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Fewer thin swingers? More large ones.

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By *hMyGawd OP   Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You keep going on bbw night dont you?

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"You keep going on bbw night dont you? "

Hahaha!

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hasn't the average size of people gone up over the last few years in general? X

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

it isnt a dig BUT ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

Sounds like a dig lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m tiny ish....

Most people as they mature put on weight that’s natural and as the majority of swingers are mature......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm thin/slim. Wish I wasn't but always have been so I guess there's nothing I can do about it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

One of us is slim, the other is not so slim, but it's probably not the way around that it's "supposed" to be. Oh well. Never mind

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By *hom_1981Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

Roughly translated as: Where are all the fit folk, I keep meeting munters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm thin/slim. Wish I wasn't but always have been so I guess there's nothing I can do about it."

You can try eating and going to a gym if you want to put on weight!

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"Hasn't the average size of people gone up over the last few years in general? X"

The average uk size is 16. 45% of uk women are a size 16 or over.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

Roughly translated as: Where are all the fit folk, I keep meeting munters.

"

Not slim by any measure here, but wouldn't identify as you describe

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"I'm thin/slim. Wish I wasn't but always have been so I guess there's nothing I can do about it.

You can try eating and going to a gym if you want to put on weight!"

I eat sh*t loads & struggle to get over 8st. Its not as easy as just eat more to put weight on

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nope but maybe I'm struggling to see past my fat ass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

I haven't been to a club before but a lot of the women on hot pics are slim and toned.

I'm always worried I'll be the biggest there and assumed everyone else would be slim .....

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Op just posted to another thread that their ideal type is size 0-8.

I'm 5ft, 6 stone of skin and bone (seriously look at the pics) and I'm a size 4. My BMI places me at a very unhealthy weight. I'm a child's size 11-13.

A size 0 is a child's size 8. They're unrealistic and upholding dangerous standards.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Never has a discussion ended well that started with

I’m not having a dig but.....

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

I haven't been to a club before but a lot of the women on hot pics are slim and toned.

I'm always worried I'll be the biggest there and assumed everyone else would be slim ....."

Angel, you look bloody gorgeous and if you went to a club, you certainly would be nowhere near the biggest. I feared the same but I was wrong. Size isn't what everyone is obsessed with......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does it matter? if you don't like bigger people then don't social with them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

lol this will be a fun thread!!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I really don't understand why us slimmer people continually get digs made at us, yet, if someone does the supposed opposite the whole site is up in arms! Get a grip people!

And yes I am a size 6....problem?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Most of us (irrespective of size) actually don't particularly care. We get both sides of it because one is slim, the other not. Surely it cancels itself out and we're perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer having something to hold onto! Give me hips, ass and boobs all day long!

Quite like a slightly muscular girl too.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Who cares? Personality is what is important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't realise that swingers were all supposed to be a certain body type ... thought it was like in any groups of society ... variety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't understand why us slimmer people continually get digs made at us, yet, if someone does the supposed opposite the whole site is up in arms! Get a grip people!

And yes I am a size 6....problem? "

No one should get digs at them. You look fantastic

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"Most of us (irrespective of size) actually don't particularly care. We get both sides of it because one is slim, the other not. Surely it cancels itself out and we're perfect "

Opposites attract & all that

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Most of us (irrespective of size) actually don't particularly care. We get both sides of it because one is slim, the other not. Surely it cancels itself out and we're perfect

Opposites attract & all that "

We couldn't be more opposite and it works brilliantly

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I didn't realise that swingers were all supposed to be a certain body type ... thought it was like in any groups of society ... variety. "
this.. I find Clubs are a mix. Sometimes I'm the biggest..sometimes the smallest

More often than not just one of many different sizes..ages.. race.. etc x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a size 6/8 short ass 5ft woman i feel most at home in clubs or parties with a mix of everyday people from slim to large i love being around women of all shapes color age and sexuality it feels right to me as in normal life ..... its power to all women ....not power to some women ...now wheres me cake

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By *lackking 2 whitequeenCouple
over a year ago

home counties

Mrs here. As a large bbw I receive a lot of abusive messages on fab about my size. Mainly men but have had 2 couples do it. Lady of couple in both was very slender. We had never had previous contact but these people take it upon themselves to be nasty. I don’t message slim ladies abusing them. But I always get abuse for only liking black men. Things like I’m a disgrace to my race etc.

There are lots of parties for hotwives where you’ll only find slender ladies

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We’re not going to stop eating cake for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’re not going to stop eating cake for anyone "
nor are we

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"
yes i think its the rise in good restaurants and not getting out exercising spending too much time on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't say I've noticed, in my experience it's a mix, and honestly I think it's better that way- a bit of variety is nice.

