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By *ack n Foxy OP Couple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby border

Don't know about others but we can't believe the number of single (or more likely married) guys with a one line profile with no pics who send a one line message with no pics and expect a reply.... some even have the nerve to get angry or abusive when you don't reply! ... Do they honestly believe that a "love to meet you... are you free tonight" is going to work! Oh yeah sure.... I've been sat here freshly showered and made up wearing my best lingerie waiting for exactly that message you thick muppet! FFS guys at least make some sort of effort...

Rant over..... Foxy x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. I get loads of them messages

sometimes I get a bit annoyed and write back some kind of sarky narky response. But mostly I just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads all the time most times we block but sometimes it pisses us off so we instigate sarcastic ping pong lol

Too many cannot differentiate between swinging and shagging (and YES there is a difference)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is getting significantly worse though in here

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Very normal. No effort, scattergun approach, hope one in a thousand will hit. Don't take it personally, just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on to the next profile...

No drama then

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By *urpeesandwineCouple
over a year ago

Hove

We get the same

Usually just delete

Occasionally reply along lines of - that sounds great but we only meet people who can read and clearly you haven’t been able to understand we are not looking for single guys. But thank you - if ever we are looking for a guy we have crosse you off our list of potentials. Why don’t you save us all wasted time and actually notice what couples are looking for to start with

We get some funny responses !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But in lots of cases you can put so much effort into profile and message and still get the same response which is no reply

But a one liner is going to get you know where in life and also some people get so many messages they can't keep up and delete the lot

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"But in lots of cases you can put so much effort into profile and message and still get the same response which is no reply

But a one liner is going to get you know where in life and also some people get so many messages they can't keep up and delete the lot "

Surely it's a more worthwhile use of time to spend 5 minutes reading a profile and sending a message tailored to that couple or woman and giving yourself a decent chance of a reply than spending 30 seconds ignoring the profile and sending a one liner and guaranteeing yourself no reply?

Kind of a false economy principle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know about others but we can't believe the number of single (or more likely married) guys with a one line profile with no pics who send a one line message with no pics and expect a reply.... some even have the nerve to get angry or abusive when you don't reply! ... Do they honestly believe that a "love to meet you... are you free tonight" is going to work! Oh yeah sure.... I've been sat here freshly showered and made up wearing my best lingerie waiting for exactly that message you thick muppet! FFS guys at least make some sort of effort...

Rant over..... Foxy x. "
not allowed to moan

Since I've been told off by some one. When I created a similar topic..

I've Block newbies on the site since most are just one liners. As well I don't even message any one who hasn't got any picts. As it work both ways.

I like to Chat first as well before anything else..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But in lots of cases you can put so much effort into profile and message and still get the same response which is no reply

But a one liner is going to get you know where in life and also some people get so many messages they can't keep up and delete the lot

Kind of a false economy principle? "

And if they spend the 5mins to read the profile and send a message. But not you’re type...What happens then

Waste of everyone’s time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would couples and single females feel better , if single men profiles were blocked from sending a first message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d gladly take one liners.

I certainly wouldn’t moan about receiving messages.

Imagine never receiving messages on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over..... Foxy x. "

As a man looking for lady’s I get a shot load of men messaging me and 99%are married and they say they love dressing up in there wives clothes would I like to join them in a wank session.

What’s wrong with theses men put good morning on and wank over holly lol

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"But in lots of cases you can put so much effort into profile and message and still get the same response which is no reply

But a one liner is going to get you know where in life and also some people get so many messages they can't keep up and delete the lot

Kind of a false economy principle?

And if they spend the 5mins to read the profile and send a message. But not you’re type...What happens then

Waste of everyone’s time "

That's the whole point of a profile though. To give you enough information that you can make an informed decision on whether you are likely to be their type.

There are no guarantees and nor should their be. If you buy a girl a drink in the bar it doesn't guarantee you a shag and she may stop talking to you after 2 minutes. It's her decision to make and you've wasted a fiver. Had you not tried though you would never have known.

