FabSwingers.com forum: Why do people make a bug fuss about looks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are a couple and we don't know if we are alone on this but looks isn't that much of an issue. We often get asked for a face pic after the first message by many which is suspicious having not even chatted properly. Experience has shown us couples who take time to chat before asking for a face pic has resulted in a successful meet. Surely it's about finding mutual interests and establishing boundaries. This isn't a dating site so it begs the question.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I like to get a picture up front, because if there is zero physical attraction then little point chatting further. I think that because it isn’t dating then the attraction is the most important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the chat is just a chat then I don't bother with pics but if the chat is on of a sexual nature then pics first. Think it's a time thing

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We like to swop face photos early on as we do need to be physically attracted to someone to have sex with them. We also need to like their personality too though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s gotta be facial attraction as when im poking the fire that’s what I’m gonna be looking at

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"There’s gotta be facial attraction as when im poking the fire that’s what I’m gonna be looking at

Paper bag perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s gotta be facial attraction as when im poking the fire that’s what I’m gonna be looking at

Paper bag perhaps?

Yep. Better then a pillow as my leave them fighting for breath

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I have to know I'm physically attracted to someone so prefer face pics fairly early on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather use a vibrator than have sex with someone I'm not attracted to. I wouldn't want someone having sex with me if they were not attracted to me either so looks are highly important to me

Belle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would rather a face picture than a close up of genitals and one can afford to be picky when they already have a partner.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I like to know what they look like early on, if im not attracted to the face then it's a no from me.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We have face pics on our profile.... Might be why we dont get manh messages or winks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And of course looks are important. But they are also relative. One persons ugly is anothers devine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always turn the lights off

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

How is it suspicious to want to know who you're talking to? Also, people do use the site to potentially find a swinging partner so it can be used as a dating site.

Your way of swinging isn't the only way.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I’ve been here many, many years and over that time I’ve never altered my opinion of facial attraction.

So many times I’ve been incredibly attracted to the person behind the messages, profile and pics but crushingly deflated on seeing their face.

There is good science behind why we need facial attraction to copulate.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

As a single or as a couple, I need to by attracted to anyone I might have sex with.

That being the case, swapping face photos early on, is essential for me.

Looks aren't everything but it's a good start. I'm not looking for a life partner.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes you are in a minority, most people need to be facially attracted to the people they have sex with. Exchanging face pics early saves wasting time for both of you.

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I need face pic to know if I’m attracted to person at all and to know with who I’m speaking to. There is certain things I’m not attracted to so I’m interested to save my time just in case It’s not happening. You can have a lot of things to talk about and similar interests etc but it doesn’t mean you want to have sex with them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's precisely because it's not a dating site that we want to know what people look like.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm less likely to care about looks for a relationship than for casual sex.

With a relationship you do need to be compatible in many areas and looks come lower down on that list, for casual sex you only need to be sexually compatible and physically attracted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't fancy the face then it's a no. I've spoke to a few women who won't send face pics and declined them because of that, then recieved abuse for being shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always ask for face pics and provide ours early on. There's no point messaging for ages to realise that you aren't attracted to them

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

For me personally, I don't need a face pic early as the physical attraction is only 5% the face and 95% the rest of the person!

If I am to meet someone, then a face pic is needed at some stage, but more as a verification.

More important is that photos are relatively recent so the person turning up still resembles the photos!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds like it's better to meet people in person at clubs in that case. We like to connect on an intellectual level also. If the conversation isn't there how can you progress onto anything sexual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People may have things in common but find it's just not happening. We too have found it's sometimes not happening but it doesn't matter because we've made friends and have someone we can have a laugh and a drink with.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Sounds like it's better to meet people in person at clubs in that case. We like to connect on an intellectual level also. If the conversation isn't there how can you progress onto anything sexual.

Why should people have to go to clubs because they don't use the site the same way you do? Just because some people care about looks, doesn't mean they don't want to connect on other levels too.

It proves nothing about fakes, I wouldn't do a live video call and I'm definitely not fake, also, you know people can screenshot and/or record a video call?

