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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll fuck him behind Asda if I were you

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I'll fuck him behind Asda if I were you "

A hotel would be more my style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll fuck him behind Asda if I were you

A hotel would be more my style"

Yes there is a hotel called behind Asda in Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"

Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?

Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?"

No

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By *ensualguy70TV/TS
over a year ago

paisley

what is your gut instinct telling you to do

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By *ames_BoldmereMan
over a year ago

Boldmere

I’d say you’re not doing anything wrong. He has made his decision and he is happy with it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?

Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?

No"

Then I'd steer clear. No matter how much you like the guy, imagine how his wife would feel- and how horrible it would be if it were your husband cheating behind your back... It's just not worth it in my opinion, aside from just being a crappy thing to do, there's also the drama it could cause you if she found out.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

He sounds like a right catch ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"

It's him that's in the wrong not you x

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"what is your gut instinct telling you to do"

Meet him for a social and sèe how it goes. Lifes too short for regrets. Is this wrong?

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

No regrets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's in the wrong not you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"
block him........... deliver us not unto temptation for mine is the lord

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?"

Meet him to see if there are vibes otherwise you’ll always wonder what if...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd stay well away personally,

If it goes against your moral code,

If you really like him and it goes goes further will you cope ?.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Stick to your principles OP. Like me, he'll struggle to find someone willing to meet him due to his marital status but, also like me, he will find someone eventually and you dont have to compromise you your standards.

There's also lots of truely single guys on here so you'll not be without a potential meet for long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?

Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?

No

Then I'd steer clear. No matter how much you like the guy, imagine how his wife would feel- and how horrible it would be if it were your husband cheating behind your back... It's just not worth it in my opinion, aside from just being a crappy thing to do, there's also the drama it could cause you if she found out."

Also, if he's willing to lie to his wife and go behind her back, he's probably got no problems lying about other things. STI status, stealthing, whatever.

I wouldn't trust the guy as far as you could throw him.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"what is your gut instinct telling you to do

Meet him for a social and sèe how it goes. Lifes too short for regrets. Is this wrong?"

In my opinion he’s probably saying the right things to you to get into your knickers behind his poor wife/ gfs back ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you need to do OP

Is this

Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself

" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss me about, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"

Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"

Then ask yourself. Is that ok?

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What you need to do OP

Is this

Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself

" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss on me, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"

Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"

Then ask yourself. Is that ok?"

Why would he piss on you ?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"What you need to do OP

Is this

Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself

" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss on me, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"

Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"

Then ask yourself. Is that ok?

Why would he piss on you ? "

water sports??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What you need to do OP

Is this

Take a piece of paper, and write a note to yourself

" this man will lie to me, manipulate me, stand me up, piss on me, disrespect me, expect me to meet him at a moments notice"

Oh and " bore the crap out of me telling me about his boring wife, her shoe collection, and controlling tendencies"

Then ask yourself. Is that ok?

Why would he piss on you ? "

Because his wife wont let him

It would mess up her hair

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

He is married and he lives close by. It's not even like you have the safety of distance if his wife should find out. It's up to you, like you said, you don't want regrets, but you might regret meeting him if drama follows. Or even just a guilty conscience.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts .. "

I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for.

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

As others have said, he is the one who is cheating... You are obviously party to that, but unless you are after a 'relationship' with him, you might just be helping him stay in a sexless marriage for whatever reason he has decided that he needs to...

I was cheated on by my ex-husband but it wasn't just about sex, it was emotional... BIG difference in my book.

At the end of the day, only you can decide. Good luck with your decision.

Mrs H

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..

I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. "

Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all ..

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

If you are already planning to forget your policy of not meeting marrieds, then you are very keen on this guy. If you meet you will probably get even keener...and that down that road lies an affair and a pile of hurt (for you, even if his wife doesn't find out).

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..

I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all .."

10 miles away. Not too close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YOLO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..

I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all ..

10 miles away. Not too close"

Are you after a relationship or fun. If it’s fun yes or if it’s not say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what is your gut instinct telling you to do

Meet him for a social and sèe how it goes. Lifes too short for regrets. Is this wrong?"

Not wrong. You're not responsible for anybody else's life choices but your own.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I do not meet married or attatched men but i have been chatting to someone who has made me question this. He is very handsome, we have so much in common and he lives close by. It would be so wrong to meet him but i really want to. What would you do if you were me?

Does his wife/girlfriend know he's on here?

No"

I'd steer clear last thing you'd want is a bat shit mental Mrs turning up to confront you

Ray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, from your responses so far it seems like you've made up your mind already. I'm just wondering what exactly is it that you're hoping for here? Do you feel guilty and if enough people say they'd meet a married guy will that make you feel better about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should meet him and have lots of fun

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Op - life it too short , if you want him , go get him or someone else will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op - life it too short , if you want him , go get him or someone else will "

Listen to the woman with the nice anus

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By *exy Black JenWoman
over a year ago

London/Eastbourne weekends

I'd say someone else is welcome to him!..If you're already wrestling with your conscience, it does not bode well for your future wellbeing....

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"The fact your on here asking for advice and not just going ahead tells me you have your own doubts ..

I dont have doubts. I want to meet him. He looks lovely and i want to meet him face to face. Not many men have this effect on me but the minute i saw him i thought " wow". I dont fall in love now. Thats not what i am here for. Fair enough ,but id say meet in person and your gut will lead you ,but living close to you could blow up in your face be careful its YOUR choice after all ..

10 miles away. Not too close

Are you after a relationship or fun. If it’s fun yes or if it’s not say no

"

I am here for fun encounters. I am no bunny boiler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like if your questioning how you feel about doing it, maybe you shouldn't do it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Do what you want but whatever you do don't kid yourself that hes the only one in the wrong.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Do what you want but whatever you do don't kid yourself that hes the only one in the wrong.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do what you want but whatever you do don't kid yourself that hes the only one in the wrong.

"

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I have no issue meeting married people if I can be sure they are here with their partners knowledge and consent. I wouldn't meet anyone behind their partners back though. It's against what I believe in and I don't want to get caught up in the fall out if they get found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't read the replies but only you can decide if you want to put yourself in the position of him only being available to message when the wife isn't around. Of you being his last priority. Of having issues of when to meet, where to meet, can he do overnights. Think about all your queries then ask the questions but also remember he will probably tell you he can meet weekends and loads of over nights but it could end up not being the case. This is my own experiences.

However given all that If you still want him meet for a social and see how you go

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