FabSwingers.com forum: Real single guys to fake timewasters ratio

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv met mostly in clubs, but iv met for a social outside of the club... Iv had mixed experience, some don't look like their pics, most completely mis represent themselves! Sticking to club meets now, but I'm single not a couple. I'm sure there's some lovely gents around tho, just need to maybe have something regular with the genuine ones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?"
in the early days i had many single female no shows, ive refined what i want now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d turn up

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By *ylonbiWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes agree totally.

Large majority of so called single guys ,been a complete waste of valuable time.

Seem to be in it for either pic collection or just masturbation.

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Absolute rubbish....I could write a book!!!

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By *rotica xCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow/Portugal

Someone who left us waiting for hours... after a few calls and being told “will be as quick as I can”.. not even a block, just completely ignored

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word"

Yeah. I've had a couple of postponements but nothing that gives me concerns about meeting with single men

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

It's not just single guys that let people down. I have had a couple message and get all excited and then ghost me at the last minute. It just means you need to filter them better or accept that it happens now and again.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Lots of ghosting in the last couple of years. Generally going silent before the day of the arranged meet. I don't bother now. Happy to meet new people at clubs, parties and organised socials now. Trying to meet 1-1 is a waste of my time.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The potential issues vary by their ages. Fewer 18 to 25 lie about age than 40 plus, for example.

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By *azpiz1Man
over a year ago

Camberley

I'm genuinely happy to travel for a meet.

Just need someone to meet!

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Couples and it's just a guy and there wife is always out or in bed or somethink

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Men. Are shit.

Yes I'm a man and have an insight into this psychology...

I have so much of a problem filtering men who want an easy woman and men who want me, and those who think they want me in exchange.

Yeah, I am basically anal in lingerie.

But I'd have suspected that was a lot more popular than I'd thought...

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By *hfcMan
over a year ago

exeter

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcounand 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?"

Why would they not turn up too meet someone that looks like you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had the pleasure of meeting a lovely single gent! He’s polite, courteous and very attentive. However, we have had one single gent (our first) who became besotted with my wife and started stalking us and making fake FB profiles to start some rumours of me cheating on my wife. So yeah, you’ve just gotta take the good with the bad I’m afraid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing but creeps. Now to consider single guys we will only play with guys from couples and we have to hear from her that it’s okay. It’s guys from swinging couples that are best behaved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?"

100 contacts, 1 genuine perhaps - awful site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?

100 contacts, 1 genuine perhaps - awful site!"

Why are you here then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very very rarely meet people cold from the site now. Most are people I’ve bumped into at clubs, socials or we have mutual friends. Of those I have arranged to meet just through messaging they are roughly 60/40 flakes (last minute cancellation) to people who turn up. Those who turn up are generally great fun. It’s a long time since I had a social that didn’t lead on to a further meet. But as MsGiveswood says, the percentage of flakes means that I generally see arranging meets with people through messaging as a huge waste of time. I have one night a week to play. I don’t want to spend it looking at my watch in a local Costa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fakers nause it up big time mind you I've never not turned up to a pre arranged meet ever... had a few couples let me down at the last minute mind

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By *owncouple5Couple
over a year ago

near Belfast

"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word"

Like you guys, we have never had a single guy let us down either.(Yet)....!!

Met some fantastic single guys, they shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a no show, met some really great single guys off here

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

Like everything on fab , proceed with caution, do your research and the no shows are minimised. Look at your selection process if you’re having that many no shows.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word

Like you guys, we have never had a single guy let us down either.(Yet)....!!

Met some fantastic single guys, they shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush."

Where did you go for the phot 11th August as that's not Norn Iron as there's no rain.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Yes I've experienced fab let downs too. I've had men and women arrange to meet then ghost me/leave the site/fail to turn up and keep me hanging in general. Wouldn't like to put a ratio on it though. Also had some cracking meets too.... luckily!

Just don't get me started on the men off here that lie about their height (no we're not all the same size lying down)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had couples and women let me down also and I've come to accept that it's their perogative to change their minds whatever the reason be it cold feet or nerves.

I've had someone cancel on me last minute to meet someone they've played with before. Understandable but still counts as a let down.

And I've definitely had meets where the lady looked nothing like her pictures either. It's the same for all categories on this site.

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

Jesus- I always turn up, I don't ghost anyone and my photos are recent.

Can't understand anyone doing anything different.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Jesus- I always turn up, I don't ghost anyone and my photos are recent.

Can't understand anyone doing anything different."

Oh they do believe me and the excuses they think of.....unreal !

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

"Jesus- I always turn up, I don't ghost anyone and my photos are recent.

Can't understand anyone doing anything different.

Oh they do believe me and the excuses they think of.....unreal !"

