FabSwingers.com forum: Painful meets ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies if you play with a partner and they hurt you inside, by being to forceful and not doing it the correct way. (I'm talking bruised and sore and blood when you wee.) When I'm sore I don't even wanna be touched nothing sexy about actual unwanted PAIN.

1. Would you wanna play again the next day still sore.

2. Does it mess up other planned meets having to rearrange until you feel better.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

1. Unlikely.

2. Probably but my regular meets wouldn't mind.

I used to meet a guy off here regularly, he was huge and good with it, but for no apparent reason sex became painful with him so we stopped meeting. And he stopped as soon as i said he was hurting me.

You don't have to put up with painful sex, no obligation to carry on doing whatever for any reason at all. He can get himself off if needs be or if you feel like doing other stuff (more foreplay/soft play) then do that.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

If I knew that what I was doing was painful rather than enjoyable then I would stop, intentionally hurting isn’t for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance. He would never get near me again.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was hurt by a guy who used his fingers a bit hard inside me and I was sore for days. My whole lower half felt sore from it.

I stopped seeing him after

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

OP please make sure if you are experiencing pain during sex that you havent consented to, that you tell your partner to stop. You should never put up with something that is unpleasant.

I don't know the context of how you are choosing to play but please take care of yourself.

I would hope most men would want to know if their technique was off!!

My body needs a little time to recover after some meets yes. I factor that in x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No and probably.

I will add that if anybody wasn't 'doing it the right way' you must be confident enough to ask them to stop.

I'm unlikely to meet again if they hurt me in a way I didn't find pleasurable.

Hope you are ok OP x

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By *riendly BiMan
over a year ago

There’s no way I’d carry on for my own gratification if I knew I was hurting my partner.

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable not painful. If the person you’re with is hurting you then they are definitely doing it wrong.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"OP please make sure if you are experiencing pain during sex that you havent consented to, that you tell your partner to stop. You should never put up with something that is unpleasant.

I don't know the context of how you are choosing to play but please take care of yourself.

I would hope most men would want to know if their technique was off!!

My body needs a little time to recover after some meets yes. I factor that in x

This.

As the man in this conversation, I'd be mortified to know that I was hurting someone in a less than pleasurable way. Communication is key to any good relationship, long-term, fleeting or any other.

The person on the wrong end of a painful encounter, owes it to themselves that they are good with what is happening to them.

Don't stay silent, be strong and above all stop it if you don't like what is happening to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be devastated if I found out after that I had hurt a partner and she had just put up with it, rather than say. There are lots of alternative options, talk to each other..

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I'd be devastated if I found out after that I had hurt a partner and she had just put up with it, rather than say. There are lots of alternative options, talk to each other.."

And this shouldn't just be about hurting anyone unintentionally, it's about any aspect of a liason, particularly if generally you get on.

It's easy for a single aspect of your time becomes an issue that spoils a relationship that you would have liked to be more than a one-off. Seen some silly situations go south because someone hasn't spoken up and the other not had the opportunity to rectify the problem.

And yes, I recognise that it's people's perogative to do what they want, so if there is an issue that they don't want to discuss this is their decision, but in many ways they had something to offer originally for pants off fun...

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"I was hurt by a guy who used his fingers a bit hard inside me and I was sore for days. My whole lower half felt sore from it.

I stopped seeing him after "

This

it would definitely put me off meeting them again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys thanks for the input. I am a strong person I would never let anyone carry on, if they were hurting me.

I told the OH he was hurting me on a couple of occasions and I just had enough and put a stop to it. Had to rearrange a meet because of it. I'm still sore 3 days later.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Hi guys thanks for the input. I am a strong person I would never let anyone carry on, if they were hurting me.

I told the OH he was hurting me on a couple of occasions and I just had enough and put a stop to it. Had to rearrange a meet because of it. I'm still sore 3 days later."
ouch, get well soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies if you play with a partner and they hurt you inside, by being to forceful and not doing it the correct way. (I'm talking bruised and sore and blood when you wee.) When I'm sore I don't even wanna be touched nothing sexy about actual unwanted PAIN.

1. Would you wanna play again the next day still sore.

2. Does it mess up other planned meets having to rearrange until you feel better.

OP I get the feeling that as you have asked the question then this was not consensual to become this rough. Either way to cause this sort of injury is concerning.

I definitely would not play the next day if there is blood in my urine, give yourself time to heal.

I hope you are able to speak with with your partner who you met with to explain that he was too rough with you. Whether you meet him again or not, at least he will know for future lovers that he can cause damage to them when he thinks he is causing pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys thanks for the input. I am a strong person I would never let anyone carry on, if they were hurting me.

I told the OH he was hurting me on a couple of occasions and I just had enough and put a stop to it. Had to rearrange a meet because of it. I'm still sore 3 days later."

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

"Hi guys thanks for the input. I am a strong person I would never let anyone carry on, if they were hurting me.

I told the OH he was hurting me on a couple of occasions and I just had enough and put a stop to it. Had to rearrange a meet because of it. I'm still sore 3 days later."

Once is a mistake twice could be abuse but definitely not one to play with. Honest communication before during and after is the only way to go. I never hurt anyone it's a definite turn off for me.

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