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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't really care if it puts people off. I'm here to meet people, not sit around twiddling my thumbs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?"
obviously yes not so much the social meet veris or organised socials but the sexual meets not only the amounts of veris for play but who you have met, i personally see these as bragging better not to have them i think

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

People can go to a social and get 10veris in one night just for being sociable. Its a pity how people are too quick to judge and the reason why most of mine are hidden.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Generally I would think it does the job of putting of people you would want to be put off anyway? People who turn their nose at too many are, I'd say, likely to be too cautious, and unlikely to meet without a daft amount of investment

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Camden

I’ve had people say to me “Sorry, you’re too active for me”

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"People can go to a social and get 10veris in one night just for being sociable. Its a pity how people are too quick to judge and the reason why most of mine are hidden."

None of ours are hidden and most are socials. I agree people are quick to judge however we rather not waste time with those so they are welcome to skip our profile if they cannot be arsed to read our verifications.

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By *arah_tv999TV/TS
over a year ago

Oxford

Right now I'm thinking this is a nice problem to have as I have none.

I have meet someone from here but they aren't verified, so they can't verify me, nor can I verify them. I also have another meet set up, but again it's not with a verified person.

I could only meet verified people, but that isn't much of a consideration for me when I'm deciding about whether to meet them or not, there are far more important considerations in my view.

Of course, some people only want to meet verified people, their choice, which I respect, but a tad annoying if I find them interesting but can't communicate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally I would think it does the job of putting of people you would want to be put off anyway? People who turn their nose at too many are, I'd say, likely to be too cautious, and unlikely to meet without a daft amount of investment"

I would agree 100% with this.

Too many veris or not enough.

Usually these are just convenient excuses. Almost as if that person is looking for a good excuse to give you for not wanting to meet you when the truth is it's because they simply don't fancy you.

I'd say that if someone really wants to shag you, nothing will put them off

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh


"People can go to a social and get 10veris in one night just for being sociable. Its a pity how people are too quick to judge and the reason why most of mine are hidden."

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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I don't really care if it puts people off. I'm here to meet people, not sit around twiddling my thumbs."

Well said hun xx

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Couldn't care less.

I'm here to fuck and have a good time not to be a goody two shoes,did that for 45 year's now having fun living my best life.

I like fucking and sucking I careful who I play with not reckless and play safe so if I want to meet ten guy's a week or 1 a year I will.

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By *ifty69Man
over a year ago

north tyneside


"Couldn't care less.

I'm here to fuck and have a good time not to be a goody two shoes,did that for 45 year's now having fun living my best life.

I like fucking and sucking I careful who I play with not reckless and play safe so if I want to meet ten guy's a week or 1 a year I will."
well said

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By *ixenandStag69Couple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I don't really care if it puts people off. I'm here to meet people, not sit around twiddling my thumbs."

Perfectly put, couldn't agree more it doesn't bother us in the slightest x

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Too many veris puts us off tbh....

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?"

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moral of the thread,swing,yes,but not too much,and not with too many people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?"

What is a massive amount?

My verification summary puts some people off but I'm okay with that. I'm not put off folks who are active.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway. "

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Moral of the thread,swing,yes,but not too much,and not with too many people "

Indeed. Its hilarious. Swingers looking down their nose at people for being too sexually active...

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Moral of the thread,swing,yes,but not too much,and not with too many people "

I think the moral of most threads of this nature is - you can’t please everyone so just please yourself!

As long time forumites would tell you - you’re damned if you swing ‘too much’ - damned if you swing ‘too little’ - and some don’t swing at all!

However you swing you’ll attract people who are in tune with you I think!

For instance - when first joining fab I was far more prolific so met more prolific people.

Now, for me, sex is an occasional treat precluded by dinner, socialising etc. The people who contact me/meet me now tend to be people who like that too!

