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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, I want to hear about all the bad things that have happened to you whilst swinging.. for example;

1) Has it ever caused disruption to your relationship or even led to break ups.

2) Ever been caught by a couple's kids etc.

3) Ever felt as though you were physically in danger and/or been attacked.

4) Contracted a STI/STD

I know people dont like talking about some stuff, but it would be interesting to hear...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been doing this for 11 years now i dont have time to write down all my bad times lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only one bad time.. the guy's pics were 20 years out of date! he was nothing like i expected at all.. he is the only person i have questioned my reason for swinging... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i was attacked ,met cpl n she was high as a kite ,she was only doin meets 2 plz him n not into swing ,wen i sed no this meet is over he pushed me 2 the floor n u can work the rest out ,, i managed 2 get car reg 4 police ,,extra careful now ,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes i was attacked ,met cpl n she was high as a kite ,she was only doin meets 2 plz him n not into swing ,wen i sed no this meet is over he pushed me 2 the floor n u can work the rest out ,, i managed 2 get car reg 4 police ,,extra careful now ,, "

oh my god

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a guy rob me

met him for a drink, he seemed nice so we got a hotel, after we had played i went for a shower, when i came out he had gone alone with everything in my bag that was worth anyting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i had a guy rob me

met him for a drink, he seemed nice so we got a hotel, after we had played i went for a shower, when i came out he had gone alone with everything in my bag that was worth anyting"

sorry for hogging it, but...

it takes a special kind of low life to nick from a Lady... grrrrr

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i had a guy rob me

met him for a drink, he seemed nice so we got a hotel, after we had played i went for a shower, when i came out he had gone alone with everything in my bag that was worth anyting

sorry for hogging it, but...

it takes a special kind of low life to nick from a Lady... grrrrr

Wolf

"

he did it nicked from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im just a newbie on here! but was approached by a guy yest in a shop in front of my kids saying he recognised me from my prof pic! i was mortified! hence no pic on prof now!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only bad thing that has happened so far was my ex boyfriend who I used to be on here with stole my bank card details and cleaned my bank out.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Meeting people with weird shit going on and people trying to maul me in a club without asking.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I've met some people socially I didn't want to play with as by bull suit detector and alarm bells were ringing.

However a few weeks ago I met someone who seemed nice. We met socially and we arranged to meet. I gave him my address but had to cancel as I wasn't feeling well.

He kept phoning, he was beginning to annoy me. I remembered I hadn't googled him...I always google to make sure I'm not inviting a nut into my home.

Well he had a very unusual surname and it came up, along with his home address including post code, home telephone number, email address...on the BNP supporters list.

It was almost comical hearing him trying to explain that one. Made me wonder what he had planned for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just out of interest how do you google a guy who's name is big fuck or big dick uk? lol... most guys i meet dont give out personal details such as surname... i would totllay do the same if i got each guys surname.. but most guys are private.. i wouldnt give out my full name on request.. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im just a newbie on here! but was approached by a guy yest in a shop in front of my kids saying he recognised me from my prof pic! i was mortified! hence no pic on prof now!! "

Its still showing?

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

Mine has to be a couple we had a meet with i had met the fem socially for a drink and chatted to the male on the phone he kept telling me how much he wanted to play with me etc how ever when we met them (it was a couples meet with Sir) The guy was downright rude to me and just wanted me to play with his girl and not touch him he even told me i was fat and ugly and wouldnt touch me with a bargepole. At that point the shutters came down and i ignored him waited for Sir to have some fun and then left the room so he knew there was something wrong. It caused problems with me and Sir for a short time as i saw this as a personal attack on me and it knocked my confidence however we talked losts and we are now back in full swing no pun intended. They have since split and she has become a friend so something good came from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i had a guy rob me

met him for a drink, he seemed nice so we got a hotel, after we had played i went for a shower, when i came out he had gone alone with everything in my bag that was worth anyting"

That's shocking......... How do folk

live with themselves doing low life tricks like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

wow some crazy stories. I have always been a little skeptical when it comes to meeting people over the internet... and now i know why!

