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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane

So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening x

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By *attoodchapMan
over a year ago

Swansea

It's the one thing that gives the genuine guys a bad name! Spend all that time to get a meet and bottle it last minute, I'd understand a genuine excuse (we all have emergencies from time to time!)

Don't take it personally, it's totally his loss!

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By *mudge354Man
over a year ago

Mid Sussex

Not a clue sexy lady, It so frustrating. Those of us that are genuine and want to meet have to compete with people like that. I hope he has not put you off.

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By *atonMan
over a year ago

barnet

So its exclusively single guys who do this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"It's the one thing that gives the genuine guys a bad name! Spend all that time to get a meet and bottle it last minute, I'd understand a genuine excuse (we all have emergencies from time to time!)

Don't take it personally, it's totally his loss! "

By clearly he plans to meet someone .... Just weird!!! Thanks though xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Women do it too and couples. It's a way of saying they have a better or different offer or that they've changed their mind. It's happened to us a few times.

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"Not a clue sexy lady, It so frustrating. Those of us that are genuine and want to meet have to compete with people like that. I hope he has not put you off. "

No I'm not put off just frustrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So its exclusively single guys who do this?"

No one said that I'm sure couple's and women have done it also

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"So its exclusively single guys who do this?"

Possibly never thought about it, I generally don't meet attached guys so in all likelihood yes

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

This has never happened to me, they'd get blocked if it did. Were you meeting for a social? Maybe they thought they'd chance their arm to get guaranteed sex with someone else? Who knows, it's a dick move in any case.

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"Women do it too and couples. It's a way of saying they have a better or different offer or that they've changed their mind. It's happened to us a few times. "

Then why not say you've changed your mind .... I do

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick "

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"This has never happened to me, they'd get blocked if it did. Were you meeting for a social? Maybe they thought they'd chance their arm to get guaranteed sex with someone else? Who knows, it's a dick move in any case. "

No we've had a social already this was going to be a play meet this time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion"

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering you had met before this is pretty surprising. I've had a few guys bail last minute and I imagine it's all nerves?

His loss, you look like a goddess!

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I've had a few women do this in the past. Soooo disappointing, especially given the difficulty finding compatible single women.

The least anyone, of either gender, can do is be up front if they've made arrangements and can't (or no longer want to) follow them through.

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact "

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"This has never happened to me, they'd get blocked if it did. Were you meeting for a social? Maybe they thought they'd chance their arm to get guaranteed sex with someone else? Who knows, it's a dick move in any case.

No we've had a social already this was going to be a play meet this time"

Oh that's weird then. I guess he just changed his mind and wasn't man enough to tell you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So its exclusively single guys who do this?

No one said that I'm sure couple's and women have done it also"

Collectively you all do

Could be nicer to just say no thanks

Players make my skin crawl.

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"Considering you had met before this is pretty surprising. I've had a few guys bail last minute and I imagine it's all nerves?

His loss, you look like a goddess!"

Aww thanks I assure you I'm just an average kinda gal.... Who just happens to have a filthy mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning"

Wife decided not to go to her mums after all

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I've had a few women do this in the past. Soooo disappointing, especially given the difficulty finding compatible single women.

The least anyone, of either gender, can do is be up front if they've made arrangements and can't (or no longer want to) follow them through. "

I agree

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

Wife decided not to go to her mums after all"

Ha ha

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

Wife decided not to go to her mums after all"

That would have been my thought, but he's posted for another meet so he's obviously free.

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"So its exclusively single guys who do this?

No one said that I'm sure couple's and women have done it also

Collectively you all do

Could be nicer to just say no thanks

Players make my skin crawl.

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Waste of bloody time.... Harrumph

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By *attoodchapMan
over a year ago

Swansea

I think honestly goes a long way too....if you've changed your mind just say it, too far to travel, just say it, didn't enjoy the social meet....just bloody say it!

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

Wife decided not to go to her mums after all

That would have been my thought, but he's posted for another meet so he's obviously free. "

And I know he's divorced and if it was simply he now had to have his kids or something he wouldn't have posted a meet!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Women do it too and couples. It's a way of saying they have a better or different offer or that they've changed their mind. It's happened to us a few times.

Then why not say you've changed your mind .... I do"

Because people don't like saying potentially upsetting things, it makes them feel bad, if they do it this way it only makes you feel bad.