Personally, I'm working on losing some weight, so hopefully I'll fall into the slim category one day. A girl can dream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't say I've noticed, in my experience it's a mix, and honestly I think it's better that way- a bit of variety is nice.

Personally, I'm working on losing some weight, so hopefully I'll fall into the slim category one day. A girl can dream."
lol nothing wrong with your figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

Roughly translated as: Where are all the fit folk, I keep meeting munters.

"

Fat people are munters? I'm not the most confident person and I'm fat, don't see myself as a minter? See myself as a normal person!

It's OK to have a type, tall, short, slim, muscular, fat... Maybe get to know someone "larger"? Or failing that move to LA where everyone's plastic and more aesthetically pleasing to you?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise.."

I agree and it is costing the Health service billions which could be better spent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise.."
i agree respect your body and it will look after you but this isnt a health thread its about the swinging scene being mainly larger people in recent times, i personally can't see much of a change and although i have a type i do like a lived in body

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..i agree respect your body and it will look after you but this isnt a health thread its about the swinging scene being mainly larger people in recent times, i personally can't see much of a change and although i have a type i do like a lived in body "

Sorry less thin couple's more gym fit guy's women the same on our experience over the last few years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..i agree respect your body and it will look after you but this isnt a health thread its about the swinging scene being mainly larger people in recent times, i personally can't see much of a change and although i have a type i do like a lived in body

Sorry less thin couple's more gym fit guy's women the same on our experience over the last few years"
yes I'd agree with that

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

Variety is the spice of life! Being slim doesn't equal being healthy, being bigger doesnt equal being unhealthy. I think it would be boring if everyone was the same shape and size. I'm not slim anymore after having kids. I'm curvy and then some. I eat well and exercise regularly, but I want to maintain where I am because I love being curvy. When I was slim, a lot of people said I lost too much and I looked ill. I was never really happy slim either. I was constantly worried and berating myself for what I was eating. Some people are just happier being bigger. And if they're happy then that's all that matters.

Gem

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

There are swingers clubs for the uber beautiful and super fit: perhaps that's where the ops should go.

Nothing wrong in wanting to be with like minded people, there's just no need to be rude about those outwith what you're looking for.

Try and stay classy people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*cough*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive noticed the same.

Not many slimmer women on the scene.

That said, people have generally got larger over the last 10 years.

I've have on a lot in the last 6 months

but thats a temporary medical issue

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise.."

We could add stay at home single parents, workshy, elderly who didn't plan for their future etc all of whom have cost implications for us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, if clubs have bbw nights why dont they have athletic/slim nights?

Cause people would cause a fuss and complain

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By *hom_1981Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"Roughly translated as: Where are all the fit folk, I keep meeting munters.

"

FWIW This post was said tongue in cheek, as though this is what the OP was getting at.

No offence meant to anyone

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"I really don't understand why us slimmer people continually get digs made at us, yet, if someone does the supposed opposite the whole site is up in arms! Get a grip people!

And yes I am a size 6....problem? "

Coming from a medium sized woman here, I will agree with you. Digs at thinner women seem more socially acceptable on fab,and it is wrong.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yup, if clubs have bbw nights why dont they have athletic/slim nights?

Cause people would cause a fuss and complain"

It's a private club! It's there to make money. The default in everything is "normal". Clubs probably have a slow night and open it up to "niche" groups ie bbw, trans, bi, BBC etc.

Hardly rocket science!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Many women have an unhealthy relationship with food. I have sat in endless lunchtime gatherings with women going on and on about their weight or someone else's weight. It's fucking boring. Many very slim women I know do not eat healthy food or hardly any food at all.

I'm overweight but, walk, swim and have a healthy life.

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

I like a nice curvy women and ti be fair if you find the person sexy etc then does it really matter.

I train to keep fit for work mainly. I carry alot of kit and weighs you down.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"Yup, if clubs have bbw nights why dont they have athletic/slim nights?

Cause people would cause a fuss and complain"

Even BBW nights you find a mix of every body type. It's not like people get turned away.

So if there were nights for the slender of the community you'll still find larger people regardless.

I don't get all the avid gym goers who claim to be BBW obsessed. Surely my fatness would be disgusting to most of them.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

We could add stay at home single parents, workshy, elderly who didn't plan for their future etc all of whom have cost implications for us all.

"

I,m ashamed to admit that, when I was a lot younger, I also thought the same.

Now, after several sporting injuries and a sports induced heart condition from skiing, running and cyclying, I realise that I'm also an additional burden on the NHS.

With fitness (and indeed most things), It's the extremes at both ends of the scale (No pun) that may have a negative implication on society

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yup, if clubs have bbw nights why dont they have athletic/slim nights?