Oh I believe you- just don't understand them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a couple I was chatting too and seriously interested in the female. Lots of pictures exchanged and eventually arranged to meet in Liverpool. All going according to plan then at the time of the meet only the male turns up. Claims his partner is suddenly bedridden with illness. No warning, nothing even a couple of hours before to say ‘I’m under the weather but I’ll still meet if it’s ok?’ - nothing. He just turned up expecting to a) fuck me despite all of my interaction being with the ‘female’ of the ‘couple’ and b) Wolf would be ok with this!! Raging doesn’t even cut it. Not convinced there was a female.

Prior to that had a couple of no shows at clubs but that’s by the by. Don’t have an issue with that because there’s plenty of others to speak to.

Don’t ever arrange meets now, we just go to clubs and see what’s available. Use the site as a social tool.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Jesus- I always turn up, I don't ghost anyone and my photos are recent.

Can't understand anyone doing anything different."

I've met for a social a guy that was a lot heavier than his pics, about 4 inches smaller and approx 15 yrs older than his prof stated. His reasoning I wouldn't have met him if he'd told the truth.

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Ive never been late or cancelled, i look forward to it too much.

Had a few ghosts tho, very annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?"

And single guys like me suffer as a result. We have to work to build trust.

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By *owncouple5Couple
over a year ago

near Belfast

"Its all been good, and apart from one guy who had to cancel because work ran over, everyone we've arranged to meet has been true to their word

Like you guys, we have never had a single guy let us down either.(Yet)....!!

Met some fantastic single guys, they shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush.

Where did you go for the phot 11th August as that's not Norn Iron as there's no rain.

It definitely was taken in Northern Ireland! Lol

Was taken 10 Aug actually.

Was a hot night, that night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a couple I was chatting too and seriously interested in the female. Lots of pictures exchanged and eventually arranged to meet in Liverpool. All going according to plan then at the time of the meet only the male turns up. Claims his partner is suddenly bedridden with illness. No warning, nothing even a couple of hours before to say ‘I’m under the weather but I’ll still meet if it’s ok?’ - nothing. He just turned up expecting to a) fuck me despite all of my interaction being with the ‘female’ of the ‘couple’ and b) Wolf would be ok with this!! Raging doesn’t even cut it. Not convinced there was a female.

Prior to that had a couple of no shows at clubs but that’s by the by. Don’t have an issue with that because there’s plenty of others to speak to.

Don’t ever arrange meets now, we just go to clubs and see what’s available. Use the site as a social tool. "

I used to be reluctant to meet with couples for this very reason

. Now I just make it really clear I'm coming for the woman, if the guy is Bi I make it doubly clear that I want no interaction with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?"

No experience with single guys but that ratio sounds about right for single women... and couples (mind you, they were probably all single men anyway, lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s hard to get any sort of reply on here. Guys get black balled cause of the time wasters

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s hard to get any sort of reply on here. Guys get black balled cause of the time wasters "

It means you have to try harder.

I’m sure there are some single guys on here that have success....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Nothing but creeps. Now to consider single guys we will only play with guys from couples and we have to hear from her that it’s okay. It’s guys from swinging couples that are best behaved. "

Not in my experience with some of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s hard to get any sort of reply on here. Guys get black balled cause of the time wasters

It means you have to try harder.

I’m sure there are some single guys on here that have success...."
i have success, I'm successful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of genuine single guys. With verifications to prove it.

Might just not be you’re type thought.

But lots meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always turn up! Always fill her up!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I very very rarely meet people cold from the site now. Most are people I’ve bumped into at clubs, socials or we have mutual friends. Of those I have arranged to meet just through messaging they are roughly 60/40 flakes (last minute cancellation) to people who turn up. Those who turn up are generally great fun. It’s a long time since I had a social that didn’t lead on to a further meet. But as MsGiveswood says, the percentage of flakes means that I generally see arranging meets with people through messaging as a huge waste of time. I have one night a week to play. I don’t want to spend it looking at my watch in a local Costa."

This is why I've started to host socials for singles and fwb's couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works both ways, I've had plenty of women not turn up and then hide the account, dont get me wrong there is alot of genuine people out there but we(both genuine guys and girls) seem to get over shadowed by the fakes. Just gota keep shifting through the shit I suppose aha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I've started to host socials for singles and fwb's couples

Good call. I see complaints that there isn’t much swinging scene wise in Cornwall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had women suggest meeting up and then stop reading my messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I drived a long way to meet someone and when I got there, she didn't reply so I waited around and eventually she text me..

"which one are you"

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

There's too many idiot males making it harder for us genuine guys - and not in a good way ... Tedious for all the people that 'get' what we're all here to experience. Guilt free hedonism with laughs and good times I always thought.. ?

I think name and shame on your profile is the only way to deal with a time waster/moron. As an 'anti' verification.

