FabSwingers.com forum: Help needed for a ffm

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for a female with girls experience to help my partner in crime break the ice. She always wanted to have a ffm experience! Must be in Bristol though due to logistics

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You'll have much better luck if the woman looks for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it...

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"You'll have much better luck if the woman looks for it"

Agreed 100%

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it..."

A male account will have more trouble than any other finding what you're looking for, and it's not easy for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it..."

Then it's unlikely it'll happen. If she can't even approach a woman to talk about it then I'd say going ahead with it it unlikely.

Also, most bi women don't like to be a woman's first in this situation, particularly when the two of you already know each other. If your friend suddenly decides she doesn't like the reality as much as the fantasy then it won't work out too well.

My advice would be that the two of you head to a club on a couple's and single ladies night and approach women together .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it...

A male account will have more trouble than any other finding what you're looking for, and it's not easy for anyone."

I know...what shall I do, give up her fantasy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it...

Then it's unlikely it'll happen. If she can't even approach a woman to talk about it then I'd say going ahead with it it unlikely.

My advice would be that the two of you head to a club on a couple's and single ladies night and approach women together ."

Probably that is one better option... she hasn’t been to a swing club before, she might have a bit of a shock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it...

Then it's unlikely it'll happen. If she can't even approach a woman to talk about it then I'd say going ahead with it it unlikely.

My advice would be that the two of you head to a club on a couple's and single ladies night and approach women together .

Probably that is one better option... she hasn’t been to a swing club before, she might have a bit of a shock "

It's normal for people to be a little nervous their first time at a club. But if she really wants an ffm, then that's the best way for her to do it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

She needs to find the courage in herself. It's not your job.

I walked a similar path.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She needs to find the courage in herself. It's not your job.

I walked a similar path."

It’s gonna be a tough one

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It can be. Personal growth is! But it's about her, and only she can do it.

Honestly, the odds of a single M profile arranging an FFM with a woman he claims exists... is very, very low.

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Don’t want to piss on your party....But we find it near impossible to find a single female for FFM fun, a single guys profile will have zero luck and the way you describe your partner being shy etc won’t be appealing to many females

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don’t want to piss on your party....But we find it near impossible to find a single female for FFM fun, a single guys profile will have zero luck and the way you describe your partner being shy etc won’t be appealing to many females "

Probably my best chance would be another couple then??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Probably my best chance would be another couple then?? "

Her best bet will be. In the nicest way possible, you on a male profile will almost certainly achieve nothing towards getting her an FFM

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Probably my best chance would be another couple then?? "

Probably best making her own account or a joint account, we get messages off single guys telling us they want to meet with partners, fuckbuddies etc etc, the profiles have no mention of partners etc and we generally block and delete

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it...

A male account will have more trouble than any other finding what you're looking for, and it's not easy for anyone.

I know...what shall I do, give up her fantasy?"
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It's not up to you to give up her fantasy.

If this is something she really wants she needs to accept that she has to make some effort to achieve it.

How does she feel about you mentioning it on here? What are her objections to having a singles or coupLes account? When you've discussed it what suggestions does she have for achieving her fantasy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great advice guys! Will talk to her and we’ll go to a club to start with . Probably the beat idea..even if doing nothing, will ease her in

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"She has no experience, and is very shy!! In normal day to day she is very calculated, and cerebral, nobody has any ideea about her filthy side...she says she can’t do it...

A male account will have more trouble than any other finding what you're looking for, and it's not easy for anyone.

I know...what shall I do, give up her fantasy?"

Maybe get a couples profile with her. That would be more credible.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Great advice guys! Will talk to her and we’ll go to a club to start with . Probably the beat idea..even if doing nothing, will ease her in"
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You've talked to her about trying to find someone from here though, right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, I did but she trusted me to try to get someone. Looking like it’s not gonna happen. We need to explore different options

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Best best is to meet as a couple and woo her way , there are plenty of couples with more sexed up females, or a FB couple where the girl will meet a couple alone if you treat her nicely. As a couple profile you can get female meets but it’s much harder.

Also, Bristol is bloody hard work , does anyone from the SW agree?