Cause people would cause a fuss and complain"

Why would they complain? BBW nights don’t exclude ladies who don’t fit that description. However as the theme is BBW I’m sure the more slender ladies would realise they might not get as much attention as the bigger ladies so therefore wouldn’t choose to go on a BBW night. Surely the same would apply in reverse if there was a slim/athletic ladies night?

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

What is classed as bbw now though? I was talking to a guy on a dating site once who classed sized 10/12 women as overweight. Well as a curvy size 16 I must be morbidly obese on his standards. I try not to let peoples views bother me anymore. If you don't like my size then move on. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow some of these posts the stereotype of wow your BMI is high your unfit and a drain on society.

I'm not here to judge or be judged based on my size or my health. Just because people carry a certain weight doesnt make them unhealthy, we are all free to choose what we do and dont like

On another note there is muscle under my layer of fat

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Suppose it's all relative what you class as slim. Also slim doesnt always relate to attraction to me anyway.

Nothing wrong with personal preference as everyone is entitled to it.

I feel slim compared to what I have in the past. I'm around a size 8 waist but 10/12 hips. Still have my days I feel frumpy though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just came here for the comments... grabs popcorn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup, if clubs have bbw nights why dont they have athletic/slim nights?

Cause people would cause a fuss and complain

It's a private club! It's there to make money. The default in everything is "normal". Clubs probably have a slow night and open it up to "niche" groups ie bbw, trans, bi, BBC etc.

Hardly rocket science!"

Yeah so another niche would be slim people - gosh not rocket science to exploit another niche is it geeze tut

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

As someone said, the average size for a woman is 16, and behind a lot of those is an industry where the aim is to lower that size, for good reason. As well as the physical size issue, speaking purely on medically pov, the strain on organs, diabetes etc, there's a mental wellbeing to consider too. This isn't just one for the ladies either is it.

The whole rush, rush of life means many people don't have the disposal income to take a step back and make time to do the things that make a work-life balance a healthy one.

Whilst I'd agree the op is correct about the physical observation, spare a thought for those not celebrating their weight issues and whilst directly not body shaming them, overtly topics like this isn't going to change anything, but will leave some that are struggling with their weight, feeling pretty crap.

Mrs Shady

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yup, if clubs have bbw nights why dont they have athletic/slim nights?

Cause people would cause a fuss and complain

It's a private club! It's there to make money. The default in everything is "normal". Clubs probably have a slow night and open it up to "niche" groups ie bbw, trans, bi, BBC etc.

Hardly rocket science!

Yeah so another niche would be slim people - gosh not rocket science to exploit another niche is it geeze tut "

Let's not be naive: there are those who would exploit their own mother...ooh milf night...to make a profit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

You might as well have just put

Have they started serving full english in clubs or something?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

You might as well have just put

Have they started serving full english in clubs or something?

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of us is slim, the other is not so slim, but it's probably not the way around that it's "supposed" to be. Oh well. Never mind "

Perfect curves I’d say! ??

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

You might as well have just put

Have they started serving full english in clubs or something?

"

Don’t forget the finger buffets

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By *hom_1981Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Just a thought, but as far as I have witnessed I think guys are far less fussy/picky in regards to the type of woman they will meet/play with on FAB and other specialist sites than they would be in the vanilla world.

It’s a simple case of numbers, fewer options mean many guys will go with whatever they can find.

I haven’t seen much in the way of discrimination in regards to larger women, but maybe I wouldn’t do.

Obviously for the women of this site they can choose to be picky due to the imbalance of males to females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

I agree and it is costing the Health service billions which could be better spent."

Strange how people always get preachy about the NHS spending money on peoples weight but never on people drinking alcohol/smoking/taking drugs etc.

The NHS spends more money on people who abuse illicit substances than those who enjoy a mcdonalds every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

I agree and it is costing the Health service billions which could be better spent.

Strange how people always get preachy about the NHS spending money on peoples weight but never on people drinking alcohol/smoking/taking drugs etc.

The NHS spends more money on people who abuse illicit substances than those who enjoy a mcdonalds every now and then "

Somebody did mention about alcohol/smoking/drugs and one guy even said being too fit is a drain due to his health from being so healthy ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

I agree and it is costing the Health service billions which could be better spent.

Strange how people always get preachy about the NHS spending money on peoples weight but never on people drinking alcohol/smoking/taking drugs etc.

The NHS spends more money on people who abuse illicit substances than those who enjoy a mcdonalds every now and then

Somebody did mention about alcohol/smoking/drugs and one guy even said being too fit is a drain due to his health from being so healthy ...."

Fantastic

But I was actually referred to the 2 people I quoted who brought the nhs up in the first place.

