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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having had what can only be described as a diatribe of abuse from a married man on here, all because I wont meet him and drop my non-existent knickers, I thought I would ask other peoples advice. For me its personal choice, because:

I was a wife. Didn't enjoy finding a bill for a swanky dinner for two when he was supposed to be working.

I've therefore been through a divorce and, although we are good mates now, it wasn't pleasant and I've seen friends lose everything. One biker friend killed himself - set fire to himself because his kids didn't want to see him. Horrible.

My playmates on here are also my friends. They are on my Facebook, Instagram, I know their birthdays, we meet socially as well as for fun. You cant do that with someone who cannot acknowledge your existence. Therefore, they can never really know you. As a person.

I happen to like my life. I make my own decisions. Live within my means. Do pretty much as I please- work, family and friends allowing. They come first.

I'm planning some changes in my life and dont want some 'love interest' derailing it.

This site is my hobby. It's meant go be fun. It's not fun if you are waiting around for a message/text/visit/him to grant you an hour of his precious time. That's a drag!

Thoughts please

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I hear what you are saying.

Was only yesterday a married man was on my case and I told him straight that I wouldn’t be meeting him as he was married etc. The things he was saying about his wife , how bad their sex life is and so on seemed so disrespectful.

And his answer to not leaving her is it ‘would cost him too much’ !!

I did say to him what if his wife was on here doing the same as him and he replied ‘she would never do that to me and if she did I would leave her’

I left a very comfortable lifestyle because I was very unhappy. I went from a household income that most people dream of to almost nothing (and I might add I came off worse in the divorce as couldn’t even afford a solicitor and ended up with his 14k bill)

I think it’s far too easy to cheat nowadays if you have no willpower. It’s on everyone’s phones just a click away.

I won’t meet guys that I know are attached and had been pissed when I have met single guys that I find out are not single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I know a guy is married and doing it behind his partners back I wont meet him. I've been called a hypocrite amongst other nastier things for taking that stance as I am in a relationship and meet others for play and some seem unable to grasp that I do so with my partners blessing. I think it's awful when guys criticize their wives, I would never say to anyone that I was on here for something I'm not getting at home because it simply wouldn't be true. It's all about enhancing not replacing. I wont be anyones dirty little secret

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I hear what you are saying.

Was only yesterday a married man was on my case and I told him straight that I wouldn’t be meeting him as he was married etc. The things he was saying about his wife , how bad their sex life is and so on seemed so disrespectful.

And his answer to not leaving her is it ‘would cost him too much’ !!

I did say to him what if his wife was on here doing the same as him and he replied ‘she would never do that to me and if she did I would leave her’

I left a very comfortable lifestyle because I was very unhappy. I went from a household income that most people dream of to almost nothing (and I might add I came off worse in the divorce as couldn’t even afford a solicitor and ended up with his 14k bill)

I think it’s far too easy to cheat nowadays if you have no willpower. It’s on everyone’s phones just a click away.

I won’t meet guys that I know are attached and had been pissed when I have met single guys that I find out are not single.

"

From experience, I'd say a good three quarters of alleged single men in the swinging world are attached in some way.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I hear what you are saying.

Was only yesterday a married man was on my case and I told him straight that I wouldn’t be meeting him as he was married etc. The things he was saying about his wife , how bad their sex life is and so on seemed so disrespectful.

And his answer to not leaving her is it ‘would cost him too much’ !!

I did say to him what if his wife was on here doing the same as him and he replied ‘she would never do that to me and if she did I would leave her’

I left a very comfortable lifestyle because I was very unhappy. I went from a household income that most people dream of to almost nothing (and I might add I came off worse in the divorce as couldn’t even afford a solicitor and ended up with his 14k bill)

I think it’s far too easy to cheat nowadays if you have no willpower. It’s on everyone’s phones just a click away.

I won’t meet guys that I know are attached and had been pissed when I have met single guys that I find out are not single.

From experience, I'd say a good three quarters of alleged single men in the swinging world are attached in some way. "

You could be right as it stands now

However when I joined in 2013 I would say it was dev more swingers and singles were single but just wanted NSA

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Why on earth people can't just be with / marry people they want to be with is beyond me.

There would be far less hurt in this world, far less kids raised by single parents etc.

Humanity could do so much better.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I hear what you are saying.

Was only yesterday a married man was on my case and I told him straight that I wouldn’t be meeting him as he was married etc. The things he was saying about his wife , how bad their sex life is and so on seemed so disrespectful.

And his answer to not leaving her is it ‘would cost him too much’ !!

I did say to him what if his wife was on here doing the same as him and he replied ‘she would never do that to me and if she did I would leave her’

I left a very comfortable lifestyle because I was very unhappy. I went from a household income that most people dream of to almost nothing (and I might add I came off worse in the divorce as couldn’t even afford a solicitor and ended up with his 14k bill)

I think it’s far too easy to cheat nowadays if you have no willpower. It’s on everyone’s phones just a click away.

I won’t meet guys that I know are attached and had been pissed when I have met single guys that I find out are not single.

From experience, I'd say a good three quarters of alleged single men in the swinging world are attached in some way.

You could be right as it stands now

However when I joined in 2013 I would say it was dev more swingers and singles were single but just wanted NSA

"

I've been doing this for about fifteen years and I reckon it's always been the same. Just as most guys who see sex workers are attached.

I'd say a majority of guys prefer to divide women into the safe homely times with whom you'd have a relationship but who are a bit boring sexually, and the wild types who are hot sexually but who you wouldn't settle down with.

The attached guys are with the former and come on here for the latter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why on earth people can't just be with / marry people they want to be with is beyond me.

There would be far less hurt in this world, far less kids raised by single parents etc.

Humanity could do so much better."

Sorry, but that's a little simplistic. There are other reasons for seeking sex outside a marriage than a lack of or breakdown of the love that led a couple to marry.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/972008

Duplicate thread with the majority of posts here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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