FabSwingers.com forum: Face pic before reply

By *tickler2000 OP Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

Am I the only one who thinks it strange/a bit rich when people require a face picture before they reply, when they, themselves have no pictures?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, everyone goes about FAB in their own way.

I don't have an issue with it

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not really. I don't ask for face pics cos I don't send straight away. People use the site in different ways. Just don't message the ones who ask things you don't want to do x

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By *linkyMalinkyWoman
over a year ago

South Somerset

Well, someone has to send the first pic and it’s a buyer’s market for women on here as I’m sure you’re aware. I wouldn’t bother replying unless the message contains a face pic and I find them attractive. No point in becoming long term penpals only to discover it’s a body off baywatch, face off crimewatch situation.

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By *tickler2000 OP Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

I agree with all of the above.

But what seems like no effort has been put into their profile is it not a bit much to expect others who have to send the. What would be the first photo?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I don't expect one, and men are free to contact that person or not, so they have free choice!

When a man only has cock pics on his profile and asks to meet me without attaching anything further, then I think he is a) a total cock or b) a selfish fucker for thinking I don't care what he looks like!

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York

What they really mean is: I/we think we're so gorgeous that you're gong to have to work very hard not to get rejected at the first hurdle.... it's usually followed by...We have so many messages, we won't answer unless you put 'pinapple/grape/mumps/Donkey in the message..... Do me a favour and get over yourselves!! No face pic of mine going anywhere near those pretentious idiots......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I am meeting, my face is visible, so I don't think I am out of order, when I don't reply to messages from faceless people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They just wanna see if there’s any attraction before chatting.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

We've never asked for a face pic first. We've offered or sent face pics first, usually with the message "after seeing this you'll run".

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Am I the only one who thinks it strange/a bit rich when people require a face picture before they reply, when they, themselves have no pictures?"
you don’t have to send one.

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By *rghYeTimbersMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Like so many people I focus on social events and club meets fab meets happen but I find fab great way to communicate with people I have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one who thinks it strange/a bit rich when people require a face picture before they reply, when they, themselves have no pictures?"

Not strange as people are free to ask for what they want. We bypass such profiles though and find it entertaining when they message first without including face pics.

Mrs

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By *tickler2000 OP Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

There's a common trend with all that have replied. You have taken time to add photos.

I have no issue with sending a face picture. I choose not to show it on the public side of my profile for a couple of reasons. 1. My job, quite keen on keeping it. And 2. There are people I know that are on here that I wish not to know I am.

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York

I have no problems at all with sending a face pic to someone I have been chatting to. I can already see if I'm attracted to their body. the problem arises when it's the expectation that I HAVE to send a face pic with my introduction message...

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London

My profile is currently hidden but Yes, I do ask that people attach clear face pictures in their messages, I do when I message someone I like the look of.

It's just another filter for me to message those I feel an attraction to. If people think I'm up my own arse that's fine by me because I won't be receiving messages from them.

People don't have to message me if they don't want to but as there are so many men that will flood a new single lady's profile with 40 messages within 10 mins of being on the site without a picture (yes that happened), I think the balls in the ladies court on this one.

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have no problems at all with sending a face pic to someone I have been chatting to. I can already see if I'm attracted to their body. the problem arises when it's the expectation that I HAVE to send a face pic with my introduction message..."

Not always the same way for us ladies. Some guys can look great bodywise but if I'm talking to someone and I don't find them attractive once I've seen their face picture it's not going any further. It's not blind date, I'm not a charity, I'm not wasting time talking to someone about my kinks to only realise that it's going nowhere. What's the point?

I may reply to a message that initially hasn't sent a face picture but only to ask that they do as I would reciprocate if the attraction is mutual.

If sending your face picture in an initial message isn't your thing then don't, no one is twisting your arm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, someone has to send the first pic and it’s a buyer’s market for women on here as I’m sure you’re aware. I wouldn’t bother replying unless the message contains a face pic and I find them attractive. No point in becoming long term penpals only to discover it’s a body off baywatch, face off crimewatch situation."

