FabSwingers.com forum: is age a problem?

By *heDon12 OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

I've been on Fab for a few weeks now, and have kinda been wondering is age an issue for couples?

Do couples usually tend to go for people roughly the similar age, do they look for younger participants or older?

Being in my twenties and the average demographic being between 35-50, i dont seem to get much interest (that might just be me haha) so was wondering if that plays an important part.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Age is undoubtedly a factor but I've seen threads from men in every age group saying that they're excluded due to their age. The exception being the 35 to 40 group, I don't see many from them.

I think being under 30 might hinder you a bit but a lot of people choose who to meet based on much more than age.

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By *heDon12 OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

Yeah i think i totally agree with you, which is a shame really.

Im guessing age comes with subliminal stereotypes, such as immaturity and experience but again without chatting or meeting they will never know, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some singles and couples only meet the very young or the very old.

Courses for horses, someone will be looking for you.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Yeah i think i totally agree with you, which is a shame really.

Im guessing age comes with subliminal stereotypes, such as immaturity and experience but again without chatting or meeting they will never know, right?"

I always before prejudged really young guys as inexperienced and mentally immature until I slept with a 22 year old posing to be 31...i really thought he was 31 from the way he was... Tbh he's one of the best sexual partner I ever had in my life so goes to prove never judge a book by its cover. However saying that, its so difficult not to when women on here get unindated with messages all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will notice some ladies only accept mail from guys in 50s and set filters to do this.

So it's not end of the world. Lovelies at all ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also remember with most couples, because they have each other a meet has to be something special because they aren’t needed. A guy coming in is just a bit of fun, so time will be spent to make sure the guy is just right. That’s why some guys get to meet lots of couples and some never will.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Below 30 is instablock for us.

Totally on the wrong page, sorry.

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

The answer to this and all the similar questions is, that couples, are not one group with similar desires and or preferences. They can be broken down into umpteen groups all looking for something different, this applies to single women too. In short there is something for everyone, you just need to find the ones that want you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's no issue as long as you respect what other peoples wishes and what they are looking for.

If you are outside their age perameters,then you are most likely not what they are looking for.

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

When I first started swinging,even doing as part of a couple or as a single, I had some ages issues because for some people they had kids my ages or older than me so they wouldn't play with people under a certain age

But that's cool your never gonna fit everyone's list but some people only play with people under a certain age so it's swings and roundabouts I think

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah i think i totally agree with you, which is a shame really.

Im guessing age comes with subliminal stereotypes, such as immaturity and experience but again without chatting or meeting they will never know, right?"

Indeed they won't. Lots of people stereotype those of our age and won't meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i think i totally agree with you, which is a shame really.

Im guessing age comes with subliminal stereotypes, such as immaturity and experience but again without chatting or meeting they will never know, right?

Indeed they won't. Lots of people stereotype those of our age and won't meet them

And some just don't wish to play with others young enough to be their kids,or their parents.

There's no stereotyping,it's just a preference,and maybe some need to learn to respect that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it’s very hard to be on a similar wavelength with people a fair bit younger than yourselves.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah i think i totally agree with you, which is a shame really.

Im guessing age comes with subliminal stereotypes, such as immaturity and experience but again without chatting or meeting they will never know, right?

Indeed they won't. Lots of people stereotype those of our age and won't meet them

And some just don't wish to play with others young enough to be their kids,or their parents.

There's no stereotyping,it's just a preference,and maybe some need to learn to respect that"

I agree, I was just answering the ops point. I absolutely respect people's age preferences. We both do

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By *jEuphoriaCouple
over a year ago

north kent

"I've been on Fab for a few weeks now, and have kinda been wondering is age an issue for couples?

Do couples usually tend to go for people roughly the similar age, do they look for younger participants or older?

Being in my twenties and the average demographic being between 35-50, i dont seem to get much interest (that might just be me haha) so was wondering if that plays an important part."

I’ve had insults from younger men, regarding my age. I think its hilarious as have a lot of experience.

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I think age does come into it, even when you dont want it to.

I would like to think it wouldn't bother me with the right people. We have had messaged from people who when I realise are my mums age and that instantly puts me off. Even if they are the nicest person I cant get around that.

However you're not that young its not like you are 18.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer older guys 35 plus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer older guys 35 plus.

Agreed. We find sex with under thirties a bit of a chore. We have our age preference for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer older guys 35 plus.

