FabSwingers.com forum: No thank you

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can you all please help, or help advise as a

“Thank you, but No thank you have fun” is simply not working for me, it’s then they turn nasty.. I think my blocked list is now longer than the members on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t really matter what you reply and how polite you are, some will just be rude because they are behind a keyboard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It doesn’t really matter what you reply and how polite you are, some will just be rude because they are behind a keyboard "

It’s looking that way darling xx

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Just block straight away if you getting abuse. No reply/block = not interested x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just block straight away if you getting abuse. No reply/block = not interested x"

I’m taking that advise on board now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately some people just dont know how to talk to humans they just see a screen, I was called shallow for not having children today

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It doesn’t really matter what you reply and how polite you are, some will just be rude because they are behind a keyboard

It’s looking that way darling xx "

No doubt about it, but it helps confirm they weren't quality people in the first place, so it's a bit of a win ultimately, though totally uncalled for on their part - just lacks class! It can work both ways though as I got a really rude reply to a message I sent recently. Wasn't the first time it's happened (though rare) but I got a reply from a single woman saying "What were you thinking of messaging me!! You're not even close to being in my league". It takes all sorts on here! Never dull!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No is no some people just need to deal with that and get over it x

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By *andy andy69Man
over a year ago

worksop ish

any rejections are accepted ... each their own choices .. never would i get abusive ... albeit yesterday a lady replied sbd said no thanks. followed by yuk......

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

We used to reply to messages polite but now we just don’t. People are lovely till you say no. Then they turn nasty even when they have veris from people saying how nice they are.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

Rewlly dont understand it. If i get a polite rejection, i thank them for taking time to at least reply, and wish them luck. Abuse aint going to change anyones mind

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"We used to reply to messages polite but now we just don’t. People are lovely till you say no. Then they turn nasty even when they have veris from people saying how nice they are. "

It's amusing reading verifications saying what a gentlemen they are, when they've just sent a message calling me a fat ugly slag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We used to reply to messages polite but now we just don’t. People are lovely till you say no. Then they turn nasty even when they have veris from people saying how nice they are. "

This is mostly our experience too. Had a straight guy message us tgis week, clearly states on profile we only chat/meet bi guys. And he said that he hoped that Kinky M died of aids, so that was a little overwhelming..

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"We used to reply to messages polite but now we just don’t. People are lovely till you say no. Then they turn nasty even when they have veris from people saying how nice they are.

It's amusing reading verifications saying what a gentlemen they are, when they've just sent a message calling me a fat ugly slag

A deeply unpleasant thing to say, confirming their status on the social scale rather than yours! Narrows the market nicely one idiot at a time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We used to reply to messages polite but now we just don’t. People are lovely till you say no. Then they turn nasty even when they have veris from people saying how nice they are. "

aint that the truth

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Yeah, its crazy how many people turn nasty as soon as you say no. I've had it on other sites ('cos as we all know on here, I'm a single straight guy so never get any messages

) - I had one a while ago from someone who, being polite, was not attractive, and also from Wales. Nothing against Wales, but it's just a tad far away! So, although I had zero interest even if she'd lived next door, I replied and said "Sorry, Wales is a bit far away" and she answered "Fine, you're ugly anyway, dunno why I even bothered"

My usual response is report and block, and be thankful it ended there, as it shows that they're the kinda person who is probably forever surrounded in drama and aggro

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

There is many a man on here who would love to say NO! Or even get a response

But yeh, it can be a pain and all genders are guilty

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"There is many a man on here who would love to say NO! Or even get a response

But yeh, it can be a pain and all genders are guilty

So true in all respects!!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I say "nice but not for me", then don't enter into any more conversation.

I've been here nearly three years, get hundreds of messages a week, and think I've only had 10 or less rude replies in all that time.

I very very rarely need to block either.

Works for me

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Either string them along with excuses if you can be bothered, they will soon get fed up. Or don't bother answering.

I used to be really nice and answer every message politely. I'm not as nice nowadays.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

It really is quite simple: do not reply to anyone outwith what you're looking for. If they can't be arsed to read your profile, why entertain them?

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

"Either string them along with excuses if you can be bothered, they will soon get fed up. Or don't bother answering.

I used to be really nice and answer every message politely. I'm not as nice nowadays. "
This is me i was so polite to start ,way i brought up i suppose but now life is too dam short block move on ..

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I say "nice but not for me", then don't enter into any more conversation.

I've been here nearly three years, get hundreds of messages a week, and think I've only had 10 or less rude replies in all that time.

I very very rarely need to block either.

Works for me

I remember getting a lovely 'no' from you a couple of years ago - was so well written that I actually felt quite good after! Doesn't get much better than that!

