FabSwingers.com forum: What’s more attractive, a profile that stipulate what it will block or what it will accept?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What’s more attractive, the ranty profiles or energized profile.

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Energised. Negativity is a right real turn off. Who wants to meet with moany shouty types?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile of ppl who seem genuine professionals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most don't read and go off a photo.. So my profile is ranty. Saves me repeating the same spiel

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I like well written, positive profiles with good photos.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's a bit of a loaded question "ranty or energised"

Nobody is going to say ranty.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"It's a bit of a loaded question "ranty or energised"

Nobody is going to say ranty. "

I actually enjoy a ranty profile.

Especially if written with a little humour. You can feel the screen oozing frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you say what you don't want People will still ignore whats written and message as ‘you may make the exception for them’.

If you say what you do want folks message thinking you accept anything. Example: profile says i like scarlet, i’ll see guys who like scarlet. Guys message: i like red. I reply: i specifically like scarlet. Well its still red so you should meet me blah blah blah.

Better to block. Lifes more peaceful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met a few couples with ranty profiles who were not at all ranty in the flesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most don't read and go off a photo.. So my profile is ranty. Saves me repeating the same spiel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like well written, positive profiles with good photos. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines a little bit rangy laced with humour. It doesn’t make a difference though because very few pay attention to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*ranty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have become more ranty over time as really lost patience how many clearly don’t read my profile, it drives me mad

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

Ranting and endless rules are definitely off putting and I’m often eye rolling at them- especially if they ask for some sort of code word in the subject box

It’s all a bit high maintenance, informative and lighthearted are winners* for me.

I’ve also blocked profiles for being SO obviously racist and homophobic, turns my stomach.

*not that I’m suggesting ours is amazing btw

Sassy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I read ours I think maybe it’s a bit of a rant but I think it’s nicely interspersed with humour x

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

"Every time I read ours I think maybe it’s a bit of a rant but I think it’s nicely interspersed with humour x"

I like yours, it’s funny

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have become more ranty over time as really lost patience how many clearly don’t read my profile, it drives me mad"

This.

Both are useful.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

We've possibly got the whiniest, most 'ranty', moany profile on fabs.. and we're proud of it. We have a very VERY long list of things we hate and a few things we are looking for. Basically, don't read it as it's not worth it.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Not a great fan of aggressive profiles with a long list of hoops I might need to jump through and a threat of a block at the end. All smacks of self indulgence and not for me.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Mines a little bit rangy laced with humour. It doesn’t make a difference though because very few pay attention to it

Only mildly. Most of the ranty bits seem related to specific problems you've encountered.

So probably reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every time I read ours I think maybe it’s a bit of a rant but I think it’s nicely interspersed with humour x

I like yours, it’s funny

Like yours too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a bit of a loaded question "ranty or energised"

Nobody is going to say ranty. "

Goldenwonder has lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t really matter as even the genuine “energised” ones can still turn out to be nothing but trash down the line. Trash that thoroughly needs kicking to the bin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried to list what I find attractive, as opposed to a list of what I don't.

I've also tried not to sound homophobic in preferences too.

I genuinely wish I was attracted to guys. -I'd have a lot of options on here it seems if I was.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We like positve profiles.

Negative isn't good at all. Totally off putting.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"What’s more attractive, the ranty profiles or energized profile. "

Is this a real question??

Ranting profiles get my goat...and cannot get past the first couple of lines

There are ways and means of saying what you don't want...one does not have to rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a massive geek for written word, so after a quick check of the profile pic first, tend to zip to the profile text and start digesting it.

If it's nothing but rant for the first ten to twelve lines (unless it's done in a humourous way of course) then I simply switch off and it gets chucked in the mental bin. I reason that either the owner is a miserable bugger or has had such a kicking message wise and is therefore so fed up with Fab that they'd dread any kind of contact instinctively as well as not making any effort with their public galleries anyway as they'd view it as futile.

If I find the text other than that then I may well look through the public gallery.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

"What’s more attractive, the ranty profiles or energized profile. "

I'd rather read about someone's likes than their dislikes.

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By *ub_n_wifeCouple
over a year ago

Spilsby

Not particularly keen on the real ranty ones in terms of meeting but I do find them funny to read. I agree that some could come from meets that haven’t been great, I know some of ours is.

Ours is though (I hope) balanced but I do sometimes wonder if it’s too much and consider editing it!?

Wife

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We have tried to keep ours simple and to the point, however upon rereading it may sound a little ranty

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By *ub_n_wifeCouple
over a year ago

Spilsby

"We have tried to keep ours simple and to the point, however upon rereading it may sound a little ranty

It reads ok to me

(wife)

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

"We have tried to keep ours simple and to the point, however upon rereading it may sound a little ranty

It reads ok to me

(wife)"

Why thank you

yours isn’t half bad either

would love to explore it more...

Lily x

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By *ub_n_wifeCouple
over a year ago

Spilsby

"We have tried to keep ours simple and to the point, however upon rereading it may sound a little ranty

It reads ok to me

(wife)

Why thank you

yours isn’t half bad either

would love to explore it more...

Lily x"

Thank you, had the same thoughts of exploring more whilst reading yours

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Dont know why we bother having a profile. very few feckin read it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine would be considered ranty but so are most women when they express our opinions, needs and desires so I don’t mind. It also helps sort the wheat from the chaff ...

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