FabSwingers.com forum: Help needed?

By *op couple Telford OP Man
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

I’m with a wonderful partner however.... I’m bisexual and don’t think she would appreciate that..

I want an relationship where we both are bi, however the other she put a finger up my arse then called me gay...

I’m not gay however either she expects me as I am or we cannot be together.... yes I do like an sex, however I don’t know what to do???

Please help... you thoughts, suggestions will help...

Do I cut her lose and find a bi female or hide my real feelings.. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know you are on here as a bisexual single guy?

Not judging but it may indicate that to some extent you have already made your decision...?

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By *op couple Telford OP Man
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

You are right, however don't want to loose my partner, however I can’t help who I am.. it is so hard and don’t wish to cheat ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same with an ex girlfriend I fought the same but never did anything

I guess if you really feel that way just be honest with her ?

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By *op couple Telford OP Man
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

I really want too, however I don’t think she would understand... it’s not a choice it’s a way of life... I do thank you for your views,

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By *op couple Telford OP Man
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

Life has been hard, I have tried in the past to “come out” as they say these days, and has cost me a few relationships.. looks like it could be life on my own. My intentions are genuine, and just want to on with life with hurting anybody

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nothing for it but to have that honest chat. You're just assuming she'll react badly and thinking of moving on to another partner.

Incidentally there's no guarantee that a bisexual woman will accept a man's bisexuality. Attitudes to each are very different

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Who’s arse is in your first picture ?

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By *op couple Telford OP Man
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

Thank you for your help, I’m just so mixed up, and have tried showing my feelings in anther relationship and got rejected.

It is has when you are neither straight or or gay... it’s like living in limbo land..

It has been hard to talk to you guys, however thank you for your views I

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By *op couple Telford OP Man
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

My partners is the first picture

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By *op couple Telford OP Man
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

I do apologise for my first thread.. it dot look like I cannot read or write... predictive text for you, and ability not to proof read....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you want to live without hurting anyone. How do you think she'd react if she knew you were on here?

I think the best thing to do is be honest with her. Yes she might end things but isn't it better to be single and free to be yourself rather than in a relationship built on dishonesty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You say you want to live without hurting anyone. How do you think she'd react if she knew you were on here?

I think the best thing to do is be honest with her. Yes she might end things but isn't it better to be single and free to be yourself rather than in a relationship built on dishonesty? "

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. Yes, it's not easy to talk about those things, and I can understand your fears, OP. But she's your partner, try and educate her that being bi doesn't make anyone gay, and that you're not going to leave her for a man. Try and explain to her what being bi means to you, whether you're 'just' orally bi or more, but I'd say don't drop it all like a bomb on her, do it slowly, bit by bit. Explain what turns you on about men and sex with them.

Good luck.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

You need to be honest, with her and with yourself. Burying feelings just ends badly. If she cannot accept you for who you are then she isn't the right person for you. No one should have to hide their sexuality and live a lie. I found being upfront about my sexuality very early on in a relationship saved all of this confusion and upset. If you hide it from her and she finds out she will be upset. If you end up cheating on her she will be upset. Just have an honest talk. It might go well, it might not. But then at least you will know for sure and you can move forward.

Gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi.

If you’re sure of how you feel then being honest and telling her how you feel is probably going to be best, she’ll either accept it or say she wants to break up, which then makes the decision for you?

If you don’t mind me asking, why do you think having a bi female partner would help the situation?

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

I think all you can do is have an honest conversation and take it from there.

Much better to have an honest conversation now and separate, if that's the outcome, than to separate at a later date because of perceived dishonesty.

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