The principle is the same for couples too though. We only message other couples that have enough info on their profile for us to decide if we are likely to be their type or what they are looking for. Some respond and some don't.

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By *randMrsBlueEyesCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Another frustration for me is the copy and paste messages... had one I called out on it yesterday, it was clearly a message tailored to a single woman, only to get called names. We try to reply to all messages but I'm sick to death of trying to force conversation only to be called all sorts of names because I dont want to fuck just anyone. So I may well start just using the block button and not replying, get a bit less crap.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a wonderful one this morning, stated it was a couples profile but the message read 'single guy here, I think your hot'

Checked out the profile, which was clearly rubbish and had no info on it. I tried to report the profile but it wouldn't let me so I reported the message stating why I was reporting,blocked and deleted. Fingers crossed it gets removed.

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

Its all by luck and chance nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So we put up a status as you can see and now inbox is being flooded with one liners and when we got o block they have already blocked themselves, saves us a job i guess but seriously this site is becoming ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we put up a status as you can see and now inbox is being flooded with one liners and when we got o block they have already blocked themselves, saves us a job i guess but seriously this site is becoming ridiculous"

Block single guys and search yourself.

You know what you want and no more shit messages.

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

This works both ways .

Ladies on here not looking for women probably don't see it but the number of single women profiles , new , not photo verified with demands of face picture as a first form of contact is big too.

Of course that type is best avoided .

See a lot of you posting about single guys under couples profile .

Questions to couples .

When you created your profile didn't you have to photo verify that profile with a picture as a couple or is the website allowing just one picture of one part of the couple for verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This works both ways .

Ladies on here not looking for women probably don't see it but the number of single women profiles , new , not photo verified with demands of face picture as a first form of contact is big too.

Of course that type is best avoided .

See a lot of you posting about single guys under couples profile .

Questions to couples .

When you created your profile didn't you have to photo verify that profile with a picture as a couple or is the website allowing just one picture of one part of the couple for verification?"

I've just set a couples profile on Saturday. Didn't need to photo verify it to make it live just means we can't use forums etc atm. They only need to be photo verified or meet verified like singles profiles

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By *hil39Man
over a year ago

Dagenham

"Very normal. No effort, scattergun approach, hope one in a thousand will hit. Don't take it personally, just delete. "

I see it from both sides, I have spent ages at times writing (what I think) is something intelligent and a lot more than just a one line message, maybe commenting about similar interests or a complimentary comment on a photo or more. I also read the profile's to see if the geography makes it possible to meet. I also have contacted just to simply chat on here about similar interests etc but sadly I think most of the time I just get deleted anyway. But still each to their own I guess, keep on fabbing

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"This works both ways .

Ladies on here not looking for women probably don't see it but the number of single women profiles , new , not photo verified with demands of face picture as a first form of contact is big too.

Of course that type is best avoided .

See a lot of you posting about single guys under couples profile .

Questions to couples .

When you created your profile didn't you have to photo verify that profile with a picture as a couple or is the website allowing just one picture of one part of the couple for verification?"

It needs to show both members of the couple to get the green flag. And they are very fussy with it too. Both peoples hands need to be visible holding the name up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its all by luck and chance nothing more."

If that's the case answer this.

Why is there a minority overall but still a large number of single males on fab who are average looking, average size cock, with tons of genuine play meet verifications.

Maybe it's because they are true swingers not here to try and cheat instashag style but instead have crafted excellent profiles and they take the time to message people looking for someone like them. They also go to clubs and socials building a positive reputation which in turn leads to private party invites and thus gaining meets on fab much more easily.

Food for thought.

I could list a number of usernames to prove my point but it's against the rules, hopefully one or two will post on this thread.

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By *randMrsBlueEyesCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"This works both ways .

Ladies on here not looking for women probably don't see it but the number of single women profiles , new , not photo verified with demands of face picture as a first form of contact is big too.

Of course that type is best avoided .

See a lot of you posting about single guys under couples profile .

Questions to couples .

When you created your profile didn't you have to photo verify that profile with a picture as a couple or is the website allowing just one picture of one part of the couple for verification?"

