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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to get out of the relationship right now or he'll be trapped with a nagging wife and annoying screaming kids for the rest of his miserable life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not quite sure what you're asking?

Does he want to leave this lady and be with a man?

If that's the case then staying with her is just cruel, yes she may be heartbroken but staying with her is just delaying that pain whilst denying her the chance to move on with her life and find someone who actually wants to be with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not quite sure what you're asking?

Does he want to leave this lady and be with a man?

If that's the case then staying with her is just cruel, yes she may be heartbroken but staying with her is just delaying that pain whilst denying her the chance to move on with her life and find someone who actually wants to be with her. "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Better a huge emotional hit now so she can have another chance rather than an even bigger emotional hit later on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women "
youre 84 lol

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women "
Can I be brutal?

If your friend (ahem) is as crap as this at the relationship they're in, why would that change if they change the gender of the person they're in a relationship with? That's always assuming they can find someone to be in a relationship with....

Your friend needs a mirror and some time for reflection, not random advice from strangers mediated via you (ahem...)

Mr Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They are offline at the moment everyone I'm sure he will reply. I am just doing it on his behalf

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women youre 84 lol "
he’s talking about his friend, not him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women youre 84 lol "
nope says 72 not 84 on my profile mistakes can happen

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women youre 84 lol he’s talking about his friend, not him "
Of course. In other news, bears shit in multi storey carparks and the pope is a presbyterian.

Mr Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women Can I be brutal?

If your friend (ahem) is as crap as this at the relationship they're in, why would that change if they change the gender of the person they're in a relationship with? That's always assuming they can find someone to be in a relationship with....

Your friend needs a mirror and some time for reflection, not random advice from strangers mediated via you (ahem...)

Mr Icebreaker"
that's an icebreaker alright a very crude an rude one. Ps this isn't about me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women youre 84 lol he’s talking about his friend, not him Of course. In other news, bears shit in multi storey carparks and the pope is a presbyterian.

Mr Icebreaker"
classy couple in other news people can use the forums what everyway they intend to doesn't mean or give you a right to be rude. If its not to your standards just dont engage in it. Its not rocket science

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Question is does her love her and in love with her?

Even if he's more attracted to men but also in love with her then I suggest open marriage, he can be with men and still love his wife. If she doesn't want to be a part of the relationship then it would be better to part ways.

Polygamy and ethical non-monogamy is becoming more acceptable in society and should anyone judge this choice well they don't have to be in a relationship with them so matters none to them.

He doesn't have to give up someone he loves because he swings more to another gender. It will only matter if there's no love or can't accept polygamous lifestyle in its various dynamics. Be honest with himself and his wife it will work out in the end what ever end it will be sitting on his feelings will only fester into something of a bad outcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Question is does her love her and in love with her?

Even if he's more attracted to men but also in love with her then I suggest open marriage, he can be with men and still love his wife. If she doesn't want to be a part of the relationship then it would be better to part ways.

Polygamy and ethical non-monogamy is becoming more acceptable in society and should anyone judge this choice well they don't have to be in a relationship with them so matters none to them.

He doesn't have to give up someone he loves because he swings more to another gender. It will only matter if there's no love or can't accept polygamous lifestyle in its various dynamics. Be honest with himself and his wife it will work out in the end what ever end it will be sitting on his feelings will only fester into something of a bad outcome.

"
that is a great tip/advice I never taught of it that. And to what he is saying an what I know he definitely does love her.

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women Can I be brutal?

If your friend (ahem) is as crap as this at the relationship they're in, why would that change if they change the gender of the person they're in a relationship with? That's always assuming they can find someone to be in a relationship with....

Your friend needs a mirror and some time for reflection, not random advice from strangers mediated via you (ahem...)

Mr Icebreaker that's an icebreaker alright a very crude an rude one. Ps this isn't about me"
Of course it's not. Have a nice night now...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women Can I be brutal?

If your friend (ahem) is as crap as this at the relationship they're in, why would that change if they change the gender of the person they're in a relationship with? That's always assuming they can find someone to be in a relationship with....

Your friend needs a mirror and some time for reflection, not random advice from strangers mediated via you (ahem...)

Mr Icebreaker that's an icebreaker alright a very crude an rude one. Ps this isn't about meOf course it's not. Have a nice night now..."
it is so! And thank you I will enjoy my night

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women youre 84 lol he’s talking about his friend, not him Of course. In other news, bears shit in multi storey carparks and the pope is a presbyterian.

Mr Icebreaker classy couple in other news people can use the forums what everyway they intend to doesn't mean or give you a right to be rude. If its not to your standards just dont engage in it. Its not rocket science "
My friend, you put this out there. If you don't want people to respond as they wish, then please let us know exactly what your limits are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An anonymous friend on here asked me for advice on this.

I have bin with a girl 7 years now I am also married 4 years.

A little back round on me I was always sexually attracted to men I even met some guys when I was younger and I enjoyed it.

But everyone around me was with girls and in general straight I taught it wasn't right being with men I was just to fit in.

I don't no wat to do as it keeps playing on my mind I have never lied to her we are quite young under 30 we have no children.

But I just don't want to break this girls heart.

We have bin true some shit over the years an we always stuck with one another.

But the inside of me is screaming crying. Please help with advice thanks all.

We are both on here as a couple she knows I am bisexual but I feel more attracted to men than women youre 84 lol he’s talking about his friend, not him Of course. In other news, bears shit in multi storey carparks and the pope is a presbyterian.

Mr Icebreaker classy couple in other news people can use the forums what everyway they intend to doesn't mean or give you a right to be rude. If its not to your standards just dont engage in it. Its not rocket science My friend, you put this out there. If you don't want people to respond as they wish, then please let us know exactly what your limits are."
shouldn't have to tell you your in your 50s you should have have some idea on how not to be rude. Anyway you made your point good on ya by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your friend already knows the answer..... For everyone's happiness bite the bullet, cause his mental health will rapidly deteriorate.. As will hers... Do you both a favour in the long term.... Don't prolong it

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

It's really not difficult. It never is. Be open. She'll be fine. Or it's the end of a relationship that would have held him back.

In this case, there's no downside to honesty.

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