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“Its a sex site not a dating site”.. thoughts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s whatever you want to make it and don’t take notice of the nay-sayers, doom merchants and mood hooverers.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"It’s whatever you want to make it and don’t take notice of the nay-sayers, doom merchants and mood hooverers."

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's like any line anyone spins. If you say no, then the answer is no. Use the site how you want (as long as you're considerate of others), and if they don't like it, tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those are the guys who don’t get it. Swinging *for most people* is about socialising as much as sex. Otherwise it’s just serial fuckery with randoms if you’re single. Friendships with people with whom you also have sex as and when you both feel like it are the backbone of fab for many of us.

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By *ixen500Couple
over a year ago

some where near shropshire

I quite agree with you its actually more fun to chat laugh and everything else before you have sex .it maybe a sex site but that doesnt mean you have to wham bam thankyou mam then bugger off.made some lovely friends and had a hell of alot of laugh !!

People can be very rude on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the same quite a lot. Bothered me initially but not now. I access the site on a phone that I pay for, have a membership here that I pay for so I'll use it as I see fit. The ones who give that kind of grief are the very ones who would run crying for their mummy if you did actually call their bluff on a meet

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I think there are a lot of people on here, especially single guys, who do view it as a hook up/sex site and seem to think it's appropriate to treat people as if they are basically free prostitutes. They speak & behave in ways they never would have the balls to do face to face & then whine when they don't get the response they want.

There are some good, genuine, people on here. Unfortunately they are well hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be whatever you want the site to be.. Just ignore and move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put I want to get to know people and be friends in my messages but never get a reply.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Seems a very wide spectrum including many hat only do car meets with strangers at very short notice. But I guess the common thread is casual sex, not socialising and it’s a site literally anyone can join so it’s to be expected really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that all the time OP ignore and use the site how you wish to

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By *ixen500Couple
over a year ago

some where near shropshire


"It can be whatever you want the site to be.. Just ignore and move on.. "

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Well here is one who treats people with respect and is just looking for the opportunity to meet and socialize over a coffee, drink or meal... Anything else is a bonus...

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By *he massage manMan
over a year ago

filey


"Those are the guys who don’t get it. Swinging *for most people* is about socialising as much as sex. Otherwise it’s just serial fuckery with randoms if you’re single. Friendships with people with whom you also have sex as and when you both feel like it are the backbone of fab for many of us.

"

Well said when I started and yes it was more than a few years ago, the social side was as if not more than the psychical side. In clubs couples would come and chat most of the night but only had sex if the mood and the personal were right. I played a lot but I also had friends where we did not play but enjoyed each other’s company!!!

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol"
This is how we like it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is a sex site. It is a swingers site. What if you are looking for a partner who is into all the things on this site?

My view is people should just be able to use the site for whatever they need it for.

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By *akedduo66Couple
over a year ago

Near Bordon

We'd add that this is indeed a swinging site ,the clue is in the sites name .

Single guys are looking for sex and aren't swinger's as they are ,as said ,single .

We,the couples are swinger's as we are including and/or swapping and as such it's our rules that rule here.

No idea if that is the correct usage of the term swinger but it's ours .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree the situation you mentioned must be frustrating. But at the same time I think a lot of people do use this site as if it’s a dating site.

Just today I’ve seen people putting statuses asking people to come over for “cuddles in front of the tv” and “takeaway and giggles”. I find that weird. Weirder than meeting for just sex. It’s like trying to force a connection with a stranger.

I don’t know what you suggested to that guy, but I steer clear of anyone that wants to do anything vaguely “coupley” outside of having a drink.

I understand I might be in the minority with my views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are a lot of people on here, especially single guys, who do view it as a hook up/sex site and seem to think it's appropriate to treat people as if they are basically free prostitutes. They speak & behave in ways they never would have the balls to do face to face & then whine when they don't get the response they want.

There are some good, genuine, people on here. Unfortunately they are well hidden. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree the situation you mentioned must be frustrating. But at the same time I think a lot of people do use this site as if it’s a dating site.

Just today I’ve seen people putting statuses asking people to come over for “cuddles in front of the tv” and “takeaway and giggles”. I find that weird. Weirder than meeting for just sex. It’s like trying to force a connection with a stranger.

