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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys, just looking for some advice. Mr has recently started a new job, which is brilliant, however because of the shifts we both work, we hardy ever see one another, and in the short space of time we do during the week he wants his tea while I am too tired to even open my eyes when he has ate, so sex is pretty muc non existant now sorry if I am starting to sound like a dear deirdre column haha just looking for some advice on how to spice things up a little as our swinging life has come to a halt because of this aswell.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aww that sucks, maybe if you can one of yas could look for a job that fits in with the other. it probs be better for you guys in the long run.

and if you cant do that, then just rape him soon as he is through the door lol x

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

This is very bad news !

If it is only for a short time then hopefully you can get through it but if not I suggest that you each ask yourselves if your jobs / shifts are worth the potential damage they are doing to your relationship, do they pay you enough to miss out on intimacy ?

If the answer is no, then you should change something. Jobs are important but your quality of life together is more important.

Just my opinion. Good luck with it.

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"aww that sucks, maybe if you can one of yas could look for a job that fits in with the other. it probs be better for you guys in the long run.

and if you cant do that, then just rape him soon as he is through the door lol x"

Im always too tired to get up to rape him tho thats the prob lol and cant get a new job took us both long enough to get these ones, plus we are both on a decent wage now aswell xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is very bad news !

If it is only for a short time then hopefully you can get through it but if not I suggest that you each ask yourselves if your jobs / shifts are worth the potential damage they are doing to your relationship, do they pay you enough to miss out on intimacy ?

If the answer is no, then you should change something. Jobs are important but your quality of life together is more important.

Just my opinion. Good luck with it.

Jane x"

We are both on just under £10 ph, his job is temp for 6 months so not as bad, however mine is temp-ongoing so could last another week or years, not very secure but pays the bills, plus my overtime rate is good aswell x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ours went the same way when i started full time in Jan this year but we are back on track now you will be ok once you get used to it and will make time for each other

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Maybe invest in a rampant rabbit and grin & bear it for a while longer till you see how work pans out ?

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start to embrace the fun of quickies..

is their no way you can meet for lunch.. when not seeing each other much, make it like a new relationship.. have date nights.

I am afraid I am no help with the to tired for sex.. as its something I simply dont suffer with... However, can I just say make sure your eating properly... as that can help loads too.

It is hard but you need to find time even if its just for a relaxing bath together..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

would love to have a bath or shower together, but we are both on the larger side so not very practical haha and i only get 30 mins for lunch break he will be home in just over an hour, gonna drag him to bed before he even steps foot in the kitchen!! i WILL get my wicked way haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be dinner...

One evening.. order something nice in... Wear something sexy.. and when he walks in the door.. just be sat there.. feed him his food.. (thats if he still wants to eat it now)

Cali

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

date night...it might sound middle aged, but there are resons us long term middle aged couples do it...it works

You dont even need to go out, nice meal, phones turned off, make the effort to look nice for each other.

Sadly sometimes we need to set aside time for each other...its just a feature of modern life.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Be dinner...

One evening.. order something nice in... Wear something sexy.. and when he walks in the door.. just be sat there.. feed him his food.. (thats if he still wants to eat it now)

Cali "

Thing is if he is knackered he might just feel under pressure...and then the Op feels rejected, look at the effort i made, he gets defensive, rowsville here we come,,better to arrange a night i reckon, so it can be no pressure fun...

surprises can have a way of biting you in the ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But your both only in your early 20's, at that age you should be able to take shift work and shagging in your stride and still have energy to spare.

I don't know.......the young un's these days eh!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have i just missed something here?
" he wants his tea and so Im too tired "
tell HIM to make the tea for you both !

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By *YLINDERCouple
over a year ago

CARDIFF


"Be dinner...

One evening.. order something nice in... Wear something sexy.. and when he walks in the door.. just be sat there.. feed him his food.. (thats if he still wants to eat it now)

Cali "
i tried this it worked well lol fruit all over my body ...both got eaten xxxx

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

you mention a good overtime rate, so i guess you work all the hours you can, so to make a decent wage, and i applaud that as i am the same.

maybe, you should set aside 1 week a month when niether of you do any overtime, you catch up on rest the first part of the week, then the rest you spend together.

you really do need to put your family life before work.

maybe because you have both been out of work so long you are used to more intimacy than you were before, when you were both in work.

hope you find a balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep we all got too work ,my wife and i are like ships in the night ,but you are riget in a way going down hill, by the tory party as our working rights are eroded longer hours more working longer for less and now we cant retier till we and dead ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

work and lifestyles can have a detrimental effect on sex lives

i am in a long term relat and also have a regular 'fb' (for want of a better term) who i see a couple of times a week yet i have not had any sex since easter monday

doesn't take away any of the feelings you have for them, but sometimes it just takes a step back

having said that, i have been a ratbag for the last couple of days, so i think it's about time i changed the status quo lol

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