FabSwingers.com forum: Newbie question for couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all, were a m/f couple looking for another m/f couple and it seems that in general the profiles are mostly females pics with one or two of the men, it's mostly woman that do the chatting too, why do men tend to shy away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrong, its mostly the men doing the chatting pretending to be the female

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ahh something to watch for then thanks!

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi, for us is me (Mrs) who does most of the chatting although he does read them or I just update him. I have more time than him and I'm just genuinely interested in getting to know people. He says I chat too much but that's just me in real life! As for photos, he's just not interested in me taking loads of snaps of him from various angles and we didn't want to fill it with a load of cock pics! I always think it's nicer to see the lady's photos anyway x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Pics wise that can be true. Reasons vary - often the female is easier on the eye and used as bait. The 'it's him that takes the photos' line is often also used.

Chat wise it'll vary too. At the mo its 99% me on here as we're still on a sabbatical meet wise.

But the important thing to remember is that you need all four parties to be interested and attracted otherwise someone is taking one for the team - and that's never good.

The only foolproof methods are either clubs or social meets where everyone can see and chat to each other.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's all making a bit more sense now, would definitely be nice to see a bit more of the men though, well anything other than endless cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do most of chatting I’m the fem ... he works long hours and says I’m better at the sorting out and chatting bit ... his face pics are friends only ...

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Our pics are about 50/50 and we both share the chatting in messages, usually ending message with either (mr) or (mrs)

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It's not a game of blind date for us. When it comes to other couples it has to work for everyone involved. It's for the ladies pleasure as well as the men's, so the ladies need to see the men. So we try to keep a good mix of Mr, Mrs and together photos.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Mr is the chatter Mrs is the one who decides who we talk to as she's in control of that side

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Exactly this for us too,

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

We have thought the same on many profiles.. Most couples will at least pm some more pics on request.. But we have recently started to try and add some more photos of us together..I think we were lacking in that department on our couples profile.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

"Mr is the chatter Mrs is the one who decides who we talk to as she's in control of that side

We are the same in that mrs always has final say on all that side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody as they own take on their profile and none are wrong, if a couple want just pictures of the one person or mix of both there choice,

Regarding a genuine couples profile and who is messageing, again why does it matter they will be talking to each other, ultimately if a profile doesn't appeal for whatever reason just pass it by, or if messages have been exchanged but doesn't feel right a thanks but no thanks, will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jade does 90%+ of our chatting and I do nearly all the forum chatting. Photos wise, girls have more traditionally sexy bits and I prefer being behind the camera no matter what the subject matter

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away

Too the ladies who say they do most of the chatting do you bother to ask who you're chatting with?

My hunch is, if the question is asked, it's normally a man asking hoping to find he chatting with the woman, thoughts?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We try to keep it all equal, pics, chat, forums. We also always try to always sign off so people know exactly who is chatting

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By *estthewateragainCouple
over a year ago

Chester Area

"Too the ladies who say they do most of the chatting do you bother to ask who you're chatting with?

My hunch is, if the question is asked, it's normally a man asking hoping to find he chatting with the woman, thoughts?"
Id say this is ture as we as a couple equally do the chatting but i do find the blokes are looking for kay and when i state its me (male) the tone changes a little and there are no kisses at the end !!! Dont bother me tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's myself,Grey that answers most messages and posts on the forums.

Says so on our profile,just to save confusion.

As to pictures on our profile,well,our profile is set up to suit us.

If others like it they will get in touch or reply to our messages.

If they don't,they won't.

It's that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey.... we try and make the pics equal(ish)..

I'm usually the one chatting and posting on the forum, although he usually has a look too.

When it comes to chatting to other people, we make sure both are chatting at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also try to make the pics equal, but she is rubbish at taking pics, lol. It is frustrating though looking at a couples profile, and having no idea what the guy is like

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

We don’t take the messaging too seriously, but if we message first we think it’s good form to include both our face pics. We only message with a view to a social or upcoming club visit, and we don’t get into endless back and forth about music taste and football

it’s not a dating website

Chris (the bloke) x

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We have photos of us both on our profile and both play an active part in the messaging and in the forums. We are on as a couple and that’s what we are, so we sign off with whoever is active at the time. The Mrs

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We both do the chatting on here equally. Just look out for single blokes pretending to be a couple

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We both do the chatting.

