FabSwingers.com forum: Being cheated in swinger relationship

By *issyEM OP Woman
over a year ago

Nearly

Anyone can share the story? Would you forgive your partner?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nothing to share but I would be unlikely to forget, forgive depends on circumstances and whether we could work through it

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Hot wife isnt cheating when the hubbys doing equal amounts of arranging......

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

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what

Some people do, quite often one of a couple will try and contact their opposite number in another couple trying to get them to meet alone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

Because being in a swinging relationship doesn't mean all bets are off, there are still boundaries that have been agreed.

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

That’s breaking rules then!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"That’s breaking rules then!

Example - a swinging couple agree that they will only meet people together. One partner decides they're going to meet someone alone, without their partner knowing. That's cheating.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I met a couple a few years ago and regularly get messages off the male half even now, wanting to meet alone.

He really wasn't the draw there, she was sexy as hell where he was... not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s breaking rules then!

Example - a swinging couple agree that they will only meet people together. One partner decides they're going to meet someone alone, without their partner knowing. That's cheating. "

This^^^

And what if you were the one they'd met alone and found out after?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

No, it's not.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

Being cheated on is never better than being on your own.

Ever!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

Wtf, I'd rather shove a cactus up my fanny repeatedly than be treated like crap! Know your worth and fuck him off!

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

I would rather be on my own than have a partner disrespect me like that

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

When you say a fab relationship do you mean fwb or fuck buddies or a more traditional one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

You can’t be serious

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By *ixen13Woman
over a year ago

Cowdenbeath

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own.

Wtf, I'd rather shove a cactus up my fanny repeatedly than be treated like crap! Know your worth and fuck him off! "

Well said Keeley, defo better on your own than with a oxygen theif x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

Reading that almost made me cry. You're wrong, its better to be on your own. Look after yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

I'd never been more lonely than when I was with my cheating cunt of an ex.

Could I forgive? Hmmm, if they owned up right away, then maybe.

If it was planned, schemed and all that bollocks then I don't think so. That's premeditated.

It would break my heart and trust and trust is something I value so deeply. It's one of the most precious things I can give another person.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"That’s breaking rules then!

Example - a swinging couple agree that they will only meet people together. One partner decides they're going to meet someone alone, without their partner knowing. That's cheating. "
that's what happened to me. I tried to forgive him.. and all that led to was him doing it all the more. So I walked

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "
walk away.. trust me its not better than being on your own x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "
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No it's not, you don't need that x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

No it's not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating the dynamic of your relationship has little bearing on it. The real question is what is the motivation of the cheat in the first place.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

It’s not. You can do better. Xx

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By *eonnieCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

It’s really not! A relationship (even a “fab” one) should be something positive, what could a person that has cheated and slagged you off have to offer that could ever justify that behaviour? No one can tell you how to live your life and what choices to make obviously. But does the current situation make you happy? If not how is it any better than being on your own?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

Wow. Sad you feel this way. I would much rather be alone than stay with someone so awful. Hopefully one day you will be strong enough to leave.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

Is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

The only person that can change your relationship is you. I'd suggest you change in the the following manner, drop him like a bad smell. I promise you there is better out there.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

Really?

Sounds like you would be much better off on your own tbh

I am half a couple and if Jack cheated on me ,that would be it .If you don't have trust there's no point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

I would rather be on my own forever than be in a relationship with someone who didn't respect me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or how is it possible..?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Me and husband have rules 1 of them

Is we always play together if I found out he was arranging meets behind my back then we would no longer be together and I would be a unicorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone can share the story? Would you forgive your partner? "

It's the ultimate sin for me, especially if you have permission to play alone as long as you both know.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

As above this is the lowest of low, and almost more insulting! If your allowed to play why cheat!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If husband had some on the side and didn't tell me it wouldn't bother me to be honest. He knows that as well. I know who he loves, the rest is not worth worrying about.

Mrs

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By *issyEM OP Woman
over a year ago

Nearly

So many different views. Mainly my relationship wasn't that open. We only swings with the same room swap option x

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own.

Wtf, I'd rather shove a cactus up my fanny repeatedly than be treated like crap! Know your worth and fuck him off! "

Yep pretty much this ^....But I accept that some people have a different view .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I forgive my partner?

No, under all situations it’s unacceptable.

Unless there has been a clear conversation had before hand to say you’re okay with meets..

Otherwise no - no, cheating is never okay... unless it’s mutually agreed/beneficial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a long term relationship, we’d been on fab for just over a year when he decided that meeting a number of women without me was acceptable, and fucking the same woman bareback was ok (we’d always agree no bb)

I dumped his ass! I lost the man I loved, had the indignity of having an STI screen and knowing they didn’t see anything wrong in it. They got together for a while.

Now I’m much better off. I’m happier, if a little cynical now.

I don’t have to worry that I’m being cheated on and my confidence has shot up. He was gaslighting me so much I lost me.

I’d rather be as I am, alone, than be disrespected like that again x

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

what

Some people do, quite often one of a couple will try and contact their opposite number in another couple trying to get them to meet alone"

We have had this happen on more than one occasion too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone can share the story? Would you forgive your partner? "
your partner cheated on you in a swinging relationship i guess, how do you feel about it?

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own.

Wow. Sad you feel this way. I would much rather be alone than stay with someone so awful. Hopefully one day you will be strong enough to leave."

Exactly this.

Believe and trust in yourself. Do the right thing for you.

Sometimes doing the right thing, isn't the easiest thing to do.

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By *itty n TomCouple
over a year ago

hastings

It isnt the act...it is the deceit that makes it cheating...it is sly. But each to their own... As for forgiveness... Yes ..but I would never forget and that can make things difficult xx

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

No, it really isn't. You're worth more than that.

