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By *onk and Nun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

What is the true definition of big? We are asking as Mel is a very big girl, but there are women on here who describe themselves as curvy, fabulous or a bbw when they are only around 14-16.

So when we describe Mel this way and men or couples turn up, they are surprised. We have even had incidents where the men in couples can't perform, which is hurtful for Mel. Are there genuinely any couples who like BIG girls out there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is the true definition of big? We are asking as Mel is a very big girl, but there are women on here who describe themselves as curvy, fabulous or a bbw when they are only around 14-16.

So when we describe Mel this way and men or couples turn up, they are surprised. We have even had incidents where the men in couples can't perform, which is hurtful for Mel. Are there genuinely any couples who like BIG girls out there? "

It’s evident from your pics that Mel is a bigger girl perhaps it’s the guys in the couple that have problems with getting it up?

I’m a bigger girl (a BBW at a size 18) and have never had a problem with a guy performing, they have always been well aware before meeting that I’ve got a thick body (as pics have been exchanged)

Reassure Mel that it’s not anything to do with her voluptuous body, it’s obviously the guys dick that’s the problem!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love bigger women I’d say 18+ is start of bigger

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I understand why but your profile reads quite negatively. It feels like you're referring to Mel's size in a negative way.

I think it would be better to write down what Mel has, rather than comparing to what she isn't.

She's a beautiful lady, if you feel size is important I'd state what it is and embrace it in all its curvy glory.

xx

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By *rAandLadyJCouple
over a year ago

west yorshire

You have enough public photos for people to be making their mind up if they find Mel physically attractive before they hit the send button, so to turn up and make her feel not good enough is more to do with them and nothing to do with her.

From what we can see she’s a very beautiful woman so tell her not to let anybody knock her confidence because she is fabulous! x

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We make it as obvious as possible in the pics she prefers other bigger women feels more comfortable naked around them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand why but your profile reads quite negatively. It feels like you're referring to Mel's size in a negative way.

I think it would be better to write down what Mel has, rather than comparing to what she isn't.

She's a beautiful lady, if you feel size is important I'd state what it is and embrace it in all its curvy glory.

xx"

Valid point there would be a lot of the profile that I would re-write. Perhaps she write it herself? do you have some deep rooted issue with her size? was she smaller when you first met? I think I’ll shut up I could be opening a can of worms here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to nail down what "big" is because as you say, there are plenty of words people use to imply big.

Echoing others in here, the people who were surprised when they saw her are just stupid. There's pictures right there showing off her fine self. Weird situation to find yourself in but definitely not your fault!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty that like bigger girls. I've never struggled on fab or in general and I've always been fat.

There are clear photos so they know what they are getting so I doubt that's the reason the men couldnt perform. More likely their issue than yours

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By *onk and Nun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Hi, no it was actually Mel who wrote the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who pre judge are the ones missing out as your profile clearly shows that mel is a bigger girl (but as far as i concerned she is a normal healthy size).

There is too much pressure on girls/ women these days to be stick thin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hard to nail down what "big" is because as you say, there are plenty of words people use to imply big.

Echoing others in here, the people who were surprised when they saw her are just stupid. There's pictures right there showing off her fine self. Weird situation to find yourself in but definitely not your fault! "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, no it was actually Mel who wrote the profile "

Then re-write it with the negative statements

as a positive. Rather than saying you’ll be disappointed say you will be delighted with Mel’s voluptuous body etc you get the picture

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By *onk and Nun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Thanks guys, much appreciated

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Big or small, all girls can be attractive and these men who haven't been able to perform should not be a reflection of how you see yourself at all!

There is no guarantee with any man that he is going to be able to perform at any time and you would never know if he already has underlying issues anyway plus the added pressure some may feel meeting a couple and getting hard on cue can add to that and make it worse.

As many of the people on here have commented and I will add to that too,

You have a great body, be proud and confident of it and that my girl is what makes your sexiness shine through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who pre judge are the ones missing out as your profile clearly shows that mel is a bigger girl (but as far as i concerned she is a normal healthy size).