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I think honestly goes a long way too....if you've changed your mind just say it, too far to travel, just say it, didn't enjoy the social meet....just bloody say it! "

Absolutely agree. We are all grown ups!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

Wife decided not to go to her mums after all

That would have been my thought, but he's posted for another meet so he's obviously free. "

Or just enjoys knowing he can still pull attractive ladies, but isnt actually allowed out until he's grouted the bathroom tiles

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"Women do it too and couples. It's a way of saying they have a better or different offer or that they've changed their mind. It's happened to us a few times.

Then why not say you've changed your mind .... I do

Because people don't like saying potentially upsetting things, it makes them feel bad, if they do it this way it only makes you feel bad."

Maybe yes. Doesn't get him a play mate though does it

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

Wife decided not to go to her mums after all

That would have been my thought, but he's posted for another meet so he's obviously free.

Or just enjoys knowing he can still pull attractive ladies, but isnt actually allowed out until he's grouted the bathroom tiles"

Ha ha

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I've had a few women do this in the past. Soooo disappointing, especially given the difficulty finding compatible single women.

The least anyone, of either gender, can do is be up front if they've made arrangements and can't (or no longer want to) follow them through. "

Learnt a lesson early on when let down by an singles avatar after and hours drive. Never again! No pic, no meet.

Even that went wrong on one occasion after a similar journey. She later apologised for her getting cold feet.

Couples are much more reliable.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Cos men can be knobs if I say I meet I do don't know why men have to be like that but it's not just men couples and female do the same at times

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I've had a few women do this in the past. Soooo disappointing, especially given the difficulty finding compatible single women.

The least anyone, of either gender, can do is be up front if they've made arrangements and can't (or no longer want to) follow them through.

Sorry that happened to you, ice been left sitting in a pub carpark waiting for a guy to show before. It's a shitty move

Learnt a lesson early on when let down by an singles avatar after and hours drive. Never again! No pic, no meet.

Even that went wrong on one occasion after a similar journey. She later apologised for her getting cold feet.

Couples are much more reliable."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Women do it too and couples. It's a way of saying they have a better or different offer or that they've changed their mind. It's happened to us a few times.

Then why not say you've changed your mind .... I do

Because people don't like saying potentially upsetting things, it makes them feel bad, if they do it this way it only makes you feel bad.

Maybe yes. Doesn't get him a play mate though does it "

It's fairly unusual to find people who will say they've changed their mind or they have an offer of a different meet so could they rearrange. Something in our conditioning makes it more acceptable to lie or avoid causing confusion and longer term upset than to say nicely "I've reconsidered" or " I've got a one time chance to get a blow job who's being winched off a cruise liner, can we reschedule for Monday"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning"

It's shit it doesn't take much to send a quick message I've had it with a regular no message sent I have him more chances but he did it again so that was it I didn't anymore.

More fool me for giving another chance but I thought he would actually turn up or message to let me know

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"Cos men can be knobs if I say I meet I do don't know why men have to be like that but it's not just men couples and female do the same at times"

I'm sure they do , but my experience of couples is they show up and I don't meet ladies alone lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A blow job while being winched. I HATE this autocorrect

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

It's shit it doesn't take much to send a quick message I've had it with a regular no message sent I have him more chances but he did it again so that was it I didn't anymore.

More fool me for giving another chance but I thought he would actually turn up or message to let me know"

To be fair he had let me down for the social before and I'd given him more chances ..... So I guess I'm the idiot!

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"A blow job while being winched. I HATE this autocorrect "

Lol I understood x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a sizeable population of players on here now, driven by Fab’s increasing notoriety. They go for the ‘yes’, lose interest after they have that, cancel the meet at short notice and often come back to see if they can sweet talk you into a second ‘yes’. Don’t be surprised if he pops up again in a month or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening x"
happened to me just before Christmas.. then t'da a verification from another meet.. lol

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"There’s a sizeable population of players on here now, driven by Fab’s increasing notoriety. They go for the ‘yes’, lose interest after they have that, cancel the meet at short notice and often come back to see if they can sweet talk you into a second ‘yes’. Don’t be surprised if he pops up again in a month or so."

Oh I've met the boomerangs!! They just keep coming back even though for some reason you weren't worth it before .... Always put that down to being horny and lazy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

It's shit it doesn't take much to send a quick message I've had it with a regular no message sent I have him more chances but he did it again so that was it I didn't anymore.

More fool me for giving another chance but I thought he would actually turn up or message to let me know

To be fair he had let me down for the social before and I'd given him more chances ..... So I guess I'm the idiot!"