I don’t know what you suggested to that guy, but I steer clear of anyone that wants to do anything vaguely “coupley” outside of having a drink.

I understand I might be in the minority with my views."

I guess some people like a softer approach..? I wouldn’t choose Fab as a way to obtain cuddles personally but each to their own.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol"

It's a swinging site not a sex site,that is being spoilt by people who dont understand how it all realy works

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We find it a very informative site, especially around those we wouldn’t want to meet.

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

We always call ourselves shit swingers as we're regular club goers, but spend far more of our time socialising and dancing than actually having sex...

Tbh couldn't care less if we play with others or just us two, we're there for a fun night out.

If anything more happens that's great, if not we still have a 'fab'tastic night regardless!

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Totally agree with op

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol"
. You use the site in the way you want to.If you prefer a social first to see if there is a connection then that is your right.At the end of the day if someone is rude to you just report to admin and block them.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"We'd add that this is indeed a swinging site ,the clue is in the sites name .

Single guys are looking for sex and aren't swinger's as they are ,as said ,single .

We,the couples are swinger's as we are including and/or swapping and as such it's our rules that rule here.

No idea if that is the correct usage of the term swinger but it's ours ."

Couples alone don't make the rules here. Aside from the basic site ones, everyone can make their own rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree the situation you mentioned must be frustrating. But at the same time I think a lot of people do use this site as if it’s a dating site.

Just today I’ve seen people putting statuses asking people to come over for “cuddles in front of the tv” and “takeaway and giggles”. I find that weird. Weirder than meeting for just sex. It’s like trying to force a connection with a stranger.

I don’t know what you suggested to that guy, but I steer clear of anyone that wants to do anything vaguely “coupley” outside of having a drink.

I understand I might be in the minority with my views.

I guess some people like a softer approach..? I wouldn’t choose Fab as a way to obtain cuddles personally but each to their own."

I guess so, but I find things like cuddling or spending alone time to be very intimate and opening up to someone seems way more intense than just a wham bam and go. I’m a deeply empathetic person (you probably can’t tell from my posts) and I find it quite difficult to do those kinds of things with someone unless there is a genuine connection that’s formed naturally.

On the other hand - Sex, or going for a drink seems fine. It doesn’t feel that intimate or pressured to me. It doesn’t cross that line.

I bet there’s a lot of men that feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great replies and agree with nearly all, its when you get the “im near you, fancy a fuck” or “come and join me at my hotel in half hr” ...... almost forgetting there is a MALE side involved, or think im just a piece of cheap meat, one guy even messaged and said he wanted a meet within half hr, hadnt even seen our faces and when we explained we dont, and cant, just meet like that (busy lives, jobs and children to think about far out-ways swinging for us) the reply was ............... “don't really like fat birds anyway!!

Unreal

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"Great replies and agree with nearly all, its when you get the “im near you, fancy a fuck” or “come and join me at my hotel in half hr” ...... almost forgetting there is a MALE side involved, or think im just a piece of cheap meat, one guy even messaged and said he wanted a meet within half hr, hadnt even seen our faces and when we explained we dont, and cant, just meet like that (busy lives, jobs and children to think about far out-ways swinging for us) the reply was ............... “don't really like fat birds anyway!!

Unreal"
Thats bloody cheeky but had the same thing ,it was just a qui=k shag at me .

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

It happens to me and then it's usually an insult about my age.Dollies hurled from prams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree the situation you mentioned must be frustrating. But at the same time I think a lot of people do use this site as if it’s a dating site.

Just today I’ve seen people putting statuses asking people to come over for “cuddles in front of the tv” and “takeaway and giggles”. I find that weird. Weirder than meeting for just sex. It’s like trying to force a connection with a stranger.

I don’t know what you suggested to that guy, but I steer clear of anyone that wants to do anything vaguely “coupley” outside of having a drink.

I understand I might be in the minority with my views.

I guess some people like a softer approach..? I wouldn’t choose Fab as a way to obtain cuddles personally but each to their own.

I guess so, but I find things like cuddling or spending alone time to be very intimate and opening up to someone seems way more intense than just a wham bam and go. I’m a deeply empathetic person (you probably can’t tell from my posts) and I find it quite difficult to do those kinds of things with someone unless there is a genuine connection that’s formed naturally.

