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"I found the love of my life on here. Wasnt intended to be that way but there you have it "I also met my hubby on here, thanks FAB | |||
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"to be honest i dont see as going out for a meal and a drink with a guy off here to see if we get on as a date To me a date is going out with someone you like more than just sex, the start of a realstionship, hopefully Going out for a a pre shag meal is just that and id like to think im adult enough to go for a drink, or whatever, with someone off here and treat it for what it is" +1  | |||
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. "
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"to be honest i dont see as going out for a meal and a drink with a guy off here to see if we get on as a date To me a date is going out with someone you like more than just sex, the start of a realstionship, hopefully Going out for a a pre shag meal is just that and id like to think im adult enough to go for a drink, or whatever, with someone off here and treat it for what it is +1 "+2 I need to know someone before I meet for fun, everyone does things their own way and there is nothing wrong with that. | |||
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. "
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. " That's understandable...if I were married and just wanted "straight" sex, I doubt I'd be sipping coffee in Starbucks getting to know someone either. | |||
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"I don't think many are actually looking for a 'soulmate'. Its just a different approach to 'fancy a fuck?'" Hmm nah just had one today saying we cud get to know each other hopefully it cud become long term bla bla I'm all down for social meets but jus think sum ppl r here looking for a relationship n to me personally it's the wrong site , Saying that if I met Sumone a few times n it happened to turn in to somethin then happy days but it's not what I thought here was about lol | |||
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 . which then gets a no thanks and a block! 
I do get guys complaining that by insisting on a coffee meet I'm only after dates... But as a single female I have to consider my personal safety - I don't have a 6ft bloke to accompany me on meets so I have to feel confident about being behind closed doors with a stranger. But some of my coffee meets have lasted all of ten mins before we scramble off to find somewhere to get naked together... | |||
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"I don't think many are actually looking for a 'soulmate'. Its just a different approach to 'fancy a fuck?'" +1
On a variation on it, Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. Its as simple as that.
What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard.
I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach.
I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion
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"Well, to be honest seems like as good a place to meet a soulmate as any. Wish I had more wanting to wine and dine!!!" The saying that 'Woman really wanted a guy who wanted love more than sex didnt put a foot wrong, if you think that way | |||
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"I don't think many are actually looking for a 'soulmate'. Its just a different approach to 'fancy a fuck?' +1
On a variation on it, Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. Its as simple as that.
What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard.
I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach.
I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion
"You appear to have totally ignored the fact that single female posters on this thread have stated that they are NOT looking for dates but for sex!!! The ones who have found more were not looking for that and seem to have been surprised by it when it happened. | |||
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"to be honest i dont see as going out for a meal and a drink with a guy off here to see if we get on as a date To me a date is going out with someone you like more than just sex, the start of a realstionship, hopefully Going out for a a pre shag meal is just that and id like to think im adult enough to go for a drink, or whatever, with someone off here and treat it for what it is +1
+2 I need to know someone before I meet for fun, everyone does things their own way and there is nothing wrong with that."
Agree here also, i enjoy fun as the next person, but its also nice to meet up for coffee and chat first, thats how i am. Im looking for as my profile says Fun, Friendship and Frolics | |||
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"I found the love of my life on here. Wasnt intended to be that way but there you have it
I also met my hubby on here, thanks FAB "IT WOULD SPOOK US BOTH FINDING A LONG TERM PARTNER ON A SITE BASED ON NSA SEX..sorry bout the caps x | |||
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"This is a swinging site and I'm not actively looking for anything other than fun with guys at clubs from here but never say never it could happen. There are couples on here that met on here. I'm on dating sites and that is where I'm looking for a relationship but when do I bring up swinging? Lol " I can't bring myself to date while I am meeting people on here. I don't know how I would explain it. | |||
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective! Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs! Ok, rant over and deep breath " | |||
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective! Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs! Ok, rant over and deep breath "
and also agree to Bbwssarah as well
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" What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard. I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach. I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion " reading that post you seem to be under the illusion that its only women who after more than sex on here, when i can assure you its not, ive met a few guys who have fell for me and ive had to tell them its not what im after i have never done that to a man, infact the last place id want to meet a man for a relationship is on here if im going to be honest | |||
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"Perfect place to find someone into swinging though!!!" Exactly...that's what i'm after right now but that doesnt mean i'm here looking for a relationship. Just regular fuck buddy | |||
