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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

So I have been in this world now for coming up to a year. I go to a club and love that environment but come onto fab it's completely different. I thought I may share some thoughts/tips from a single female point of view. **tongue in cheek and my own opinions! **

First, profiles and photos. I personally do not want to see 150 photos of various sides of your penis. I also have to laugh when the infamous sky remote/lynx can/pint glass (surely dangerous) pic is in there. On the whole, I want to see the person and face etc, not self penis worship over 150 Pics. Also, why do people take photos of their erect penis over a toilet. Do you know, it looks like a strange coloured shit-just saying.

Profiles-READ them. If someone has taken the time to write about themselves, please take a few minutes to read them. I'm pretty clear on mine what I like and done like, wants and don't wants but still the messages I receive... Leads me to my next point...

Boys, does it EVER work saying "I'd love to rim your tight ass now" or "let me come to your house and fuck you, then leave without saying a word", now if you follow the above step, you would know who would and who wouldn't appreciate this type of communication. Ask yourself, if I was in a supermarket and saw you, would I say this to You? No? Then don't send it

Rejection... Take it on the chin dudes, I'm rejected a LOT, just have to carry on... Although see above steps perhaps be less rejection?

Club snobs, I cannot fathom why there's men on here that look down on women who choose to go to clubs. They are clean, safe, provide protection, private in some spaces... From a safety point of view its the best place to meet and potentially play! If either of you are unhappy or don't feel comfortable your in a safe space. On the subject of clubs, don't believe the hype, they arnt seedy, they arnt dirty (at least where I go) so perhaps try one and you may be generally more successful!

I sound ranty and many, I don't mean to. I have met some amazing people from fab, kept in touch with friends etc but have had my fair share of men that promise the world then fuck off never to be seen again (I know it's my own fault) just be honest from the start, respectful and generally a good person!

And theres way too many Christian grey wannabes on here!

Long may the great meets and conversations continue! Sending love to all xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My opinion is that the things you describe are a useful filter for you.

Single men get a lot of stick on here, the points you make are regularly mentioned yet nothing changes apparently. This leads me to believe that the guys you describe have their own reasons for running their profiles the way they do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My opinion is that the things you describe are a useful filter for you.

Single men get a lot of stick on here, the points you make are regularly mentioned yet nothing changes apparently. This leads me to believe that the guys you describe have their own reasons for running their profiles the way they do "

Ahh there's some great single guys on here, not to discredit everyone at all... I'm all for flirting with singles but a tad more respect would be nice

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"My opinion is that the things you describe are a useful filter for you.

Single men get a lot of stick on here, the points you make are regularly mentioned yet nothing changes apparently. This leads me to believe that the guys you describe have their own reasons for running their profiles the way they do

Ahh there's some great single guys on here, not to discredit everyone at all... I'm all for flirting with singles but a tad more respect would be nice "

Yes, respect is a good thing

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There's a lot of sweeping generalisations in what you say OP although I don't deny some of it is true - as Nicecouple say the things you point out are regularly pointed out - the thing is though why worry about things you can't change?

I've found over time it's better to worry about the things and people that DO interest you than waste energy on those that don't - there will ALWAYS be guys on here who do the things you say, just as there will ALWAYS be those that moan about them, so little point letting it bother you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's a lot of sweeping generalisations in what you say OP although I don't deny some of it is true - as Nicecouple say the things you point out are regularly pointed out - the thing is though why worry about things you can't change?

I've found over time it's better to worry about the things and people that DO interest you than waste energy on those that don't - there will ALWAYS be guys on here who do the things you say, just as there will ALWAYS be those that moan about them, so little point letting it bother you "

Possibly more of a therapeutic rant for me this morning

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By *ruceMan
over a year ago

Nr Messingham

I think the 'Christian grey wannabees' are more to be found outside the site. Lots of people stick their noses up at swinging because the truth is they like the thought but have not the gumption to try it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well fucking said!

