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 I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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"By keeping a smile on your face and one eye over your shoulder. Shes being a bitch as she is threatened by you, and nothing is more threatening than her lovers former partner, looking great, looking happy and exuding confidence from your every movement will drive her insane (hence one eye over the shoulder) x" Totally but I don’t get it!! Why tell the couple he’s met, that I’m his ex!! Why not leave alone and just do what he was there to do?? I have no reason to announce my arrival, so why would he feel the need to, to his casual fuck for the night?? Feels like I can’t go anywhere just in case he’s there! | |||
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"By keeping a smile on your face and one eye over your shoulder. Shes being a bitch as she is threatened by you, and nothing is more threatening than her lovers former partner, looking great, looking happy and exuding confidence from your every movement will drive her insane (hence one eye over the shoulder) x Totally but I don’t get it!! Why tell the couple he’s met, that I’m his ex!! Why not leave alone and just do what he was there to do?? I have no reason to announce my arrival, so why would he feel the need to, to his casual fuck for the night?? Feels like I can’t go anywhere just in case he’s there! "Does he lack banter and was in need of a conversation starter? Maybe he is just really proud that you were both together and couldn't help but brag to make sure she saw. Maybe he thought your parting wasn't as amicable as you believed and he was warning her it may get awkward? Most likely he was trying to get into her pants for a one nighter and giving her a tinge of jealousy with the possibility of an uncomfortable evening may of forced her hand and made her invite him back for an early night. Either way dont let it eat at you, men are a simple folk and often do things without recognising the consequence and mental torture it can cause. | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "ignore when needed and always be the bigger person with smiles sarcasm and it will put him in a downer knowing he hasn't got to you, people will always be petty and say and do harsh things no matter what you do or say so just rise above them they will feel worse. spread your net wider if it bothers you too much new clubs new places even further away and when your feelings have totally changed and he no longer phases you you will be able just to walk straight past a wink for something he just lost  | |||
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"It’s literally killed me off ever getting into a relationship again, it was the most vile thing ever! Why?? Why does he need to say to his meets that I’m his ex though???! I’m nothing to do with that side of his life, nor his life, period!! So bloody uncomfortable! " men say your the x because he lets people know he has had you its a big thing for a man to say it. like its been said your a good looking girl and you really need to meet some one not off the site, if you like swinging then tell him and see how he feels if its not for him then you can give it up or move on. lots of men on here and im saying this to the few bad ones. they need a women to get there meets when they meet a women they find better in bed or more things to them than you they chuck you waway and use them | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "She’s marking her territory lol She prob feel threatened by your looks , the time you spent with your ex etc Just keep looking great especially when you might bump into them  | |||
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"Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
"Then dont live like that, Shes also a little worried in thinking it might happen to her. As already said keep smilling and enjoy yourself. Whilst at the back of your mind enjoy your thoughts what goes around comes around  | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "All of the stars are fading away just try not to worry you’ll see them someday........stop crying your heart out | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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"He's most probably not over you, and after seeing your photos it's not hard to see why. The fact he pointed you out to his new beau would have made her threatened too. I'd say you won that one, no need to feel down or awkward about it. " If you’ve read the bio you might also understand why he - and those accompanying him - might have an axe to grind? Tbh op I think it’d put many potentially great guys off you. Slagging off your ex and others on fab isn’t the way to happiness on here I’d suggest. | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "I don’t. I just pretend I do. I’m still broken inside and bumping into the man I love hurts like hell. I’m trying to ‘fuck’ him out of my system. It’s how I cope and put distance between our intimacy. | |||
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"He's most probably not over you, and after seeing your photos it's not hard to see why. The fact he pointed you out to his new beau would have made her threatened too. I'd say you won that one, no need to feel down or awkward about it. If you’ve read the bio you might also understand why he - and those accompanying him - might have an axe to grind? Tbh op I think it’d put many potentially great guys off you. Slagging off your ex and others on fab isn’t the way to happiness on here I’d suggest. " I (her) do agree with Peachy, your profile has a paragraph dedicated to him and his conquests, may be you're not quite over this period of your life quite yet. Hope you work things out OP, | |||