Does this site offer a page/service whereby you can report these things so users can be blocked and criminally investigated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i first started seeing men for sex 5 years ago, i was a bit stupid, i was on a dating site and one man asked me to go and stay with him at his house in wales and another man said he would come and stay near me and i could stay with him in his caravan, i wouldnt ever do it again as both times the men werent very nice to me. dont like it when i meet men who turn out to be manipulative or pushy, or men who keep talking about the other women they have met on here, makes you wonder what they say about you to other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wow some crazy stories. I have always been a little skeptical when it comes to meeting people over the internet... and now i know why!

Does this site offer a page/service whereby you can report these things so users can be blocked and criminally investigated?"

the thing is its how far you want to take it, you dont need the site if you want to press criminal chargers, however how many people on here give you enough info about themselves that you could take to the police if you did

I never bothered reporting the guy who robbed me simply because all i had of him was his first name so what was the point, plus i didnt want the police round my house anyway asking questions when my kids could be in, i think thats why a lot choose people off here because they know most of us want our privacy so most will not report abuse etc

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By *oupleup4funCouple
over a year ago

Ashton


"only one bad time.. the guy's pics were 20 years out of date! he was nothing like i expected at all.. he is the only person i have questioned my reason for swinging... x"

That is why we now insist on CAM contact, we had the same experience with a couple, I am sure in there day they were attractive, but life and 2 up hill paper rounds took its toll....

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By *oupleup4funCouple
over a year ago

Ashton


"im just a newbie on here! but was approached by a guy yest in a shop in front of my kids saying he recognised me from my prof pic! i was mortified! hence no pic on prof now!! "

Your face pic is on your profile?

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By *oupleup4funCouple
over a year ago

Ashton

This has to be one of the most enlightening posts we have ever read.. And the most disturbing...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

never had to do it myself.. but know of people who have had to make the "you better get yourself checked" call.... they say its probably the hardest thing they have had to do.. and i don't envy them at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was blackmailed by a guy into seeing him. I had met him several times and our post coital conversations often involved a little personal information. When I thought the sex had run its course and I tried to distance myself from him, he threatened to expose my, secret, life to work colleagues, friends and family if I didn't continue seeing him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was blackmailed by a guy into seeing him. I had met him several times and our post coital conversations often involved a little personal information. When I thought the sex had run its course and I tried to distance myself from him, he threatened to expose my, secret, life to work colleagues, friends and family if I didn't continue seeing him."

its really horrible when that happens, you dont mind people you dont know being a twat but when you meet someone regular and you build a trust and friendship up and then they abuse it it really does make you weary of everyone and also a little stand offish and cold towards future meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my word, what the hell. This just really reinforces why we would never ever meet alone or even the slightest whiff of the person being slightly abnormal, we would tell them thanks but no thanks. God that must be a nightmare. There are some really weird sicko's out there and sadly some seem to be on this site. Really makes you think whether it is all really worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wow some crazy stories. I have always been a little skeptical when it comes to meeting people over the internet... and now i know why!

Does this site offer a page/service whereby you can report these things so users can be blocked and criminally investigated?"

Always been sceptical of meeting over the internet??? Really?

What you doing on here then x lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a few years ago when i was on a dating site i was seeing a man for about 3 months, dont know why as i didnt even like him, my hubby started to get fed up with me seeing him for so long and him sending me text messages and a couple of times he thought i was pregnant and i went to doctors to have pregnancy tests, luckily i wasnt though, and only meet men who use condoms now anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a man off another site ( he is actually on here too !!! same pictures too ) and he seemed lovely - he was verified and all were very complimentary. So I arranged to meet him ... now I am by no means shallow Im no oil painting but his pictures did not show him in his real light shall we say. He had come straight from work - not fresh and went on to tell me not to judge him on how he looks now as it would be a shallow thing to do !!!!

He saw no harm in showing how he used to look .... it wasn't the fact that he had changed ALOT and that he smelled horrible but it was the fact he told me I would be shallow if I judged him on looking different.