As I said before, your way isn't the only way and people are entitled to choose their sexual partners by whichever method they prefer.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The most important thing for us is that we like whoever we meet and can have a bit of banter with then. However, that doesn't mean physical attraction doesn't enter into it. We can like somebody as a person but feel no physical attraction to them. It's better to know early on whether that physical attraction is there to set expectations.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Sounds like it's better to meet people in person at clubs in that case. We like to connect on an intellectual level also. If the conversation isn't there how can you progress onto anything sexual.

You like to connect on an intellectual level whereas most on here like to connect on an intellectual AND physical level - that's why most ask for face pics.

Wouldn't worry too much about fake profiles, they're mostly saddos looking for wank fodder and easily spotted with a little due diligence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to get a picture up front, because if there is zero physical attraction then little point chatting further. I think that because it isn’t dating then the attraction is the most important thing."

Totally agree. Also I have a thing about teeth ( can be a turn off). So it's good to see what where dealing with. The other thing is people with pics from years pasted, who look totally different in the present. Very off putting. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a couple and we don't know if we are alone on this but looks isn't that much of an issue. We often get asked for a face pic after the first message by many which is suspicious having not even chatted properly. Experience has shown us couples who take time to chat before asking for a face pic has resulted in a successful meet. Surely it's about finding mutual interests and establishing boundaries. This isn't a dating site so it begs the question."
lots of people including me have to be turned on by the people theyre interested in so physical attraction and personality are top of our wants for a couple suppose it can be different but if i didn't fancy the lady i couldn't take it further than conversation

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"We are happy to do a live video chat and it's surprising how many on here backtrack. Proves our point about fakes. "

I have been on here five years with over a hundred meets and I have never done a video chat. I can assure you I'm not fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are happy to do a live video chat and it's surprising how many on here backtrack. Proves our point about fakes.

I have been on here five years with over a hundred meets and I have never done a video chat. I can assure you I'm not fake. "
I've never done one either and never would

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Its precisely because it's not a dating site that a lot of people are more interested in physical attraction.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Am no oil painting but honest and respectfull of others I offtern get chatting to people going as soon as face pic sent message stop I just move on its there choice at the end of the day

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Sounds like it's better to meet people in person at clubs in that case. We like to connect on an intellectual level also. If the conversation isn't there how can you progress onto anything sexual.

We're all aware this site has fake profiles so we are cautious about when to send face pics. We are happy to do a live video chat and it's surprising how many on here backtrack. Proves our point about fakes. "
I've had amazing sex with people ive not even said a word too at clubs... ive also had good sex with people who had they sent me a photo on fab I'd have said no thanks.. but on the whole..I normally need to meet someone and chat first these days..

About the video call. No way would I ever do so.

We all use fab differently. If I was looking for meets then I would send a face photo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We look at someone as a person overall. Attraction is only part of it.

Things happen naturally and there is a time and place. Anyone making demands from the offset is best to be avoided.

We're not free for all and not choosey either. Just a good genuine personality

goes along way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We look at someone as a person overall. Attraction is only part of it.

Things happen naturally and there is a time and place. Anyone making demands from the offset is best to be avoided.

We're not free for all and not choosey either. Just a good genuine personality

goes along way. "

You're not alone. Most forum contributors prefer personality over looks. As long as you're doing things your way, it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like it's better to meet people in person at clubs in that case. We like to connect on an intellectual level also. If the conversation isn't there how can you progress onto anything sexual.

Clubs aren't really an option this side of the water.

For us it's multi-faceted. We're not driven solely by looks but if there's no physical attraction then things won't go any further. What constitutes physical attraction though is subjective. We would absolutely need face photos early on and if that's a hard no from the other party so be it, we move on. We would never live video call though, so likewise if that's a prerequisite of the other party then they can also move on. It certainly doesn't make us fake.

As has already been said, we all use this site differently. There's no right or wrong way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same for us..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Essentially i would not drop my knickers just because someone was nice to chat to...no mutual attraction..no play.

If i didnt fancy someone in Vanilla Street why would i fancy a random person messaging having no idea what they look like..its not shallow just realistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We look at someone as a person overall. Attraction is only part of it.

Things happen naturally and there is a time and place. Anyone making demands from the offset is best to be avoided.

We're not free for all and not choosey either. Just a good genuine personality

goes along way. "

If we are genuinely not attracted to someone its best not to waste their time and be polite but always honest and tell them.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I'll stick my dick in anything.