There is too much pressure on girls/ women these days to be stick thin. "

I'm calling bullshit on this, sorry but you're saying "a bigger girl" and then "normal healthy size" and then you slate girls for being thin (whom many can't actually help)...I mean wtf is normal? why can't anyone just be honest.

You shouldn't need to ask, any self conscious adult will KNOW if they are overweight, they will KNOW if they are eating too much bad things and not exercising enough, they will KNOW if they are buying XXL clothes etc.

We seem to pussyfoot around the issue, overweight is NOT healthy, I say this as I've been overweight and I KNOW I wasn't healthy, I lost the weight, stopped eating junk, started training and I feel great, healthy body, healthy mind.

Society these days just wants people to tell them what they are doing is ok, wether it is or isn't.

Be you, if you're not happy, change!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"What is the true definition of big? We are asking as Mel is a very big girl, but there are women on here who describe themselves as curvy, fabulous or a bbw when they are only around 14-16.

So when we describe Mel this way and men or couples turn up, they are surprised. We have even had incidents where the men in couples can't perform, which is hurtful for Mel. Are there genuinely any couples who like BIG girls out there? "

I always make sure that anyone I meet is under no illusions about my size. Like Mel, I'm no plumptious nigella-esque size 16, which can be the expectation.

Clear pics, a social first and brutal honesty when chatting all play a part in making sure there are no misunderstandings or misconceptions about how big I am.

Sure, it puts some people off, but better they're put off up-front, and then the people who meet me are people who want to meet ME, not some false image of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seams to be alot of insensitive comments on here.

You need to rem_mber that just because a guy can't get an erection it doesnt mean he's not interested. A lot can cause problems with erections and make big issues from it only makes it worse.

Of course they should be willing to do other things tmas theres more to hood sex than piv

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We like anyone who is nice to chat to and up for playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no true definition of big... it's all down to perception/opinions.

Personally I'd say the pics you've displayed show that Mel is on the bigger side, so not sure why anyone would turn up expecting anything else.

A guy not being able to perform isn't always down to lack of attraction, nerves along with many other things can play a part.

I (Lou) have been swinging for over a decade and have been every size from a 12 to a 24 in that time and never had any issues when it comes to getting meets, so there are most definitely plenty of people who are into big women.

Maybe try to be a little more positive, and understanding when it comes to guys performance issues?

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big, is just big. Mel I wouldn’t wiry about the man’s performance, that’s for him to worry about. Just try to ignore it and enjoy the experience. It’s not a given the meet will go as planned, but make the most of the time spent. Swinging is a funny thing, we might believe we know what we like and dislike, but until you actually experience it we won’t know. Sometimes there isn’t a mental connection xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head "

Sorry, but 18 IS big.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head "

28 is great my fb is 26 and I love her on my face

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By *edsguyMan
over a year ago

south of Bedford

Big is great, love curves and love handles, skinny doesn't do it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

Sorry, but 18 IS big."

wow how rude are you !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put my size on my profile as well as pictures so people can make their own minds up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, no it was actually Mel who wrote the profile

Then re-write it with the negative statements

as a positive. Rather than saying you’ll be disappointed say you will be delighted with Mel’s voluptuous body etc you get the picture"

Clever... I like this idea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

Sorry, but 18 IS big."

18 is big, but there’s plenty who like it.

As above, clear comms and honest pics plus a social. If they don’t like it there are many who really, really do.

There are a lot of reasons for non-performance. If they blamed Mel’s body then not only were they disappointing in bed, they were incredibly rude too. If not, then could it be that you’re projecting a little? Find the men who rejoice in the curves, wobbles and fat rolls. Not the ones who will accept it, but as a compromise. No one needs to feel second best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy women are the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I'm way bigger than a 18 and a 18 is still big. But who cares? Be comfortable in who you are. I've had so many confidence issues over my size but something has clicked my size doesn't define me. I have a great personality and a lot of friends. I have an attractive face I have huge boobs and a big bum and curves that would make a road super bumpy. Enjoy what you have and don't let anyone make you feel that you have no worth because there will always be someone else that loves your curves, lumps and bumps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how you view yourself as to what discription fits.

