FabSwingers.com forum: Are Young Men Trusted?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As a 23 year old male, i do find it difficult to grab the atention of ladies on this site and im finding it increasingly frustrating. I dont doubt that this is down to the countless men who screw everything up for the genuine guys amongst us.

Ive heard many horror stories from women i have met, and i understand their concerns, id just love to be given more of a chance to prove that im just a nice guy who enjoys sex, im more than happy to wine and dine before a meeting takes place as i know that feeling comfortable with a new sexual partner is importnant.

Can anyone offer me some advice on how to show im not a psycho/pervert or liar?

D xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for me its taking the time to get to know us or me not being all about the perv cam if your in chat or in mail being non pushy. Not presuming that because we have had a mail exchange its an automatic meet. Its also about how well you take a ty but no ty. Allot of single men on here I have encountered have been rude offensive and abusive when told no ty. Also they seem to forget when they are in chat others can see how they behave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure what you mean by trusted?

To be honest being rude, abusive or a butter isnt a age thing, to can be any or all of them at any age

However for me personaly 22 is just a bit to young i prefer guys around my own age, dont mind a bit younger but not to much, i dont want the guys i meet to make me feel like a granny lol cant speak for anyone else tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys,

ive always been gracious when i get a no ty thats for sure, im a polite guy. i see your points, I do try to set myself appart from the fuck wits who insult and perv. Im just a normal, charming guy, Im just hoping that comes accross early x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol well thats certainly fair enough. I guess i might try to hard

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

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Bad mouthing other men doesn't put you in a good light. We can spot the 'fuckwits" for ourselves.

You'll find on a site like this people with children older than you so it will be a no no. That said, many others prefer younger men.

Make sure you only contact people searching for your age group and good luck.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

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"Bad mouthing other men doesn't put you in a good light. We can spot the 'fuckwits" for ourselves.

You'll find on a site like this people with children older than you so it will be a no no. That said, many others prefer younger men.

Make sure you only contact people searching for your age group and good luck."

White knight syndrome...google it...isnt attractive...you arent getting meets, dont blame other men, it looks petty

Would i meet a 23 yr old, no i fancy older men, i want to be the nurtured one, not the teacher...however some people like younger men.

However and it is a big however, there is a bigger issue here i believe...

i get slated every time i say this but i never learn

i still find something odd about young single ppl using swinging sites...i have been swinging since i was 18...go out there and have fun...one of my best memories of being 23 was stripping naked and for a dare seeing if i could recite if by kipling whilst a man rimmed me and woman wanked in front of me...on a hillside in india...

life is for living

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a 23 year old male, i do find it difficult to grab the atention of ladies on this site and im finding it increasingly frustrating. I dont doubt that this is down to the countless men who screw everything up for the genuine guys amongst us.

Can anyone offer me some advice on how to show im not a psycho/pervert or liar?

D xxx"

Age and trust aren't connected as I see it its more some don't want to play with people the same age as parents or children.

Gaining someone's confidence is all about interaction so maybe change the sort of messages you send.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a social or a club, most people are a lot more relaxed about age limits then, as long as you look good and have a decent personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do gang bangs and like younger guys, however as we have been messed around quite a bit before we do tend to ask quite a lot of questions before we give them our phone number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say that the younger guys I have chatted with have always turned up for meets as planned.

If anything, it's the middle aged ones that don't show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its the environment this all takes place in dude. its a gamble

someone else suggested a club or social. thats prolly a good shout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have met a few younger guys and some have blew me away at how they behaved and was great fun and had things in common.

YET some was immature and complete cocks and i walked away when they got all cock sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have met a few younger guys and some have blew me away at how they behaved and was great fun and had things in common.

YET some was immature and complete cocks and i walked away when they got all cock sure

This is why my profile states pref older men.....younger guys tend to have the attitude they somehow doing me a favour....there are exceptions tho xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would i meet a 23 yr old, no i fancy older men, i want to be the nurtured one, not the teacher...however some people like younger men."

This is exactly how I am and so many guys just don't get it!

I've had blokes get really abusive over it, saying I'm a thick bitch and how would I ever know if they just lied about their age. They just don't understand the psychological aspect of it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone can talk to me with respect and and make me laugh age doesn't come into it. i have a criteria as thats my preference but have met people 1 or 2 years younger x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have been with a lot of older married guys,and all has gone well just sex and back to there wifes,however of the two younger guys i have been with nothin but trouble ,one i think fell in love with me and would not stop texing the other thought it was his right to turn up unanounced whenever he wanted and sit outside my house,i am married, so perhaps imaturity came into play but never again

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Younger men are more about the sex and less about the niceties like conversation. I love meeting younger men but they really are hard work sometimes.

I've said it before - young men for parties, older men for one on one meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just intrigued if Jemmima managed to remember and recite the full poem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me 23 is way too young, l'd be more interested in your parents. Plus you're bi-sexual, nowt wrong with that, but lots of women don't entertain bisexual men, me being one, it's just personal taste. Best of luck though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess a wall full of cock pics wont help you much either.

Age does not really matter much its more about the way you cokme across to people. Luckily for us as a couple we do not have to show anything off in our profile in fact its short for a reason. We would look at profiles however and see what people have said and the pics. Personally id rather see request a pic on a profile than 4 cock pics it just doesnt sit right with me.

Its all a personal thing of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some of us, it has nothing to do with trust, we are just not interested in your age group and there is nothing you can do that will change that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think the main struggle with being young is the majority of people on here are relatively older and probably find it weird playing with someone who's almost young enough to be their son.

I don't think most toyboy lovers frequent swinger sites. The swinging world isn't where you'll find many cougars if that's what you're looking for.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Can anyone offer me some advice on how to show im not a psycho/pervert or liar?

D xxx"

What makes you think it's your age that's holding you back?

How do you know its not because you're too ugly, or too bi, or too white, too tall, too short, too far, or simply because you can't accommodate ? Or any one of a hundred factors that mark you as an individual?

Or maybe the case is that, barring a very tiny percentage, EVERYBODY finds it hard to meet the right people on here, and that includes women and couples.

In 4 weeks you've already had at least 1 more meet than about 90% of single guys EVER get, so it doesn't look to me like your age has caused you any disadvantage at all.

If this isn't a classic case of someone simply having the wrong expectations of this site, then I don't know what is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I think a lot of the suspicion aimed at young folk who aren't out using nightclubs to get regular sex is a little misguided.

The adage of "when I was your age I'd never dream of using a sex site" doesn't really hold up as for a lot of older members they had nothing comparable whatsoever at that age. Contact mags are hardly a comparison in terms of time spent so there wasn't really another medium other than getting out and about. I'd certainly agree about the massive success rate involved with going out all you have to do is walk into a city centre bar on a saturday night and you get mobbed with offers, but will the sex be of the same quality? In most cases no...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me too much how old a guy is, my main criteria for not meeting is when they bombard me with messages. I've had this from young, old and same aged guys. It gets tiring, knowing you have a pile of unread messages and that half of them are from the "hey, how are you today" brigade.

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