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Female half meeting alone for the first time - advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, we have been discussing the possibility of D meeting alone with a guy or a girl ideally at a hotel. We have set a couple of initial rules such as she must send updates, it's not to be overnight and if neither of us enjoys it we don’t do it again simple as that.

I (K) keep lurching from extremely turned on to pangs of worry at not being fully involved (both of us involved has always been our thing). Both of us are interested in this it’s not one pushing it on the other.

We would love to hear any advice or experiences and of course if anyone is interested (must be Manchester area)

Long arsed post over

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It can work and does for many BUT if you're both not 100% sure, or waver between the extremes you suggest, then my advice would be not to do it or at least sit down and talk it through and keep talking it through until you're both absolutely certain it's what you want - if there are already cracks in your relationship (even tiny ones) it has the potential to make them wider.

It's quite normal of course to have pangs of jealousy and excitement and a whole lot more, and for some that is the kick they get from it. And there's no way of knowing how you will actually feel without going down that route but it's a dangerous (and some would say unfair on the third party) game to play unless you're sure.

As a half-way house type compromise how about going to a club on a night when single men are allowed, find a suitable guy then hubby goes to the social area while the lady and the guy have fun, on the condition that if hubby feels he wants/needs to he can return and join in at any time? At least that way you get an idea of how it might feel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice we are very solid in our relationship so we don’t need to worry there. We have always adopted the try it and if we like it carry on if not then we don’t do it again and there is no blame either way. Has worked for us so far

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the advice we are very solid in our relationship so we don’t need to worry there. We have always adopted the try it and if we like it carry on if not then we don’t do it again and there is no blame either way. Has worked for us so far "

If you genuinely have that attitude try it once and if one of the other of you don't like it you never have to do it again. Theory is one thing, practice quite another though.

Good luck whatever you decide

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

Would suggest meeting the person in question, together, for a social 1st. Have safe words between you both, so if either one of you starts to think it's a bad idea on the night in question, you can call an end to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice we are very solid in our relationship so we don’t need to worry there. We have always adopted the try it and if we like it carry on if not then we don’t do it again and there is no blame either way. Has worked for us so far

If you genuinely have that attitude try it once and if one of the other of you don't like it you never have to do it again. Theory is one thing, practice quite another though.

Good luck whatever you decide"

Yes that’s been our attitude when we started meeting other guys and if anything has come up that neither of us enjoyed we haven’t done it again, all been fun finding out though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the advice we are very solid in our relationship so we don’t need to worry there. We have always adopted the try it and if we like it carry on if not then we don’t do it again and there is no blame either way. Has worked for us so far

If you genuinely have that attitude try it once and if one of the other of you don't like it you never have to do it again. Theory is one thing, practice quite another though.

Good luck whatever you decide

Yes that’s been our attitude when we started meeting other guys and if anything has come up that neither of us enjoyed we haven’t done it again, all been fun finding out though "

That's our attitude too. We tend to approach swinging as a unit rather than as individuals.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Thanks for the advice we are very solid in our relationship so we don’t need to worry there. We have always adopted the try it and if we like it carry on if not then we don’t do it again and there is no blame either way. Has worked for us so far "

In which case there is little to be worried about. Reading the first post it is not clear what K's pang of worry are about?

For myself it would be about bunnies personal safety, rather than anything sexual or emotional. Which is why we prefer club meets for the safety in numbers aspect rather than meeting alone with a relative stranger in a hotel room.

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Hi all, we have been discussing the possibility of D meeting alone with a guy or a girl ideally at a hotel. We have set a couple of initial rules such as she must send updates, it's not to be overnight and if neither of us enjoys it we don’t do it again simple as that.

I (K) keep lurching from extremely turned on to pangs of worry at not being fully involved (both of us involved has always been our thing). Both of us are interested in this it’s not one pushing it on the other.

We would love to hear any advice or experiences and of course if anyone is interested (must be Manchester area)

Long arsed post over "

A safe call is pretty vital - have a time when you are expected to call to confirm you are OK - and an agreed protocol of what to do if you don't make that call, and another for the end of the meet.

Use a good hotel - the better the hotel the more likely they are to help if something goes wrong.

I would suggest a social meet first, even if it's just in the hotel bar, most women have good gut instincts for creeps.

Don't drink to excess or do drugs

Leave anything valuable at home

And have fun!