Horses for courses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have lots of verifications but much more from parties and club nights, so might have just met those people socially. But saying that we do also like to have fun

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway. "
We always read profile details & veris.also take into account the type of meets people have had to decide if we are on the same page ...xx

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You could have sex with ten or more people in a day and none of them verify you. So the number of verifications is not a clear indication of how many partners someone has had.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that... "

I don’t - no. But as I’m one of the minority with public face pics - and I’m very well known on the forums, hot photos and the ‘club world’ - people will recognise me and chat to me (which is essentially why I chose to be so high profile - I love chatting to new people )

- hence they’ll often verify me - especially if they’re new and would like a return verification.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

We've got 34 veris and have had sex with everyone of them. We're on a sex site because we want sex. We don't feel the need to apologise for that or make excuses about "liking the social side".

Perhaps those who find having sex with lots of people distasteful would be more at home on juniorantisexleague.com...

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway. We always read profile details & veris.also take into account the type of meets people have had to decide if we are on the same page ...xx"

That’s it entirely. Guys who attend a daily gang bang wouldn’t want to get to know me over several hours before sex. Not judging - just horses for courses. X

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that...

I don’t - no. But as I’m one of the minority with public face pics - and I’m very well known on the forums, hot photos and the ‘club world’ - people will recognise me and chat to me (which is essentially why I chose to be so high profile - I love chatting to new people )

- hence they’ll often verify me - especially if they’re new and would like a return verification. "

Fair enough. Which leads to a slightly off topic second question. Don't you see down sides re family, friends, work etc with revealing your face..

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

We might have collected a few veris I can understand newbies being put off by too many veris but otherwise who cares... verification means genuine and will meet so logically more veris = more reliable Xx

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

Verifications annoy me. People seem to use them as a critique on your sexual prowess. Whereas I see them as just confirming that this profile is a real person. So, lots of veris from a club/social is exactly what I think they're for.

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By *heshire DilfMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

It's an interesting conundrum. I was once approached by someone who had way more veris than me, but then when they looked at my veris cooled off as they didn't like the look of one of them even though it was a social! Apparently my veri had too many veris. Talk about collateral damage.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway. We always read profile details & veris.also take into account the type of meets people have had to decide if we are on the same page ...xx

That’s it entirely. Guys who attend a daily gang bang wouldn’t want to get to know me over several hours before sex. Not judging - just horses for courses. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like veris, makes me feel like I can get a sense of the person I am potentially gonna fuck and its good to know. To me swinging is about being non judgemental. There are plenty in the world that would saying doing it once in a year is bad. We are all gonna be judged by someone only people who don't judge us will match well

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Let he(or she) who is without sin cast the first stone!

And as we are all sinner's on here who the fuck are we to judge anyone?

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By *ubbermaidbabyCouple
over a year ago

clwyd


"Let he(or she) who is without sin cast the first stone!

And as we are all sinner's on here who the fuck are we to judge anyone?"

Amen to that !!!

There’s only a stairway to heaven but a highway to hell so the anticipation of traffic south is far greater

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

I've had people I've got too many veris but if they looked closer they'd see because I work in a club and host an event that they're mostly through work so I'd say it does put certain people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?obviously yes not so much the social meet veris or organised socials but the sexual meets not only the amounts of veris for play but who you have met, i personally see these as bragging better not to have them i think "
this

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that...

I don’t - no. But as I’m one of the minority with public face pics - and I’m very well known on the forums, hot photos and the ‘club world’ - people will recognise me and chat to me (which is essentially why I chose to be so high profile - I love chatting to new people )

- hence they’ll often verify me - especially if they’re new and would like a return verification.

Fair enough. Which leads to a slightly off topic second question. Don't you see down sides re family, friends, work etc with revealing your face.. "

Not really. My kids know I swing. I’m genuinely single, hurting no one and - in my eyes - doing nothing morally wrong. I consider myself to be a good, moral person - and if necessary have no issue ‘justifying’ myself to others where necessary.

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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Couldn't care less.

I'm here to fuck and have a good time not to be a goody two shoes,did that for 45 year's now having fun living my best life.

I like fucking and sucking I careful who I play with not reckless and play safe so if I want to meet ten guy's a week or 1 a year I will."

Wow, you go for it girl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that...