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"He's most probably not over you, and after seeing your photos it's not hard to see why. The fact he pointed you out to his new beau would have made her threatened too. I'd say you won that one, no need to feel down or awkward about it. If you’ve read the bio you might also understand why he - and those accompanying him - might have an axe to grind? Tbh op I think it’d put many potentially great guys off you. Slagging off your ex and others on fab isn’t the way to happiness on here I’d suggest. " I have to agree, not a very good look. | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "Find a new friend and put him in he’s place next time .. | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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So you've called the woman he was with "a hideous thing" while accusing her of hostility... "Ues.... a “hideous thing” inside and out, with what I was faced with! I went for a social with some wayward friends, laughed and smiled the whole night, to be met with some seriously grotesque attitude, which I smiled through.... from an absolutely godawful hideous creature who’s veris show her as getting knocked off on at least twice a day, whilst I kept my cool and my integrity! So I shouldn’t feel slightly aggrieved at the fact he said something untoward and made my night wholly uncomfortable?? Totally rude, unnecessary and unwarranted! I may be slightly “different” to the norm, but I still am entitled to have a life away from him?? | |||
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"It sounds like he has moved on while you haven’t. It shouldn’t bother you at all otherwise it means you still have raw feelings for him. Anyway, only time will tell! good luck!"That me.... I’m over the dwarf! But why the hell would his conquests feel so threatened that they have so so what they did? Awkward much? Was dreadful!! X | |||
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"It’s literally killed me off ever getting into a relationship again, it was the most vile thing ever! Why?? Why does he need to say to his meets that I’m his ex though???! I’m nothing to do with that side of his life, nor his life, period!! So bloody uncomfortable! " Probably the same reason single male profiles have pictures of them shagging fit birds, it’s to say look what I can pull. You look pretty decent in your pics so he may have wanted to be like look, look what I was with, kind of thing, that’s my guess. | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "We have all been there. Our little world is quite enclosed and we all date within it. Shit is always getting thrown but it will get better. Xxx | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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So you've called the woman he was with "a hideous thing" while accusing her of hostility...
Ues.... a “hideous thing” inside and out, with what I was faced with! I went for a social with some wayward friends, laughed and smiled the whole night, to be met with some seriously grotesque attitude, which I smiled through.... from an absolutely godawful hideous creature who’s veris show her as getting knocked off on at least twice a day, whilst I kept my cool and my integrity! So I shouldn’t feel slightly aggrieved at the fact he said something untoward and made my night wholly uncomfortable?? Totally rude, unnecessary and unwarranted! I may be slightly “different” to the norm, but I still am entitled to have a life away from him??"You really haven't moved on in the slightest have you? | |||
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"Maybe he said "that's the ex who has some nasty and personal shit about me in her fab bio".. Who knows eh?" Yeah I hadn’t read the whole thread or the profile when I commented! Does look a bit bitter when you go at someone else’s appearance. | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "I too met my ex on here . We were together 4+ years . Shit happens etc . Was hard emotionally but the right thing to do to break up . Few months pass and his new woman msgs me . Never met her etc . Pick your head up doll you’ve got this xx | |||
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" I too met my ex on here . We were together 4+ years . Shit happens etc . Was hard emotionally but the right thing to do to break up . Few months pass and his new woman msgs me . Never met her etc . Pick your head up doll you’ve got this xx" Thanks bab. Been a harsh time, getting over it quick time and that drags you back down! Not needed nor wanted. Get on with life but seriously, keep me out of your dramas!! | |||
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"Maybe he said "that's the ex who has some nasty and personal shit about me in her fab bio".. Who knows eh?" He’s totally blocked and rightly so! What I say is my own business, and besides.... what nasty shit?? Hmmmm  | |||
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"Maybe he said "that's the ex who has some nasty and personal shit about me in her fab bio".. Who knows eh? He’s totally blocked and rightly so! What I say is my own business, and besides.... what nasty shit?? Hmmmm "But what you say doesn't come without consequence does it. From what others have said you are slaggibg her off on your profile. You are slagging her off on this thread with some unnecessary and vile insults. So maybe that explains their attitude. Amd I tell you something if he'd started a thread and used the same terminology you have then I bet he'd be getting far less support than you are | |||
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"Not a similar situation but I know how it feels. I’ve joined this site recently after a bitter split of 12.5 years, a mortgage and child together. Walked into my home to find a 54 year old family friend stood with his cock out in my daughters bedroom and obviously my ex was in the room with him. It’s destroyed me, and now I have the sly digs and ‘mucky’ looks coming at me from her - it’s laughable. He just smirked at me when I walked into it. Kinda lost my head, scared myself with my rage. But, I wasn’t in the wrong. So, yeah, totally not related to your situation but I know how it feels..." My god. Bless you. Never easy, is it. Huge hugs to you and feel your pain. Onwards and upwards, my lovely. You’re obviously better than them. Xx | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "No idea how you cope, but wow you are a stunning woman, both inside and out by the looks of things, I’m sure you will meet someone much better | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope???
