FabSwingers.com forum: Hubby watching

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good evening,

I've been thinking about doing full swap and a full sex 3sym recently so suggested it to A, naturally he was up for it, we have yet to live this out, hopefully this weekend! Just wondering how other women felt the first time they saw their other half having sex with another woman? I'm nervous scared horny and jealous all rolled into one at the minute! I know people will say jealousy has no part in swinging bug I'm only human

Any advice would be much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make sure you're ready for the feelings you're gonna get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The nerves will always be there well are for us the jealousy will subside if you treat it for what it is it's all about fun and enjoyment and hope the hornyness remains for ya be sure to let us know how it goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have had a mff with a very close friend of ours a few weeks ago (I'm her bridesmaid next weekend!!) he didn't have full sex with her but done everything else, really enjoyed it, think I will be ok if we don't know them and won't be in an awkward situation, mind she stayed the night as she normally does and there was no awkwardness the next morning

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

emwants to see me have sex with another woman, but i flatly refuse as seeing her with another man in that way holds no interest for me, and once its done it cant be undone, and i would feel terrible if all she could see was me with another woman and couldnt get over it.

hold our relationship in a higher regard than a quick fuck with some random stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hold our relationship in a higher regard than a quick fuck with some random stranger."

Us couples that full swap still hold our relationships in high regard you know =)

OP... make sure it's with someone that you feel very comfortable with, comfortable enough that you know if you want to stop they won't mind. xx

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

we done ff and fmfm soft swap for years before we went full ,so wernt a overnight thing had a few mf meets where i watched now done things we are ok with ie shes watched me with a fem ,it all comes down to wat your comfy with ,if not dont do it and like quoted we hold our relationship in a high requard to

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

i never actually stated full swap couples dont do so, i merely said that it holds no interest for me to do it, or her to do it, and the thought of me doing it to make her happy, when the possibility of it going the other way is distinct, turns me off the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just make sure you're ready for the feelings you're gonna get

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have done mmf, he took pics Of me fucking the other guy and loved it, I really want to push my boundaries, my friends fiancée was away at the time otherwise I think I woul of been comfortable with him having sex with her, we went through college together and those two through school, so couldn't get any closer, think I would prefer someone neither of us know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i never actually stated full swap couples dont do so, i merely said that it holds no interest for me to do it, or her to do it, and the thought of me doing it to make her happy, when the possibility of it going the other way is distinct, turns me off the idea."

Fair enough, it was just the way it sounded. I wasn't getting at ya, just pointing that out =)

totally get that tho, we took forever to build up to full swap for that exact reason and then only ever with people we had met quite a few times and felt that there was a real shared respect there. You have to go with whatever your both comfortable with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby would love to see me take another mans cock.. but i wont..

only had one cock in me so far and would like to keep it that way..

And i love the idea of hubby fucking another woman but he wont fuck them unless we having a ffm 3 sum. very rare..

so we just love meeting couples for the fem/fem/fun

everyone to their own eh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We spent ages planning out every single detail but it was little things that felt weird, stuff we didn't really expect like Jay stroking another girls hand.

After all the filthy things we had done that night we didn't expect something like that to have any effect on us.

We tend not to have too many rules now, just a couple of things that we definitely won't do.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing to remeber is that rules tend to go out of the window. unless you have laid down the rules and all of them before hand you will find something that has not been addeed to your rules. Things that you never thought of will have an impact on you and your feelings for your loved one.

You never know how things will go and all the planning in the world will never get you ready for this. you just have to be sure of yourselves and anything else is a plus

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

thing is in this scene you hear "we all here for the same thing" but it all depends everybody has different tastes bi gay ff ect but everybody is different, it comes down to what ever you feel comfy with .years ago in our local club sum used to look down or frown on us because we were f2f or soft swap ect did it bother us ,did it shite ,we done what we were comfy with at the time and progressed at our pace , if any one ever has any doubts theres a great british film called "the big swap" about a group of vannilla freinds who find out one cpl who are into swinging they all have a try out inbetween the group of freinds and shows how it all affects them in different ways cany to have a watch before you do owt,thing is in this scene the social side is great to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you guys re commend club or at home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo somewhere you feel comfortable with and in control. Remember YOU are in control not the other person so make sure you have key words set so if things do not go as either one of you feel good about you can stop it. This is just in case as i am sure you will find it great fun , but you never know so always have a backup plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you guys re commend club or at home? "

Our first experience was atour home. Very relaxed and we could all take our time.

Haven't tried a club yet (although it is definitely something we are looking at later this year) so can't comment on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really good advice for you so far !

Forget the' hold our relationship in high regard 'comment though as full swap or indeed anything else you do has nothing whatsoever to do with the regard you have for your relationship ! You would not be entertaining any swinging desires if you didn't have the right regard for your relationship and if too many concerns arise it's best you don't do it ?

A club would be a good choice to try it - plenty of time and choice and most have lockable rooms so you get the privacy too .

Good luck and happy swinging !

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

nerves....yes, thats part of the fun.

jealous....no no no, if your jealous at the thought, how are you going to feel when he is ramming his rod into a women and she is screaming in pleasure.

Im afraid if your jealous then swing certainly is not for you and you should probably have a re think

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"Would you guys re commend club or at home? "
imo home as own room space no pressure from either watchers others playing then its own pace from both sides if aint going the way both partys thought ,can always stop have a drink social and speak about it ,

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"nerves....yes, thats part of the fun.

jealous....no no no, if your jealous at the thought, how are you going to feel when he is ramming his rod into a women and she is screaming in pleasure.

Im afraid if your jealous then swing certainly is not for you and you should probably have a re think"

Quite agree, when I was in a couple, and we started swinging, we were nervous and excited just like you describe, and to be honest still get that now, but we talked through the jealousy point before hand, our solution was to think about our partner as having fun and of course as the person who loved the other one, she/I just wanted to increase the others pleasure.

I think you'll find that after your first full swing, you'll go home and shag like rabbits! It will be loving and tender, not like your recent swinging experience which is purely a pleasure seeking activity.

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