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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good afternoon all. Were heading to a club(cupids)next week for the first time as a couple. G has been before but its my very first time.

I'm intrigued by the scene but have no idea what to expect.

Will people just come up to us ?

Any guidance would be appreciated

Anna x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Cupid's is a dress down club so on arrival, they will give you towels and a locker key. You change into your lingerie/undies and you'll get a tour of the place by the staff. There is a large bar/dance area and a pool table and people socialise and make connections there as in any club. If you want to have any fun, either on your own or with others, you pick the appropriate room, set boundaries and grab condoms! Only join in with others if consent is clear, don't touch anyone without permission and tidy up after yourselves!

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By *aughtyDuetCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

My advice would be to socialise and smile. Be approachable. People will not automatically speak to you if your vibes are ‘up your own arsehole’.

Don’t think having a conversation means you are at liberty to play either.

Just say no thank you to those who don’t float your boat.

ENJOY

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cupid's is a dress down club so on arrival, they will give you towels and a locker key. You change into your lingerie/undies and you'll get a tour of the place by the staff. There is a large bar/dance area and a pool table and people socialise and make connections there as in any club. If you want to have any fun, either on your own or with others, you pick the appropriate room, set boundaries and grab condoms! Only join in with others if consent is clear, don't touch anyone without permission and tidy up after yourselves! "

Thank you. Nervous first timer haha

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By *onglegs888Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Do some research into what kind of club you are going to and what will make you more comfortable. As mentioned the club you’ve picked is a dress down club, straight into lingerie/towels etc.

The club(liberty Elite) we use is like a city centre bar. You dress to impress and socialise like any other bar. When you feel like it you move into a dress down area for play. That suits us as we like a flirt and socialise.

The point I’m making is choose your club carefully. Choose a set up that suits you.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Cupid's is a dress down club so on arrival, they will give you towels and a locker key. You change into your lingerie/undies and you'll get a tour of the place by the staff. There is a large bar/dance area and a pool table and people socialise and make connections there as in any club. If you want to have any fun, either on your own or with others, you pick the appropriate room, set boundaries and grab condoms! Only join in with others if consent is clear, don't touch anyone without permission and tidy up after yourselves!

Thank you. Nervous first timer haha "

Try not to be nervous - S was but he was surprised by how normal it felt to sit chatting to people in his pants! It's kinda like being by the pool on hols and chatting to the next person while you're wearing a bikink/Speedos!

Don't expect action with others on your first visit, if you haven't had sex publicly before, it might be good to watch others and/or play with each other in the couples room. It's a different dynamic to being at home!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been to one club.

We set out our rules and boundaries before we went. We knew what we we’re comfortable with before we got there.

As it turns out we both wanted to break those rules when we talked about it when we got home.

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By *allyandJonCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Use it as a social pilot to begin with, relax keep it easy going.

Watch what goes on and if you feel comfortable have a tease and play with each other whilst others watch.

Depends on how you feel and how interested you are in then taking it further.

Be prepared to be polite if anything isn't working just make an excuse and give each other a sign and move on.

It's fun and you can have a laugh afterwards talking about it once you get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you this seems sound advice.

Im sure we will be fine. G is out going. And relatively confident. He can be my safety blanket haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve been to one club.

We set out our rules and boundaries before we went. We knew what we we’re comfortable with before we got there.

As it turns out we both wanted to break those rules when we talked about it when we got home. "

Sounds good. Which club were u at ?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

You will have tremendous fun, I remember our first time, wrong time and place, think you have got it right.

Yet we still had fun and that’s what’s important, if it’s not fun don’t do it, kind of a rule for life really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You will have tremendous fun, I remember our first time, wrong time and place, think you have got it right.

Yet we still had fun and that’s what’s important, if it’s not fun don’t do it, kind of a rule for life really."

Why was it wrong time and place ? ??

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We always say, your first club visit is maximum nerves followed by anti climax

We spent about 20 minutes stood outside our first club, trying to be brave enough to ring the bell. Once inside and after a tour, it almost felt like an anticlimax as to how normal it all felt!

Cupids is a great first club. It's dress down on arrival, which can be a bit nervy, but once your in and around others all dressed down, you'll be amazed how not weird it feels. It's a very liberating feeling. It's also a lot easier to feel like going for a play if you're already in clothing that makes you feel sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We always say, your first club visit is maximum nerves followed by anti climax

We spent about 20 minutes stood outside our first club, trying to be brave enough to ring the bell. Once inside and after a tour, it almost felt like an anticlimax as to how normal it all felt!

Cupids is a great first club. It's dress down on arrival, which can be a bit nervy, but once your in and around others all dressed down, you'll be amazed how not weird it feels. It's a very liberating feeling. It's also a lot easier to feel like going for a play if you're already in clothing that makes you feel sexy "

Thabks Rob and Steph.

These comments are helping settle annas nerves ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve been to one club.

We set out our rules and boundaries before we went. We knew what we we’re comfortable with before we got there.

As it turns out we both wanted to break those rules when we talked about it when we got home.

Sounds good. Which club were u at ? "
Atlantis, the hosts were lovely too, they gave us a guided tour, they explained how things worked. Highly recommended.

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