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"I'll stick my dick in anything."

Haha, even a watermelon

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By *aughty island coupleCouple
over a year ago

Portland dorset

Totally agree no point in talking if no attention there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've chatted with many couples for a substantial amount of time, and things are going great, but then I show a face pic, and the conversation goes dead, or I just get an instant block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical attraction is very important, shouldn’t drop standards just because it’s not “real life”

I Wouldn’t have sex with someone’s personality in general life...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I've chatted with many couples for a substantial amount of time, and things are going great, but then I show a face pic, and the conversation goes dead, or I just get an instant block. "

Which is why it's always best to swap early, saves time.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It begs the question why face pics are asked for for invitations to a masked ball. I declined the invitation and the reason I gave was ‘host stupidity’.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"I've chatted with many couples for a substantial amount of time, and things are going great, but then I show a face pic, and the conversation goes dead, or I just get an instant block.

Which is why it's always best to swap early, saves time. "

Been there too.i try send my face pic early in conversation too.. If i then get a delete/block, then i know why..

But face pics are not the be all end all. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Sometimes I've been attracted to women who I wouldn't have usually gone for, but their personality/sexuality shone through and that can be more attractive.

But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to fuck someone I'm not attracted to

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

I just send a face pic with the first message as it’s easier to take a no reply or a no thank you than chatting for awhile to be ghosted once I’ve sent a face pic...really kills the self esteem

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We like to get face pics out of the way early on. There's nothing worse than everyone getting on like a house on fire, then later on swapping pics with the intent to meet and you aren't attracted to them or they aren't attracted to you. Looks aren't everything, I totally get that. Someone could be the best looking person in the world but have the personality of a hotdog and I couldn't sleep with them. But there has to be at least some attraction of we're going to be having sex.

Gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us we don’t like too many people to have our face pics for privacy reasons so like to find out if we are compatible with the other party before exchanging face pics. We’re not talking hours of chat but a few messages to find out what we like or don’t like before exchanging face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just send a face pic with the first message as it’s easier to take a no reply or a no thank you than chatting for awhile to be ghosted once I’ve sent a face pic...really kills the self esteem

You have a lovely face, so ner!

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I’ve been here many, many years and over that time I’ve never altered my opinion of facial attraction.

So many times I’ve been incredibly attracted to the person behind the messages, profile and pics but crushingly deflated on seeing their face.

There is good science behind why we need facial attraction to copulate."

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Because our male half is super picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps "

So? I don't particularly want to be fucked by someone that just saw me as a hole or 3 and wasn't attracted to me, as much as I wouldn't do that to some either

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I think chemistry out weighs looks

We're not looking for a partner we're looking for someone to play with they can be stunning or average looking but have the personality of a dish cloth or be so far up their own arse anal would be impossible

Ray

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps "

So, would you shag someone that looked like Shrek?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps

So, would you shag someone that looked like Shrek?"
great answer i wouldn't shag anyone who looked like shrek .maybe his wife if i was d*unk lol

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Good looks are relative. End of story.

For us, personality is the most important thing, rather than what we deem to be just good looks. No point looking like a supermodel of you have all the wit and charm of soiled toilet tissue.

So if you base meets purely on looks, more fool you. A combination of what YOU find attractive with looks and what YOU find attractive with personality is surely the key?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps

So, would you shag someone that looked like Shrek?"

I would, but I'm a dirty bitch

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

" The other thing is people with pics from years pasted, who look totally different in the present. Very off putting. Lol"

On another site we have this on our profile

"Oh, and I should mention, if we meet you and you don't look like your pics you are buying the drinks until you do"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s normal to want to see who you’re talking to. I find there’s usually something manipulative about people that want deep conversations without showing themselves.

They want you to get emotionally entangled in a “friendship” so you that feel too guilty to change your mind when you do eventually see them.

I’m not saying that’s the case for everyone that wants chat whilst refusing to send photos - just most of them.