I don’t - no. But as I’m one of the minority with public face pics - and I’m very well known on the forums, hot photos and the ‘club world’ - people will recognise me and chat to me (which is essentially why I chose to be so high profile - I love chatting to new people )

- hence they’ll often verify me - especially if they’re new and would like a return verification.

Fair enough. Which leads to a slightly off topic second question. Don't you see down sides re family, friends, work etc with revealing your face..

Not really. My kids know I swing. I’m genuinely single, hurting no one and - in my eyes - doing nothing morally wrong. I consider myself to be a good, moral person - and if necessary have no issue ‘justifying’ myself to others where necessary. "

I'm also one of the few that have a face picture . I have nothing to hide and over 200+ veris. I'm a genuine single guy that has been to many club's and social events. I'm also very active on the forums and have met some wonderful people on the scene . Some have become very close friends. I've also co hosted socials with one of my single female friends. OP we have been trying to arrange a meet so hope my veris don't put you off ..Lol x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Camden


"Let he(or she) who is without sin cast the first stone!

And as we are all sinner's on here who the fuck are we to judge anyone?

Amen to that !!!

There’s only a stairway to heaven but a highway to hell so the anticipation of traffic south is far greater "

We go to Heaven for the scenery, and Hell for the company....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it quite fun at times to read veris, Cringe worthy, interesting, there are all sorts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It concerns us more when you see someone who has 20+ veris but only displays one or two....

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

It's a bit like the school playground sometimes on here

"you felt up Kirsty? She's let all of 5C feel her up!! You felt up a right slag mate!!!!"

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Couldn't care less.

I'm here to fuck and have a good time not to be a goody two shoes,did that for 45 year's now having fun living my best life.

I like fucking and sucking I careful who I play with not reckless and play safe so if I want to meet ten guy's a week or 1 a year I will.

Wow, you go for it girl xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?"

Use too but have to remember if someone’s been to a club some may just be verifying from a chat etc ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?"

I've only had two verifications so I'm guessing I do t have to worry to much about having to many lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally find it pretty damned annoying when you meet someone for play or social and then you dont get the veri especially if you have a great time together, find it a bit confusing and a little bit rude tbh

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that...

I don’t - no. But as I’m one of the minority with public face pics - and I’m very well known on the forums, hot photos and the ‘club world’ - people will recognise me and chat to me (which is essentially why I chose to be so high profile - I love chatting to new people )

- hence they’ll often verify me - especially if they’re new and would like a return verification.

Fair enough. Which leads to a slightly off topic second question. Don't you see down sides re family, friends, work etc with revealing your face..

Not really. My kids know I swing. I’m genuinely single, hurting no one and - in my eyes - doing nothing morally wrong. I consider myself to be a good, moral person - and if necessary have no issue ‘justifying’ myself to others where necessary. "
Good for you...like you we do not feel the need to prove or justify .....we are all here for the same & different things

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

I have Never given feedback of any kind and am not about to change that any time soon.

If you buy something on line within minutes of it being delivered the seller is chasing me for feedback.

If I have a good meal in a restaurant I give a very good gratuity, but no feedback.

Another problem with feed back or Verifications is the high number of fake reviews.

I try to rely on my own judgement when buying anything or meeting anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really care if it puts people off. I'm here to meet people, not sit around twiddling my thumbs."
Well said.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that...

I don’t - no. But as I’m one of the minority with public face pics - and I’m very well known on the forums, hot photos and the ‘club world’ - people will recognise me and chat to me (which is essentially why I chose to be so high profile - I love chatting to new people )

- hence they’ll often verify me - especially if they’re new and would like a return verification.

Fair enough. Which leads to a slightly off topic second question. Don't you see down sides re family, friends, work etc with revealing your face..

Not really. My kids know I swing. I’m genuinely single, hurting no one and - in my eyes - doing nothing morally wrong. I consider myself to be a good, moral person - and if necessary have no issue ‘justifying’ myself to others where necessary. Good for you...like you we do not feel the need to prove or justify .....we are all here for the same & different things "

Essentially what binds us all together - whether singles or couples - or should - is that we have the ability to enjoy great sex outside of a monogamous relationship. It’s really that simple - and if society could only see it that way it would complete remove the stigma attached to swinging.