Happy Monday everyone, onwards! X

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"There's too many idiot males making it harder for us genuine guys - and not in a good way ... Tedious for all the people that 'get' what we're all here to experience. Guilt free hedonism with laughs and good times I always thought.. ?

I think name and shame on your profile is the only way to deal with a time waster/moron. As an 'anti' verification.

Happy Monday everyone, onwards! X"

I think naming and shaming is against Fab rules.

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

We do prefer club meets but occasionally ring the changes and meet at ours, we've never had a no show yet, but plenty that are all talk and ghost nearer the time. It's just the luck of the draw unfortunately.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?"

20 no shows!!! I would call them all MORON'S.

I would just recommend finding a single guy from a club as it beats the fakes and no shows and maybe find a regular one or few you could rely on. Hope to see you around sometime. Have a good evening both of you and stay naughty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh joy it's hard enough being a single man even harder being older and the fakes doesn't make any easier for people like me. I post chat on cam and honest can I get a meet not a bat in hells chance

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By *empseyANDRedheadCouple
over a year ago

warwick

"ratio of fakes"

So back to the original question this is our experience....

We use kik to comunicate as we feel its quicker and we can have a ...ahem...3 way conversation.

Last year we spoke to 150 single guys from Fab on kik. Maybe 10 of those we said thanks but no thanks. A further 20 turned into a social. The rest ghosted us when we started to move towards a date for a social so by my maths that make the ratio of single guys time wasters/dreamers/fakes around the 80% mark.

I think that the amount of Fake accounts is actually quite small and is mainly centered around a couples profile that only the male half knows about.

A single guys profile cant really be fake (unless the pics arnt his) as he is a single guy with a profile - boom!

But.... you can be a single guy and be a dreamer. It is these guys that let the side down. Fake is the wrong term. A dreamer could be a genuine single guy that thinks a threesome or moresome sounds like a great idea but when reality hits and a real meet is on the cards they bottle it. This goes for the guys that have a single profile but are actually married/with partner. and the same applies as above but with the added guilt that he would be cheating.

FYI we have never had any guy say "sorry, your not for me!" they just poof into thin air because the reality is much scarier than the dream.

Just my own thoughts on it.

Dempsey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ratio of fakes

So back to the original question this is our experience....

We use kik to comunicate as we feel its quicker and we can have a ...ahem...3 way conversation.

I think that the amount of Fake accounts is actually quite small and is mainly centered around a couples profile that only the male half knows about.

A single guys profile cant really be fake (unless the pics arnt his) as he is a single guy with a profile - boom!

FYI we have never had any guy say "sorry, your not for me!" they just poof into thin air because the reality is much scarier than the dream.

Just my own thoughts on it.

Dempsey

To be honest your percentage of time wasters does actually include the "Sorry you're not for me" group. Men think they'll get a bad rep if they tell a woman or couple they aren't interested.

Yes it's been said that guys on fab would typically message any woman, it's an ego thing, some just want to get some sort of result after the sheer number of rejections.

Actually going through with it however is another matter.

I agree there are dreamers on here though as I've seen some absolutely gorgeous couples being let down also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have just received our second ever decent message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have just received our second ever decent message. "

Nice! Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. We don’t meet men from here. But was just nice to receive something polite

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Nah. We don’t meet men from here. But was just nice to receive something polite "

Never any excuse not to be, but it seems many don't sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah. We don’t meet men from here. But was just nice to receive something polite "
At least you read it, my current pet peeve are unread messages. You take the time to read a profile and write up a message only for it to sit there unread for weeks. I get that they might have checked my profile and decided a message from me isn't what they want but geez at least delete it

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Hell of a lot of time wasters. So we plan all meets in club unless they wiling to meet me first for a social, and that they can accom at home, so far that has only been one from this site, saying that the ones we have met at club over half are married, so we just go by how we feel on the night

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

This is why I've started to host socials for singles and fwb's couples

Good call. I see complaints that there isn’t much swinging scene wise in Cornwall."

Generally speaking most socials are couple and single females only too.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?"

Sadly there is a very high chance of a no show.

Myself I would love to meet you as your pictures are what I like.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"So, we have been on here a couple of years. Had some good meets but mainly met all those in clubs and not from fab. However now and again we do like a single guy.

I would say over the 2 years we have had 20 no shows and fakes (as in no turn up on the day and hide avcount) and 4 real ones who turned up as advertised aside one who looked nothing like his pics.

What's been your experience with single guys ?

Sadly there is a very high chance of a no show.

Myself I would love to meet you as your pictures are what I like. "

No shows definitely wreck things for the rest of us - there's no getting away from it.

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By *utchyjackMan
over a year ago

Newquay

I have experienced guys pretending to be one half of a couple, wankers and wasters, don't do us genuine guys any favours at all.

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