FabSwingers.com forum: Going alone to the club.

By *BWBI2019 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you ever gone to a swingers club by yourself? How was your experience? Any positives or negatives?

*mainly directing this question towards single Women but the question is open to everyone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been to a few on my own. My experiences are generally good. I have been to a few clubs where I've been very glad I didn't go on my own, though!

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

I (Lou) went to clubs by myself & it was fine. Our local club did a good job looking after me. We then met both as singles at another club.

I never liked joining up with people I would meet them inside as then your kinda stuck with them.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Been to Eureka (daytime) a couple of times on my own, had a great time and made friends quickly! Not quite got up the courage to go to a club night alone though!

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Love to go to a club but never been yet but next year I will be going

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"Been to Eureka (daytime) a couple of times on my own, had a great time and made friends quickly! Not quite got up the courage to go to a club night alone though!"

That’s helpful to know! I want to go to a club on my own, sounds like a daytime trip is the best idea - thank you for posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not got the courage to go alone even though mentally strong enough.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

The only one was Route 69. It was a bit of an odd night as it was midweek, so very quiet, but had the few people in chat away at the bar, so was friendly enough. Got invited into a room for a little play by the only couple in the place who were playing. Couldn't imagine going anywhere else alone to be honest, even though they're places (such as Chams and Libs) where I'm a member as I'd imagine I'd be at the bar alone most of the night.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I started many years ago and the staff, as at all the places I've been to, were great. Take it one step at a time. They showed me around as well as caught up with me later, to check all was well.

I relaxed at the bar, had a few people chat, then made my own exploration - keeping the bar area as my retreat, if I got uncomfortable. I stayed much longer than expected and I'd set my goals low - basically to go, take a look and spend an hour or so there, whilst enjoying the facilities.

If I was more nervous I'd contact the management in advance. You're always in control, move around or sit where you want to as well as keeping chats more brief, if you don't want to sustain them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Not got the courage to go alone even though mentally strong enough. "

If you know this, it's reasonable to assume that others are too, so perhaps consider visiting with others, where there's no sexual interest, its just supportive.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I went on my own. I felt like the Pied Piper. Wherever I walked there was a gaggle of guys following me. At midnight I chickened out and went home without playing.

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

"Have you ever gone to a swingers club by yourself? How was your experience? Any positives or negatives?

*mainly directing this question towards single Women but the question is open to everyone.

to many single men follow you around I want do it again

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I went on my own. I felt like the Pied Piper. Wherever I walked there was a gaggle of guys following me. At midnight I chickened out and went home without playing. "

Clubs like that I've always been glad I have a wingman. Yuck.

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By *BWBI2019 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I love all these stories! Keep them coming! I'm really interested in going to a BBW night but all my friends are coupled up, I also don't drink so any sober experiences to share are welcomed!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I love all these stories! Keep them coming! I'm really interested in going to a BBW night but all my friends are coupled up, I also don't drink so any sober experiences to share are welcomed! "

Every night at every club is different. You can do to the same place three Fridays in a row and find a totally different vibe each time, with the vast majority of the people there different on each of those nights. It could be a crap night or a great one, with no way of knowing which until it transpires in the moment. It's part of the fun, but also part of the thing that can make it a bit nerve-wracking, the not knowing.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I went few weeks to both clubs in my area . I been before few times at the entrance of both clubs and other times aparked in the car parking but in the last second i always give up .

When i look now back i just say to myself "what i been missing " .

I went i asked for be a membership and i let them know i was a transgender woman .

I was received in both clubs so friendly and i was so accepted and they made me feel so welcome and comfortable .

Staff and management of both clubs they are amazing and the people they go there are fantastic

After 3 weeks i'm making new friends is totally a very good experience clubbing , i been always in private and private party's what they are also good , but i do highly recommend clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been numerous times on my own.

Scared stiff the first time but ended up being the best experience at a club I’ve had.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I have been to a couple of club's on my own. I prefer nights open to single guys, single girls and couples.

First time is a bit nerve wracking, but once you have a tour , it's easy to stay close to the bar and chat to people there.

My only dull nights have been when it's couples only and I felt like a spare part.

It's worth checking reviews of club's you are considering going to , to ascertain what they are like for single ladies.

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

I would love to go and I would think it is worse for a single guy to go

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Sort of. I went to a club on my own but arranged to meet a regular meet there.