Thanks for your input though.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"One of us is slim, the other is not so slim, but it's probably not the way around that it's "supposed" to be. Oh well. Never mind

Perfect curves I’d say! ??"

Thanks. Some would say fat. I'm certainly no size 8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife is a size 24

Fit as fuck, very curvy, wobbly and won't snap in half think of it as 2 size 12's

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

I agree and it is costing the Health service billions which could be better spent.

Strange how people always get preachy about the NHS spending money on peoples weight but never on people drinking alcohol/smoking/taking drugs etc.

The NHS spends more money on people who abuse illicit substances than those who enjoy a mcdonalds every now and then "

Oh it's the pseudo concern that gets me and the cherry picking. It's okay for them to not work, breed, have free nursery place, free school dinners etc...that comes from the public purse but let's lambast fat people for draining resources.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"My wife is a size 24

Fit as fuck, very curvy, wobbly and won't snap in half think of it as 2 size 12's"

There's no need for the dig at slim women either. They won't "snap".

Why do we always pit people against each other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

brave post..

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I maybe big but hubby still finds me sexy.If others don't well that's their opinion and they are untitled to it.Just like watching tv,don't like it then turn over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I maybe big but hubby still finds me sexy.If others don't well that's their opinion and they are untitled to it.Just like watching tv,don't like it then turn over. "

You are beautiful dear .

Amazing bum

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By *aynetop4playTV/TS
over a year ago

cardiff

I think as a population our average size has increased. The increase you see is likely very reflective of the general size of people these days.

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate


"I maybe big but hubby still finds me sexy.If others don't well that's their opinion and they are untitled to it.Just like watching tv,don't like it then turn over.

You are beautiful dear .

Amazing bum "

Thank you

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

I agree and it is costing the Health service billions which could be better spent."

So many things are costing the NHS millions not just those carrying extra weight but they are the easy target these days. If people spent less time going to the docs unnecessarily or sitting in A&E because they’ve got a sore throat that could save so much money - but that’s not the point of this debate. This debate is about shaming people that are overweight. It’s always the way.

The other point here is that slim people are more socially accepted generally and overweight people totally understand why people find them attractive. However it doesn’t work the other way around. Slimmer people rarely understand how a person can be attracted to someone that is overweight, they’re accused of being desperate or any hole’s a goal and the overweight person is accused of punching above their weight (so to speak!), they would never get noticed in the real world etc. All so negative and hurtful. Slim doesn’t make you better and overweight doesn’t make you worse.

Once again fickle fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fuck any holes as long as the owner isn't thick as fuck (intellectually speaking)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fuck any holes as long as the owner isn't thick as fuck (intellectually speaking)"
ear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fuck any holes as long as the owner isn't thick as fuck (intellectually speaking)ear "

Hell yeah !! Love the feel of earhole's honey over my bellend

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Torridge area of Devon


"I'm thin/slim. Wish I wasn't but always have been so I guess there's nothing I can do about it."

Pies and Guinness works (apparently)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what's the saddest part of this thread.... Women pulling other women Down....

Men and women alike all have their own "type"...

I observation made that us fatties are taking over what ever club these ppl attend.... Just makes me laugh.... (no offens to anyone whom deems the word fat to be offensive I just don't)

Female empowerment and male empowerment too for that matter...

Why can't we accept every single person is different and enjoys different things... And finds diffrent things attractive in sexual partners..

Its not fat ppl Against thin ppl we are just ppl....

Also first every post in a forum....

I'll wait for the abuse to see if its my last......

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Torridge area of Devon

Oh Come on is that fair. It is a fact it is costing the NHS Billions, you cannot escape it it is a fact.

But as people say lots of other things cost the NHS money too.

Do we really believe McDonald Fans are a burden ? You dont need to be a larger person or a smaller person to like a Big Mac.

The OP asked a question, and as usual the hanging a flogging brigade all came out.

If people agree great, if they dont agree, great too.

But let's not get into their ribs for asking a question or no point of a forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fuck any holes as long as the owner isn't thick as fuck (intellectually speaking)ear

Hell yeah !! Love the feel of earhole's honey over my bellend"
small skinny penis then...... ear today gone tomorrow

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"You know what's the saddest part of this thread.... Women pulling other women Down....

Men and women alike all have their own "type"...

I observation made that us fatties are taking over what ever club these ppl attend.... Just makes me laugh.... (no offens to anyone whom deems the word fat to be offensive I just don't)

Female empowerment and male empowerment too for that matter...

Why can't we accept every single person is different and enjoys different things... And finds diffrent things attractive in sexual partners..

Its not fat ppl Against thin ppl we are just ppl....

Also first every post in a forum....

I'll wait for the abuse to see if its my last...... "

Totally agree with different types, there are those who believe every silver lining has a cloud.