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

They're problem and not yours. Some people can't handle rejection. Block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say take it as a compliment, you’re a gorgeous tv so they’re definitely gutted they’re missing out but just do as you’re doing and block. I simply don’t reply, especially if the message is shit and no pic send. If they’ve made an effort but I don’t fancy them, I usually just say no thanks but thanks. When they keep messaging giving abuse, you’re just glad You didn’t consider them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Rewlly dont understand it. If i get a polite rejection, i thank them for taking time to at least reply, and wish them luck. Abuse aint going to change anyones mind"

Wow great video though

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By *eannaTV/TS
over a year ago

Cwmfelifach, nr Newport

"It doesn’t really matter what you reply and how polite you are, some will just be rude because they are behind a keyboard

It’s looking that way darling xx

I would have replied "sorry I didn't realise I had dropped my standards so low" then blocked.

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By *eannaTV/TS
over a year ago

Cwmfelifach, nr Newport

There's really no need for rudeness, I'm uncertain on day's/times when I can meet due to my home life, if anyone has been rude to me (I guess about 5 since I've been here) I reply with a witty retort and then block, I know it's not professional but it makes me feel better, but on the whole most Op here are great and understanding.

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By *eBornGeminiMan
over a year ago

Darlington

I continue to get message from males firstly saying “Nice Cock” or something along those lines, if I don’t reply or even if I do reply it’s always want it sucking!

I have mentioned in my status “men who identify as men please don’t message me sexually”

Makes no difference it gets highly annoying to the point I’m very tempted to just block males all together which would be a shame coz I have met some genuine men on here who just chat like normal people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you but I'll pass x"

"Really??! Why?"

"Simply because you're not my type. Good luck x"

"Women your age should take what's on offer. Fuck you."

Can't respond as the charming young man had blocked me. Silly boy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dammed if you damned if u don't! I reply and get abuse "fat birds should take what they are offered" and if I ignore I get bombarded calling me names for being ignorant.

I accept I'm not everyone's type, they should accept this too... Especially when you KNOW they are sending the same "personalised" messages to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly manners these days don’t count for anything. If I get a reply declining then I actually think more of the person than simply getting blocked or ignored.

Just a simple “thanks but not for me” is sufficient. Why block someone I don’t get!! Maybe I’m old fashioned?? Xx

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I block very few and usually just ignore. If the messages become abusive i report and they get removed for a few days.. Hopefully by doing this they will learn to behave

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By *ulgehunterMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

No ty lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have now just started ignoring. We tried the please refer to our profile and the no thanks thing but would get the abuse telling us were time wasters

and we shouldn't be here.... obviously coming from men with no veris.

So now we just ignore the majority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ireply to virtually all my messages and am not really a blocker, maybe it's how people say no thanks but I don't tend to get abuse back! I do hide my profile though when I don't have the time or the inclination makes it much easier

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

If we’re not interested at all we tend to say no thanks and block as it’s stops you getting the same generic message every couple of weeks thereafter.

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

"We used to reply to messages polite but now we just don’t. People are lovely till you say no. Then they turn nasty even when they have veris from people saying how nice they are.

Wow well that’s just a whole new level of low!

One said you’ve got all these veris (a lot are from socials) and you won’t meet me but they went proper into numbers & got very insulting. To be fair just proved my point that I didn’t like the look of them

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If they don't interest you, don't reply.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Just block them. Also, you're beautiful and I miss pink punters so much, was my monthly go to!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Can you all please help, or help advise as a

“Thank you, but No thank you have fun” is simply not working for me, it’s then they turn nasty.. I think my blocked list is now longer than the members on here

You have two options:

1. Block

2. Change the human nature of all entitled pricks before they contact you.

I suggest you go for whichever one you find easiest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shallow?? Thats bloody awful. How rude!!!

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London

I really do not understand this behaviour, I'm sure being rude = no meets so why bother being on this site. As some folk have already said, they hide behind a keyboard so must be fake and shallow.

It ruins it for the genuine guys on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn’t really matter what you reply and how polite you are, some will just be rude because they are behind a keyboard "
I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any rejections are accepted ... each their own choices .. never would i get abusive ... albeit yesterday a lady replied sbd said no thanks. followed by yuk......"

That's just rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We used to reply to messages polite but now we just don’t. People are lovely till you say no. Then they turn nasty even when they have veris from people saying how nice they are.