Needless to say we parted ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice topic. Mine is a cliche. Invited for a meet, coulpl argueing in the kitchen verging on domestic. Sounds like she was being forced into it,all i could hear was her protesting her not feeling well. AWWWWKKKWARD, I saw myself out quick. Wasted 80miles round trip. Did enjoy the country side driving though. Saw some Lamas on fields without paying

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


" Saw some Lamas on fields without paying "

That made me chuckle!

We hav'nt had any real horror stories,some experiences we'd rather not repeat but laugh them off regardless,I read some of whats on this thread and think wow im surprised anyone carries on with swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Saw some Lamas on fields without paying

That made me chuckle!

We hav'nt had any real horror stories,some experiences we'd rather not repeat but laugh them off regardless,I read some of whats on this thread and think wow im surprised anyone carries on with swinging "

City folks have had to pay London zoo to see Lamas in the past so yeh felt like I someworth won. that was my silver lining

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By *utmegsMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

My only bad experiences so far have been the occasional stranger to soap.

Oh, and the guy who came from work, asked to have a shower and then slipped on said soap and brained himself. I didn't know whether to laugh or dial 999. Fortunately a cup of tea soon sorted him out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only myself to blame for my bad experience and im buggered if i will let it ever happen again

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Bad thing about swinging........everyone says No

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

friend of ours was attacked by a couple of men she invited round her house, after we had said we couldnt go round cuz Em was very tired.

how guilty did we feel when we found out.....?

we havent really had anything bad bad happen, so have either been lucky, or just not met any single blokes yet lol

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"i had a guy rob me

met him for a drink, he seemed nice so we got a hotel, after we had played i went for a shower, when i came out he had gone alone with everything in my bag that was worth anyting"

That is sickening..but perhaps it could have been a lot worse.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"never had to do it myself.. but know of people who have had to make the "you better get yourself checked" call.... they say its probably the hardest thing they have had to do.. and i don't envy them at all..."

Thats scary...but if people are realistic they will accept that STD's and HIV dont have any social barriers..anyone can contract either..a tramp or a Lord..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been doing this for nearly ten years and I must say we have been very fortunate not to have too much bother. The only real problem was a guy I met started ringing me persistently 3 or 4 times a day normally in the middle of the night after repeatedly being told to fuck off he took it upon himself to turn up at our door! Unfortunately for him my husband answered! Welcomed by 17stone 5% body fat!! His feet didn't touch the ground for 5 minutes! It was very scary at the time but I laugh about it now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had my profile discovered by a work colleague and shown to everyone in the building!! I know there has been whispering about me, but only one person has actually asked me if it's true...then asked for some juicy details! It does seem to have died off though now, probably because I just didn't react to it at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have had angry husband threatening me after discovering his wife had been messaging me. Thought that was rich seeing as he gets her to have 12 man gangbangs regularly.

kept making random phone calls and texts to me. not a nice thing, so cancelled my account and left for a year or two. put me right off swinging!

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

No!! I can't believe this? Really?


"i had a guy rob me

met him for a drink, he seemed nice so we got a hotel, after we had played i went for a shower, when i came out he had gone alone with everything in my bag that was worth anyting"

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

That made me chuckle really hard!!

Who does that? Go to a stranger's house ad requests a bath!!


"My only bad experiences so far have been the occasional stranger to soap.

Oh, and the guy who came from work, asked to have a shower and then slipped on said soap and brained himself. I didn't know whether to laugh or dial 999. Fortunately a cup of tea soon sorted him out."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% true

never paid a escort before but i bloody did that night


"No!! I can't believe this? Really?

i had a guy rob me

met him for a drink, he seemed nice so we got a hotel, after we had played i went for a shower, when i came out he had gone alone with everything in my bag that was worth anyting"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dam i don't want to tempt fate but looks like I've been very lucky and staying to same regular partners paid off as only good times to report

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. By the look of things, I've been quite lucky!

