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By *ver-my-dad-body OP   Man
over a year ago

North Lincs

So been chatting all week to a single lady on here who sent me a wink. She was verified, most recently by a male friend who was just that.. nothing would ever happen between them apparently... she was photo verified and a site supporter.

We kept things anonymous, part of the meet fantasy, and had exchanged many messages in the lead up to a potential meet this week.

Her profile was hidden most of the time, supposedly not to upset her ex. But now she’s totally vanished. Not hidden her profile, totally deleted it I’m guessing.

It seems a lot of trouble to catfish someone just a day before the meet date. I had a gut feeling about it being fishy, but maybe I’m just being naive.

Does this happen a lot?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know if it happens a lot but it definitely happens.

For future reference classic catfish behaviour is wanting to remain anonymous.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and the "friend" who verified was probably the profile owner

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By *ver-my-dad-body OP   Man
over a year ago

North Lincs

That’s what set my spidey sense tingling.. but I went with it, knowing that either could back out at any time.

Just seems such a waste of time, effort and even money on their part. Bizarre

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"That’s what set my spidey sense tingling.. but I went with it, knowing that either could back out at any time.

Just seems such a waste of time, effort and even money on their part. Bizarre"
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The human mind is a strange thing.

I watch catfish the show like . The people who do it very often seem insecure with low self esteem.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I dont know what these people get out of it! Strange world we live in x

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By *ver-my-dad-body OP   Man
over a year ago

North Lincs

I wouldn’t have the time or energy to pretend to be someone else..

I guess the film & tv show makes it more normal now, and that reality show where people choose who they become. Crazy ain’t the word for it.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I had a similar experience end of last week and come Monday for the meet, a no show and silence ... one of the reasons I’ve lost so much faith in this site .. but hey ho, keep plugging away

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"I had a similar experience end of last week and come Monday for the meet, a no show and silence ... one of the reasons I’ve lost so much faith in this site .. but hey ho, keep plugging away "

Right there with ya

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I usually presume female profiles with one male veri or none at all, are fake. Especially those recently set up!

I can’t speak for getting ignored around meet time because I’ve never got as far as arranging a meet, probably because of the first paragraph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are these people site supporters? Anyone can open an account on here and chat, it's about time they muted people chatting who haven't paid a subscription.

We block anyone who hasn't paid a fiver.

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Happened to me last night. After months of no interest and deleted messages one couple showed interest in meeting. A new profile with no photos etc but after a bit of chat sent two photos. We planned to meet and develop the friendship if things worked out. This morning they've vanished and even my messages sent and received have gone too ?? (profile removed by admin ?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are either outright fakes, or else just dreamers, wannabes and time wasters who like to talk, but bottle out when it comes to actually meeting someone.

Site is infested with them sadly, but then so are all others. It's just something the rest of us have to live with. You learn to spot them after a while.

But despite all that there are plenty of genuine people on here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One tactic is to offer to exchange phone numbers.

If that is met with a deadly silence you can be pretty certain you are on to a time waster.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

The classic cat fish is a bloke pretending to be a woman. What he gets out of it is filthy chat he'd find difficult to get as a man.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

However, in the OPs case if "she" was a site supporter and photo verified, she may well be genuine and just have lost her nerve at the last minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So been chatting all week to a single lady on here who sent me a wink. She was verified, most recently by a male friend who was just that.. nothing would ever happen between them apparently... she was photo verified and a site supporter.

We kept things anonymous, part of the meet fantasy, and had exchanged many messages in the lead up to a potential meet this week.

Her profile was hidden most of the time, supposedly not to upset her ex. But now she’s totally vanished. Not hidden her profile, totally deleted it I’m guessing.

It seems a lot of trouble to catfish someone just a day before the meet date. I had a gut feeling about it being fishy, but maybe I’m just being naive.

Does this happen a lot?

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Had exactly the same scenario happen.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"However, in the OPs case if "she" was a site supporter and photo verified, she may well be genuine and just have lost her nerve at the last minute "

She may be genuine but a time-waster nonetheless.