The mere fact that the vast majority of swingers choose (for valid reasons in many cases - I wouldn’t argue that) to be ‘discreet’ - or secretive - about their lifestyle choice effectively adds to the stigma - and I think it’s largely for that reason that society sees us as ‘sordid’!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?

Hi op! If you’re a forumite who likes to attend clubs and socials (which many of us do) you can have literally hundreds of veris without taking your undies off!

If people are put off by the number of veris I have without bothering to read them and get a feel for who I am and what I’m about - then I doubt we’d get on anyway.

I curious about that. Do you literally go round at clubs exchanging user names so you can verify each other?

Not a criticism by the way, just when we've spoken to people at clubs we've never done that...

I don’t - no. But as I’m one of the minority with public face pics - and I’m very well known on the forums, hot photos and the ‘club world’ - people will recognise me and chat to me (which is essentially why I chose to be so high profile - I love chatting to new people )

- hence they’ll often verify me - especially if they’re new and would like a return verification.

Fair enough. Which leads to a slightly off topic second question. Don't you see down sides re family, friends, work etc with revealing your face..

Not really. My kids know I swing. I’m genuinely single, hurting no one and - in my eyes - doing nothing morally wrong. I consider myself to be a good, moral person - and if necessary have no issue ‘justifying’ myself to others where necessary. Good for you...like you we do not feel the need to prove or justify .....we are all here for the same & different things

Essentially what binds us all together - whether singles or couples - or should - is that we have the ability to enjoy great sex outside of a monogamous relationship. It’s really that simple - and if society could only see it that way it would complete remove the stigma attached to swinging.

The mere fact that the vast majority of swingers choose (for valid reasons in many cases - I wouldn’t argue that) to be ‘discreet’ - or secretive - about their lifestyle choice effectively adds to the stigma - and I think it’s largely for that reason that society sees us as ‘sordid’!

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Apologies op - went somewhat off topic there!

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Couldn't care less.

I'm here to fuck and have a good time not to be a goody two shoes,did that for 45 year's now having fun living my best life.

I like fucking and sucking I careful who I play with not reckless and play safe so if I want to meet ten guy's a week or 1 a year I will."

This!!

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Hi _eeley

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Do people look at the number of veri,s someone has and be put off by it ? Obviously we like someone well verified but for us if it’s a massive amount it kind of puts us off. Especially in a really short space of time?"

If you have too many of the wrong type of Veri, it may go against you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it all depends

1 verification 3 years ago

8 verifications only by cam

181 verifications ( 3 today )

They all say something different about the profile

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Numbers don't put me off just because someone has lots 9f veris doesn't mean they slept with entire site they may have been to a few parties socials over the years ....only thing that rings alarm bells with them is if they are all from the same person lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have verifications all from people I’ve known in real life not one of my veris is from a play meet (well not yet) and I was told I have too many because I have more than 2 guy thinks that folks with more than 3 are slags (his words) well love I don’t think fab is for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do veris.. I'm not trip adviser.

If the weather crap when I do a meet does it matter.??? Does the world need to know my business.. I think not.

I get hassled because I met A and why didn't I meet B C or D.

I only got a few to "??" the fab box.

But each to their own

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I dont care what people think of the number of veries. If anyone thinks I have to many then I know they arent for me as my sexual meets are not limited to those who have verified me x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Personally, we look for positives in verifications.

Judgement to us, is a negative closed mind.

Verifications gives an idea of who they are, not what they are.

From our perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do veris.. I'm not trip adviser.

If the weather crap when I do a meet does it matter.??? Does the world need to know my business.. I think not.

I get hassled because I met A and why didn't I meet B C or D.

I only got a few to "??" the fab box.

But each to their own"
exactly you get hassled because you met A B C or D keep what you do to yourself especially if youre chatting to others with a view to meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you've hidden your profile so we cannot see if we should be put off by the number of your veris or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you've hidden your profile so we cannot see if we should be put off by the number of your veris or not "
she looks stunning mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure which is more laughable.