I'm size 16 supposedly the average for a woman in the UK but having seen smaller girls with this i changed my build from average to curvy as not looking to deceive or disappoint. I was considering upping this again to fabulous but having read your post im going to stay curvey i think. At the end of the day i have plenty of photos and what you see is what you get and im comfortable in my skin.

OP your photos are lovely so it's their loss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

Sorry, but 18 IS big.

wow how rude are you !!!"

I'm sorry but why is that rude? We have a nationwide problem of people being overweight, this then puts a HUGE strain on the NHS, why can't we be honest and HELP people instead of sidestepping the issue, I said 18 is big, I didn't say anything derogatory about the person or abuse their character, I didn't eve say it was ugly or wrong. Some people sadly will always just attack those who speak openly and honesy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are what we are and we should enjoy and celebrate it.

I personally prefer the bigger curvier woman.

The world seems to be going mad. Every word is scrutinised these days. Let people have their opinions and be able to speak their minds freely

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By *lphaceoCouple
over a year ago

Oswestry

We absolutely LOVE the larger ladies. It’s one of our ‘things’. Those curves are there to be celebrated. X

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

Sorry, but 18 IS big.

wow how rude are you !!!

I'm sorry but why is that rude? We have a nationwide problem of people being overweight, this then puts a HUGE strain on the NHS, why can't we be honest and HELP people instead of sidestepping the issue, I said 18 is big, I didn't say anything derogatory about the person or abuse their character, I didn't eve say it was ugly or wrong. Some people sadly will always just attack those who speak openly and honesy."

I understand that you probably genuinely believe that in speaking openly and honestly that you are helping people to realise that they are not “healthy” or that being “big” is not something one should aspire to however the majority of these people don’t need other people to tell them this as I’m sure they already know how big they are and probably don’t feel too great about themselves as it is and I doubt even when they are being complimented they’re thinking yeah I’m fine I look great. I’m sure some bigger people do and I think that’s great but not all. How do I know this? I’ve been there (am still there) it didn’t matter how often hubby told me I was beautiful I felt fat and ugly. Also it didn’t matter how many times I read derogatory comments about bigger people or how unhealthy it was that just made me more depressed and likely to eat more. So I got a PT and I am now on a journey to totally change my life and outlook I’ve lost a stone and have dropped 2 dress sizes. However after that big story my point is for me it didn’t matter what anyone said either negative or positive the change had to come from ME making the decision

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By *omis.69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We absolutely LOVE the larger ladies. It’s one of our ‘things’. Those curves are there to be celebrated. X"

Couldn’t agree more !!

Celebrate and enjoy the curves !!!!!

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighsWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere

The word BIG is incredibly subjective.

What some may consider big is another person's average.

A size 6 person would consider a size 10 big.

It also depends on how you carry weight, and height and proportions.

I'm not big... I'm mahoosive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

Sorry, but 18 IS big.

wow how rude are you !!!

I'm sorry but why is that rude? We have a nationwide problem of people being overweight, this then puts a HUGE strain on the NHS, why can't we be honest and HELP people instead of sidestepping the issue, I said 18 is big, I didn't say anything derogatory about the person or abuse their character, I didn't eve say it was ugly or wrong. Some people sadly will always just attack those who speak openly and honesy.

I understand that you probably genuinely believe that in speaking openly and honestly that you are helping people to realise that they are not “healthy” or that being “big” is not something one should aspire to however the majority of these people don’t need other people to tell them this as I’m sure they already know how big they are and probably don’t feel too great about themselves as it is and I doubt even when they are being complimented they’re thinking yeah I’m fine I look great. I’m sure some bigger people do and I think that’s great but not all. How do I know this? I’ve been there (am still there) it didn’t matter how often hubby told me I was beautiful I felt fat and ugly. Also it didn’t matter how many times I read derogatory comments about bigger people or how unhealthy it was that just made me more depressed and likely to eat more. So I got a PT and I am now on a journey to totally change my life and outlook I’ve lost a stone and have dropped 2 dress sizes. However after that big story my point is for me it didn’t matter what anyone said either negative or positive the change had to come from ME making the decision "

Well done to you I applaud your action to do something positive and self empowering. I hope you maintain the healthy lifestyle and find happiness in all you achieve.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

Sorry, but 18 IS big.

wow how rude are you !!!