I'm ridiculously camera shy in all aspects of my life. I keep saying I need to get over it and get more pics of he on here, but I can't fake smile, and my body isn't, imo worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We both do the chatting.

I'm ridiculously camera shy in all aspects of my life. I keep saying I need to get over it and get more pics of he on here, but I can't fake smile, and my body isn't, imo worth the effort.

C"
please don't ever feel that way, I used to be ridiculously body conscious myself and there's absolutely no need. Your as sexy as anyone else and remember everyone has varied taste, hubby is the thin one and prefers a curvy lady, where as I'm heavier and prefer a thinner man, not that were too fussed. What I have learned for sure, is that what the majority of people are attracted to most is confidence, so rock who you are and don't put yourself down ever

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

I do all the chatting and forum posting. Hollie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always do this together and when we message we will always say if it's "him" or "her" speaking. We will only message new people if we both agree xx

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

The OP is the Male asking am I wrong?

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By *pmsldCouple
over a year ago

kettering

For us it's mainly myself (him) talking or posting on the forum and site. She does look from time to time but mainly prefers using KIK and having a group chat as that's more what shes used to outside of fab.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Wrong, its mostly the men doing the chatting pretending to be the female "

We do the chatting for both of us as we are a couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The OP is the Male asking am I wrong? "

No female

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We both access our profile and it’s a fairly even 50/50 split of who does what.

We have pics of both of us as it annoys us when we check out a couple profile and there are zero pictures of the guy.

A lot of time we’re both checking Fab together.

B&J x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

In our experience so far it’s mostly the women who run the account and drive the meets as they are more picky , we feel like an exception Mrs barely goes on and often prefers not to see photos until we meet in person. We have a couple of pics of me but most are set to friends only, once we start chatting and confirm the couple are real we exchange full face/body pics

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"It's all making a bit more sense now, would definitely be nice to see a bit more of the men though, well anything other than endless cock pics

True.

Being bisexual, I like looking at ladies pics, but I would definitely want to see more pics of men.

I tend to not be interested if I am approached and there are no photos of men or just a cock pic.

I do, however, like to chat to the female. And I know straight away who I am chatting to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both message, chat and manage our profile as we believe that you both need to be in it to win it

As for pictures OP well it just seems like this

Picture of her = 50 likes in a day

Picture of us = 6-7 likes

Picture of him = 1 if we are lucky

We are both reasonably attractive and trim so in the end of the day it comes across like nobody is that interested in the guys of a couple and it makes him feel a bit undesirable.

We like to have an idea what both half's are like but in reality 90% are just of the lady and just put it down to the above?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"We both message, chat and manage our profile as we believe that you both need to be in it to win it

We just find the site hard work to use for chatting so quickly take it to a WhatsApp group chat for all 4 , that way everyone can join in.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Wrong I'm the male of the couple and I do all chatting on here, wife will occasionally join me in chat rooms, but says meeting at club or party's more interesting

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"Hey all, were a m/f couple looking for another m/f couple and it seems that in general the profiles are mostly females pics with one or two of the men, it's mostly woman that do the chatting too, why do men tend to shy away?"
On eof the reasons why we started signing our psts was to demonstarte that both of us interact here.

On the pics thing, it really is societal. Even when people have told me they desire me, I tend to hear that as being about my character or personality or how I behave, not how I look. It still goes on; someone called me a hunk in a veri the other day and I was surprised. If you observe the reactions some men have when queer, gay or bi men cruise their pics on here and you'll see that men's attitudes to their bodies, and being objectified, are incongruent with those of (or expected of) women.

Mr Icebreaker

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Darley Dale

Exactly the same for us too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both message, chat and manage our profile as we believe that you both need to be in it to win it

We just find the site hard work to use for chatting so quickly take it to a WhatsApp group chat for all 4 , that way everyone can join in. "

We would like to do this but after dealing with the odd few nut job's we tend not to give out our number just like that. WhatsApp requires the use of numbers plus the messages here are able to be provided to admin should any site rules be broken

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