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Social meet what's not to understand?

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By *un Knights OP   Couple
over a year ago

South West

We love a social meet. Drinks, laughter and sexy chat with other open-minded people. It can be evening drinks or afternoon coffee the only common theme is its a social. No play. We may not be attracted physically but can still enjoy the company. If we click then we will arrange to meet for a play date in the future.

Are others like us or are we strange? We get lots of replies from members who don't seem to understand the concept, unless of course social meet is swinger code for mass gangbang and we haven't been told.

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

morning OP

Did they at least ask for clarification or just made false assumptions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They understand it. They just don’t want a social.

And no, wanting a social doesn’t make you weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love a social meet. Drinks, laughter and sexy chat with other open-minded people. It can be evening drinks or afternoon coffee the only common theme is its a social. No play. We may not be attracted physically but can still enjoy the company. If we click then we will arrange to meet for a play date in the future.

Are others like us or are we strange? We get lots of replies from members who don't seem to understand the concept, unless of course social meet is swinger code for mass gangbang and we haven't been told.

"

We love a social, great way of finding out compatability and spending a few hours chatting and laughing is always lovely. x

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Socials are great, we won’t rule out the possibility of play straight afterwards if everything is going great though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to at least have a cup of tea and chat with someone before getting down to it - the whole, arrive, get on with it then go doesn’t appeal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only way I will swing. Social 1st... learnt that lesson years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you are entitled to use the site the way you want to. And part of being swingers is/should be enjoying social life with those with similar mind set. And as one of the replies was above, people do understand what a 'social' is, just want to try and force you to meet their way.

A few years ago, I tried to organise a social for fellow swingers in my area. Even though it very clearly said it was going to be just a social, in a public place, with no play involved, the amount of messages I was getting saying 'what's the point of just social?' or sth like, yeah, right, where are we going to play then? etc was stunning. Just stick to your guns, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first for us, Everyone's got to click to have fun, Adds to the excitement arranging the next level.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I also insist on a social first. I have had some lovely socials that haven’t gone any further and some that have. I am not interested in playing with those that don’t get the social side, apart from anything else I feel as though they wouldn’t respect my boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love a social meet. Drinks, laughter and sexy chat with other open-minded people. It can be evening drinks or afternoon coffee the only common theme is its a social. No play. We may not be attracted physically but can still enjoy the company. If we click then we will arrange to meet for a play date in the future.

Are others like us or are we strange? We get lots of replies from members who don't seem to understand the concept, unless of course social meet is swinger code for mass gangbang and we haven't been told.

"

I'm all for social meets first!!!

I like to get to know ppl before anything else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love a social meet. Drinks, laughter and sexy chat with other open-minded people. It can be evening drinks or afternoon coffee the only common theme is its a social. No play. We may not be attracted physically but can still enjoy the company. If we click then we will arrange to meet for a play date in the future.

Are others like us or are we strange? We get lots of replies from members who don't seem to understand the concept, unless of course social meet is swinger code for mass gangbang and we haven't been told.

"

I like socials . I’ve had one that blew my mind . Never got to play due to their personal circumstances but I thoroughly enjoyed that day spent flirting haha!

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Socials are great, we won’t rule out the possibility of play straight afterwards if everything is going great though "

Same for us

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We always have socials first. Really enjoy them and all adds to the excitement. Play would be arranged for a later date.

If we don't all get on and have a laugh then it's not progressing to the bedroom x

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

Social is a great idea first.. And should not be assumed to be anything more. If all just clicks and we are all comfortable.. More may happen but I enjoy the flirting and excitement/ anticipation of waiting for another meet. I enjoy meeting people and having good and sometime naughty conversation.. So even if we were meeting for more than a social it would often start that way anyhow. X

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

Socials are socials! But it is true that if everyone agrees and they like each other than sex can be on the cards anytime after that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly like a social first. Meeting in a public place initially just feels safer. As said above OP stick to your guns. Its a fluid thing you can always move straight to play if everyone gets on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love a social meet. Drinks, laughter and sexy chat with other open-minded people. It can be evening drinks or afternoon coffee the only common theme is its a social. No play. We may not be attracted physically but can still enjoy the company. If we click then we will arrange to meet for a play date in the future.

Are others like us or are we strange? We get lots of replies from members who don't seem to understand the concept, unless of course social meet is swinger code for mass gangbang and we haven't been told.

"

Spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love a social meet. Drinks, laughter and sexy chat with other open-minded people. It can be evening drinks or afternoon coffee the only common theme is its a social. No play. We may not be attracted physically but can still enjoy the company. If we click then we will arrange to meet for a play date in the future.

Are others like us or are we strange? We get lots of replies from members who don't seem to understand the concept, unless of course social meet is swinger code for mass gangbang and we haven't been told.

"

Totally, non negotiable social only date first! It says on my profile but a lot on here are just about sexual hook ups only but will try their luck regardless or most likely don't read the profile

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

If we're looking for some kind of 'play tonight' scenario we'll go to a club.

If we advertise a social that's EXACTLY what we're looking for. Drinks, giggles, maybe flirting. If we all get on and there is a mutual attraction we'll organise another, more private, meet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's fairly difficult to get sexual in a coffee shop. We've only had one person behave inappropriately on a social meet and that was quickly nipped in the bud.

I think its as well to remember the context in which the social meet has been arranged and the probable topics of conversation during the meet. It's not unreasonable for people to *hope* for more even if you've said that isn't on the cards. So many people do add the phrase "and maybe more" when arranging to meet sick lots of people say things like "I like to end a social with a good snog". It is unreasonable to *expect* more though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also I would say he careful that you aren't ambiguous in his you request a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own, social only meets are not in our remit, we are swingers, here to play when we meet if everyone wants too, plus as ex club hosts in the past all we’ve got is tons of questions about clubs when we’ve gone on a social, yawn

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Also I would say he careful that you aren't ambiguous in his you request a social."

* When you request a social

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By *un Knights OP   Couple
over a year ago

South West

Lots more like us we see and as we suspected. Just a shame the mailbox fills up with people who don't understand and try there luck anyway. Nothing will put us off quicker than a pushy want to fuck email. We can do that with friends already made.

Still at least we aren't a single female, don't know how they manage the messages they must get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've either been mainly stood up or they've been awful so we've stopped doing them.

Once the fella had to politely remove us away from one social early as me and the other guy from the couple were flinging insults at each other, he was a proper bell end though.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"We love a social meet. Drinks, laughter and sexy chat with other open-minded people. It can be evening drinks or afternoon coffee the only common theme is its a social. No play. We may not be attracted physically but can still enjoy the company. If we click then we will arrange to meet for a play date in the future.

Are others like us or are we strange? We get lots of replies from members who don't seem to understand the concept, unless of course social meet is swinger code for mass gangbang and we haven't been told.

"

This is the only way I do it if they cant respect that then I'm not interested xx safety first always xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials are fun I agree and it’s cool to meet new friends and decide if things will develop further.

I’ve had a few socials though less people seem to want one or understand what they are about .

There aren’t that many people up my way to actually meet never mind a social ha ha.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Socials are fun I agree and it’s cool to meet new friends and decide if things will develop further.

I’ve had a few socials though less people seem to want one or understand what they are about .

There aren’t that many people up my way to actually meet never mind a social ha ha.

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Your doing better than most in a big city lol

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Well only meet in a club environment; for a social not got the energy to fuck about in pubs and coffee shops, with ghosts or time wasting people who want a mucky chat can all be done in the right environment if there genuine.

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