If one has the time to arrange a meet, he/she should have the courtesy to cancel it rather than be a no-show and waste other's time and money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are funny creatures. Was she someone you had met previously, who was checking up on you? There are many fakes on here. Plus lots of people have 'secret' second accounts, tailored to what they want. You've had a lucky escape by the sound of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to be a common thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Happened to me last night. After months of no interest and deleted messages one couple showed interest in meeting. A new profile with no photos etc but after a bit of chat sent two photos. We planned to meet and develop the friendship if things worked out. This morning they've vanished and even my messages sent and received have gone too ?? (profile removed by admin ?)"
I

No, that happens when people delete their account.

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

Happens so much, nearly every new message I think the worse, but what no-one has been able to explain is "what do they get out of it"

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Happens so much, nearly every new message I think the worse, but what no-one has been able to explain is "what do they get out of it""

Horny chat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A lot of "fakes" can be eliminated by using filters and observation.

Filter out new profiles, don't engage with profiles that aren't photo verified or have no verifications, that don't have any photos and that want sex chat immediately. Use reverse image search too. Ask to meet for a quick coffee sooner rather than later and if the 25 year old, stunning young woman or man seems too good to be true when they say they have always wanted to have sex with someone just like you it probably is too good to be true.I

He cynical, don't trust that anybody is who they say they are until you are sitting opposite them in the coffee shop of your mutual choice.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"A lot of "fakes" can be eliminated by using filters and observation.

Filter out new profiles, don't engage with profiles that aren't photo verified or have no verifications, that don't have any photos and that want sex chat immediately. Use reverse image search too. Ask to meet for a quick coffee sooner rather than later and if the 25 year old, stunning young woman or man seems too good to be true when they say they have always wanted to have sex with someone just like you it probably is too good to be true.I

He cynical, don't trust that anybody is who they say they are until you are sitting opposite them in the coffee shop of your mutual choice."

Exactly. This is a site for no strings sex. Virtually everyone will lie to a greater or lesser degree.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Happens so much, nearly every new message I think the worse, but what no-one has been able to explain is "what do they get out of it""

I think it's probably a similar feeling that people who key cars and in the days when they had them bent aerials. Power, the idea that they were getting one over on "them" , just because they can.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A lot of "fakes" can be eliminated by using filters and observation.

Filter out new profiles, don't engage with profiles that aren't photo verified or have no verifications, that don't have any photos and that want sex chat immediately. Use reverse image search too. Ask to meet for a quick coffee sooner rather than later and if the 25 year old, stunning young woman or man seems too good to be true when they say they have always wanted to have sex with someone just like you it probably is too good to be true.I

He cynical, don't trust that anybody is who they say they are until you are sitting opposite them in the coffee shop of your mutual choice.

Exactly. This is a site for no strings sex. Virtually everyone will lie to a greater or lesser degree. "

Yep. First rule of the internet, do not make yourself vulnerable to opportunists and charlatans.

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By *ver-my-dad-body OP   Man
over a year ago

North Lincs


"However, in the OPs case if "she" was a site supporter and photo verified, she may well be genuine and just have lost her nerve at the last minute "

This was another thought. But why delete her entire account? She could have just hidden it.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"I dont know what these people get out of it! Strange world we live in x"
they thrive on the attention that they get

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We have been ghoasted twice by single guys literally day before the meet vanished

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"However, in the OPs case if "she" was a site supporter and photo verified, she may well be genuine and just have lost her nerve at the last minute

This was another thought. But why delete her entire account? She could have just hidden it. "

Maybe she was attached at the guilt kicked in?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Best thing we ever did was block the guys (sorry chaps but we don't want to meet you for play anyway) newbies & the unverified..

That way they cannot message you & you have a very quiet mailbox, but if one does happen to pop up you might be willing to take a chance on you still can.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a similar experience end of last week and come Monday for the meet, a no show and silence ... one of the reasons I’ve lost so much faith in this site .. but hey ho, keep plugging away "

We get it and I (Miss L) get it on my solo account - a lot! From single men mo less! I don't get it!

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