Am a very very handsome man and as you have a hidden profile men like me think the worst.

The only men at market are the pigs and am sure you can have your pick of them.

BOOM Ian that bites back lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What they really mean is: I/we think we're so gorgeous that you're gong to have to work very hard not to get rejected at the first hurdle.... it's usually followed by...We have so many messages, we won't answer unless you put 'pinapple/grape/mumps/Donkey in the message..... Do me a favour and get over yourselves!! No face pic of mine going anywhere near those pretentious idiots......

Well said that man!

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London

"Am I the only one who thinks it strange/a bit rich when people require a face picture before they reply, when they, themselves have no pictures?"

I think so far you will see that the majority of men in this thread have agreed with you but I guess it's because they're the one's that are being asked to provide pictures by the couples and single ladies they are interested in.

From a female perspective I have seen male profiles also ask for the same thing and you know what? If I'm intereted in them, whether they have asked for a face picture or not I send one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont have to comply with the demands of others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you? Do you not want to know if someone is possibly going to want to have sex with you? If you are hoping a nice bod and a decent conversation is enough... You are very wrong, so why waste time?

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By *linkyMalinkyWoman
over a year ago

South Somerset

Am a very very handsome man and as you have a hidden profile men like me think the worst.

The only men at market are the pigs and am sure you can have your pick of them.

BOOM Ian that bites back lol"

My profile is currently hidden due to a recent relationship break up (we had a couples profile too), and I’m not actively looking for meets right now. But if I was, you’d see that my profile has plenty of photos on it.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"They just wanna see if there’s any attraction before chatting.

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By *tickler2000 OP Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

"They just wanna see if there’s any attraction before chatting.

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Isn't this the case for both sides?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't ask for a face pic but i do like one fairly early on. It's a horrible let down when you find out it's only their mind that your attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with all of the above.

But what seems like no effort has been put into their profile is it not a bit much to expect others who have to send the. What would be the first photo?"

You message people with profiles, that have made no effort?

Not me love!

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By *ireupthequattroCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

"Am I the only one who thinks it strange/a bit rich when people require a face picture before they reply, when they, themselves have no pictures?"
. We always expect a face when people mail us , no need to hide our faces. We find too many important people on here can’t show their face or are ashamed to be on here , we get loads of mail sayin “hey look at my profile and see if you want to meet” we look and guess what a cock pic and a leg pic , cause we want to meet you we have been looking for you all our lives ,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't expect one, and men are free to contact that person or not, so they have free choice!

Happens to me all the time, every day in fact x

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"They just wanna see if there’s any attraction before chatting.

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Yes but people don’t have to display pics so as to see others peoples pics and people don’t have to send if they don’t want to

Face is important to me. Don’t care if you have the biggest cock , most ripped body, if I’m not attracted to the face it’s a no go.

After all I’m going to be looking in their eyes and kissing them so I want to be attracted

I put my face on here because I choose to, if someone won’t send me their face pic on a first message then I’m likely to not take it further

All about choice

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

"They just wanna see if there’s any attraction before chatting.

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Isn't this the case for both sides?"

Why are you messaging someone if you don’t think your already attracted to them ?

We don’t reply to someone who hasn’t attached a face picture. We have our face pics on display though. Oh and we have been on here years and still have our jobs.

You are a naturist that’s happy to be naked in public but not happy for people to see your face ? And you have photos of a woman’s face on your profile what about people who know her or aren’t you worried about her privacy just your own . Stop worrying about others and if it bothers you that much there’s plenty of other people to message .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have face pics but I’m sorry, I’m one for “face pic or I don’t reply”

The amount of blacked out profile pics I get and with about 600+ mails per day, I can get a little “choosy”

Don’t hate me for it but seriously, if I was to reply to everyone, I’d never hold my full time job down!

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By *tickler2000 OP Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

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By *tickler2000 OP Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

"They just wanna see if there’s any attraction before chatting.