Once again I bet nobody on here agrees, but that’s been my observations from all the interactions I’ve had over the years.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I think there needs to be a balance between an attractive personality & physical attraction. Doesn't matter if you're drop dead gorgeous & have the body of an adonis, if I can't have an interesting conversation & a laugh with you & like you as a person then I certainly won't be taking things any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are quite low on our list of requirements. We are more interested in a guys personality. A sense of fun and not taking it all to seriously are also important. Have to be honest and say that cock size is an issue but thats just a preference rather than a requirement.

We just want to have fun with fun people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps

So, would you shag someone that looked like Shrek?

I would, but I'm a dirty bitch

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lol truthful answer x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Good looks are relative. End of story.

For us, personality is the most important thing, rather than what we deem to be just good looks. No point looking like a supermodel of you have all the wit and charm of soiled toilet tissue.

So if you base meets purely on looks, more fool you. A combination of what YOU find attractive with looks and what YOU find attractive with personality is surely the key?

That's what the majority of us are saying. You need more than just looks and more than just a great personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not kissing and only soft playing then I suppose looks could be further down the list. However I love to kiss and if I don't like someone's face then I ain't doing it. And I ain't bumping uglies without kissing, so looks kinda are important to me, then personality keeps the attraction going.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

How many of you had the courtesy to reply to first message received included a pic too?

Reply i call eather a - no tks or thank you but no or Yes Why not etc.

It is true that a face pic must be there ,but after couple of messages with pic but not Even a dot like reply u just get fed up.

If we pay more attention most of the profiles contradict them self, for example - Im not gone read you message If i don’t see a face pic in your profile- but She ain’t got one too- cock pics put me off, but in profile says - i only reply to vwwe guys..... How the hell can u show her that u deserve to get a reply for What u have If cock pics put her off.

Wherever in my opinion a pic must be there from the first or 5 th message same like a decent reply- my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chatting or even socials is fine, but if we are contemplating sex then I need to find you attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would rather a face picture than a close up of genitals and one can afford to be picky when they already have a partner. "

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps

So, would you shag someone that looked like Shrek?"

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"If you're not kissing and only soft playing then I suppose looks could be further down the list. However I love to kiss and if I don't like someone's face then I ain't doing it. And I ain't bumping uglies without kissing, so looks kinda are important to me, then personality keeps the attraction going. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And of course looks are important. But they are also relative. One persons ugly is anothers devine. "

Spot on

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't want to discus a possible match if we're not physically matched, as there are so many people that it's possible to chat with and meet, that I need to invest my time wisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree I always try and be nice in my message but the minute I send a face pic it’s blocked or no more contact and I wouldn’t say I was the ugliest guy in the world x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree I always try and be nice in my message but the minute I send a face pic it’s blocked or no more contact and I wouldn’t say I was the ugliest guy in the world x"

It isn't meant as a personal slight... Just prevents your paths crossing again and wasting time possibly messaging again or coming up in searches etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed, however without physical attraction there simply is no sexual dynamic.

Looks are synonymous with sexual attraction...each to their own though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree I always try and be nice in my message but the minute I send a face pic it’s blocked or no more contact and I wouldn’t say I was the ugliest guy in the world x"

I think some people are just intrigued to see who they're chatting with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather know early on if they fancy me. My face has launched a thousand blocks so it’s good to know early if I’m a non-starter. Also I love eyes and smiles so the face is important to me too. Rapport and understanding of shared interests takes time to build whereas physical attraction can be decided very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not gonna fuck someone I don’t fancy. So I wanna see their face straight away. I’m not gonna waste their time chatting, see their face and then have to explain ‘aw the chatting was fun but I don’t actually find you attractive so I’m not gonna be fucking ya’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has to be an element of physical attraction, surely you have to "fancy" the person for it to work??

And I say this as a guy who regularly loses out due to that very reason lol!!

By the way OP your pics are great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather get the face pic done quite quickly as we have chatted to couples about meets and then send our face pic and they ghost us (we aren't that bad, honest). We would always reply with to a face pic politely and just say you aren't for us or not our type, sorry. Manners cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've chatted with many couples for a substantial amount of time, and things are going great, but then I show a face pic, and the conversation goes dead, or I just get an instant block. "

That can be a killer to your self-esteem, especially if you worry about your looks anyway. It's why I have my face as my profile pic. I still send a face pic if I ever message someone, but I know I'm not gonna be most people's cup of tea, so I just keep it up there to save time.