Agreed. We find sex with under thirties a bit of a chore. We have our age preference for a reason. "

Just curious why would you find it a chore?

Personally I prefer an older woman. Even go as far to say that I love to be a cub to a cougar. Find the whole scenario extremely intense. Oldest woman I’ve been with was 54 and that was an amazing experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When searching always select the option “I’m the age they’re looking for”, This will only return results of people who have your age in their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer older guys 35 plus.

Agreed. We find sex with under thirties a bit of a chore. We have our age preference for a reason.

Just curious why would you find it a chore?

The immaturity in conversation makes itself apparent. And to be quite honest the sex isn’t that great. Late thirties to early forties are where the fun is at.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Older or younger doesn’t bother me

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We as a couple have our own age gap, and REALLY struggle meeting couples in the scene because of it

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By *ekyllnHideCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Well, Mrs G here!!

Age wouldn’t bother MrG for someone to play with me, but I get messages from guys under 35 and although they look great, I delete them as just feel I’m far too old for them.

Why on earth would a young guy (in my own humble opinion) want to be shagging an old chubby wrinkly like me when there are hundreds of gorgeous young women to play with..... I couldn’t compete and would just feel like shit!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, Mrs G here!!

Age wouldn’t bother MrG for someone to play with me, but I get messages from guys under 35 and although they look great, I delete them as just feel I’m far too old for them.

Sorry. You’re mistaken. Mr G is a lucky man, you’re stunning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were closer OP , I definitely have some fun with you

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By *ekyllnHideCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Well, Mrs G here!!

Age wouldn’t bother MrG for someone to play with me, but I get messages from guys under 35 and although they look great, I delete them as just feel I’m far too old for them.

Sorry. You’re mistaken. Mr G is a lucky man, you’re stunning

Thank you, you’re being kind xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is not the problem. Some people seem to have a preference for much younger and others for much older and for many age is just a number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, Mrs G here!!

Age wouldn’t bother MrG for someone to play with me, but I get messages from guys under 35 and although they look great, I delete them as just feel I’m far too old for them.

Sorry. You’re mistaken. Mr G is a lucky man, you’re stunning

Thank you, you’re being kind xx"

Just telling it how it is. Definitely attractive to me

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

For me as a single lady or part of a couple I would never look at someone the same age as my kids...

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Well, Mrs G here!!

Age wouldn’t bother MrG for someone to play with me, but I get messages from guys under 35 and although they look great, I delete them as just feel I’m far too old for them.

Apparently young men rather have very experienced lovers more than having a physically young hot babes who are pretty clueless in bed .

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By *heDon12 OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

"For me as a single lady or part of a couple I would never look at someone the same age as my kids... "

But yet oddly, im extremely attracted to yourself, because of your age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me as a single lady or part of a couple I would never look at someone the same age as my kids...

But yet oddly, im extremely attracted to yourself, because of your age."

Obviously I'm not old enough

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By *heDon12 OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

"For me as a single lady or part of a couple I would never look at someone the same age as my kids...

But yet oddly, im extremely attracted to yourself, because of your age.

Obviously I'm not old enough "

Apologies, completely missed this post!

Nope, you are also in the eperfect category!, hit me a message!

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Seem bright enough, swap the cock shot and sunglasses for a suit give you another edge

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

For me its their attitude and personality sways me to wana meet. Not defined by age. However, I am not really interested in my age or older

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By *rafficvanMan
over a year ago

Middletown

Lad stay strong keep smiling bro.. I've never meet on here.

Now am seeing a women she's now keen on this site she's into kinky stuff I've never done... But keen to try odd things....

love being a perv to be honest

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

It depends on the person for us. I'm 25 so most of the guys on here that are labelled as too young are around my age.

We keep our age limit at 45 and honestly in our experience the men over 45 are way more disrespectful. They're crude and crass and think they're entitled to anyone here.

The forums are full of guys complaining theyre too old, too young, the wrong build but there's always someone who is looking for that type so don't let it get to you.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Your profile is very off-putting though.

One night stands don't count as experience for swinging. It's totally different.

Also, saying you'd love to fuck another blokes bird is rotten. I'm the female of a couple but I'm still a valid human. I'm not beasts play thing to share with a guy.

that attitude is what puts people off.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Your profile is very off-putting though.

One night stands don't count as experience for swinging. It's totally different.

