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Open relationships... Would it put you off?

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By *ualitychemistry OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

This is the arrangement we're going to embark upon now the wife is fully bi (profile to be updated soon). Both seeking a lady but separately. Would that put you ladies off hubby knowing he's married over a single guy even though he's got permission just as she has?

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By *pril86Woman
over a year ago

chester

Personally yes x sorry but I like less complicated as possible but at least ur being honest about things which is a huge tick for me!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Not at all. I’d like to know he has permission though.

I do believe open relationships are the way forward, only way I think I could be truly happy in honesty x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

I happily look for husbands/partners to play with separately from the wife, as long as boundaries are respected and all parties are happy with the arrangements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. Won't play with anyone that doesn't have permission though.

Sugar x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the arrangement we're going to embark upon now the wife is fully bi (profile to be updated soon). Both seeking a lady but separately. Would that put you ladies off hubby knowing he's married over a single guy even though he's got permission just as she has? "

It wouldn't put me off.

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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago

London

We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if its done openly then no difference to meeting a single person.

As for if they are on here and want to meet then im cool whatever.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion. "

Not honest with themselves about what though? Xx

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By *ualitychemistry OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion. "

Course you're entitled to your opinion.

We've played a little together with couples and single ladies and don't feel threatened or jealous so are trying it separately as we are both secure and comfortable. Having all the attention 1 on 1 is flattering and a turn on for both of us.

How long we'll try it for is unknown but you don't know if you don't try! Lol x

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Really would love to be part of an "open relationship"...some chance at my age !!! I feel 1 to 1 does not work for me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This is the arrangement we're going to embark upon now the wife is fully bi (profile to be updated soon). Both seeking a lady but separately. Would that put you ladies off hubby knowing he's married over a single guy even though he's got permission just as she has? "

it wouldn't put us off but we are very wary.

Everyone has their individual way of doing things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never meet any half of a couples profile.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion. "

Completely off-topic, but congratulations on your image gallery - I've never seen anything quite like it in all my time on Fab

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

As long as everyone knows and it's honest then I don't see a problem with it

Sharing is caring

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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago

London


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion.

Not honest with themselves about what though? Xx"

Every couple is different, but usually the case is that one of the partner does not like to be seen, or look at the other while playing. Some people become obsessed while play, and do not like to be disturbed, by theirs own partner.

OP has posted they find 1:1 alluring as they get the full attention. If that doesn't sound like an issue, not sure what it does. Its normal between singles, but when you are swinging couples, does not sound right.

Again, our point of view.

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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago

London


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion.

Completely off-topic, but congratulations on your image gallery - I've never seen anything quite like it in all my time on Fab

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Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet one half of a couple on here quite regularly. They used to meet together and separately but since they had a daughter she's taken a step back.

It isn't a situation that I would necessarily seek out but it works for us. They've been together for over ten years and are settled and confident in their relationship, and I have a lot of respect for their relationship and their lives. If she ever wasn't 1000% happy with the situation, I trust that he would let me know.

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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago

London


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion.

Course you're entitled to your opinion.

We've played a little together with couples and single ladies and don't feel threatened or jealous so are trying it separately as we are both secure and comfortable. Having all the attention 1 on 1 is flattering and a turn on for both of us.

How long we'll try it for is unknown but you don't know if you don't try! Lol x"

It is not necessary to be a jealousy issue, but we found out that some people are intimidated by the other in the room, and cannot fully relax. And when I mean the other, I mean the own partner. They feel like being watched and judged and prefer privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, as long as they have permission it wouldn't put me off.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion.

Course you're entitled to your opinion.

We've played a little together with couples and single ladies and don't feel threatened or jealous so are trying it separately as we are both secure and comfortable. Having all the attention 1 on 1 is flattering and a turn on for both of us.

How long we'll try it for is unknown but you don't know if you don't try! Lol x

It is not necessary to be a jealousy issue, but we found out that some people are intimidated by the other in the room, and cannot fully relax. And when I mean the other, I mean the own partner. They feel like being watched and judged and prefer privacy.

