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By *aveman11 OP   Man
over a year ago

all over the uk with work

Seen a few posts recently and things about guys just with dick pics, no banter or convos and generally being rude, pushy or disrespectful and a lot never wanting socials this is off putting women for the decent guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen a few posts recently and things about guys just with dick pics, no banter or convos and generally being rude, pushy or disrespectful and a lot never wanting socials this is off putting women for the decent guys on here"

This ^^^ absolutely..

Put some effort in guys.. It really is spoiling the site...

If you can post a face pic, if you can't post a body shot or arty pic where your face isn't clear..

Last but not least put your cock shots into friends or private folder...

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Actually I think it just makes the decent guys stand out from the crowd on here.

It’s not just guys either, or possibly it is guys posing as women. Either way anyone that can’t message me in a non sexual manner = block, unsolicited friend request = block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X "

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us"

Fair point, but also true to say that many, many women complain of exactly this on the forums. My female friends get it on a daily basis and find it hugely frustrating. That being said I'd love to agree that it means the good guys stand out. I used to think that, but the vast majority of messages I send (.....and I always try to get it right) don't even get looked at. There's no chance women can read all the messages they get it's clear, but it's also obvious a lot of us just go completely unnoticed, which over time and numbers means the effort we do put in is largely wasted. Fab has become a numbers game and as such very much a lottery.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Seen a few posts recently and things about guys just with dick pics, no banter or convos and generally being rude, pushy or disrespectful and a lot never wanting socials this is off putting women for the decent guys on here"
why does it put women off other people...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It doesn't put us off. It makes the good ones stand out.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"It doesn't put us off. It makes the good ones stand out."

To be fair your profile screams "Quality only need apply!". Clear and high standards without being ranty and VERY classy photos!

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Many like receiving hundreds of messages per day because it massages their ego - when the number drops to less than a hundred they start a moany thread and the numbers pick up again.

Everyone's in control of their own experience on here and we don't have any complaints about single guys, so they're not spoiling it for us.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It doesn't put us off. It makes the good ones stand out.

To be fair your profile screams "Quality only need apply!". Clear and high standards without being ranty and VERY classy photos! "

Thank you. If it says that no one's listening, ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us

Fair point, but also true to say that many, many women complain of exactly this on the forums. My female friends get it on a daily basis and find it hugely frustrating. That being said I'd love to agree that it means the good guys stand out. I used to think that, but the vast majority of messages I send (.....and I always try to get it right) don't even get looked at. There's no chance women can read all the messages they get it's clear, but it's also obvious a lot of us just go completely unnoticed, which over time and numbers means the effort we do put in is largely wasted. Fab has become a numbers game and as such very much a lottery. "

only you are responsible for your profile and message's or lack of meets nobody else so many so called good guys do nothing but moan about the so called bad guys ruining it for them no you ruin it for your self not because of others, women arnt stupid we know what we like and what we don't and too be honest white knights put me off as much as bad profiles ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

another reason why I think profile advice should be banned there already 1000s on here that look the same because they copy whats so called the correct way ...id much rather see the honest profile so I can keep it real on who to avoid

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It makes the good guys stand out. After a time if you stick around the messages even out and you learn to spot the crap messages. Yes I spend more time deleting and blocking in my inbox, but it makes the guys with more than a brain cell to rub together and some decency look brilliant. (Doesn't mean that's enough though)

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us

Fair point, but also true to say that many, many women complain of exactly this on the forums. My female friends get it on a daily basis and find it hugely frustrating. That being said I'd love to agree that it means the good guys stand out. I used to think that, but the vast majority of messages I send (.....and I always try to get it right) don't even get looked at. There's no chance women can read all the messages they get it's clear, but it's also obvious a lot of us just go completely unnoticed, which over time and numbers means the effort we do put in is largely wasted. Fab has become a numbers game and as such very much a lottery. "

You have 22 verification and one from last week and your complaining?

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us

Fair point, but also true to say that many, many women complain of exactly this on the forums. My female friends get it on a daily basis and find it hugely frustrating. That being said I'd love to agree that it means the good guys stand out. I used to think that, but the vast majority of messages I send (.....and I always try to get it right) don't even get looked at. There's no chance women can read all the messages they get it's clear, but it's also obvious a lot of us just go completely unnoticed, which over time and numbers means the effort we do put in is largely wasted. Fab has become a numbers game and as such very much a lottery.