On the other hand - Sex, or going for a drink seems fine. It doesn’t feel that intimate or pressured to me. It doesn’t cross that line.

I bet there’s a lot of men that feel the same."

You have managed to surprise me. But I love the honesty of this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“It's a sex site not a dating site”... most often used by those who aren't getting their own way.

Use the site as you please. I do. It states clearly on my profile what I'm after yet constantly get bombarded with snarky remarks or stroppy messages because I don't "fancy a fuck now?" With a total stranger x

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By *wing66Couple
over a year ago

Burton-upon-trent

It's a swinging site, not just all about sex. Want just sex go to a prostitute

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Different people are here for different reasons. I'm here for sex primarily.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If the only choices are a sex site or a dating site then it has to lean towards sex. A dating site it's not.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

If guys want a quick fuck then they should hire an escort if they can afford it. Second thoughts just have a wank.

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By *ruceMan
over a year ago

Nr Messingham

[Removed by poster at 28/12/19 17:53:43]

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

So dollies stay in the pram.

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

So what if your a singke man and you want both. Friendship and sex. I find that people are very distrustful of single men on this site.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I get it often, I just think "sad little boys" block and move on xx

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By *ruceMan
over a year ago

Nr Messingham

People should just respect whatever personal rules members wish to have. There is no reason a meet could not evolve into something beyond just swing fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So what if your a singke man and you want both. Friendship and sex. I find that people are very distrustful of single men on this site."

Mainly because the majority of the time its the asshole guys that give the genuine ones a bad name and for us personally makes us very wary and untrusting to begin with, no digs at all single men but lets face it, its mainly the pushy “toy throwing” single guys that are drowning this site and making it harder for genuine people to find genuine people

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"So what if your a singke man and you want both. Friendship and sex. I find that people are very distrustful of single men on this site.

Mainly because the majority of the time its the asshole guys that give the genuine ones a bad name and for us personally makes us very wary and untrusting to begin with, no digs at all single men but lets face it, its mainly the pushy “toy throwing” single guys that are drowning this site and making it harder for genuine people to find genuine people"

Im a really getting that vibe. As a result I am genuinly looking at other websites catering for more single men. The problem with the pay to play sites is not the cost. Its the fact that they are full of fakes, bots and con artists. That is why i like fab. Unfortunately it is such a tough nut to crack because it is being spoilt by dicks. Im not looking for love, neither am i looking for a one off quick shag. But at the moment I dont think ill find anything on here because people are so guarded now. Sorry whining the usual single man whine but unfortunately its true.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So what if your a singke man and you want both. Friendship and sex. I find that people are very distrustful of single men on this site."

Go to clubs or socials, meet people, get a good reputation. It'll help.

And it's not distrusting single guys, honestly, it's that there's so many of you and most of those don't bother to make the effort to interest us.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"People should just respect whatever personal rules members wish to have. There is no reason a meet could not evolve into something beyond just swing fun."

My hope entirely.....!!

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Yes it is but don't stop you meeting someone more permanent if you get on way not

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport


"We'd add that this is indeed a swinging site ,the clue is in the sites name .

Single guys are looking for sex and aren't swinger's as they are ,as said ,single .

We,the couples are swinger's as we are including and/or swapping and as such it's our rules that rule here.

No idea if that is the correct usage of the term swinger but it's ours ."

I’m sorry to tell you this, but your views on swinging are no longer the majority, there are tens of thousands on here most days, most don’t frequent the chat rooms, forums or social events. Couples and singles are making their own rules and swinging their way, not some narrow definition. My local updates is filled with couples often asking for sex that day or straightaway. Maybe a quick social first, but rarely saying let’s make friends first. The swinging scene is what people want it to be and every one including single men can decide what’s best for them.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Like most things in life, take out of it what works for you or move on if it stops working for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just like to add also not just the toy throwing assholes but also the guys that dont understand why we wont entertain them because they are married and cheating

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"It’s whatever you want to make it and don’t take notice of the nay-sayers, doom merchants and mood hooverers."

Exactly this ...

Fuck em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol"

We are looking for a long term buddy and like yourselves we want more than just a shag.

We are of the opinion that 95% of the men here are married/attached and are only here for a quick shag without the Wife knowing!

The messages that we receive seem to reflect our thoughts and feelings.