Then there are those who actually believe every cloud has a silver lining.

Know which I prefer, no matter their size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I'll be going back to a club if this is how people really feel about fat people attending

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Don't think I'll be going back to a club if this is how people really feel about fat people attending "

Just go, the people who think this way are far too much in their head to have fun, that in itself is rather funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't think I'll be going back to a club if this is how people really feel about fat people attending "

Girl don't let it put you off.

I imagine yer some ppl think like this but decent humans would never let u know it in that kinda setting.....

Its one thimg it being a topic of decision on here....

But not all ppl think like it....

I feel empowered and liberated on how I'm not judged and looked down on becasuse of my size...and the whole 14 months I've been attending clubs I've never once felt like this is the opinion of someone I've talked too....

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

What if you consider body positivity are bringing larger people to fab?

Accepting their bodies and not being ashamed of them?

Then people are here fat shaming??

Blaming larger people saying they eat too much?

Does it not occur to people some have health conditions causing weight gain or weight loss?

Arguing over the fact people look different just shows what shallow people you are. Don't like slender people don't look dont message, don't like larger people then don't look and don't message. It's just that simple putting people down for the way they look isn't acceptable in any form. It's bullying tactics and the only persons who should be shamed are the ones doing the shaming.

If people accept that everyone's bodies are different and ignore society telling people they have to look a certain way we would all be happier.

Worry about your own bodies what another person looks like has sweet fa to do with anyone else.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Don't think I'll be going back to a club if this is how people really feel about fat people attending "

It's not. Clubs are so different to on here. No one judges, no one cares. It's very liberating actually. All body shapes and sizes are beautiful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m comfortable with most people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have spoken about clubs but the thought of going on our own is daunting, sassy is described on here as curvy but SHE will call it fat..... let me say she is amazingly attractive and gets told it all the time, so what is the definition of curvy? i think words like that are subjective and each and everyones taste vary. Bigger ladies can be extremely attractive facially but some people overlook that and judge only on body size. This is coming from a guy who has been married to someone size 6-8, 5”1 and before that 4”11 and size 10, when i met sassy it was a huge change for me but i wouldn't change her for the world, she is stunningly beautiful and its a shame that when we chat to people we feel its necessary to point out that shes curvy and no skinny minny.

People have types of course, and judging by my past even i questioned what my type even was, but i fell in love with the woman underneath her curves.

So whats curvy? Everyone will have they're opinion some would say sassy is bigger than curvy, but for me i think bigger ladies can definitely be stunningly beautiful too.

Lastly we have had guys message and say (when we have replied thanks but no thanks) don't wanna fuck a fat bird anyway!!!

It hurt sassy at first but let me tell you I WOULDN'T CHANGE ANYTHING ABOUT HER

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London


"We have spoken about clubs but the thought of going on our own is daunting, sassy is described on here as curvy but SHE will call it fat..... let me say she is amazingly attractive and gets told it all the time, so what is the definition of curvy? i think words like that are subjective and each and everyones taste vary. Bigger ladies can be extremely attractive facially but some people overlook that and judge only on body size. This is coming from a guy who has been married to someone size 6-8, 5”1 and before that 4”11 and size 10, when i met sassy it was a huge change for me but i wouldn't change her for the world, she is stunningly beautiful and its a shame that when we chat to people we feel its necessary to point out that shes curvy and no skinny minny.

People have types of course, and judging by my past even i questioned what my type even was, but i fell in love with the woman underneath her curves.

So whats curvy? Everyone will have they're opinion some would say sassy is bigger than curvy, but for me i think bigger ladies can definitely be stunningly beautiful too.

Lastly we have had guys message and say (when we have replied thanks but no thanks) don't wanna fuck a fat bird anyway!!!

It hurt sassy at first but let me tell you I WOULDN'T CHANGE ANYTHING ABOUT HER"

Aaawwwwww this is so sweet

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

People are doing private parties now or events outside of the clubs. When I first started I attended a lot of those sorts of parties but that's not me anymore. I found myself constantly trying to battle my weight and insecurity comparing myself to the other women. I just do me now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve not met a single person, in person at a club that we didn’t like. Might be that we only go on the open minded nights. But we’ve met only amazing humans when visiting clubs. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

I haven’t noticed that tbh and I wouldn’t care if there were. Do you think large people should be allowed to go to clubs or join this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think its insecurities about size that is stopping us going to clubs tbh, maybe when we find a couple we connect with they could show us the way but for now we are holding back (also hear a lot about cliques and don't wanna be that couple that walk in as newbies and the club goes quiet and like you've walked into the middle of a conversation) bit like walking into the “slaughtered lamb” in American werewolf in london.

Lol we don't like your sort round ere!!

We know it wouldn't be like that but thats the fear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody brilliant....