Also, saying you'd love to fuck another blokes bird is rotten. I'm the female of a couple but I'm still a valid human. I'm not beasts play thing to share with a guy.

that attitude is what puts people off."

Bloody hell. For some people it's as if 1975, Benny Hill and Carry on films never went away...

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I've met men your age OP and slightly younger, I do tend to lean towards men my own age now though

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You say you've been on here a few weeks OP yet your profile suggests it's a lot longer than that?

Whole it's true that people will have various age ranges they prefer, as a previous poster said there's no hard and fast rule for each category and age demographic - the answers are as various as there are people.

I would suggest however that perhaps it's not your age that is the issue

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Yeah i think i totally agree with you, which is a shame really.

Im guessing age comes with subliminal stereotypes, such as immaturity and experience but again without chatting or meeting they will never know, right?"

You have to realise you're not entitled. People are here to meet like minded people for them. That could mean no one young enough to be their child or old enough to be a parent.

If you don't meet someone's criteria, move on without petulance: this isn't the world of work, no one has to give you a chance.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

You have to realise you're not entitled. People are here to meet like minded people for them. That could mean no one young enough to be their child or old enough to be a parent.

This is why our age range is set to what it is. I have an issue with the idea of screwing with youngsters who could be my son's peers and, although less so, am not keen on the idea of guys old enough to be my Dad. My preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a nearly 52 year old TV. A lot of people near me cut off at 50. Plus they seem to forget that yes am a cross dresser but I have male bits that work. I just like wearing nicer underwear

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By *apphirejadeCouple
over a year ago

London

Age is just a number but I often try to send a wink only to find I am too old

I don’t feel old but hey ho! I don’t mind what age anyone is I base my decisions firstly in the quality of their profile write up and photos as well as verifications. If I message then I would expect replies that are not immature. That’s it!

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the wrong side of 50 now , and it is certainly an issue .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd happily never meet on here and stay under 30

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age is just a number but I often try to send a wink only to find I am too old

I always aim to open my messages in a polite mature way but never seem to hit the mark. Does my profile lack something to be desired? Feedback welcomed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 41 he was 29..worked well..

Nice chap to. Saw for about 12m.

Well he was amateur nabba body builder 4th in country.. Rude not to... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was 41 he was 29..worked well..

Nice chap to. Saw for about 12m.

Well he was amateur nabba body builder 4th in country.. Rude not to... Lol"

Young guys can be a surprise, would you go any younger never know what you might find....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve all been there. And found it’s better with experience.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

To close to our kids age is our reasons

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

In all honesty we won't meet anyone under 30 and rarely think of meeting anyone under 35. Purely because the messeges and expectations are a little immature in general for our liking. And there's the whole emotional roller-coaster. Lads suddenly falling in love blah blah blah....

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

Age is not an issue for us, it is a preference. We wouldn't feel comfortable with playing with anyone younger than our grown up kids.

Yes we hear "age is just a number", but so is 83 and we wouldn't be looking for that age either

Saying that, we realised a while ago that we are out of lots of peoples age range. As quite a few have an upper cut off of 50 (yes we know we use Palmolive

) But we have to live with that too. But Hey Ho.

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Actually your profile only backs up our thoughts.... "the thought of shagging another blokes bird" "being pinned down and licking my way out" and the last few lines about getting the chat lively.....

Sorry you'd be straight in the delete pile

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By *heDon12 OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

This is a great shout! Thanks!

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By *heDon12 OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

Great advice! Thanks!

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By *eralPete1Man
over a year ago

marsworth

Being male is the biggest problem on here .

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

"Being male is the biggest problem on here .

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is most certainly a problem!

Quite rare I can message anyone at my age lol

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Great advice! Thanks!"

No problem. It reads better now.

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By *heDon12 OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

So just had my first Fab predicament due to age.

Clearly it does matter. Attraction was all there on both parts. But due to age, it has fizzled out.

Shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like a good age gap.....and I'm not talking about going with someone younger. I tend to look for people in their 50s and 60s but not many want to go younger x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive fucked lads in their sixth form uniform, and ive had my cock sucked by guys old enough to be my grandad. Age means nothing to me personally.

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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I can understand some things people prefer but age!!! It's a swinging site not a dating site, so why is age a problem? Hate it when people message you and say age is just a number, well obvious it is to a lot in here, as I have experienced.

Been swinging a long time now and I must admit, I really did prefer older people every time, because it was never just about a shag! It was fun and laughs as well. Sandy X

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