Ms Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice we are very solid in our relationship so we don’t need to worry there. We have always adopted the try it and if we like it carry on if not then we don’t do it again and there is no blame either way. Has worked for us so far

In which case there is little to be worried about. Reading the first post it is not clear what K's pang of worry are about?

For myself it would be about bunnies personal safety, rather than anything sexual or emotional. Which is why we prefer club meets for the safety in numbers aspect rather than meeting alone with a relative stranger in a hotel room. "

Meeting in a club does sound like a sensible idea but unfortunately clubs just don’t appeal to us. We have discussed her meeting a guy we have met before as a good alternative. The pang of worry is more the not knowing what is happening all the time but that’s also a turn on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi all, we have been discussing the possibility of D meeting alone with a guy or a girl ideally at a hotel. We have set a couple of initial rules such as she must send updates, it's not to be overnight and if neither of us enjoys it we don’t do it again simple as that.

I (K) keep lurching from extremely turned on to pangs of worry at not being fully involved (both of us involved has always been our thing). Both of us are interested in this it’s not one pushing it on the other.

We would love to hear any advice or experiences and of course if anyone is interested (must be Manchester area)

Long arsed post over

A safe call is pretty vital - have a time when you are expected to call to confirm you are OK - and an agreed protocol of what to do if you don't make that call, and another for the end of the meet.

Use a good hotel - the better the hotel the more likely they are to help if something goes wrong.

I would suggest a social meet first, even if it's just in the hotel bar, most women have good gut instincts for creeps.

Don't drink to excess or do drugs

Leave anything valuable at home

And have fun!

Ms Icebreaker "

Really great advice thanks we didn’t think about a safety call and meeting in the bar first is good especially if it’s someone we haven’t met before, thank you.

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By *riendly_Mancs_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We are in Manchester. Jayne meets girls alone for 1-1 if you decide to start that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are in Manchester. Jayne meets girls alone for 1-1 if you decide to start that way. "

Great profile we will definitely keep you guys in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, we have been discussing the possibility of D meeting alone with a guy or a girl ideally at a hotel. We have set a couple of initial rules such as she must send updates, it's not to be overnight and if neither of us enjoys it we don’t do it again simple as that.

I (K) keep lurching from extremely turned on to pangs of worry at not being fully involved (both of us involved has always been our thing). Both of us are interested in this it’s not one pushing it on the other.

We would love to hear any advice or experiences and of course if anyone is interested (must be Manchester area)

Long arsed post over "

Hey. Mrs here. This is actually how we started off with me meeting someone in a hotel. Get D to meet him or her in a public place like a pub/hotel bar for few drinks beforehand. This way when he/she arrives, they can chat a bit to feel at ease and get D to send you a text like, "all okay, he/she is lovely etc." We still do the initial text. This helps put Leo at ease that I'm in good hands. Get the name of the hotel and when D arrives at the hotel, get her to text you the room number. All of these things will help you both to feel less worried and so, you can just be horny thinking of what they're getting up to and D can enjoy her meet. Maybe pick a hotel near to where you both live so D is feeling safe too that you could hop in a car to her if needed. We have rules like no cumming on tits and no anal play etc. so it's definitely good to have discussed these beforehand and that the person she's meeting is also aware of these rules and is respectful of them. We don't do over night stays either (unless it's a woman I'm meeting) so a few hours of fun and then home to himself for extremely hot reclaim sex. He loves to take me as soon as I get in the door in exactly what I've worn for my meet. Maybe see if you'd like a pic or a video of them together and get D to send it mid meet or to show you afterwards. Enjoy the experience and keep communicating with each other. Hope all goes well. If you'd like to ask us anything further, feel free to PM. S x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks really great to hear your experiences, lots of things we haven’t thought about which will really help, it certainly gets us both excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks really great to hear your experiences, lots of things we haven’t thought about which will really help, it certainly gets us both excited "

Great to hear. Good to have a lil nervousness but mostly excitement. It's a very hot experience so enjoy every eec, you two. S x

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

Couple of things to consider:

Facetime call throughout (hot as well as safety)

Only meeting on half of another couple (again super hot and slightly more comfortable)

Above all talk before, during and after

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couple of things to consider:

Facetime call throughout (hot as well as safety)

Only meeting on half of another couple (again super hot and slightly more comfortable)

Above all talk before, during and after "

Liking the sound of FaceTime a lot!

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