FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I thought I was going to a meet this morning after a load of messages and got told when on their road that it’s cancelled. Anyone else have this problem ?

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By *rmrs555Couple
over a year ago

Derby

It happens a lot on here unfortunately.

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By *ed just RedWoman
over a year ago

Dublin City

Apparently 40% of planned meets don’t happen

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Lots of flaky people in here mate, goes with the territory I’m afraid. Someone will be along shortly to tell you to “go to a club”........

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By *pril86Woman
over a year ago

chester

Omg yes!!! This am too we should of hooked up

net for a social last week he chased me for number ect and planned a naughty meet this am gave me his address ect then nothing, still on here and online on what’s app but no reply to any messages so weird. Time is so precious just no need in it. Manners cost nothing rant over

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By *elvet_OrchidWoman
over a year ago

Banbury

"So I thought I was going to a meet this morning after a load of messages and got told when on their road that it’s cancelled. Anyone else have this problem ?"

Yep. It happens ALOT on here unfortunately.

Just move on . Not all are like that !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i suppose a club would be better, but I dislike the people following a nice lady or couple around I find it a bit creepy. Haven’t blocked the culprit I may even get an apology

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

dont look up theres a green and yellow pig cruising at about 900 feet

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By *as4121Man
over a year ago

dartford

I guess things do crop up but it's pretty poor to let someone down, I can be a bit of a nightmare to arrange a meet with but once I do, I turn up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of flaky people in here mate, goes with the territory I’m afraid. Someone will be along shortly to tell you to “go to a club”........

Go to a club

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Lots of flaky people in here mate, goes with the territory I’m afraid. Someone will be along shortly to tell you to “go to a club”........

To be fair, clubs work for alot of people. It's unfair to try and put people off before they have even tried.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Lots seem to like the idea of meeting but can't do it in reality. They just like the thrill and get off on it.

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By *neamigoMan
over a year ago

should read 58… mistake with my age , cannot change it

"Lots seem to like the idea of meeting but can't do it in reality. They just like the thrill and get off on it. "

So right ... many time wasters on here unfortunately...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope...I can’t say I’ve experienced this myself. I think ya’ll need to work on your due diligence a little more

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Guess the key question here is whether a reason for the cancellation was given and if it was genuine - depending on the answer to that would define whether the person concerned was a timewaster for me.

The fact they let you know, even if it was last minute, is at least something.

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By *oupleseekingCouple
over a year ago

nearby…..

The whole site is full of them lately, seems to have gotten worse over last few months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a common thing in life no matter what it is, just let it go over your head and carry on. There is good on here it’s just patience and finding them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the thrill initially but then once the nerves creep in, it could go either way.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"So I thought I was going to a meet this morning after a load of messages and got told when on their road that it’s cancelled. Anyone else have this problem ?"

Spent many an occasion sat in a bar somewhere for no one to turn up. Don't let it get you down.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

I plan my social meets when I'm doing something else so if they don't turn up it's their loss I just carry on enjoying myself.

Many times guys have said yeah il come and meet not a single one turns up.

I think there's many dreamers and many people who want instant action.

I used to do without socials and the guys weren't truthful or didn't do what they said they'd do. So socials it is s out the undesirables more. If they don't think I'm worth the effort then they aren't worth my time.

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By *ictoriaathomeTV/TS
over a year ago

Huddersfield

To be honest it's more like 'Facebook' than a Swingers site.

Very disappointing ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had been speaking with a guy/tv every day for a couple of weeks and arranged to meet, me and hubby booked a hotel and arranged to meet him at 8pm. He sent message saying he couldn't wait to see us and was just about to leave to meet us. That's the last we ever heard. He was online that evening and the next few days but refused to answer our messages. Cost me and hubby money for the hotel that we really could have done with. I wish we could name and shame as so angry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I thought I was going to a meet this morning after a load of messages and got told when on their road that it’s cancelled. Anyone else have this problem ?"

Afraid so - you can think you’re so close to getting a meet and then suddenly it all goes quiet.... get used to it.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Reason we use clubs, well until we know the person.

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

I have to say I've been pretty lucky so far, although that's probably cursed it now. I think you just have to dust yourself down and move on, seems like it happens a lot so no need to take it personally. I'm sure there's plenty of others who would love to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots seem to like the idea of meeting but can't do it in reality. They just like the thrill and get off on it. "

There is the thrill of a meet but nothing quite like the thrill of playing with that nawty lady

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

My I ask how long you conversed with them before arranging a meet, and was this a social or straight in.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Happened to me travel 40miles then told it was cancelled

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

It happens to me last week and the week before that. If someone cancels in advance it's understandable but to cancel when you've already travelled is a bit cruel

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"So I thought I was going to a meet this morning after a load of messages and got told when on their road that it’s cancelled. Anyone else have this problem ?"
Tbh we have been very lucky...never been stood up on a social meet or playtime (but you never know ) do you lol..