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Isn't this the case for both sides?

Why are you messaging someone if you don’t think your already attracted to them ?

We don’t reply to someone who hasn’t attached a face picture. We have our face pics on display though. Oh and we have been on here years and still have our jobs.

I am not replying. I was asking opinions on if people thought it's strange that profiles demand pictures before conversation when they themselves you are not prepared to put any photos on a profile at all. There is a considerable difference between being seen on a naturist beach, as it's location is of my choosing and a website. As for the ladies face. Doesn't everyone get permission from all in the photographs you for posting? And it was her suggestion that I used that picture and she is confident as to not be recognised

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By *otstuffbabeCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Am I the only one who thinks it strange/a bit rich when people require a face picture before they reply, when they, themselves have no pictures?"

I always ask for a face pic if i choose to reply to a message, will send mine back if i'm attracted to the person, don't send mine if i'm not going to take the conversation further - i don't have time to waste!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok well as both of us where here as singles and now together with a good few years on fab under our belt I think that we know how it works

Single guy's comments about getting all defensive and throwing your toys out of the pram let's be very realistic about what the ratio is on here and the fact that it's full of alot of married men playing away. Couples and single females get loads of messages from single guy's and mostly it's pretty poor quality and impersonal.

Surely you are just putting a face picture in you're opening message to a couple or single lady is going to do you some favours and says that you are open and honest is it not? There's a massive number of you on here and far more than couples and single females so frankly you need all the help you can get.

Single females and couples can and we think should expect to see face pictures first message or early on from guys and they need to be able to pick out the needles within the haystack that is the realistic truth of the senerio here.

We don't get a face picture and a polite message off a single guy on an opening message it usually just gets deleted because this makes up 95% of what we get sadly

As for couples and single ladies mailing each other well let's just say that the earlier the better to get the face picture thing out of the way its polite and respectful to each other

Fab is what we all make it the more open, honest and respectful we are the better place it is for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, ask yourself, IF you were on a site that had people literally throwing free money at you, but! you had to go and collect it, would you start asking how much was there?

Females can roam fab in an ENTIRELY different way to men because there's only one queue on fab and that's usually made up of men who let they're dicks type.

Be honest, when men get the horn they go on a fuck forage on this site, I've had female friends that have shown me how bad it gets. Copy & paste until they bag a live one.

I have to admit, whenever I've sent a message to a woman and included a face pic I've normally got a pic of them back.

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York

Given the mount of fake profiles on here, any face pictures must be treated with extreme caution. Even when I was married and we had a couple profile, I'm not certain that we ever met someone directly from messaging. It was always from attending socials, parties or word of mouth from other trusted friends on the scene.... How many times have you been attracted to someone and as soon as they open their mouth it's a massive turn off. It may be shallow but I'm more interested in a nice body than a pretty face. If a lady has both then fine but when it comes down to it my attention will be concentrated in other areas than just her face...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one who thinks it strange/a bit rich when people require a face picture before they reply, when they, themselves have no pictures?"

It's cheeky/a bit rich but it doesn't surprise me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may reply to a message that initially hasn't sent a face picture but only to ask that they do as I would reciprocate if the attraction is mutual.

If sending your face picture in an initial message isn't your thing then don't, no one is twisting your arm."

But you are not a hypocrite. You have face pictures.

OP was talking about profiles with no pic or no face pics demanding face pics from people who email them.

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London

I may reply to a message that initially hasn't sent a face picture but only to ask that they do as I would reciprocate if the attraction is mutual.

If sending your face picture in an initial message isn't your thing then don't, no one is twisting your arm.

But you are not a hypocrite. You have face pictures.

OP was talking about profiles with no pic or no face pics demanding face pics from people who email them. "

Actually he didn't specifically say that in his OP, you're implying that. It was having to send a face picture in his introductory message that he had an issue with.

My profile is hidden, so that's why I've put that up, otherwise my face picture is in friends only or private.

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