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That’s different - separate rooms are fine and good for exactly the reasons you give. Guys often can’t perform same room anyway.

But I certainly wouldn’t want to risk being named on someone’s messy divorce, or on Facebook when it falls apart. Not without legally binding consent!

Couples should meet as couples and singles not meet half of a couple, just go off to separate rooms and do your thing !

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By *j1963Couple
over a year ago

leeds

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By *j1963Couple
over a year ago

leeds

No doesn't put me off, as long as both know what's going on. If anything I prefer it. I've met a few guys on her that are in a couple and I guess I kinda feel safer with them. I think they generally are more picky than single guys so are sexually safe and I know them and their wife so physically safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet a guy who is part of a couple on here even if he claimed his partner was cool with it.

It's not a dynamic I'm comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in an open relationship and found it very hard to find someone to be the secondary if that makes sense. Im sure your wife wouldnt struggle to much but as a fella it will be abit of a different story, well in my experience anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the arrangement we're going to embark upon now the wife is fully bi (profile to be updated soon). Both seeking a lady but separately. Would that put you ladies off hubby knowing he's married over a single guy even though he's got permission just as she has? "

Yes it would put me off.

I have tried it a couple of times, but decided it’s not for me

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By *ooBoo2300Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

For those who have said they would meet one half, how do you go about checking they have permission?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"For those who have said they would meet one half, how do you go about checking they have permission?"

I’ve rung before now

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It wouldn't put me off. Similar situation to my own except we're not married. I'd want to be sure they did have permission first though.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I (male) have a slightly stronger kink than L.

L has a strong sensual want for the ladies.

We both can and have played separate.

However, it is a joy when a lady joins us together.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

As long as everyone knows and is happy with the situation, not a problem.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for us at all. Everyone is different but we have seen the distruction that can happen when it goes wrong.

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

pretty much, yeah. It all ends up getting complex especially if the other half wants some say over who and what happens...hard enough to take 3 peoples needs into account when you're all there let alone a 4th who isnt even in the room...

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"For those who have said they would meet one half, how do you go about checking they have permission?"

By everyone sitting together and open communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's preferable.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Not for us at all. Everyone is different but we have seen the distruction that can happen when it goes wrong. "

Sorry, I haven’t.

All we have is fun.

Destroyed you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for us at all. Everyone is different but we have seen the distruction that can happen when it goes wrong.

Sorry, I haven’t.

All we have is fun.

Destroyed you!"

It was actually a friend of ours. And when said friend is balling there eyes out because there partner won't stop when asked then I gives a touch of perspective. But as I said everyone is different. Oh and yes it did start out with complete agreement and openness.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No,my other half and I meet separately too ,so as long as everyone knew and was happy,not a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion. "

Have read the rest of your comments too and although we appreciate that you are entitled to your opinion we think you are being very closed minded and judgemental.

We play together and separately on occasion and have no issues. We're happy for each other to enjoy themselves. Love and sex can be quite separate and not a reflection on how we feel about each other. We've been in clubs together and played separately or have arranged meets outside of clubs with just one of us, we've also been to clubs with a third with the express intention of only one of us playing with the third. Trust, respect and honesty is the key.

What is worse one half of a couple 'taking one for the team' or playing as singles sometimes? It's not always easy to find 4 people who all click.

The other side of the coin is how many singles tend to get emotionally attached or don't take into consideration a couples plans or commitments and expect you to be available when they want you to be? In our experience this is much less of an issue with half of a couple, but that's just our experience and not a reflection on singles.

Of course we are all individuals and can't all have the same viewd, but we can be open minded enough to take each case and situation on it's own merits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will not meet part of a couple, regardless of permission or not. We find those couples to have some sort of an issues. I know, they say, that is not the case, but for someone who has been in 20+ years relationship, and swinging for 16+ years, I can tell, you are not honest with yourselves( not op, but generally).

Of course, that's just our opinion. "

Omg you guys are gorgeous ...

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