I'm having body image issues, going to a club at the weekend, then see this...

Oh my confidence is just growing and growing.... not

Does it really matter?

If you have a certain criteria for who you'd like to meet, that's fine but it seems to me you are having a dig...

Oh to be one of life's beautiful people

Her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it isnt a dig BUT ??"

Haha yeah i love it when people say things like that. Its a bit like...im not racist..but...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way is that true, I would say the average is 12

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

Fab is no different to the general society. Not sure why you'd think it would be.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Nope. Can't say I've noticed any specific body shape trends,but I don't pay a huge amount of attention to such things as it's quite insignificant to me.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"it isnt a dig BUT ??

Haha yeah i love it when people say things like that. Its a bit like...im not racist..but..."

How about all the digs likes, only dogs like bones!

Skinny Minnies!

Stick Insects!

Or the other most common one, I wouldn't want to 'snap' her/him/them!

Do you not see the same context in what are the most popular 'digs' made on here every day?!

Yet most people seem to think it is fine to use these and will continue to do so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mrs here. As a large bbw I receive a lot of abusive messages on fab about my size. Mainly men but have had 2 couples do it. Lady of couple in both was very slender. We had never had previous contact but these people take it upon themselves to be nasty. I don’t message slim ladies abusing them. But I always get abuse for only liking black men. Things like I’m a disgrace to my race etc.

There are lots of parties for hotwives where you’ll only find slender ladies "

That’s actually vile that people on here do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No way is that true, I would say the average is 12"
size 12 really

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

Would love to know where people get their figures from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would love to know where people get their figures from "

Diet and exercise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Can't say I've noticed any specific body shape trends,but I don't pay a huge amount of attention to such things as it's quite insignificant to me. "
Well said NSA im the same as you that way . Its insignificant to me too as probably the majority of people on here x

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"Would love to know where people get their figures from

Diet and exercise"

I diet and exercise and we don’t look similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We have been going to clubs on and off for about 15 years and always found it to be a mix of people that attend, just as it is anywhere you go in normal every day to day life. At the end of the day not everybody is for everybody that’s why we are all different.

To be fair there will probably be an increase in body size for men and women over the coming years as the way things are going we won’t be doing anything but sitting on our butts pressing buttons...in more ways than one.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Would love to know where people get their figures from

Diet and exercise"

Lol but how do you know who does what

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Would love to know where people get their figures from "

I get my figure from my Mother. She was a plastic surgeon.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Would love to know where people get their figures from

I get my figure from my Mother. She was a plastic surgeon. "

That made me giggle

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

Sounds like a dig lmao"

No, it didn’t. As far as I can tell it was an observation, with no disparaging remarks.

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By *irtySexyDawgMan
over a year ago

Welwyn


"Would love to know where people get their figures from

I get my figure from my Mother. She was a plastic surgeon. "
brilliant!

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By *irtySexyDawgMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

Op, you're not wrong and it's even tougher finding tall/slim/athletic types of either sex if you're into bdsm...no idea why, praps it all that immobility whilst restrained?!

Braced for the attack of the humourless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would love to know where people get their figures from

I get my figure from my Mother. She was a plastic surgeon.

That made me giggle "
you lil giggler you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?

Sounds like a dig lmao

No, it didn’t. As far as I can tell it was an observation, with no disparaging remarks."

You're entitled to your opinion as I am entitled to mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opinion is what makes us great... Oh and amazing boobs haha

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

Is there a problem with this? We are all a variety of shapes and sizes (not to mention interests).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy women are better anyway imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is a size 24

Fit as fuck, very curvy, wobbly and won't snap in half think of it as 2 size 12's"

No one is going to snap in half because they’re slim! Ffs

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

Don’t think you are right. I’ve seen and met lots of thin swingers......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My most out of my league meet was a size 20, she was stunning, had done modelling, fuck knows why she met me! But anyone who can’t see beauty outside of a clothes size is unfortunately missing so much in my eyes. Humans can be skinny and pretty and big and pretty, there’s no cut off point at a certain clothes size and

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"My wife is a size 24

Fit as fuck, very curvy, wobbly and won't snap in half think of it as 2 size 12's

No one is going to snap in half because they’re slim! Ffs "

I’m with you on that one, it’s funny (well not) how people don’t seem to think it’s rude to pass insults or say stupid comments if you appear to be slim

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Yay people putting one body type down to ingratiate themselves with the other!