No you're not an idiot most people like to give people the benefit of doubt and give another chance I'm sure a lot of us have on here, you have to set rules and make them clear to the person/ person's you want to meet ie. One chance only if you can't make it send a message to let me know and we will maybe reschedule

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening xhappened to me just before Christmas.. then t'da a verification from another meet.. lol"

Grrrr ....

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

It's shit it doesn't take much to send a quick message I've had it with a regular no message sent I have him more chances but he did it again so that was it I didn't anymore.

More fool me for giving another chance but I thought he would actually turn up or message to let me know

To be fair he had let me down for the social before and I'd given him more chances ..... So I guess I'm the idiot!

No you're not an idiot most people like to give people the benefit of doubt and give another chance I'm sure a lot of us have on here, you have to set rules and make them clear to the person/ person's you want to meet ie. One chance only if you can't make it send a message to let me know and we will maybe reschedule"

To be fair I would rather believe in the goodness of people overall

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A blow job while being winched. I HATE this autocorrect

Lol I understood x"

I was having a similar conversation with our son last night. He was having trouble understanding why someone was asking friends about him rather than just approaching him directly on a difficult subject. I said more or less the same to him, people just can't take open communication if they think it will lead to awkward or unpleasant conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning

It's shit it doesn't take much to send a quick message I've had it with a regular no message sent I have him more chances but he did it again so that was it I didn't anymore.

More fool me for giving another chance but I thought he would actually turn up or message to let me know

To be fair he had let me down for the social before and I'd given him more chances ..... So I guess I'm the idiot!

No you're not an idiot most people like to give people the benefit of doubt and give another chance I'm sure a lot of us have on here, you have to set rules and make them clear to the person/ person's you want to meet ie. One chance only if you can't make it send a message to let me know and we will maybe reschedule

To be fair I would rather believe in the goodness of people overall"

Me too but it's not easy on here nowadays you can try though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has the horn...enjoys the 'chase element' up until the meet day. Has a wank...horn issue resolved, reality of meeting an actual person and having to perform. Bottles it. Don't take it personally...

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

It really gets my back up , there are genuine good guys on hear ,all ways turn up when arranged,showerd fresh and smelling nice all over , it's getting a joke on hear regarding dick heads ,fakes ,guys pretending to be couples, no shows , like some one said above ,,he's wife never went out ha ha

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I've had this from women, it's quite annoying really. Especially irritating when it's your one day off work in the last ten days and it's too late to arrange anything g else at short notice. In factb it feels to me like if people DON'T flake it's unusual.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Yeah, we have this happen to us. A guy we'd met and played with. Was pestering us for another meet. Morning noon and night. We do work, so could't. He promised to come to my birthday gangbang. Boom, that morning of my birthday, he posted a meet for him and his new fb, hosting at play at his place that evening. Did not tale Sherlock to figure out he was not coming to ours.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I agree with the person that said they are changing their luck for a better offer.

There's only one way to deal with blokes like this ~ block!

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"Yeah, we have this happen to us. A guy we'd met and played with. Was pestering us for another meet. Morning noon and night. We do work, so could't. He promised to come to my birthday gangbang. Boom, that morning of my birthday, he posted a meet for him and his new fb, hosting at play at his place that evening. Did not tale Sherlock to figure out he was not coming to ours. "

Again why not let you know .... Things change in fabland I get that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening x"

I think it’s because some people are just arseholes. But I’m sure it’s not just the men

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By *asmine73 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Brisbane


"Has the horn...enjoys the 'chase element' up until the meet day. Has a wank...horn issue resolved, reality of meeting an actual person and having to perform. Bottles it. Don't take it personally..."

I think you may have hit the nail on the head, though I've been careful to not give him wank fodder!

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

Ha ha and they say men are idiots pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our male half would be happy with a meet, and won’t back out last minute.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Ha ha and they say men are idiots pmsl"

Do they? That's not very nice.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Ha ha and they say men are idiots pmsl"

So you're saying women are?

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street


"Ha ha and they say men are idiots pmsl

So you're saying women are? "

Just different views I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening xhappened to me just before Christmas.. then t'da a verification from another meet.. lol

Grrrr ...."

Delete, block and move on.. their loss not ours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t no why people do it not just guys had a few women do it too x

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Happens with guys and gals

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think some people like the chase, even if they don't follow through. It's a wank fodder or ego stroking pursuit.