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

what

Some people do, quite often one of a couple will try and contact their opposite number in another couple trying to get them to meet alone

We have had this happen on more than one occasion too.

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really....... get in the bowl

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

Sometimes, depending on the actual circumstances a female could be seeking a way out. Many couples get involved to 'save' their relationship not always to expand on their sexual experience.

More than likely this is a form of controlled cheating normally, but not always introduced by the male to be able to meet others although there are exceptions to this.

I have been approached later by the female to meet alone without hubby knowing. Usually turns out the reality is she is looking to escape the relationship or just went along with it to keep him happy or didn't enjoy her partner present and wants one to one without the ties of an affair.

Sometimes, it is never as black and white as it appears. Revenge fucking is also another where a partner arranges a meet to revenge the others cheating.

Every situation is different so one reply here cannot cover all bases. It is a lot more comfortable meeting a couple where both partners are 100% happy to be there.

I have left meets in the past where it is obvious she is 'just going along with it' to keep hubby happy.

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

Me and my wife ex wife split as a result of her cheating. We did swing together for a number of years as we both had an high sex drives and loved it. The guy she cheated with was not a swinger she met him through work.

We still get on and talk when we see each other. We don’t fuck but she has told me she misses the swinging life as he is not into it.

I suppose the grass is not always greener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own.

Wtf, I'd rather shove a cactus up my fanny repeatedly than be treated like crap! Know your worth and fuck him off! "

That’s some analogy !!!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

what

Some people do, quite often one of a couple will try and contact their opposite number in another couple trying to get them to meet alone

We have had this happen on more than one occasion too.

I've had this, very uncomfortable, had to block, she didn't know what he was upto but bet wasn't or isn't just me

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By *amescoupleCouple
over a year ago

north walsham

I (m( don’t really get it. Why would you need to in the first place. Your living a lifestyle most only dream of.

I guess it’s harder for either myself or carol to imagine as we both have agreed we can meet together and separately only stipulation is we tell each other.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

On two occasions I’ve had the female of a couple contact me privately..

One found me on Facebook..

Not every couple in here is as solid as they brag they are ..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

It's most definitely not better than being on your own. Ditch him, he's an arsehole. You deserve better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own.

It's most definitely not better than being on your own. Ditch him, he's an arsehole. You deserve better. "
thank you i will

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By *unandfrolics2020Woman
over a year ago

heanor

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own.

Wtf, I'd rather shove a cactus up my fanny repeatedly than be treated like crap! Know your worth and fuck him off! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody el

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"I'm in a fab relationship. And he's cheated on me. Not only that, slagged me off to those he's met. Suppose its better than being on my own. "

What a mug ..

You can’t be that desperate?

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

We are both free to meet solo on the agreement and understanding that the other knows about it and agrees to it.

Its worked fine for us for years but we both agree any break in that trust or agreement and it's a road we cant turn back on.

No need at all to cheat when you have an open marriage.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

what

Some people do, quite often one of a couple will try and contact their opposite number in another couple trying to get them to meet alone

We have had this happen on more than one occasion too.

really....... get in the bowl

By that we meant the guy from the couple has made contact after our meet asking if we would consider an MFM with him

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

My ex wife of 10 years unfortunately got a little bit addicted to the BDSM/Kink head space and shacked up with someone she dommed.

No- I can't forget or forgive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This wasn't a proper swinging relationship, but many years ago I had an ex who I encouraged to dress and behave 'slutty' -- I loved the stories of her past and her antics and the attention she'd get from other men.

She'd cheated on pretty much everyone she'd been with, and I also loved her stories about that -- in a way I think I set myself up for it.

However, I was a lot younger and hadn't quite sorted out my insecurities -- and so presented her with mixed messages about wanting a slut girlfriend, while also making my jealousy way too much of a thing.

When she inevitably cheated, I was all kinds of mixed up about it -- incredibly turned on -- even wanking over the images it conjured up -- but I was also very typical in my reaction, and not exactly mature.

That was a long time ago and my processing is much more integrous nowadays -- when they say 'careful what you wish for', I'm a lot more understanding of the fact that I'll actually get it.

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By *izzmonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Swinger or not cheating is cheating and shouldn't be tolerated

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

"That’s breaking rules then!

Example - a swinging couple agree that they will only meet people together. One partner decides they're going to meet someone alone, without their partner knowing. That's cheating. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same happened to me except he was moving in with me and every time I got suspicious he upped the ante and asked me to marry him.

I afterwards found out he contacted the women and couples we swang with after meeting and said I meant nothing and was just a fuck buddy and he really liked their woman or her and wanted to meet them on his own and was arranging meets with them.

We were not supposed to meet separately as per his rules in the first place and I was totally cheated on and the whole experience left me so sad and he made me think I was going insane for ages but an accomplished liar sadly.

I am far better off without him but I wish I had never experienced that bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife cheated on me with a regular guy we met for threesomes it turned into a 3 month affair it ripped me apart she blamed it on me because i love the swinging scene more than her we are still together i try to forget but find it very difficult to get the swinging bug back with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

I have been contacted here for solo meets from males from many couples, I ended up changing who can msg me as 90% of the couples were just the men wanting to meet on their own - if I’m interested in a couple I can just contact them myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you cheat in a swinger’s relationship?

That’s actually quite a scary amount isn’t it

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Anyone can share the story? Would you forgive your partner? "

I have been cheated on once in the past. It was very painful. If it was a one-off I may be able to forgive. If it was ongoing it's a goodbye from me.

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