Sad times

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Shocking Sums up some people though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"
and you my dear are the very reason we wont go to clubs. I dint want to be judged on my body cos it ain't "thin". Well done for making some people more conscious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same? and you my dear are the very reason we wont go to clubs. I dint want to be judged on my body cos it ain't "thin". Well done for making some people more conscious "
dont*

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same? and you my dear are the very reason we wont go to clubs. I dint want to be judged on my body cos it ain't "thin". Well done for making some people more conscious "

I've been to loads of clubs and never felt judged...mainly cos I'm too busy fucking lol

To be fair to the OP, they haven't been derogatory about people being big, just saying they've noticed more of them and hopefully (on my part) that is because more larger people are having the confidence to get out to clubs and be naked around other people. Good on them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do prefer a slimmer woman as a long term partner, because I like to look after myself and exercise, so look for the same in a woman.

But sorry op, there are some beautiful women out there of all shapes and sizes.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I do prefer a slimmer woman as a long term partner, because I like to look after myself and exercise, so look for the same in a woman.

But sorry op, there are some beautiful women out there of all shapes and sizes. "

Being a bit on the larger side doesn't mean you don't take care of yourself. I go to the gym, I play wheelchair basketball, I push 5k once or twice a week by wheelchair. My upper body is, frankly, stacked. But I can't easily exercise my lower body. There are plenty of slim people who do zero exercise and are actually pretty unhealthy underneath the slim exterior. I'm a dress size 16, but all my blood tests, blood pressure etc are bob on and zero cause for concern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where are you OP?

At least 'own' this thread!

*laughing*

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

This thread is going nowhere lol. So much rubbish coming from people getting offended, talking fake facts about health and taking the OP as an insult which it clearly was not. Perfect example of people online not even reading and just lashing out.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I do prefer a slimmer woman as a long term partner, because I like to look after myself and exercise, so look for the same in a woman.

But sorry op, there are some beautiful women out there of all shapes and sizes. "

Not offended but just pointing out.....I go to the gym at least 5 times a week....I can squat 125kg and deadlift 105kg.....I have run a marathon. Big people do exercise as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is depressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

"

How about the over 1000 threads dedicated to BBW?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard a lot of people on Fab say that there are more large swingers than slimmer ones.

I havent really noticed this - I feel like theres a mixture of all shapes and sizes - just as it should be.

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

You need larger portions so you can share with more people!

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

On a serious note, we probably haven’t been around long enough to notice any change.

But even if we had been around for longer, not sure it would matter too much. A bigger/smaller body type might make you more/less physically attractive, but attraction is multi faceted and most of the other facets are hugely more important to us than what dress size someone does/doesn’t wear.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

"

I mean.... body does come under looks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

I mean.... body does come under looks..."

And the Mrs has it all going off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

"

You mean people who want to find those who they have sex with attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I blocked by the OP? I cant view their profile.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Green arrow shows other comments about “large” people unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I blocked by the OP? I cant view their profile. "

They automatically block people who arent thin lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

"
i put your body first when i look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I blocked by the OP? I cant view their profile.

They automatically block people who arent thin lol"

Oh that's me too!

My tits are quite weighty to be honest

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Am I blocked by the OP? I cant view their profile.

They automatically block people who arent thin lol

Oh that's me too!

My tits are quite weighty to be honest "

I’d like to be the judge of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

I mean.... body does come under looks..."

Meant facially (looks)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is only important to people who put bodies before looks...

i put your body first when i look "

Hahaha that's a pretty good comeback from you...

What happened there

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By *yintotryCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Anything before the word but, is horse shit! To quote someone.

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By *hMyGawd OP   Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some very interesting replies, thankyou all

Particularly those saying it's shallow to judge on weight. I wonder if they would say the same about height, skin colour, gender? Probably not.

Also an interesting comment about our male halfs preference for size 0 - 8 being wrong. Well, there's plenty of natural women of that size. Nice job invalidating them, and our preference of them

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Some very interesting replies, thankyou all

Particularly those saying it's shallow to judge on weight. I wonder if they would say the same about height, skin colour, gender? Probably not.

Also an interesting comment about our male halfs preference for size 0 - 8 being wrong. Well, there's plenty of natural women of that size. Nice job invalidating them, and our preference of them "

I think its shallow to judge on anything about what a person looks like x

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Some very interesting replies, thankyou all

Particularly those saying it's shallow to judge on weight. I wonder if they would say the same about height, skin colour, gender? Probably not.

Also an interesting comment about our male halfs preference for size 0 - 8 being wrong. Well, there's plenty of natural women of that size. Nice job invalidating them, and our preference of them

I think its shallow to judge on anything about what a person looks like x"

I agree you can have a preference without being judgemental

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts


"I really don't understand why us slimmer people continually get digs made at us, yet, if someone does the supposed opposite the whole site is up in arms! Get a grip people!

And yes I am a size 6....problem? "

By heck lady. You can certainly fill a pair of jeans just perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It may be more socially acceptable to be bigger these days but it definitely an issue with Society not just the swinging scene there will be a price to pay for not looking after your health be it smoking drugs or lack of exercise..