There is no proper club in Bristol city centre anymore and very limited number of swingers Compared to midlands/London it’s hard work.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If she's that shy, how will she handle a club?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If she's that shy, how will she handle a club?"

That’s what I am worried about...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If she's that shy, how will she handle a club?

That’s what I am worried about... "

Then I strongly suggest not doing it.

I'm a reforming shy, socially awkward woman myself, and if she can't handle messages as a single or in a couple's account, the odds of her handling a club seem low.

She needs to handle this and her own issues. Not you.

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We all would love a single female for a MFF

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is it more that she wants it to happen spontaneously? Without her seeming to actively seek it out.

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

They are called unicorns for a reason! However, they do exist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it more that she wants it to happen spontaneously? Without her seeming to actively seek it out. "

You got it right!! I think is exactly what se wants

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is it more that she wants it to happen spontaneously? Without her seeming to actively seek it out.

You got it right!! I think is exactly what se wants "

I think you might struggle then to be honest.

Look at it from the woman you're hoping to meets perspective. You as a single guy want her to effectively seduce your friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it more that she wants it to happen spontaneously? Without her seeming to actively seek it out.

You got it right!! I think is exactly what se wants

I think you might struggle then to be honest.

Look at it from the woman you're hoping to meets perspective. You as a single guy want her to effectively seduce your friend. "

So what you advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it more that she wants it to happen spontaneously? Without her seeming to actively seek it out.

You got it right!! I think is exactly what se wants

I think you might struggle then to be honest.

Look at it from the woman you're hoping to meets perspective. You as a single guy want her to effectively seduce your friend.

So what you advice? "

Make a couples profile together.

Go to a club.

Does she know you're looking on here?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Looking for a female with girls experience to help my partner in crime break the ice. She always wanted to have a ffm experience! Must be in Bristol though due to logistics "

She needs to message or at least get a couples profile x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, will take all the advice and make the next step. Hope she won’t freak out

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By *uck role-playMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Is it more that she wants it to happen spontaneously? Without her seeming to actively seek it out. "
i can relate to this

This is how i feel would be more natural and relaxed

Goldie x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Ok, will take all the advice and make the next step. Hope she won’t freak out

If you want advice... she needs to take the next step. Not you.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Ok, will take all the advice and make the next step. Hope she won’t freak out

If you want advice... she needs to take the next step. Not you."

Ha ha true.

Go to a few clubs, let her strike up a few relationships, the bi single ladies know exactly what they want.

Don’t lead, well unless you are in the dungeon, that is.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is it more that she wants it to happen spontaneously? Without her seeming to actively seek it out.

You got it right!! I think is exactly what se wants

I think you might struggle then to be honest.

Look at it from the woman you're hoping to meets perspective. You as a single guy want her to effectively seduce your friend.

So what you advice? "

A couples profile as has been said.

Why would she freak out?

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"Looking for a female with girls experience to help my partner in crime break the ice. She always wanted to have a ffm experience! Must be in Bristol though due to logistics "

Have you considered that icebreakers are not sexy?

I suggest you consider why on earth anyone would want to be your walking vibrator

Ms Icebreaker

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP do you or your partner really think that people will want to meet you if you don't even have any "evidence" your partner exists?

Not meaning to sound sceptical but effectively all anyone has to go on currently is a single male profile who *says* his partner is looking for an FFM experience - not a couples profile, no pictures of the lady, nothing at all to suggest she even exists.

I'm not saying this is the case, but many would suspect this was just a single guy ploy to either get fantasy wank material, or to get a woman to meet him and his "girlfriend" who when it comes to the time of the meet is ill, or has some other pressing engagement that means she can't attend.

Ask yourself this if a single guy profile approached you to meet with him and his girlfriend for an MMF, would you agree? Or would you be sceptical? What you are doing here is no different.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You could try attending an organised social together, get to know people before taking the plunge, I believe there is one coming up in Bristol soon? Still better for you to get a couples profile though. Personally speaking, I wouldn't meet you as there's no evidence she exists. If it was a minimum of a couples photo or cam verified profile, I'd take you more seriously. Neither of these things take much effort OP.

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