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" What i dont understand is the confusion about women not quite understanding what they want. Match.com is a relationship site and you wouldnt go there looking for a shag. Fab is a swingers site and we come here looking for a shag. There's big difference here, yet what some women seem to want is a little bit of relationship benefit to go in-line with the sex we sort and to be quite honest, i find that really very hard. I dont see why i cant send any woman that caught my fancy on here asking her for a meet without her raising the 'pervert' card on my face, as if i'm too forward on my approach. I just think women need to get their priority right really. Im sure there are loads of websites that have rooms for 'friends with benefit' because this is swingers site and we meant to message each other making out point clear if you fancy a shag. That should be it and not the confusion reading that post you seem to be under the illusion that its only women who after more than sex on here, when i can assure you its not, ive met a few guys who have fell for me and ive had to tell them its not what im after i have never done that to a man, infact the last place id want to meet a man for a relationship is on here if im going to be honest " I'm not under any illusion because as someone just mentioned on this thread that she want a '...better connection, to have good sex..' Well, im not saying we shouldnt fancy the look of someone we want to have sex with neither am i insinuating you should be up for a wham bham than you mam kind of thing. But what i'm saying is, there's no point in swinging atall, if we have to drag the Cock and Pussy business down to polishing it with 'better connection' because quite frankly, its that better connection that gets alot of people into trouble by getting sticky and getting emotionally attached to sex to the point you ended up falling in love or to better put it, lust. Pof and OKcupid are different to match.com because they look after different levels of relationships. Swinging is equal to SEX- simples  | |||
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" I'm not under any illusion because as someone just mentioned on this thread that she want a '...better connection, to have good sex..' Well, im not saying we shouldnt fancy the look of someone we want to have sex with neither am i insinuating you should be up for a wham bham than you mam kind of thing. But what i'm saying is, there's no point in swinging atall, if we have to drag the Cock and Pussy business down to polishing it with 'better connection' because quite frankly, its that better connection that gets alot of people into trouble by getting sticky and getting emotionally attached to sex to the point(" And you were the type of person I was speaking about, how the hell can you have good sex with no connection of some sort? So if it is just plain old dirty sex you want with no pretences just pay somebody! Ok, I agree there sre people on here that want someone to just come into the room, shag them and then feck off but then there are others who don't do things that way, does not make either right or wrong, just defines how people do things, so if you do not agree just fecking wind it in!!! I just get so fecked off by these single guys who think they are entitled to sex just because they are on here!  | |||
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"And you were the type of person I was speaking about, how the hell can you have good sex with no connection of some sort? So if it is just plain old dirty sex you want with no pretences just pay somebody! Ok, I agree there sre people on here that want someone to just come into the room, shag them and then feck off but then there are others who don't do things that way, does not make either right or wrong, just defines how people do things, so if you do not agree just fecking wind it in!!! I just get so fecked off by these single guys who think they are entitled to sex just because they are on here! "No, im not one of those single blokes who thinks they are entitled to sex just because they are on here. I have morale and respect people and not the pushy type. If i send you a message and i see you read it and not reply. Dont expect me to send another message asking why you dont fancy my cock pics. NEVER. Its just that it would be nice to disintegrate sex from 'friends with benefit'. I see fabswingers as a site you meet people for the sole mutual attraction on basis of sex. And as human, things could develop from there if you do decide to meet them again. So inretrospect, the initial 'sex' meet could then turn to 'connection' bit later. But for the sake our sanity, it would be nice to concentrate on the 'meet-up and go' first and not looking for some sort of comparison connection on first meet. Hope you get my point though | |||
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"Well, to be honest seems like as good a place to meet a soulmate as any. Wish I had more wanting to wine and dine!!!"
We were both happy being single .. and then we met on here ... it was supposed to be lets get together every few weeks .. but then cupid struck ! I now have the most honest and open relationship I could wish for a lover and best friend. | |||
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective! Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs! Ok, rant over and deep breath "I'm noticing that some posters seem to have taken it upon themselves over several threads to dictate how people go about their business. Everyone has different ways of doing things. The arrogance of some is totally outstanding. Do what YOU want and have the common courtesy to allow us to conduct our activities as we see fit.  | |||
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective! Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs! Ok, rant over and deep breath
I'm noticing that some posters seem to have taken it upon themselves over several threads to dictate how people go about their business.
Everyone has different ways of doing things. The arrogance of some is totally outstanding.
Do what YOU want and have the common courtesy to allow us to conduct our activities as we see fit. " Agreed
Cant say farer than that then can ya lol specialy if you may have trouble saying your Fs and your Ts | |||
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"To some of the single men on here who like to sprout that this is a sex site! And therefore expect any female they contact to jump at the chance to have sex with them....get a grip and also get a fecking brain, this is not a sex site, it is not a dating site it is a site where hopefully two like minded (or 4 if 2 couples, seeing as it is a swingers site lol) BUT as a single female, my safety is paramount, I like to enjoy my meets, I like to have a conversation in between play, I like to relax and have a few drinks, I'm not a wham bam thank you mam, and the more connection you have the better sex you have! So to some of the men on this thread, I would have a bloody good look at what you have said and try and look at things from a female perspective! Otherwise, you might as well just go down the route of going down your own red light district and paying for it, because I am certainly not here to just satisfy your needs! Ok, rant over and deep breath
I'm noticing that some posters seem to have taken it upon themselves over several threads to dictate how people go about their business.
Everyone has different ways of doing things. The arrogance of some is totally outstanding.