I pissed myself laughing about the multitude of cock shots, it puts me off a guys profile straight away!

I 100% agree with everything you said.

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By *anDare70Man
over a year ago

kirkby

It’s too hard to get a conversation going on here

Too many fast decisions made on the very superficial which is probably why so many men resort to blunt approaches.

Be interesting to see the impact of only clothed photos being allowed on profiles.

Very few profiles have anything that would lead to a conversation that was about a thing other than sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s too hard to get a conversation going on here

Too many fast decisions made on the very superficial which is probably why so many men resort to blunt approaches.

Be interesting to see the impact of only clothed photos being allowed on profiles.

Very few profiles have anything that would lead to a conversation that was about a thing other than sex. "

I don't feel it's superficial, you either are or arnt attracted to someone u can't force it, and sending very sexual first messages do not do any favours just makes people think they are a bit of a tit really. You could be the hottest man or woman on the planet, first message talking about what would do to me I'd delete it as its not wanted

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It’s too hard to get a conversation going on here

Too many fast decisions made on the very superficial which is probably why so many men resort to blunt approaches.

Be interesting to see the impact of only clothed photos being allowed on profiles.

Very few profiles have anything that would lead to a conversation that was about a thing other than sex. "

That's possibly because those profile owners don't want a conversation about anything but sex.

We have a line in our profile offering purely social meets just for chatting. How many people would you estimate have contacted us for that?

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By *anDare70Man
over a year ago

kirkby


"It’s too hard to get a conversation going on here

Too many fast decisions made on the very superficial which is probably why so many men resort to blunt approaches.

Be interesting to see the impact of only clothed photos being allowed on profiles.

Very few profiles have anything that would lead to a conversation that was about a thing other than sex.

I don't feel it's superficial, you either are or arnt attracted to someone u can't force it, and sending very sexual first messages do not do any favours just makes people think they are a bit of a tit really. You could be the hottest man or woman on the planet, first message talking about what would do to me I'd delete it as its not wanted "

Maybe I’m odd but there are plenty I’ve met that I’ve been instantly attracted to and then put off and other that the attraction has grown as I got to know them

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

The tons of cock pics put me off as there are only so many angles lol

I get messages of meeting now etc I just delete them. There are some genuine single men on here and you can see that in first messages

As for clubs we always view them as meeting and chatting to friends and people we have never met before and then if something more happens then that is great too. They are not sexy or dirty and our run very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Re the 150 cock pics. I spend my weekends making detailed life size plasticine replicas from those profiles, lovingly recreating every vein and wart, then sticking pins in them. Please keep up the self cock worship guys! I need new members to maim!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Re the 150 cock pics. I spend my weekends making detailed life size plasticine replicas from those profiles, lovingly recreating every vein and wart, then sticking pins in them. Please keep up the self cock worship guys! I need new members to maim!"

Best comment!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...?"

I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...?

I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places"

Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that.

Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...?

I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places

Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that.

Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha"

Oh god. Please don't go to the dark side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wonder what fab would be like if single males weren’t allowed to send the first message...?

I imagine much quieter place with some very pissed off and frustrated people... I don't have a problem with people sending me a message, but at least say hello before requesting to stick your tongue in places

Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that.

Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha

Oh god. Please don't go to the dark side "

Haha. Just giving tigress lily some more cocks to maim

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"

Haha. I can’t believe people actually open a chat with a request like that.

Maybe that’s what I’m getting wrong, haha"

Sadly in my experience about half the first messages I receive are along those lines, usually accompanied by an unattractive dick pic.

About 40% of messages are uninspiring "hi" "how you doing?" type or obviously a copy & paste job.

So maybe 1 in 10 messages have potential. And of those about half clearly haven't read my profile & very quickly it becomes clear that they are looking for very different things.

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

This thread should be mandatory reading for all single guys when they either first sign up or ask for a profile critique.

Now speaking of profiles......

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