What's the alternative? Keeping my face hidden, messaging someone for a bit, sending them a face pic, the chat goes dead immediately and I end up feeling shit about myself. I shouldn't take it personally, but it's kind of hard not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a world where average is super hot.

People that get no real attention in the outside world at all can come on here and be a someone.

It's like being the smartest kid in the retarded class

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is a world where average is super hot.

People that get no real attention in the outside world at all can come on here and be a someone.

It's like being the smartest kid in the retarded class

This guy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is a world where average is super hot.

People that get no real attention in the outside world at all can come on here and be a someone.

It's like being the smartest kid in the retarded class

If that's the case I must be less than average

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Fab is a world where average is super hot.

People that get no real attention in the outside world at all can come on here and be a someone.

It's like being the smartest kid in the retarded class

Is that why you're here?

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

"Absolutely.. Best post on here. Lets face it, swinging is simply a shared interest between like minded peeps

So, would you shag someone that looked like Shrek?

Believe it or not 40% from here yes they will, only If you really have huge compensation down there.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

Just because we swing, doesn’t mean we shag anyone or anything.

An attraction must be there surely?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Were not bothered about looks so much as attitude but the look of someone can be a turn off. They can be conventionally good looking but something isn't quite right, they can be conventionally fugly but have that certain something. It can depend on the scenario you are planning as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were not bothered about looks so much as attitude but the look of someone can be a turn off. They can be conventionally good looking but something isn't quite right, they can be conventionally fugly but have that certain something. It can depend on the scenario you are planning as well. "
yes i get that if youre doing role play and the role being I'd rather not know the person whos shagging me so zara paper bag over head job, so basically someone who can show personality with a bag on their head

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

You need both mental and physical stimulation x

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By *ixen500Couple
over a year ago

some where near shropshire

"I have to know I'm physically attracted to someone so prefer face pics fairly early on"

It may be a swingers site. but i agree with this there has to be an attraction there ....to kiss etc

In fact for me/us the whole package! attraction.. to have fun..banter chat laugh . Its been more enjoyable ..but hey everyone to their own. you do how u see it

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By *ixen500Couple
over a year ago

some where near shropshire

"Fab is a world where average is super hot.

People that get no real attention in the outside world at all can come on here and be a someone.

It's like being the smartest kid in the retarded class

Is that why you're here?"

As a parent of a special needs child how i hate that word !!! Retarded really....oops off subject sorry

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I must be fake then as I don't give into entitled couples demanding a video chat to prove that I'm real. *not relevant to all couples, just a minority*

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Were not bothered about looks so much as attitude but the look of someone can be a turn off. They can be conventionally good looking but something isn't quite right, they can be conventionally fugly but have that certain something. It can depend on the scenario you are planning as well. yes i get that if youre doing role play and the role being I'd rather not know the person whos shagging me so zara paper bag over head job, so basically someone who can show personality with a bag on their head

You've got the idea

But seriously, it's all about whether the person has "it" with us. That's why socials are great, you get to interact with more than just a picture or projected persona.

"It" doesn't transmit too well online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were not bothered about looks so much as attitude but the look of someone can be a turn off. They can be conventionally good looking but something isn't quite right, they can be conventionally fugly but have that certain something. It can depend on the scenario you are planning as well. yes i get that if youre doing role play and the role being I'd rather not know the person whos shagging me so zara paper bag over head job, so basically someone who can show personality with a bag on their head

You've got the idea

But seriously, it's all about whether the person has "it" with us. That's why socials are great, you get to interact with more than just a picture or projected persona.

"It" doesn't transmit too well online.

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exactly you can't judge personality from text

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By *carlett AllureWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I do enjoy a good chat before the demands/expectations of face pics. There has to be some level of physical attraction to.

I’ve met a Male half of a couple from here not knowing what he looked like (very quick social during work) at all and that made the whole thing more exciting but is not something I’d do a lot and certainly not for a proper meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is a world where average is super hot.

People that get no real attention in the outside world at all can come on here and be a someone.

It's like being the smartest kid in the retarded class

Is that why you're here?"

Am real world fit witch makes me a God on here lol

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Maybe it's because people have an image in their heads as to what their experience of swing will be like and try to hard to fulfill that?