Better to have learned that they won't follow through before you get stood up somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done it, te few times I've managed to arrange a meet I've gone through with it. It's happened to me a couple of times, though - one of the women told me afterwards that she just assumed I wouldn't show up, so she made alternative arrangements.

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening x"

The same happened to me today. I have been speaking with this guy for few weeks and we even exchanged numbers and talked about time when to meet and than few hours before he went awol. Not first time. There is so many man crying they don’t get meets but most of them get cold feet!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Fantasists

There are many of them on every site.

Like the idea until it becomes real, then panic stations

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"Fantasists

There are many of them on every site.

Like the idea until it becomes real, then panic stations "

90% of guys suck (and not in that way)

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Well I will say this they are very lucky to have a lady or a couple to invite them for a meeting..AND I WOULD NOT LET ANYONE DOWN FOR A MEETING if only I got asked

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Sorry to hear this OP.. It gives guys a bad rep..

On the flip side, I'd say I've been led on by quite a few women on here too, so it happens both ways.

Hang in there, there'll be another who won't let you down.... At least that's what i keep telling myself.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening x"

It can be for loads of reasons such as

They got scared. Swinging excites them but the reality scares them.

They are not really single and couldn't get out to meet you.

They get a kick out of stringing women along.

Their ego needs to know if they are still sexually attractive to women.

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By *unnyPairCouple
over a year ago

Seminole

Maybe your latest status update scared him off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully the rant helped, I'm sure you'll get another meet soon enough.

XXX

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By *heekyweebissimWoman
over a year ago

fife,

I think most of us in this lifestyle have experienced similar but I would really like to hear from the people that have done it to others, if they are brave enough to own up and tell us why.

I appreciate the ladies and gents that say they never have or would but what about the ones that do?

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By *unkey_DuckCouple
over a year ago

Kingslynn

Sounds like he's into the meet but will never actually go through with it for whatever reason. Tons of people arrange to meet and get cold feet. Sounds like he's one of the ones that likes to catch a meet but has no intention of ever meeting. They are a thing i'm affraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So perhaps someone can enlighten me .....

Imagine chatting with a guy for sometime, it's been going well and you both want to meet. As if by magic your diaries align and you agree you both have availability to meet the next day at some point. When you check in to see if it's still on you start getting flaky replies like 'I'm not available until later now', so ok you think, things change I get that.

Then you log in and find the same guy has posted a meet request for that day. Irritates the hell out of me and I just don't get it. Why bother talking and arranging a meet if you have no intention of ever going through with it ..... Such a waste of time.

Ok rant over! Thanks for listening x"

Because there’s been too much build up and pressure for him, and rather than explaining that he’s just moved on

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

It’s obvious some guys lower their standards on here for sex ..

Ladies believe the hype, but when it comes down to it the bloke realises he has higher standards..

Blokes are allowed standards ..

Even though they’re treated as second class people on here .

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"It’s obvious some guys lower their standards on here for sex ..

Ladies believe the hype, but when it comes down to it the bloke realises he has higher standards..

Blokes are allowed standards ..

Even though they’re treated as second class people on here ."

How does this relate to what the, OP posted?

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By *heekyweebissimWoman
over a year ago

fife,


"It’s obvious some guys lower their standards on here for sex ..

Ladies believe the hype, but when it comes down to it the bloke realises he has higher standards..

Blokes are allowed standards ..

Even though they’re treated as second class people on here ."

Thanks for the honest answer and yes they are allowed standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with this site is the men to women and couples ratio is off the scale, couple that with morons who just are in it for the thrill of the chase and they get us all a bad name

Not all men are flaky and the ones that are just give us recent men a bad name

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I can't answer that but it's happened to me too, also been let down but the guy had a meet with someone else.

I think it's because some men like to play women it gives them some kind of kick

Maybe that's it. Just odd in my opinion

I agree I try to avoid it and have more recently you normally get some feeling or clue when they are playing you or have no intention of meeting, I usually either say something if it's getting to me or I will just delete them and stop contact

No signs this time, was chatting away last night and discussing ideas and thoughts. Then all change this morning"

Personally, in the past, the times I've decided not to meet was we'd already discussed ideas and thoughts that the actual meet seemed like an anticlimax.

Perhaps he felt the same way too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women do it too and couples. It's a way of saying they have a better or different offer or that they've changed their mind. It's happened to us a few times.

Then why not say you've changed your mind .... I do

Because people don't like saying potentially upsetting things, it makes them feel bad, if they do it this way it only makes you feel bad."

Good point. It's very frustrating tho.

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