We did photo verify with both of us but I don't think you 'need' to do it, it is a choice. Same as for any other profiles! Sad the fakes and liars make it so difficult for us all.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This works both ways .

Ladies on here not looking for women probably don't see it but the number of single women profiles , new , not photo verified with demands of face picture as a first form of contact is big too.

Of course that type is best avoided .

See a lot of you posting about single guys under couples profile .

Questions to couples .

When you created your profile didn't you have to photo verify that profile with a picture as a couple or is the website allowing just one picture of one part of the couple for verification?

It needs to show both members of the couple to get the green flag. And they are very fussy with it too. Both peoples hands need to be visible holding the name up too. "

This there are super fussy (rightfully so) you both have to hold the sign with all hands visible and be next to each other. If you are seperate / have the potential for cut and paste then it's a straight decline and a new picture needs submitting.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over..... Foxy x. "

Get hundreds of these. Fact of Fab life I think

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By *ack n Foxy OP Couple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby border

"This works both ways .

Ladies on here not looking for women probably don't see it but the number of single women profiles , new , not photo verified with demands of face picture as a first form of contact is big too.

Of course that type is best avoided .

See a lot of you posting about single guys under couples profile .

Questions to couples .

When you created your profile didn't you have to photo verify that profile with a picture as a couple or is the website allowing just one picture of one part of the couple for verification?

You can use the forums without a formal photo verification if you get a verification from another member....

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

"This works both ways .

Ladies on here not looking for women probably don't see it but the number of single women profiles , new , not photo verified with demands of face picture as a first form of contact is big too.

Of course that type is best avoided .

See a lot of you posting about single guys under couples profile .

Questions to couples .

When you created your profile didn't you have to photo verify that profile with a picture as a couple or is the website allowing just one picture of one part of the couple for verification?

It needs to show both members of the couple to get the green flag. And they are very fussy with it too. Both peoples hands need to be visible holding the name up too.

KJ x "

Thanks for reply and to others too.

See, I think website is not fussy or strict enough .

If verification was required before profile was allowed to go live it would at least limit the amount of fakes.

Before most of those get reported they cause enough damage .

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By *ent_couple2019Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

With you on this can't stand one liners. Or those that a cock pic is going to win us over.

Also that they message and message and message even after polite no

Our block list is quite extensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another frustration for me is the copy and paste messages... had one I called out on it yesterday, it was clearly a message tailored to a single woman, only to get called names. We try to reply to all messages but I'm sick to death of trying to force conversation only to be called all sorts of names because I dont want to fuck just anyone. So I may well start just using the block button and not replying, get a bit less crap.

Mrs x"
its what the block button for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had a horny single straight guy ask to meet now... At 4am, he accoms and is only 30ish miles away.

Resisting the urge to send narky response

Wench x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Rant over..... Foxy x. "

Sadly there are people who believe this and behave this way. It is the scourge of Fabswingers.

Sometimes we send them a lecture, but mostly we just hit delete.

Once we had a guy wish us luck, saying we're going to need it with an attitude like ours. He was our first block.

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I usually get "want to meet now" from straight men, bit confusing !!! X

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Just get messages from couples or single females, that can't read don't get any fancy a fuck as we don't meet single males

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We only get the occasional message now, mostly regarding renewing the site supporters pass!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Use filters, do your own searching. I get this type of thing from couples too, it's not only single men that do this.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

"Use filters, do your own searching. I get this type of thing from couples too, it's not only single men that do this.

Oh come on, it was 2 years ago now that we messaged you. You don’t have to keep bringing it up.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Use filters, do your own searching. I get this type of thing from couples too, it's not only single men that do this.

Oh come on, it was 2 years ago now that we messaged you. You don’t have to keep bringing it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over..... Foxy x. "

Yep we get a lot like that, I have to say up until this point our favourite is "meet me in a field near my house" that's top class hosting for ya right there

Not only are we ready to go at the drop of a hat, with sapphire made up to the 9s 24/7 but we are more than happy to wade across a muddy field for a jump

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