Personally looks have never been an.issue with me

I find most of those blessed with good looks often have a crap attitude anyway.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Maybe it's because people have an image in their heads as to what their experience of swing will be like and try to hard to fulfill that?

Personally looks have never been an.issue with me

I find most of those blessed with good looks often have a crap attitude anyway. "

You have an issue with good looking people by what you've written.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I like to get the face pics out the way in the first or second message so not to waste each others time. I usually get delete when I send a face pic so I do it on the first message. I often get messaged saying how hot my body or cock is then get a deleted when the face comes out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% this. I find those that ask for a face picture on message 1 are often not the sort I would like to meet. I prefer a couple of messages to make sure we get on before sharing pictures (both ways). If I get asked on message 1 its usually a ‘good bye’ from me as I am not interested in the tinder crowd! Swinging is not superficial ( I do have high standards as we all do but realise that just because someone looks amazing does not mean you will get on and have an amazing meet, some of my worst meets have been with the prettiest)

like wise I find a profile with lots of pictures and loads of detail equally off putting.

we are all different and it would be a boring place if we was all the same. I think thats why I match well with those with similar outlooks. There are loads of genuine profiles hidden or with minimal detail that find you, its like a secret part of Fab like the darknet lol x

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

Couldn’t agree more with this, for us we need to feel comfortable with those we intend to meet otherwise it just doesn’t work for us.

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By *lack_alembicMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"I like to know what they look like early on, if im not attracted to the face then it's a no from me. "

Feel the same and I would assume this is the same reason for many people

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Your profile your choice , their profile their choice

My view , picture early on (first contact preferably)

If I ain't attracted to you, I won't be getting frisky with you.

If we're attracted to each other we can find out more about each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s gotta be facial attraction as when im poking the fire that’s what I’m gonna be looking at

This Op

Of course wear blindfolds if you not attracted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile your choice , their profile their choice

My view , picture early on (first contact preferably)

If I ain't attracted to you, I won't be getting frisky with you.

If we're attracted to each other we can find out more about each other.

That being said

Going on looks

Do we need to be just asking attracted to all the people you fuck.

What are looks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it attraction?

Are we not all wanting the same thing in the end as in good fucking?

Fabswingers can be anything you want it to be.

Some here want dates, shack up or even get married... Each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning OP

Ashbourne is lovely

Happy New year to you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like wise I find a profile with lots of pictures and loads of detail equally off putting.

This logic makes no sense. “Just because someone looks amazing does not mean you will get on and have an amazing meet“

And just because someone asks for a photo doesn’t mean you won’t get on. Just as hiding your face doesn’t mean you’ll get along. The only difference is when asking for a face picture you can quickly tell if you fancy someone and want to proceed with getting to know them.

The only logical reason to withhold a face photo is deception. It creeps me out.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We swing to fulfill our sexual fantasies, and most of those fantasies involve nsa anonymous sex with what we consider to be good looking people. We aren't interested in finding mutual interests (other than sex) or making a connection with prospective playmates, we have those things with our vanilla friends - though some of our swinging partners have also become friends.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Because I have to find that person attractive to want to have sex with them

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Your profile your choice , their profile their choice

My view , picture early on (first contact preferably)

If I ain't attracted to you, I won't be getting frisky with you.

If we're attracted to each other we can find out more about each other.

That being said

Going on looks

Do we need to be just asking attracted to all the people you fuck.

What are looks? "

Yes I do need to be attracted to people I fuck.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

You can't win

We've done the due diligence bit , chatted , pics etc and in the flesh you think , hey ho , that's our time and effort wasted

And we met up , walked up and thought no , not for us

And then gone on to have great night !

You just never know

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

like wise I find a profile with lots of pictures and loads of detail equally off putting.

I always ask for a pic straight away and I've never been on tinder. I don't know why you need to throw out little comments like that to get your point across.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

It's all about the face for me too. I'm less fussy about physique, body type etc but I need to at least be able to look someone in the eye without feeling mild revulsion...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think asking for face pic’s right away is more about time management....

If you have the time to chat to people for hours , days , weeks, and months to finally get a face pic that you’re not interested in....

Great

Swinging isn’t a one size fits all activity.....

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