smile

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Yes I have...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a really bad one on new photos once and the lady in question put on her status what should I do with my spare time tonight and my friend messaged her and said tidy your room

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

There is guy who is a regular in the chat room ( i won't name him )is house is a right shit hole, how he hopes to get a meet is beyond me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I have can accommodate on my profile, I would never invite a woman to come to my home.

I don't think any lady in her right mind would want to come to a gypsy site with all the dags

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Even though I have can accommodate on my profile, I would never invite a woman to come to my home.

I don't think any lady in her right mind would want to come to a gypsy site with all the dags "

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I've only walked out of a meet once, went to a guys house, he had 2 dogs, that's OK as I like dogs but went into bedroom but there were dog hairs etc all over the bed, was hideous, I had to leave.

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By *ipin CiderMan
over a year ago

Warick & London

Has anyone else been on each persons profile on this thread trying to find something on their pictures to secretly judge them on.... nope just me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*hides clothes under bed *"

Well done!

I just did the same.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Has anyone else been on each persons profile on this thread trying to find something on their pictures to secretly judge them on.... nope just me then "

Your grass could do with a trim

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"Has anyone else been on each persons profile on this thread trying to find something on their pictures to secretly judge them on.... nope just me then

Your grass could do with a trim "

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

It isn't so much that people live in untidy houses but the fact that they haven't even got the common sense to realise that the pic they are posting is going to look ridiculous and off-putting. Saw one today and there were stubbed out cigarettes and empty beer bottles everywhere in the background. Surely your own decency compass would say "no, I can't post that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Untidy background and sheer filth get a instant judgement with no interest.

Theres lived in and then there's mess. If Sir has requested photos I dont bother if i have the washing pile or clothes airer behind me, its life. Wouldn't ever dream of having bottles and boxes, dirty washing, rubbish, etc in photos for fab.

The ones I cant stand is the bedrooms with piles as high as wardrobes like a dumping ground.

Also cant stand a toilet in a photo

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I've seen pics with children's toys in the background. It's actually very common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have driven to a meet and not even stopped the car , first impressions are very important to me

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By *aya_69Woman
over a year ago

Stoke/Cheshire


"I always loom at the background of pictures. They make a difference to whether I reply

Mrs N"

Often theres a toilet

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Go's and looks at all his pictures to check there is nothing I missed in the background. Thankfully they all ok and I keep a tidy house so who knows I may still have a chance.

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By *ipin CiderMan
over a year ago

Warick & London


"I always loom at the background of pictures. They make a difference to whether I reply

Mrs N

Often theres a toilet "

Does a partial toilet count? Think it’s still in my private photos but I know it’s there (hangs head in shame and goes back to a large glass of red)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Never. Everyone's home we've been to has been very welcoming and comfortable

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Yes

And also once im there..

Just leave. Or run.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London


"I saw a really bad one on new photos once and the lady in question put on her status what should I do with my spare time tonight and my friend messaged her and said tidy your room "

Brutal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've got to say that I'm loving this thread x

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Swinging can be a risky business; risk from exposure, attack, diseases... So it's only natural that most people have their 'antenna' up, looking for clues, where ever they can find them, to get some kind of understanding as to whether or not someone is a risk. I do it all the time.

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By *inkysallyjackCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Must admit we haven’t but we won’t accommodate as we have animals and although our house is clean but lived in we appreciate that we wouldn’t want anybody feeling uncomfortable x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If their hoover has mud flaps that’s always a bad sign

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the worse ones are where you see no sheet on a grubby bed but it has clearly been slept in.

Just no

And net curtains an equal no

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By *candiumWoman
over a year ago

oban

I haven't hoovered in weeks, it's just too painful, and if I accidentally drop something in the floor it tends to stay there as it's difficult to get down there to rescue it. I wouldn't judge others by the state of their bedroom and I'd never have meets at all if I had to tidy mine 1st.

I don't like toilet pictures either though but that's cause it shows a lack of imagination rather than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t play, sorry but hygiene is paramount & Tom’s got me worried about the corona virus right now

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Swinging can be a risky business; risk from exposure, attack, diseases... So it's only natural that most people have their 'antenna' up, looking for clues, where ever they can find them, to get some kind of understanding as to whether or not someone is a risk. I do it all the time."
Really? All those risks - how do you get through the day? I get that we all manage risks, but you start by working our how likely a risk is, and make a proportionate response. I get that some people might not like an untidy house, and that an aesthetic response might say 'I don't fancy a shag in those circumstances' but the correlation between quantifiable risk and an untidy house hasn't been demonstrated to me by anything in this thread.

We're all differnet too - show me a house where there are ten dog turds on the floor (cited elsehwere in the thread) and I'll be turned off, not by the whiff of shit but the stench of animal cruelty - if you can't take your dog out and clean up after it you're just a bad dog owner.

Mr Icebreaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw a really bad one on new photos once and the lady in question put on her status what should I do with my spare time tonight and my friend messaged her and said tidy your room "

Ha ha that’s brilliant!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I think it funny that guys I talk to don't get that I won't meet because of the laundry hanging up in the background. I've been to 'digs' in my teens, it was grimy then, wouldn't do it now.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I saw a really bad one on new photos once and the lady in question put on her status what should I do with my spare time tonight and my friend messaged her and said tidy your room "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the worst thing you've seen in the background? There's plenty with dirty washing on the bedroom floor etc but I've seen some truly horrific things x"
photo of a hard cock above a toilet with and unflushed turd swimming in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What topping was on the pizza??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My house isn't a hospital clean room but I keep it clean, had some guys chat to me and the photos they send showing the state of their bedroom are just horrible. If you can't look after your room ladies and gents not many will want to meet even if you're a God or Goddess.

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

Last year we got in touch with a couple and were due to meet up but my wife unfortunately had to work on the day this couple wanted to meet. Originally we were to meet,daytime, at a pub but at the last minute they changed it to their house.

I explained that it would only be me (male) but they insisted that I should go over. I am a very tidy person and personal clealiness is a must.

I was met at the door by the guy who's first words before even "hello" was "take your shoes off and leave them outside because we had a new carpet a month ago".

His "wife" was quite pleasant but I got the impression he had got cold feet (and me with no shoes). He kept disappearing for two or three minutes at a time. The whole thing lasted about 45 minutes and there was no physical contact whatso ever.

When I left I wasn't even shown to the door. Luckily my shoes were still outside.

Certainly one of the more bizarre meets I have encountered.

G&A

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Went to one couples home it was very untidy so made my excuses and left, won't bring wife to anyone's house before I check it out first now. So most our meets tend to be at club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn't so much that people live in untidy houses but the fact that they haven't even got the common sense to realise that the pic they are posting is going to look ridiculous and off-putting. Saw one today and there were stubbed out cigarettes and empty beer bottles everywhere in the background. Surely your own decency compass would say "no, I can't post that" "

I think the decency compass should be applied to lots of photos on Fab and not just because of the mess in the background!

I'm not the most attractive woman but I know which pictures I look best in and I only post the best ones. After all we're advertising ourselves in this meat market!

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia


" I've often noticed the mess in the back ground on pictures. Some look like landfills it would certainly be a no from me "
same with us. We've looked at some dreadful backgrounds and yuch no way

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By *unkhouser72Man
over a year ago

Gtr Manchester

Ive had to do that in the past. "Our reporter made his excuses and left"

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