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"lots of people have things on profiles we may not like or agree with. move on and don't worry." Absolutely! In 9 years or so on the site, this is the first time I've felt the need to do anything other than ignore! | |||
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"As there are many opportunities throughout the UK for guys to attend fab social events and clubs If they choose to I can understand where she is coming from. Maybe after 6 months not two months though." These are fair points, but I would point out that, ironically, an ever increasing number of socials and club events require verifications on a swingers site to join! Clubs also really aren't everyone's cup of tea, and no guarantee of even a "we chatted" verification anyway. | |||
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"Also I'm speaking for myself here but if I was talking to someone who'd been on here 6m+ with no veris I would always be second guessing whether he actually really fancies me or is just at the end of his tether and desperate for a meet. But that's just my paranoid brain haha" That's a fair comment. | |||
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"As there are many opportunities throughout the UK for guys to attend fab social events and clubs If they choose to I can understand where she is coming from. Maybe after 6 months not two months though. These are fair points, but I would point out that, ironically, an ever increasing number of socials and club events require verifications on a swingers site to join! Clubs also really aren't everyone's cup of tea, and no guarantee of even a "we chatted" verification anyway." Pretty much all club owners would be more than happy to provide veris for male attendees if they are asked to and the person was well behaved | |||
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"I've just read this on a woman's profile and felt I had to comment: "If you joined more than a couple of months ago and still haven't met anyone then you're either fake or a time waster so please don't message... Sorry but there's no excuse for not meeting someone even if its just for a social" I'm not generally one to moan about the site or the opportunities available to different demographics, but how can anyone be so out of touch with the realities of this site for the average guy as to type that? To call people those things as if they were fact? Does she think that meets are just a formality and that anyone who hasn't had one is simply lazy? Women are no more queueing up to dish out "socials" to every guy who asks than they are full-on sex meets. (To be clear - I'm not trying to issue any "blame" for that here, just inject a dose of reality into proceedings). And whilst I have no doubt that a large proportion of guys don't do themselves any favours (so no need to mention the one word and disrespectful messages, abuse and dick pics that you have to endure, ladies!), it certainly doesn't follow that any guys not doing those things will automatically be successful. I'm sure forumites will trot out the line about "getting yourself to a club" for verification, but clubs are a world away from what a lot of people join this site for - and no guarantee of any sort of verification anyway. Obviously, plenty of guys WILL meet within 2 months of joining, but I still think they are probably in a minority who are either very lucky or sporting 6 packs and 8 inches plus! If that's what the writer of the above is looking for, fair enough, but why not be honest and put that? Just as a lot of guys don't understand what a deluge of largely unsuitable attention is like for women, I sometimes feel that women end up doing the equivalent of criticising starving people for being hungry?! Hopefully, since I have been meet verified by a few women myself, this won't come across as "sour grapes"!" I've been a single lady on here for a while & I have to say I totally agree with you. In a few months it's possible for men to not get even a sniff of a social because women tend to be more in control on here. I could have a social or play meet every week if I wanted to, not easy for single guys as my husband knows. To then rule out someone because of that reason seems a bit unfair to both swingers, you could be missing a lot of fun... | |||
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"I've just read this on a woman's profile and felt I had to comment: "If you joined more than a couple of months ago and still haven't met anyone then you're either fake or a time waster so please don't message... Sorry but there's no excuse for not meeting someone even if its just for a social" I'm not generally one to moan about the site or the opportunities available to different demographics, but how can anyone be so out of touch with the realities of this site for the average guy as to type that? To call people those things as if they were fact? Does she think that meets are just a formality and that anyone who hasn't had one is simply lazy? Women are no more queueing up to dish out "socials" to every guy who asks than they are full-on sex meets. (To be clear - I'm not trying to issue any "blame" for that here, just inject a dose of reality into proceedings). And whilst I have no doubt that a large proportion of guys don't do themselves any favours (so no need to mention the one word and disrespectful messages, abuse and dick pics that you have to endure, ladies!), it certainly doesn't follow that any guys not doing those things will automatically be successful. I'm sure forumites will trot out the line about "getting yourself to a club" for verification, but clubs are a world away from what a lot of people join this site for - and no guarantee of any sort of verification anyway. Obviously, plenty of guys WILL meet within 2 months of joining, but I still think they are probably in a minority who are either very lucky or sporting 6 packs and 8 inches plus! If that's what the writer of the above is looking for, fair enough, but why not be honest and put that? Just as a lot of guys don't understand what a deluge of largely unsuitable attention is like for women, I sometimes feel that women end up doing the equivalent of criticising starving people for being hungry?! Hopefully, since I have been meet verified by a few women myself, this won't come across as "sour grapes"!" what you appear to be missing is that women get a lot of interest and so therefore they are in command of life here, if they say no veris or meets in two months they are not interested then thats how it is for that person move onto the next, we're not all here for the same thing or have the same mindset, the less you want from here the more you will get in my opinion, expect nothing then you can't ever be disappointed    | |||