No idea how you cope, but wow you are a stunning woman, both inside and out by the looks of things, I’m sure you will meet someone much better "Try to. He couldn’t leave that side of life alone so I got left with child and business to run.... but some obviously think I’m out of order that I’d quite like a little bit of peace on my one day off for the month, to do as I wish! Ah well.... nowt as queer as folk, huh? X | |||
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"It sounds like he has moved on while you haven’t. It shouldn’t bother you at all otherwise it means you still have raw feelings for him. Anyway, only time will tell! good luck!
That me.... I’m over the dwarf! But why the hell would his conquests feel so threatened that they have so so what they did? Awkward much? Was dreadful!! X"You're sounding a little crazy. You are hurt, take some time to get over this episode. Good luck | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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"It’s literally killed me off ever getting into a relationship again, it was the most vile thing ever! Why?? Why does he need to say to his meets that I’m his ex though???! I’m nothing to do with that side of his life, nor his life, period!! So bloody uncomfortable! " Sounds like hes not over you | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
How do you cope??? "I’d of walked straight over edged my way in between them an kissed him, turned an laughed in her face am walked away | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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I’d of walked straight over edged my way in between them an kissed him, turned an laughed in her face am walked away "Love your style but I’d rather shit my hands and clap than kiss that again  | |||
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"So a few months ago.... my partner and I split. Was harsh.... we met on here and loved each other but things happened......He’s moved on, I’ve moved on.... Why is it that, we’ve bumped into each other in a club the other night.... , and the hideous thing he’s talking to feels the need to throw me filthy looks and add a few sly quite nasty words?? I’ve done nothing towards them nor my ex but really?? I can’t live my life like that! I smiled and said a friendly “hiiiiii” that was it.... the hostility was unreal!
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I’d of walked straight over edged my way in between them an kissed him, turned an laughed in her face am walked away "Why?  | |||
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"It’s literally killed me off ever getting into a relationship again, it was the most vile thing ever! Why?? Why does he need to say to his meets that I’m his ex though???! I’m nothing to do with that side of his life, nor his life, period!! So bloody uncomfortable! Sounds like hes not over you" How do you work that out? Sounds more like he's trying to move on and the OP is the one with the issue. The way the OP speaks about him and his new play mate screams she still has issues. Maybe he said to his playmate 'thats my bunny boiler ex over there' cue them looking over. Sounds like he's well out of it. If the OP was a male he would have got slated. | |||
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"Maybe he said "that's the ex who has some nasty and personal shit about me in her fab bio".. Who knows eh? He’s totally blocked and rightly so! What I say is my own business, and besides.... what nasty shit?? Hmmmm "..and so, I guess, in turn, what he says is his own business. | |||
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"Oh trust me, I’ve moved totally on. Literally! But why does someone have to make an ex partner feel so uncomfortable when they bump into each other? It was awful. Why do that? Especially as I thought the split was an amicable one?? Not so much, it seems, judging by his reaction.... and hers... a total stranger! Why can’t people be adult?? Get on with your day, I’m an EX! Don’t need that stuff, I’ll always be on hand to help if he needs it, but why bad mouth an ex for being an ex? That’s the point I’m trying to make!! So thanks all for your negativity...(directed at those who seem fit to slate and put down, including those that have inboxed me to call me a heartless bitch... god knows why...) .... and we’re all supposed to be here to help and uplift each other’s spirits... my goodness!!" You say you've totally moved on, yet then devote three paras to ranting about him.. Seriously, if you'd moved on you really wouldn't care about what he was up to and going over exactly why he did xyz is not going to help you get over him... | |||
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"Oh trust me, I’ve moved totally on. Literally! But why does someone have to make an ex partner feel so uncomfortable when they bump into each other? It was awful. Why do that? Especially as I thought the split was an amicable one?? Not so much, it seems, judging by his reaction.... and hers... a total stranger! Why can’t people be adult?? Get on with your day, I’m an EX! Don’t need that stuff, I’ll always be on hand to help if he needs it, but why bad mouth an ex for being an ex? That’s the point I’m trying to make!! So thanks all for your negativity...(directed at those who seem fit to slate and put down, including those that have inboxed me to call me a heartless bitch... god knows why...) .... and we’re all supposed to be here to help and uplift each other’s spirits... my goodness!!" To be clear in not here to uplift anyone's spirits.
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