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Don't even get me started!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common story on Fab lol

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

The problem is it shouldn’t be common I don’t understand. what are you doing here if you’re time wasting

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By *rs C and Mr CCouple
over a year ago

North East

The worst... is when someone you have already met cancels last minute... and you’ve travelled & booked a 5 star hotel (Mrs C is clearly not a travelodge type girl). Happened twice late last year, both guys we had met previously, both super keen...

And then just to make it even worse, both of them posted they were looking to meet the very next day! Will they get another chance... absolutely not.... just forget about them & move on!

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By *ilkyladyWoman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

I dropped a meet partner after a few months of meeting due to him repeatedly cancelling on the day. Moved onto better things. Last year went to a meet and the guy said he was in a 'bad mood' and I went home without playing! Nowt as strange as folk. Stick to people I know now or clubs

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By *heekyredsoloWoman
over a year ago

bromborough

It’s a minefield that’s for sure!

I only go to clubs after being messed about so much with socials in the past....

Decided to bite the bullet this week and post for a social and soooo many timewasters... come suck my cock etc.....

Clubs are brill for meeting people and making friends with in the swinging scene, no pressure and instead of that one person on a social there is a club full of people!

Just choose the right time to visit a club... so many fabulous events to go to!

You could always do private meets after making new friends

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Lots of flaky people in here mate, goes with the territory I’m afraid. Someone will be along shortly to tell you to “go to a club”........

To be fair, clubs work for alot of people. It's unfair to try and put people off before they have even tried."

I didn’t try to put the OP off visiting a club, I just predicted the usual response

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Sometimes it’s genuine. I’ve cancelled a meet today that I was gagging to make happen, as I’m unwell. I’m sure the guy thinks I’m bullshitting him.

But I’ve plenty of cancels and no shows over the years and they are infuriating. One guy has failed to show twice and actually contacted me last night wanting to try again. Ermm...fuck off mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what's worse; no shows or bullshitters. When buxom Tina turns out to be bearded Ted who is convinced that if I give him a blowjob I'll realise what I've been missing out on all this time....... x

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Had it myself had someone ask me for a meet tonight i said how bout next week they said please tonight i agreed got ready then boom silence its happenin all the time on here now x

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

"Had it myself had someone ask me for a meet tonight i said how bout next week they said please tonight i agreed got ready then boom silence its happenin all the time on here now x"

That's because they ask several people at the same time then pick out of who agreed the person they think is better choice. It's rude and disrespectful behaviour. One guy did it to me it's funny because he also asked my friend too. Same bullshit messages he sent both of us. It's one thing to cancel which is perfectly acceptable with reasonable time but it's another to stand someone up wasting people's time and treating people as a last option.

I've been stood up many times to see new verification pop up on their profile. Then they say things like oh parents turned up, kid was sick, blah blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman on this website the amount of times that you get turned down when you're on the road and you think yourself you found someone good to talk too can't wait to meet up with them and then last second they let you down that's just life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I thought I was going to a meet this morning after a load of messages and got told when on their road that it’s cancelled. Anyone else have this problem ?"

My record was 29 out of 30 planned meets cancelled on me, main reason I stick to clubs party's and regulars now Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time.once I was going to a meet and 5 minutes before I was to leave the house brother and his other half turned up at the door with pizza and beer.

Or you spend all day chatting with a couple who is just the male saying every thing. And then he tells the female and she tells him no way.

Or the single guy just wants a quick wank or just a dick that thinks that hiding behind a keyboard they can do whatever they want and it's just normal on here.

I spent 30 minutes at a prearranged pick up point and they right up to the last minute we be 5 minutes. Blocked me

Or they give you someone's else's address or phone number.

Someone once send over 70 guys to his ex wife house and she had to call the police as all these men started to turn up at her house and the kids and her got really scared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I thought I was going to a meet this morning after a load of messages and got told when on their road that it’s cancelled. Anyone else have this problem ?"

Welcome to fab frustrating

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Just goes to show how we all differ. It would never cross my mind to meet blind and turn up at some strangers house.

However, if I did I'd allow for windup merchants and roll with it.

Better luck next time op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least they let you know... No consolation I know...

One guy cancelled when I was already at the arranged meeting place but I gave him another chance, spoke on the phone, couldn't wait to see me blah blah .. Guess what? Stood me up again, didn't respond to any messages....I reported him.. Motives are beyond me...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'm not sure what's worse; no shows or bullshitters. When buxom Tina turns out to be bearded Ted who is convinced that if I give him a blowjob I'll realise what I've been missing out on all this time....... x"

Or the woman who invites you round to her house, and when she opens the door, you feel like asking if her daughter is in? I’ve met two women who used out of date photos to lie about their age, but obviously thought I would just take the sex on offer anyway......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the record I never back out of a meet once arranged...apart from when I meet and it's obvious they're complete liars and the profiles pics ain't theirs. The place is full of fakes, time wasters and dreamers

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