Glad I take things step by step here. Feel bad for people who've had bad experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have had my profile discovered by a work colleague and shown to everyone in the building!! I know there has been whispering about me, but only one person has actually asked me if it's true...then asked for some juicy details! It does seem to have died off though now, probably because I just didn't react to it at all x"

Think that says more about that person than it does of you. Pretty shallow & spiteful to do that...did anyone question what that person was doing on the site considering they obviously were out to shit stir??? (or was it a "friend sent me this , it's you innit')??!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 from 4 for me ...not bad lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waw thats really bad :o

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

Wow some really bad stories. Luckily we've not had anything like this.

I do this it's a little weird that everyone is disgusted about the woman who got robbed (which is disgusting, don't get me wrong) but no one is commenting on the woman that got raped...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i lost the love of my life over it trust me there is nothing that is as bad as that

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

we cancelled a meetbecause the guy suddenly started being really weird with us admittedly we cancelled it at quite short notice but it was after he got verbally abusive he already had our address and then turned up hours later luckily Sir was home and opened the door to him to tell him firmly no way the guy then went to my neighbours and woke them up told them i was on the game and left he then turned up at 12am one night trying his luck again he has stopped now but still scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i to have had that happen to me b4 in town!..r u bambi,he said frm fab,oh my god i didnt know wot 2 say ay 1st lol..but then i realised no this is me its who i am!]..im just a kinky girl at heart lol so i said yes he tried chatting me up & asking for meets!..thank god i didnt have it happen whn my daughter was wh me tho!..bambi xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we cancelled a meetbecause the guy suddenly started being really weird with us admittedly we cancelled it at quite short notice but it was after he got verbally abusive he already had our address and then turned up hours later luckily Sir was home and opened the door to him to tell him firmly no way the guy then went to my neighbours and woke them up told them i was on the game and left he then turned up at 12am one night trying his luck again he has stopped now but still scary"

i know a few women on here who have had guys just turn up at their house, i think some guys think getting one invite means they can just turn up anytime they're horny or passing

Its why i never accommodate, even if i have no kids for the night i still get a hotel, i dont want some guy turning up while my kids are home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have had my profile discovered by a work colleague and shown to everyone in the building!! I know there has been whispering about me, but only one person has actually asked me if it's true...then asked for some juicy details! It does seem to have died off though now, probably because I just didn't react to it at all x

Think that says more about that person than it does of you. Pretty shallow & spiteful to do that...did anyone question what that person was doing on the site considering they obviously were out to shit stir??? (or was it a "friend sent me this , it's you innit')??!!!"

Nah..everyone knows why he was on here, it's almost expected of him! Think people were just surprised I was, and intrigued by veris! Could have ended much worse than it did but fortunately my managers just told him off for invading my privacy instead. I know why he showed it round instead of just saying something to me though...I'd knocked him back for some 'fun' a couple of years previous and he obv saw an opporunity to get his own back. Sad Sad Boy! x

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

no

no

no

no

Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really a nightmare but i had a meet arranged for dogging with a couple that the MR arranged and the MRS of the couple was an ex gfs best mate, little awkward but we decided to go our seperate ways and not mention it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oral gonorrhoea from infected cum

Had two no shows

Had one complete arsehole who I ended up having sex with because I felt I could not get out of it

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

I had planned a 3some with a guy I had met at a party and a mate of his I had been chatting with...had been in contact a few times on their way down to mine from london...they arrived,guy's mate walked in first and it seemed to take ages for the other guy to come in and I said "what..did he get lost on way from car?" to which he replied " they will be in in a minute"I thought that I must have heard wrong..they? but sure enough in walks the guy I had met at the party and another random guy!that was the first time since I started swinging that I felt intimidated and also the first time that I turned a meet away at the door...you should have heard the excuses as to why he neglected to tell me they were bringing along another male...he texted me a couple of weeks later saying "I wanted to give you time to "get over it" NOT...lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

JHEEEEZZZZ! Some of the stories are ridiculous, well I havent had any bad meets yet, nd hope i dont!

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