Those condemning others on a swingers site for having too many verifications.

Or those that feel the need to explain why the have more verifications than others

People eh ?

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian


"It concerns us more when you see someone who has 20+ veris but only displays one or two...."

I've seen quite a few people say the same, but I don't let that put me off anyone. I've found there are lots of reasons for it.

I have several veris from a recent social, some of which only say that I seemed nice but the person didn't get to talk with me much; I didn't display those, I appreciate them but they don't really tell anyone anything. If I got a veri where someone went into major sexual detail, I wouldn't display that either, all meets are different and I wouldn't want someone to assume I'd do everything in the veri with them too (as some would.) I also don't really see the point displaying multiple veris from the same person, nor would I display one in which someone didn't think and used my real name.

The amount of veris someone has doesn't bother me personally. Besides my own, my hubby is the only person whose sex life is my business. We are as safe and careful as we can be, and trust our judgement. Generally, I think that pictures often show more than veris anyway.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We are looking for someone who's up for something a bit more regular and longer term (whether that be four weeks, months or years) - so lots of (meet) veris would suggest that we're not compatible.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"We are looking for someone who's up for something a bit more regular and longer term (whether that be four weeks, months or years) - so lots of (meet) veris would suggest that we're not compatible.

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I meet several people regularly.. yet have lots of veries... so it doesnt mean that always x I just dont get verified by regular people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My problem is the people who over and over repeat them every time they meet. So someone can meet one person but have a lot of them.

I have a great friend we been meeting just as girlfriends for over two years now and she's never even done me one yet.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"We are looking for someone who's up for something a bit more regular and longer term (whether that be four weeks, months or years) - so lots of (meet) veris would suggest that we're not compatible.

I meet several people regularly.. yet have lots of veries... so it doesnt mean that always x I just dont get verified by regular people "

Agreed, I forgot to include the word 'exclusive' in my original description of what we're looking for. Someone with loads of veri's would quite possibly be (and have been) horrified by the e word!

On our part it really is no judgement on others as many have suggested - it really is about finding someone who's looking for something similar to us. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes number of veris is a problem- if you don't have any seems no women want to meet you !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, 1 is too many

My search for a virgin continues

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"We are looking for someone who's up for something a bit more regular and longer term (whether that be four weeks, months or years) - so lots of (meet) veris would suggest that we're not compatible.

I meet several people regularly.. yet have lots of veries... so it doesnt mean that always x I just dont get verified by regular people

Agreed, I forgot to include the word 'exclusive' in my original description of what we're looking for. Someone with loads of veri's would quite possibly be (and have been) horrified by the e word!

On our part it really is no judgement on others as many have suggested - it really is about finding someone who's looking for something similar to us. x

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gosh yes.. its like the "m" or "c" word... for me monogamy and commitment send me into meltdown x but fab is for everyone

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"We are looking for someone who's up for something a bit more regular and longer term (whether that be four weeks, months or years) - so lots of (meet) veris would suggest that we're not compatible.

I meet several people regularly.. yet have lots of veries... so it doesnt mean that always x I just dont get verified by regular people

Agreed, I forgot to include the word 'exclusive' in my original description of what we're looking for. Someone with loads of veri's would quite possibly be (and have been) horrified by the e word!

On our part it really is no judgement on others as many have suggested - it really is about finding someone who's looking for something similar to us. x

gosh yes.. its like the "m" or "c" word... for me monogamy and commitment send me into meltdown x but fab is for everyone "

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We have 11 cam veris and 47 meet veris.

A very small percentage of those are play veris.

People who go to clubs make lots of friends and meet lots of people.

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By *undown40Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"Couldn't care less.

I'm here to fuck and have a good time not to be a goody two shoes,did that for 45 year's now having fun living my best life.

I like fucking and sucking I careful who I play with not reckless and play safe so if I want to meet ten guy's a week or 1 a year I will."
Well said. It's an adult site and we all know what we are looking for.

Don't let any of the Forum Mafia make you change how you want to go about making your own personal choices.

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