I'm sorry but why is that rude? We have a nationwide problem of people being overweight, this then puts a HUGE strain on the NHS, why can't we be honest and HELP people instead of sidestepping the issue, I said 18 is big, I didn't say anything derogatory about the person or abuse their character, I didn't eve say it was ugly or wrong. Some people sadly will always just attack those who speak openly and honesy.

I understand that you probably genuinely believe that in speaking openly and honestly that you are helping people to realise that they are not “healthy” or that being “big” is not something one should aspire to however the majority of these people don’t need other people to tell them this as I’m sure they already know how big they are and probably don’t feel too great about themselves as it is and I doubt even when they are being complimented they’re thinking yeah I’m fine I look great. I’m sure some bigger people do and I think that’s great but not all. How do I know this? I’ve been there (am still there) it didn’t matter how often hubby told me I was beautiful I felt fat and ugly. Also it didn’t matter how many times I read derogatory comments about bigger people or how unhealthy it was that just made me more depressed and likely to eat more. So I got a PT and I am now on a journey to totally change my life and outlook I’ve lost a stone and have dropped 2 dress sizes. However after that big story my point is for me it didn’t matter what anyone said either negative or positive the change had to come from ME making the decision "

You're projecting.

The question was what size is considered big, and the person put his opinion that a size 18 is big.

I'm a size 16/18 and I consider myself big not 'average' I dont hate myself although I'm aware I could do with losing some weight.

It's all subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anything, Mr performs better with a bigger girl. Our meets with bigger women have always been amazing x

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"18 isn't big, now 28, that's big

Not sure why the knife scene from Crocodile Dundee just popped into my head

Sorry, but 18 IS big.

wow how rude are you !!!

I'm sorry but why is that rude? We have a nationwide problem of people being overweight, this then puts a HUGE strain on the NHS, why can't we be honest and HELP people instead of sidestepping the issue, I said 18 is big, I didn't say anything derogatory about the person or abuse their character, I didn't eve say it was ugly or wrong. Some people sadly will always just attack those who speak openly and honesy.

I understand that you probably genuinely believe that in speaking openly and honestly that you are helping people to realise that they are not “healthy” or that being “big” is not something one should aspire to however the majority of these people don’t need other people to tell them this as I’m sure they already know how big they are and probably don’t feel too great about themselves as it is and I doubt even when they are being complimented they’re thinking yeah I’m fine I look great. I’m sure some bigger people do and I think that’s great but not all. How do I know this? I’ve been there (am still there) it didn’t matter how often hubby told me I was beautiful I felt fat and ugly. Also it didn’t matter how many times I read derogatory comments about bigger people or how unhealthy it was that just made me more depressed and likely to eat more. So I got a PT and I am now on a journey to totally change my life and outlook I’ve lost a stone and have dropped 2 dress sizes. However after that big story my point is for me it didn’t matter what anyone said either negative or positive the change had to come from ME making the decision

You're projecting.

The question was what size is considered big, and the person put his opinion that a size 18 is big.

I'm a size 16/18 and I consider myself big not 'average' I dont hate myself although I'm aware I could do with losing some weight.

It's all subjective "

I don’t think anybody actually asked the question about what size is considered big tbf. The thread was started to “celebrate curvy” women. I don’t feel it’s my business to comment on whether or not I agree with someone’s thoughts on their own body so if I didn’t agree with them I would scroll past not make comments which some people could construe as negative towards bigger ladies. I’m glad you don’t hate yourself but there will be many ladies and men of all sizes big and smaller that do and my point was telling them how big/skinny/ they are isn’t going to make them think “really I never noticed that before I better start doing something about it” the desire to change has to come because you want to change for you not because of negative comments. But you’re correct everything is subjective this is all just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually in a size 16 and consider myself a bigger woman. It doesn't really matter anyway! It's just another label we throw on ourselves isn't it? I'm sure we all have different ideas of what big is so there's no point trying to define it.

I don't understand why people are surprised at your meets? You have photos that show you as you are and you let people know you're on the curvier side, so the problem lies with them and not you. It's not like you're lying about who you are. I know many people who love a bigger lady so don't worry about it.

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