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"I've just read this on a woman's profile and felt I had to comment: "If you joined more than a couple of months ago and still haven't met anyone then you're either fake or a time waster so please don't message... Sorry but there's no excuse for not meeting someone even if its just for a social" I'm not generally one to moan about the site or the opportunities available to different demographics, but how can anyone be so out of touch with the realities of this site for the average guy as to type that? To call people those things as if they were fact? Does she think that meets are just a formality and that anyone who hasn't had one is simply lazy? Women are no more queueing up to dish out "socials" to every guy who asks than they are full-on sex meets. (To be clear - I'm not trying to issue any "blame" for that here, just inject a dose of reality into proceedings). And whilst I have no doubt that a large proportion of guys don't do themselves any favours (so no need to mention the one word and disrespectful messages, abuse and dick pics that you have to endure, ladies!), it certainly doesn't follow that any guys not doing those things will automatically be successful. I'm sure forumites will trot out the line about "getting yourself to a club" for verification, but clubs are a world away from what a lot of people join this site for - and no guarantee of any sort of verification anyway. Obviously, plenty of guys WILL meet within 2 months of joining, but I still think they are probably in a minority who are either very lucky or sporting 6 packs and 8 inches plus! If that's what the writer of the above is looking for, fair enough, but why not be honest and put that? Just as a lot of guys don't understand what a deluge of largely unsuitable attention is like for women, I sometimes feel that women end up doing the equivalent of criticising starving people for being hungry?! Hopefully, since I have been meet verified by a few women myself, this won't come across as "sour grapes"! what you appear to be missing is that women get a lot of interest and so therefore they are in command of life here, if they say no veris or meets in two months they are not interested then thats how it is for that person move onto the next, we're not all here for the same thing or have the same mindset, the less you want from here the more you will get in my opinion, expect nothing then you can't ever be disappointed "Nope, I'm not missing any of those points at all. I've seen the amount of "interest" some women get at first hand by virtue of reading their Inboxes with them in bed! I'd also managed to work out (and accept) that in the main women call the shots on the site - ta. And of course women are free to filter messages on whatever attributes they choose. My comment was purely about a statement/assumption made on one particular profile - and curiosity as to whether other women thought similarly. | |||
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"I've been here years without a verification. I'm almost certain I'm a real person. " Same here, I'm definitely real and I've been on fab over 10 years and not had a meet yet. The majority of men won't have any meets after a month on here. | |||
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"I wouldn't take it personally, it's just that statistically someone who's been on here for ages with no veris is more likely to be a timewaster, even if there are some exceptions to that rule. I myself was warned to spot that as a red flag by a guy I met off here who has a lot of experience swinging. But - if you disagree with her opinions so much are you really sure you're missing out by bypassing her? " I haven't posted a veri for over 2 years Please make an accurate total character assessment based upon that ? | |||
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"I've just read this on a woman's profile and felt I had to comment: "If you joined more than a couple of months ago and still haven't met anyone then you're either fake or a time waster so please don't message... Sorry but there's no excuse for not meeting someone even if its just for a social" I'm not generally one to moan about the site or the opportunities available to different demographics, but how can anyone be so out of touch with the realities of this site for the average guy as to type that? To call people those things as if they were fact? Does she think that meets are just a formality and that anyone who hasn't had one is simply lazy? Women are no more queueing up to dish out "socials" to every guy who asks than they are full-on sex meets. (To be clear - I'm not trying to issue any "blame" for that here, just inject a dose of reality into proceedings). And whilst I have no doubt that a large proportion of guys don't do themselves any favours (so no need to mention the one word and disrespectful messages, abuse and dick pics that you have to endure, ladies!), it certainly doesn't follow that any guys not doing those things will automatically be successful. I'm sure forumites will trot out the line about "getting yourself to a club" for verification, but clubs are a world away from what a lot of people join this site for - and no guarantee of any sort of verification anyway. Obviously, plenty of guys WILL meet within 2 months of joining, but I still think they are probably in a minority who are either very lucky or sporting 6 packs and 8 inches plus! If that's what the writer of the above is looking for, fair enough, but why not be honest and put that? Just as a lot of guys don't understand what a deluge of largely unsuitable attention is like for women, I sometimes feel that women end up doing the equivalent of criticising starving people for being hungry?! Hopefully, since I have been meet verified by a few women myself, this won't come across as "sour grapes"! what you appear to be missing is that women get a lot of interest and so therefore they are in command of life here, if they say no veris or meets in two months they are not interested then thats how it is for that person move onto the next, we're not all here for the same thing or have the same mindset, the less you want from here the more you will get in my opinion, expect nothing then you can't ever be disappointed
Nope, I'm not missing any of those points at all. I've seen the amount of "interest" some women get at first hand by virtue of reading their Inboxes with them in bed! I'd also managed to work out (and accept) that in the main women call the shots on the site - ta. And of course women are free to filter messages on whatever attributes they choose.
My comment was purely about a statement/assumption made on one particular profile - and curiosity as to whether other women thought similarly."well their ya go you seasoned swinger you but unfortunately some women don't meet and don't want to meet for varying reasons, like i said we're all here for different reasons, so live and let live, judge and be judged | |||
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