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"So what if your a singke man and you want both. Friendship and sex. I find that people are very distrustful of single men on this site.

Go to clubs or socials, meet people, get a good reputation. It'll help.

And it's not distrusting single guys, honestly, it's that there's so many of you and most of those don't bother to make the effort to interest us. "

Your spot on. If i genuinely want to be successful on here i need to grow a pair and visit the clubs. Not done it before and i was hoping in this site i might find somebody likeminded to help me with that. I have i think but we shall see if it pans out. However if i go by myself then the question is did i really need this website at all. Suppose i get a discount.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol

We are looking for a long term buddy and like yourselves we want more than just a shag.

We are of the opinion that 95% of the men here are married/attached and are only here for a quick shag without the Wife knowing!

The messages that we receive seem to reflect our thoughts and feelings.

"

^^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I'm okay with whatever. If someone wants NSA sex, cool. FWB? Awesome. To date? I'm down.

Ultimately I do want a relationship and I know I'm probably not gonna find it on here. But in the meantime, whilst I'm looking for that special someone to have a romantic relationship with, I wouldn't turn down a quick hook-up with someone I never see again or turn away someone who wanted to develop a FWB relationship with me.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

At times I question its ability on both fronts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To us it's a swinging site!

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By *ezmanyorksMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I am definitely of the mind that this site is whatever you want it to be to you, and others need to understand that, there really is something and someone for pretty much everyone here, so if people don’t flick each other’s switches, they should be adult enough to shuffle along with a bit of dignity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it’s a swinging site. Place to meet open minded people like myself.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I've had couples message me to see if I'm free now.

I've had couples expect me to organise a gangbang for them the same day.

So don't just point the finger at single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that it is whatever you want it to be but some people only seem to want friendships and socials. Some women seem to just want to be taken out. Personally we are here for sex as we have friends but it is nice to get on with those we meet. Sarah

(I know many will disagree with my thoughts but I don't need to be moaned at about them. Thanks)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are lot of time wasters on here. Which does detract on how much the site can be when people do interact. There’s nothing worse than chatting to someone for quite a bit, then they suddenly get cold feet or not fussed kinda vibe. I originally came on here, positive about having fun. Now I’m kinda (meh). I am openly looking into other sites, realistically I’m just checking in now and again chatting with friends I’ve made on here. If people on here differ on what this site is, that is a problem. To be honest if I’m anything, I’m a shit swinger. If the idea of a swinger club is dancin* my ass off with no pressure to get it on, then I’m in.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's a swinging site.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Love the nails and the earrings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if their 'quick fk and go doesn't matter what you look like' ever work?

Please have the balls to let us know on this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such comments are made by insular, narrow minded individuals who cannot recognise the power of intellectual connection, that human beings naturally and through evolution need to socialise and be in other’s company! With or without humping like wild animals!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree!! Some use it as a hook up site and don't understand when told no, why they are told no! Swinging isn't random sex, it's respecting the other person and understanding that (unless you want it to be) one off hook ups are not swinging. Sorry to the good single men here, but it's gets beyond tiring having to explain I don't want just sex, I want more than that need a connection and also not just a one off... That's my personal choice. Sex is great, but for me regular sex with someone you get on with is better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples here meet to swap their wife

Or husband

Some here have met and dated

Even got married and have kids

So it's anything really

Single people join and its not fair to say we are just here to fuck... The site can be anything you want it to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us we will fairly rapidly arrange an initial play meet with sensible people who look like they will be fun, if we play and it is fun and we click then we can expand on that with repeat meets etc if it’s not fun we move on. Success with swinging involves effort, compromise, being nice people, sadly something that’s lacking in the community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us we will fairly rapidly arrange an initial play meet with sensible people who look like they will be fun, if we play and it is fun and we click then we can expand on that with repeat meets etc if it’s not fun we move on. Success with swinging involves effort, compromise, being nice people, sadly something that’s lacking in the community."