You have 22 verification and one from last week and your complaining? "

Nope, observations rather than complaint. I speak to a fair amount of guys who I know to be top fellas who get absolutely nowhere - many of whom have a lot more going for them than me. I just think the vast majority of guys efforts go unnoticed, primarily due to the numbers game. That's no-one's fault. To be honest with you the vast majority of my verifications have come from attending socials, something I've recommended to other guys till I'm blue in the face. It may be that not getting initial responses on here means guys with a lot of great qualities may never get the opportunity to shine. I'm no Brad Pitt but I tend to have a much better chance of success (if you'd call it that) once people see me for the person I am, as opposed to an anonymous, albeit hopefully well-written message.

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By *aveman11 OP   Man
over a year ago

all over the uk with work


"Seen a few posts recently and things about guys just with dick pics, no banter or convos and generally being rude, pushy or disrespectful and a lot never wanting socials this is off putting women for the decent guys on here why does it put women off other people... "
a good few I have spoken with find this issue some have breaks from fab because of it, I don't struggle but i know a few who do and they are very nice guys

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Everyone struggles here at one time or another. Every group has challenges.

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By *aveman11 OP   Man
over a year ago

all over the uk with work


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us"

No way was I trying to be a white nigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us

Fair point, but also true to say that many, many women complain of exactly this on the forums. My female friends get it on a daily basis and find it hugely frustrating. That being said I'd love to agree that it means the good guys stand out. I used to think that, but the vast majority of messages I send (.....and I always try to get it right) don't even get looked at. There's no chance women can read all the messages they get it's clear, but it's also obvious a lot of us just go completely unnoticed, which over time and numbers means the effort we do put in is largely wasted. Fab has become a numbers game and as such very much a lottery.

You have 22 verification and one from last week and your complaining?

Nope, observations rather than complaint. I speak to a fair amount of guys who I know to be top fellas who get absolutely nowhere - many of whom have a lot more going for them than me. I just think the vast majority of guys efforts go unnoticed, primarily due to the numbers game. That's no-one's fault. To be honest with you the vast majority of my verifications have come from attending socials, something I've recommended to other guys till I'm blue in the face. It may be that not getting initial responses on here means guys with a lot of great qualities may never get the opportunity to shine. I'm no Brad Pitt but I tend to have a much better chance of success (if you'd call it that) once people see me for the person I am, as opposed to an anonymous, albeit hopefully well-written message. "

to simply put this in terms ... 20 good guys looking for fun but due to ratio there will be only one woman looking so that means as long as the woman finds one person that's 19 who don't get a looking more to do with numbers really nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pics on a sexual geared site!!!! Before you know it Mr Kipling will showing us cakes!!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I wouldn't worry .. I think women can decide for themselves X

this we don't need so called white knights to tell us

Fair point, but also true to say that many, many women complain of exactly this on the forums. My female friends get it on a daily basis and find it hugely frustrating. That being said I'd love to agree that it means the good guys stand out. I used to think that, but the vast majority of messages I send (.....and I always try to get it right) don't even get looked at. There's no chance women can read all the messages they get it's clear, but it's also obvious a lot of us just go completely unnoticed, which over time and numbers means the effort we do put in is largely wasted. Fab has become a numbers game and as such very much a lottery.

You have 22 verification and one from last week and your complaining?

Nope, observations rather than complaint. I speak to a fair amount of guys who I know to be top fellas who get absolutely nowhere - many of whom have a lot more going for them than me. I just think the vast majority of guys efforts go unnoticed, primarily due to the numbers game. That's no-one's fault. To be honest with you the vast majority of my verifications have come from attending socials, something I've recommended to other guys till I'm blue in the face. It may be that not getting initial responses on here means guys with a lot of great qualities may never get the opportunity to shine. I'm no Brad Pitt but I tend to have a much better chance of success (if you'd call it that) once people see me for the person I am, as opposed to an anonymous, albeit hopefully well-written message.

to simply put this in terms ... 20 good guys looking for fun but due to ratio there will be only one woman looking so that means as long as the woman finds one person that's 19 who don't get a looking more to do with numbers really nothing else"

Very fair point! I've always been aware of that and suspect it's quite possibly the greatest factor. Natural selection will always be a big factor as it has to be down to physical attraction. I have at least two physical no-no's for a lot of women so am aware that's always going to narrow me down. It is what it is.

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By *onedbodMan
over a year ago

co Galway

Couldn't care less what other guys do or say it's irrelevant! It's solely down to oneself what one gets out being on the site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't care less what other guys do or say it's irrelevant! It's solely down to oneself what one gets out being on the site! "

?this?

There's going to all kinds of people, all kinds of tastes and all kinds of good and bad on a site like this, if people start thinking women are too weak or frail to say "fuck off mate" or hammer the delete and block buttons then they need to reassess their stance.

I personally don't like seeing a fanny being spread thinner than budget cling film, but I don't want people to change there ways for me.

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