I politely declined and was called a fat pedo the other day.. some people are just vile

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It doesn’t really matter what you reply and how polite you are, some will just be rude because they are behind a keyboard

It’s looking that way darling xx

I would have replied "sorry I didn't realise I had dropped my standards so low" then blocked. "

Like it! I won't go there though. It stings getting that ill admit, but I'll bite my tongue and be able to look myself in the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you all please help, or help advise as a

“Thank you, but No thank you have fun” is simply not working for me, it’s then they turn nasty.. I think my blocked list is now longer than the members on here

Tell them their breath stinks and instantly block

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Whatever the reply, even if you coated it in sugar spice and everything nice, if you rejected them they can get nasty.

I had one this morning that decided to respond with.... after seeing the people I have met I rejected him when he’s so much better than them and then hurled a bit more abuse. That is exactly the behaviour that didn’t make him better than them

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sadly manners these days don’t count for anything. If I get a reply declining then I actually think more of the person than simply getting blocked or ignored.

Just a simple “thanks but not for me” is sufficient. Why block someone I don’t get!! Maybe I’m old fashioned?? Xx"

It has nothing to do with manners. Funny I've yet to ever hear someone say "Yes, I was offended the slag turned me down and told her so!"

Everyone is sooo polite, thankful and respectful to all, and all the people posting about the abuse they get are liars right?!!

I honestly don't understand why people get so bent out of shape because someone THEY want to fuck has absolutely no interest in them.

There's a limit to the amount of messages you can send: why waste them on the people you're NOT interested in?

Entitled much!

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York

"Can you all please help, or help advise as a

“Thank you, but No thank you have fun” is simply not working for me, it’s then they turn nasty.. I think my blocked list is now longer than the members on here

I would reply to your message with

Ok good luck in what your looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I block very few and usually just ignore. If the messages become abusive i report and they get removed for a few days.. Hopefully by doing this they will learn to behave"

Do admin really do that though, I have reported a few times and nothing has been done....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they don't interest you, don't reply. "

Then they don’t stop

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Can you all please help, or help advise as a

“Thank you, but No thank you have fun” is simply not working for me, it’s then they turn nasty.. I think my blocked list is now longer than the members on here

I would reply to your message with

Ok good luck in what your looking for "

Yep, that's what I do. I thank them for taking the trouble to reply and wish them well. If nothing else it leaves a good impression of me as a real man and hopefully a good one with a bit of class. It did actually benefit me once as I was getting on well with a single lady and once we felt like we were chatting comfortably I light-heartedly told her she'd already rejected me previously on here. She took a look at her block list and sure enough there I was and remembered me and that I'd sent a nice message, which was lovely. We still didn't play but we always stop and say hi and have a catch-up if we see each other,which is always good.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"If they don't interest you, don't reply.

Then they don’t stop "

Then you just block them, and move on.

No biggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people can't take rejection. If I get a no thank you. I simply say thank you for your polite reply . I then put a note on to their account that they're not interested and don't pester them again.

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

I think we've been lucky so far- if we get messages from individuals that we don't think are for us it's usually from those that haven't read our profile.

We say thanks but you haven't read our profile - most come back & apologise

Most of our blocks are because they've sent really gross first messages

We do point out in our profile no is a no to whatever we want to say no to.

Block them, move on - they are not deserving of any amount of your time. Manners cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you just block straight away after the no thank you it will save the abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you all please help, or help advise as a

“Thank you, but No thank you have fun” is simply not working for me, it’s then they turn nasty.. I think my blocked list is now longer than the members on here

Oh dear. As previous posters have said, once messages becomes abusive simply disregard their sender and message back with;

"That is a tremendous shame, as I was really looking forward to exchanging pointless messages with someone who blatantly isn't my type. However, in the spirit of good discourse that makes one think I shall leave you a puzzle delivered in the style of the late great Bob Holness; What 'B' can be done with a goal-bound shot and rhymes with 'Jumped up irritating little cock'? If you need a clue then click on my profile..."

Then make that 'clue' all too apparent!

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I appreciate a no thankyou message. Please don’t stop doing them.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We stopped for this very reason probably 50 percent of rejection ended with either horrible insults or threats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said doesn't matter what you say to them no need to get nasty with you just block and move on o have probably 500 blocked just enjoy what you want off here

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I appreciate a no thankyou message. Please don’t stop doing them. "

Good shout - it's surprising how good it feels sometimes.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

For those sending us a message where they haven't read our profile we just delete the message. For people who have read what we want but are not for us, we reply with not for us. Any strops we simply block.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I really do not understand this behaviour, I'm sure being rude = no meets so why bother being on this site. As some folk have already said, they hide behind a keyboard so must be fake and shallow.

It ruins it for the genuine guys on this site. "

No, they ruin it for themselves. I wish people would stop blaming others for their own lack of success.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"If they don't interest you, don't reply.

Then they don’t stop "

Yes they do. When you block them. Simple. The site gives us all the tools to manage our accounts.

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