FabSwingers.com forum: Jealousy and spite

By *lackking 2 whitequeen OP Couple
over a year ago

home counties

We’ve been an official couple for a year now and are so fed up with some females on here /clubs that deliberately go out of their way to split couples up. We play separately and together, we tell each other about our play with others.

When I (Mrs) was single I often would get messages from other single ladies warning me off certain guys. I’d always ask if they were in a relationship with the guy. 99% aren’t so they get told to jog on.

We are Swingers but so many are joining to date or just a quick booty call, which to us is not swinging.

We’re just glad we have a strong open honest relationship

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

I find it really weird that people on a swingers site can be jealous and spiteful about people who they aren't coupled with. A few of my friends have been dragged through the mud because they have had meets with guys someone else wanted to meet. Sly status updates about them and warning people off them etc. I dont get it. Aren't we all here to have great uninhibited sex?

Gem

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By *lackking 2 whitequeen OP Couple
over a year ago

home counties

Spot on Gem. It’s ridiculous playground behaviour.

We have a lady atm who has told someone that she’s jealous of me and that I restrict my partners swinging. Far from it, I encourage him to go off at clubs and play. This woman is already responsible for splitting up 2 couples I know. X

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

I have come across sulky (not going to say jealously) woman on fabs.....

Not sure why.....im just an average guy whos walked into a few parked buses in my days.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What strange behaviour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah unless the guy was a bad one. I think in the case of alarming, possessive behaviour women should be warned. I wish I would have been warned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately your always going to meet people of this nature and if your a couple who is swinging you both have to be in agreement about your boundaries and limitations my experience in swinging with previous partners is its all good fun at first then it gets messey the other half gets jealous tour spending to much time pleasing the other lady we even met up with some couples only a few meetings later for the woman to say I'm.not really into this I was only doing this to please my husband so unfortunately swinging can seem great for a while if your not rock solid it can break a relationship what I'm saying you have to be rock solid for this and iny opinion not a lot of people are

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Yeah unless the guy was a bad one. I think in the case of alarming, possessive behaviour women should be warned. I wish I would have been warned. "

In the past I have been warned off a guy and have even given a heads up or two to other women, not because of jealousy or spite but honestly for their own safety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my old profile I used to have a good circle of friends to play with but there was one lady that would give me grief when I met someone else. She was married as well!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

More jealousy and drama in the swinging world than vanilla life. Always has been.

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By *logger and Rainbow-AliceCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

We totally get and understand all this, we play separate and tell each other everything too. Sadly hes picked up a bit of a fruit loop who is infatuated with him, enough that we have now hidden all our photos apart from one. Swinging is meant to be fun

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"More jealousy and drama in the swinging world than vanilla life. Always has been. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been the victim of this. The spite directed at us has been awful! Even setting up fake accounts on here and messaging me on social media! People trying to split us up, causing me so much pain. They almost won, but thankfully we are stronger than that. I’m not letting them do that to us anymore. I just don’t get it. Splitting us up isn’t going to make us go for the person who’s done it, that’s just crazy!

So causing me pain will make me jump straight into the bed of the one who did it? I don’t get the mindset at all. They obviously don’t understand relationships and loyalty, and definitely not respect! xx

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I find it really weird that people on a swingers site can be jealous and spiteful about people who they aren't coupled with. A few of my friends have been dragged through the mud because they have had meets with guys someone else wanted to meet. Sly status updates about them and warning people off them etc. I dont get it. Aren't we all here to have great uninhibited sex?

Gem"

The site is rife for it .... I can’t tell you how many times I have been on the receiving end of a jealous woman when I’ve met one of their ‘meets’

Thing is these women are too stupid to realise that it’s the men playing them !!! What man would’ve like women fighting over them

The one that makes me laugh the most is when the woman is married and on here cheating but still won’t let her meets actually meet other women - yes I know of a few

Couldn’t make it up could you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately theres quite a lot of bitterness and people that dont understand or even try to respect the dynamics..

Sad really as this was supposed to be an adults game..

We do feel some of that bitternes sometimes too, but hasnt break us as we both know what we have together and that's the important!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"We’ve been an official couple for a year now and are so fed up with some females on here /clubs that deliberately go out of their way to split couples up. We play separately and together, we tell each other about our play with others.

We are Swingers but so many are joining to date or just a quick booty call, which to us is not swinging.

We’re just glad we have a strong open honest relationship

The slightest sign of drama we just block now, although have to say in over six months here and 30 or so meets it’s only happened twice

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

"On my old profile I used to have a good circle of friends to play with but there was one lady that would give me grief when I met someone else. She was married as well!

Ive had exactly this.....even to the point where her hubby (who knew and encouraged to start with) contacted me and apologised for her behaviour.....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yeah unless the guy was a bad one. I think in the case of alarming, possessive behaviour women should be warned. I wish I would have been warned.

In the past I have been warned off a guy and have even given a heads up or two to other women, not because of jealousy or spite but honestly for their own safety"

And sometimes it's hard to tell the difference. Tbh it's why I've stopped.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think overall swinging can present unique and complicated emotional challenges, depending on how you engage. It takes a level of emotional maturity to recognise and deal with the emotions rather than merely suppress them or have them come out in unhealthy ways. Unfortunately, it can also require dialogue and communication, which people aren't always prepared to invest in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was 21 I started to use fab properly and go to clubs/parties. I got a lot of women that are jealous of my age telling the people that I verified me i was too young to meet x

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