I agree with this, there does appear to be some people here that just like posting pics for people to look at, with no intention of meeting. I have met people offline not from this site. That are more into swinging than most on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not either, its a swinging site, alot dont understand that, unfortunatly often single men, who think swinger means shag anyone, for us swinging is more social than sex

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol"

It's simply because you've said no,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think often it's forgotten that there are people being every profile. Yes there's swing or sex involved but alot don't think of actual people. Chatted to some wonderful people on here that I'm so glad to have met because I wouldn't have met them otherwise unfortunately. Open minded chats, discussions helped me realise my likes and new sides to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Under my old profile I never had a meet that didn’t end up without some kind of sexual activity so would say it’s a sex site !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter? Of you don't want to speak to certain people there are message filters, also the more people on here the better right? You want options do you not? Is that not why you're here lol. As I've said you have control who you talk to, do you not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just gotta conquer the quality now - quantity is definitely in abundance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s actually a swingers site. And swinging is a way of life not just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one thing for sure the forums do not represent is the views of fab or swinging as a whole its such a tiny % percentage so let those who swing differently get on with it their way and not the way of so few in a forum of so little impact

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Love the nails and the earrings "

Thanks, just posted a bracelet and earrings set I made lol. X

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Love the nails and the earrings

Thanks, just posted a bracelet and earrings set I made lol. X"
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Ooh they are lovely

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

It's not just physical and it's not just sex.

There has to be a connection - otherwise we may as well just sit alone in a dark room with a rude boy and a fleshlight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol"

We can only agree with you guys, the social side is just as important as the sex. We love to tell these kind of people that No, it's not a sex site, it's a swinger site and if they don't understand the difference it's their loss. Sadly more and more people are here who think about swinging as fucking around with random people regardless who they are. We respect if others feel other way, it's just not who we are.

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By *bob1202Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"It’s actually a swingers site. And swinging is a way of life not just sex. "

You know upon reflection i realise that and really swinging is predominantly a couples game. Perhaps we can have a sister site called fab singles. This where single people who want explore swinging can meet and make connections.

Either way i think i may not find a partner in crime here. Its okay though on the whole ive met some lovely people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’m the same OP. I think half the fun is in the build up to a meet anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's simple

If someone wants to kneel before my cock and Iam free then great.

For my wife, she wants to have chatted a while and seen pictures to help her form an opinion

Men think with the dick

Women with the brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s actually a swingers site. And swinging is a way of life not just sex.

You know upon reflection i realise that and really swinging is predominantly a couples game. Perhaps we can have a sister site called fab singles. This where single people who want explore swinging can meet and make connections.

Either way i think i may not find a partner in crime here. Its okay though on the whole ive met some lovely people."

Absolutely no need for another site this one isn’t for couples only. It’s for anyone to use how they wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s actually a swingers site. And swinging is a way of life not just sex.

You know upon reflection i realise that and really swinging is predominantly a couples game. Perhaps we can have a sister site called fab singles. This where single people who want explore swinging can meet and make connections.

Either way i think i may not find a partner in crime here. Its okay though on the whole ive met some lovely people."

I think they tried it a few years ago. It didn’t take off and closed down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think half the fun is in the build up to a meet anyway. "

Definitely better to have a connection before meeting, whether for social or more.

Means you at least have something to talk about, rather than that awkward realisation you have nothing in common

Some people just don't read profiles, thankfully (as I've learnt) blocking them is easy peasy

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Guys don't read profiles end of. I prefer guys who do and are respectful not presumptuous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our mind set also, well said and good to see another couple doing it the right way xx

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Just because we don't do “drop of the hat meets” and prefer to actually get to know playmates and have some sort of connection and enjoy the banter and build up with potential meets, why does this instigate replies from guys that are just rude and throw the whole “its a sex site not a dating site” line in?

This isn't a sex site to us and swinging (as far as we have always understood) is more than just “wanna meet now” ... “fancy a fuck in half hour” ..... like yeah ok let me just put my coat on see you in 10 even tho you know nothing about us or even seen what we actually look like pmsl

Yeah we do block and move on but does piss us off a little lol"

We totally agree. The irony being that it’s the most unflattering attitude and a total oxymoron. They get an instant block from us.

Ed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s actually a swingers site. And swinging is a way of life not just sex.

You know upon reflection i realise that and really swinging is predominantly a couples game. Perhaps we can have a sister site called fab singles. This where single people who want explore swinging can meet and make connections.

Either way i think i may not find a partner in crime here. Its okay though on the whole ive met some lovely people.

