FabSwingers.com forum: Too much Time spent

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi sexy people were both new ish to the scene we seem to be spending a lot of time chatting and sexting but very little actually swapping. Why so much graft ....is there an easier way.

Is this Inherent of the lifestyle or are we doing something terribly wrong lol.

Advice needed xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about trying a club ? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some require lots of time to get to know you some dont its a fickle place sometimes

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

"Hi sexy people were both new ish to the scene we seem to be spending a lot of time chatting and sexting but very little actually swapping. Why so much graft ....is there an easier way.

Is this Inherent of the lifestyle or are we doing something terribly wrong lol.

Advice needed xxx

Don't despair, to get 4 people who feel attracted to each other on all levels isn't easy we've found that out of about 40 connections only about 5 will result in a meet and out of those only about 1 will become a play meet.

As has been said if you just want to meet and play then a club is probably best for you, these can seem scary, it did to us the first time, but usually they are relaxed and easy with no expectations to play. On fab it will usually take time, patience and some written and maybe verbal interaction to take it further than the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah we have townhouse local to us. But we are shy about approaching people at clubs Plus we have a little one so making sure we kinda get to play has led us to thinking we should pre-arrange meets. Xx

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think it depends how you want to go about it. We are new to this also and I spend a lot of time chatting to people on here, trying to get to know them as it is important to us. Most of them won't evolve into anything and that's just fine as we don't want to meet with everyone. Some people don't want to spend time chatting though and just want to send a couple of messages and go straight into arranging a meet which is fine if that's what works for you.

It can be time consuming but the meets we have had have definitely been worth putting in the hours for.

Mrs x

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Cut down on the sexting and any chat that is sex related.

Once you've established interest and attraction through initial contact concentrate on arranging an actual meet (social or play).

Often the more you keep things online the harder it is to progress and there's no better way to learn more about others than face to face. Especially important if couples are meeting couples as there are four people that need to be interested/attracted. Nobody likes 'taking one for the team' and that is a risk if only one party dominates any online chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cut down on the sexting and any chat that is sex related.

Once you've established interest and attraction through initial contact concentrate on arranging an actual meet (social or play).

Agree with this, I can't think of something more repulsive than taking one for the team cos the mr likes something about a female from other couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks very much that’s really helpful advise xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't chat and sext, ask to meet for a coffee during the first three of four messages.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

"Yeah we have townhouse local to us. But we are shy about approaching people at clubs Plus we have a little one so making sure we kinda get to play has led us to thinking we should pre-arrange meets. Xx"

I get that you could use the meet section and say your going to a club and who fancies meeting you there.

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