Do what YOU want and have the common courtesy to allow us to conduct our activities as we see fit.
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Cant say farer than that then can ya lol specialy if you may have trouble saying your Fs and your Ts " we use this site as we want to use it.... | |||
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. " Thought it was just us.Thank you 4 saying it there. | |||
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"I keep getting rather alot off messages from guys looking for cozy nights in with DVDs and meals out together getting to know each other and see where it leads ,..... Hmm that's a match .com message in my opinion lol I'm not here for "dating" as such fair enough yes I hate getting messages saying wanna fuk! But I'd think here would be the last place I'd be looking for the love of my life lol R any of you here for "dating" or do u agree it's a social fun swinging site? "I think it's up to the individual how they like to build up to having a shag. | |||
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. " Have you ever thought.... a lot of guys say this sort of thing because so many women say it's what they want on their profile. Try replying with "No but I fancy a shag" and see how many insist that's not what they are looking for and it's a meal first or the deal is off. | |||
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"Well, to be honest seems like as good a place to meet a soulmate as any. Wish I had more wanting to wine and dine!!!" | |||
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. Have you ever thought.... a lot of guys say this sort of thing because so many women say it's what they want on their profile. Try replying with "No but I fancy a shag" and see how many insist that's not what they are looking for and it's a meal first or the deal is off." But... I _like_ a good chinky.... | |||
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"Everyone uses this for different reasons so please dont be judgemental! As a single lady I would love to meet the man of my dreams but doubt I will on here, but hey you never know! "I used to think that way, I met wolf on a swinging site, (not this one) and he is my knight in shining armour.. or should I say... wolf in sheeps clothing... lol... we are very happy together and will be for evermore.. Devil | |||
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"Dear OP So if going out for a meal and a drink and seeing how you get on first is not the sort of thing folk should be asking to do on a swinging site and is a match.com thing.... what is it when couples meeting other couples do it? Is that not deemed appropriate behaviour by you?" *Scratches in sofa for shrapnel to whisk you off to McDonalds & Wetherspoons as we speak. | |||
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"Dear OP So if going out for a meal and a drink and seeing how you get on first is not the sort of thing folk should be asking to do on a swinging site and is a match.com thing.... what is it when couples meeting other couples do it? Is that not deemed appropriate behaviour by you?" ahh but us couples just clutter up a site designed for singles to meet singles...i mean thats what swinging is isnt it? | |||
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"i agree, as i am married i havnt really got time to waste. i only meet men for sex and get fed up when they send me a message saying lets get to know each other and see where it leads or lets meet for a coffee. Have you ever thought.... a lot of guys say this sort of thing because so many women say it's what they want on their profile. Try replying with "No but I fancy a shag" and see how many insist that's not what they are looking for and it's a meal first or the deal is off." Very true, Men tend to have been forced to believe all women want to be treated as a princess, that they want to be respected, cherished and held. To a point I imagine generally this is true, but men aren't often told women like more than that. If I was to offer such a thing, I wouldn't mean it as a date per se, but as a way to show I'm respectful and so on. | |||
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"surely this site is to use as you wish if someone on here is single and they want to get into a swinging relationship a swinging site is the idea place to look for a partner So long as they are honest about what they are looking for if people want to find a relationship on here whats it got to do with anyone else?" | |||
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"surely this site is to use as you wish if someone on here is single and they want to get into a swinging relationship a swinging site is the idea place to look for a partner So long as they are honest about what they are looking for if people want to find a relationship on here whats it got to do with anyone else? "
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"Not here for dating, at all - this is the last place I'd think of for that kind of thing lol" nor am i, but all because its not what im looking for does not mean i dont think other should if people want to date on here thats upto them, but i think the main thing is what some call dating others dont, some have stated they dont want to go for a drink with people off here cause its not a dating site where as i dont see meeting someone on here for a drink as a date | |||
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"I keep getting rather alot off messages from guys looking for cozy nights in with DVDs and meals out together getting to know each other and see where it leads ,..... Hmm that's a match .com message in my opinion lol I'm not here for "dating" as such fair enough yes I hate getting messages saying wanna fuk! But I'd think here would be the last place I'd be looking for the love of my life lol R any of you here for "dating" or do u agree it's a social fun swinging site? "Yes, I agree. I's a fun 'social' swinging site. It's not a dating site. So if I arrange to meet a guy for a drink to 'see where it leads' it's a 'social' time to see if I would want to invite them into my home for an evening of shagging... this of course works both ways, the guy might decide he can't stand my company. So not so much a 'date' as an interview of sorts. As to meeting the love of yer life, if I was looking to find that, then finding it here would be a bonus wouldn't it? | |||
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" - this is the last place I'd think of for that kind of thing lol" Why? | |||
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"surely this site is to use as you wish if someone on here is single and they want to get into a swinging relationship a swinging site is the idea place to look for a partner So long as they are honest about what they are looking for if people want to find a relationship on here whats it got to do with anyone else?" | |||
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