Absolutely no need for another site this one isn’t for couples only. It’s for anyone to use how they wish. "

Yeah, and let's be honest, it's not like a site catered to singles is gonna even things up for men anyway. I couldn't give a shit either way, but they'll probably have worse luck on there than they do on here since there'll be an even higher ratio of men to women on there.

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By *he massage manMan
over a year ago

filey


"We always call ourselves shit swingers as we're regular club goers, but spend far more of our time socialising and dancing than actually having sex...

Tbh couldn't care less if we play with others or just us two, we're there for a fun night out.

If anything more happens that's great, if not we still have a 'fab'tastic night regardless! "

That is exactly what I remember about the scene when I started in fact if a couple had been in several times and not played then asked you well you had won the lottery!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s actually a swingers site. And swinging is a way of life not just sex. "

This is it exactly. It's not fuck and go, although it can be if both agree. It is a lifestyle choice, and for me, there are too many people around who just don't get that. I enjoy the social side and the clubs/parties, but finding a guy who is respectful, intelligent, sociable and good in bed seems like a tall order at the moment.

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By *lack_alembicMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"I enjoy the social side and the clubs/parties, but finding a guy who is respectful, intelligent, sociable and good in bed seems like a tall order at the moment."

There are a few people looking for this myself included in search of a couple (F+M) for more of the lifestyle side of swinging than just sex..I still retain faith they are out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men who wanna shag around are better off on Tinder or especially Badoo IMO. Despite it being, on the face of it, less sex focused.

Best way is deception, you pretend you're looking for love then you ghost once you've had it. One for the conscience.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Single men who wanna shag around are better off on Tinder or especially Badoo IMO. Despite it being, on the face of it, less sex focused.

Best way is deception, you pretend you're looking for love then you ghost once you've had it. One for the conscience."

Lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not advocating it. And I don't practice it.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’m a single female but have met single guys on here and have played as a couple and created couples profiles. So I do use it as both a site to meet guys and a site to meet couples as both a single bi female and as a couple.

For me there’s a crossover and without using it as a site to meet guys I wouldn’t be swinging. But also there are couples looking for singles males/females and therefore we need singles on Fab as well.

I know several singles who have ended up in relationships from meeting on Fab. I’ve even been to a Fab wedding.

We all have to start somewhere when it comes to swinging.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I’m a single female but have met single guys on here and have played as a couple and created couples profiles. So I do use it as both a site to meet guys and a site to meet couples as both a single bi female and as a couple.

For me there’s a crossover and without using it as a site to meet guys I wouldn’t be swinging. But also there are couples looking for singles males/females and therefore we need singles on Fab as well.

I know several singles who have ended up in relationships from meeting on Fab. I’ve even been to a Fab wedding.

We all have to start somewhere when it comes to swinging.

"

I met my partner on here, we are moving in together this month. It's worked for us. Dating sites havent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it reads back a lot nastier than I meant it.

But still, I don't do it and don't think it's on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men who wanna shag around are better off on Tinder or especially Badoo IMO. Despite it being, on the face of it, less sex focused.

Best way is deception, you pretend you're looking for love then you ghost once you've had it. One for the conscience."

Errrrr ok,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah it reads back a lot nastier than I meant it.

But still, I don't do it and don't think it's on."

You don’t think what’s on? People having sex from meeting on a sex based site ? Errr ok dude why are you here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I mean leading people on and lying to them to get it isn't on.

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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago

East Lancashire


"I think there are a lot of people on here, especially single guys, who do view it as a hook up/sex site and seem to think it's appropriate to treat people as if they are basically free prostitutes. They speak & behave in ways they never would have the balls to do face to face & then whine when they don't get the response they want.

There are some good, genuine, people on here. Unfortunately they are well hidden. "

Hit the nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah I mean leading people on and lying to them to get it isn't on."

Ohhh we’ll surely they are better in sites like this as opposed to tinder etc (they as in people you refer to) that way they can be upfront of their intentions and NSA

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Nah I mean leading people on and lying to them to get it isn't on."

Good news then

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By *appypaul69Man
over a year ago

vale

For me swinging isn’t just about the sex, it’s making connections with like minded people. Ideally I’d love to meet someone who I’d encourage to keep the lifestyle. I don’t think I could go back to a vanilla relationship as monogamy isn’t natural, this way it’s honest and open.... oooh and sexy ??

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