I agree and it is costing the Health service billions which could be better spent.

Strange how people always get preachy about the NHS spending money on peoples weight but never on people drinking alcohol/smoking/taking drugs etc.

The NHS spends more money on people who abuse illicit substances than those who enjoy a mcdonalds every now and then "

Tbf smokers and boozers ARE preached at, but they would normally say "Well the huge taxes we pay on fags and booze pay for that." Heavy drug users have no such excuse though ha!

And it's true that fatty unhealthy food is often cheaper than healthy food to buy. This however would also explain why some are simply priced out of eating a balanced diet.

Also I think a poster referred to more gym fit single guys in the scene? I think it's simply down to the fact that body imagery being pressed upon men is akin to a woman's these days whereas in the past it was mainly women who felt they were body shamed this way. Men are by their very nature competitive with each other and this of course would extend to perceived body ideals, especially when single.

There will probably be more big couples in the scene as they are then often ruled out of the dating game and a lot become more sedentary in their interests, eg watching TV curled up together, rather than hitting a dancefloor for 4 or 5 hours like they both probably did more when they were single?

B

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"This isn't a dig at anyone... but we seem to have noticed a steep decline in the number of swingers online, or in the clubs, that are thin. By this we mean slim, athletic, toned, or naturally thin.

This is over the past 6 years we've been in the scene.

There also seems to be a growing number of people in the very very large category.

Anyone else noticed this or feel the same?"

Does seem that way , but big can be just as sexy

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By *hMyGawd OP   Couple
over a year ago

Midlands


"And it's true that fatty unhealthy food is often cheaper than healthy food to buy. This however would also explain why some are simply priced out of eating a balanced diet."

My ex did a study / wrote an article on eating healthily for £1 a day.

It's possible. But doesn't suit people who are lazy with food preparation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it's true that fatty unhealthy food is often cheaper than healthy food to buy. This however would also explain why some are simply priced out of eating a balanced diet.

My ex did a study / wrote an article on eating healthily for £1 a day.

It's possible. But doesn't suit people who are lazy with food preparation "

I work away yet still manage to eat fairly healthily, eating the right nutrients at the right time of the day, cooking meals that taste delicious in 15-20 mins tops with nothing more than a George Foreman grill, a camping stove, a kettle and a mug.

Though bearing in mind the difference that I don't have anywhere to freeze food when away, I can understand a lot of people bulk buying food that is nutritionally shit in bulk as it would probably work out cheaper on the whole.

B

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By *hMyGawd OP   Couple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I work away yet still manage to eat fairly healthily, eating the right nutrients at the right time of the day, cooking meals that taste delicious in 15-20 mins tops with nothing more than a George Foreman grill, a camping stove, a kettle and a mug.

Though bearing in mind the difference that I don't have anywhere to freeze food when away, I can understand a lot of people bulk buying food that is nutritionally shit in bulk as it would probably work out cheaper on the whole.

B"

Whoa, taking responsibility for your own nutrition. Steady

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

People like who they like at the end of the day, some like size 8 some like size 18 (example, understand other sizes are available and differ from store to store) but there’s nothing wrong with only wanting to have sex with those your attracted to, where’s the fun if there’s no attraction? yes I know some say they don’t need attraction but don’t understand that and it’s not for us we need attraction all round, facially, physically and personality, I don’t see this as shallow either and don’t apologise to those that do, you wouldn’t eat something you don’t like so why have someone in your mouth you don’t like, sex is the most intimate you can get so go with who and what you enjoy. At the end of the day we are all different in what we like so no need to get upset if your not someone’s cup of tea as you may not want them drinking from your cup anyway lol

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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

Larger People seem to have more confidence in themselves and are more outgoing maby than Slimer People slim girls (lady's) do show off but most never believe there slim it's a strange world

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

Fed up with tv and magazines saying you've got to be this size or look this way, why can't people just accept you for who are you and your personality we're are all human.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Larger People seem to have more confidence in themselves and are more outgoing maby than Slimer People slim girls (lady's) do show off but most never believe there slim it's a strange world"

What do you have your opinion that larger people have more confidence on?

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Hasn't the average size of people gone up over the last few years in general? X"

I was going to say that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hasn't the average size of people gone up over the last few years in general? X

I was going to say that too "
due to bad diet and peole spending their spare time playing candy crush

I'm happy at being a healthy weight.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some truly shocking comments on here, including sarcastic ones. Sometimes thoughts are best kept in the head. Thankfully there are many lovely people on Fab and in the World we live. You can choose who you play with, but there's no reason to be openly rude about fellow swingers. Hence certain clubs we don't go to.

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