It was alright. The host of the event i went to was great. I had an FMF (which i've never fancied trying and don't want to again as i like all the cock to myself).

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

Having come out of a vanilla relationship that spanned 10 years, I actually (privately) googled ‘sex parties’ and found cjs! I had joined ‘Meet-up’ app to regain confidence in being a singleton and was using that as a cover as I still lived at home.

Went to cjs on my own; didn’t drink and took the car so that if I didn’t like it, felt unsafe etc, then I could bolt out of there.

I text Cj in advance about timings, costs and clothing, also ID and how I’d like to be named whilst there and she answered every question which reassured me.

Cj & Michelle took me on tour of the place and whilst I went into the ‘pole room’ as there were couples sitting opposite, I didn’t know who was to make the first move! Ended up going to the bar and chatting to Jo and pinching the cola flavoured lolly pops!

Eventually some ppl came round and started chatting and I was at ease. Did end up playing, which I wasn’t expecting but it was a good way to remember the night, even if I never went back.

The team look out for guys & girls (and I liked that they were in uniform, so you could spot them.)

Went there about 9 months on my own, tried different ‘theme’ nights (greedy girls, fun for all etc) to see what was best fit and only got a fab profile on my 1 yr anniversary, but it meant verifications listed easier as I’d been chatting effectively socially for over a year to some ppl.

Needless to say 4 years down the line, I consider Cj, Michelle and their team absolute friends and I’ve made genuine fab friends whom I have socialised with and celebrated my birthday with.

So I say, go for it, do your research or find out if others are going same night and post up in your updates and you might get some replies!

Millie x

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By *utual InterestsMan
over a year ago

Kent

I have been to local club (DV8) a few times and was nervous as he'll first time but there are some really friendly people there all the times I have been.... go for it.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"I would love to go and I would think it is worse for a single guy to go "

Why do you think it's worse for a man ? There are the same number of people inside to talk to.

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

I just would think that it would be

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"I just would think that it would be "

I think it's far easier for a guy to go into a pub on his own. It's more acceptable to society for some reason. It's the same attending a swingers club in my eyes . It's quite normal for guys to attend on their own and just as easy to chat once inside . You should give it a whirl.

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Take me to a club please

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By *ackandJill1Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I love all these stories! Keep them coming! I'm really interested in going to a BBW night but all my friends are coupled up, I also don't drink so any sober experiences to share are welcomed! "

Hi, I go as a single lady to Quest quite often, it took a hell of a brave day for me to go the first time but I'm so glad I did! Such friendly staff and clientele. I often drive there, so definitely sober haha although most people do drink whilst there I've never seen anyone too d*unk. I'm heading there tonight (Sat 28th) if you are feeling brave you'll have at least me to chat with haha

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I just would think that it would be

I'd agree r.e. a pub, but for me I'd disagree in terms of a club. I know it works for plenty of guys, but even when attending with a female friend I feel like a Leper, even when I'm standing at the bar on my own, with some of the people glaring if I so much as dare to look in their direction, whereas it's pretty much guaranteed my friend will have a couple approach the minute I pop to the loo and they'll be chatting away by the time I get back. Not everyone is hostile by any means, but the vast majority will barely acknowledge I'm there, so going as a single male for me is almost a 100% no no. As a single female there's no doubt you'll get the classless predators follow you around on occasion in some places, but you're also way more likely to be welcomed and approached by nice people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and I was made really welcome. If you don't want single guys approaching you to start with, try couples and single female nights, once you get in to them they're quite addictive.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I’ve been to a few clubs as a single male. I found the whole experience fascinating and met some lovely people.

Jaydees and Atlantis in particular made me feel very welcome. So, to anybody thinking of going, do it, in many ways it’s easier to chat than in a pub as you are all there with a shared interest.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I go on a regular basis to Townhouse to a daytime event once a month . I love it not had any negative comeback from it ... once the first visit is done it becomes easier plus you get to know other people who go on a regular basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to Townhouse alone.... I love it, nervous first time but that soon passes.

Use it how you like, there shouldn't be pressure to play or expectation.

I like to get there, have a drink and see what happens

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

One of my regular lady friends recently went to a club by herself, and had an amazing time! She had sex with two guys, and was spunked on by six others (which she loves). In that one visit, she played with more people than I have out of a total of 17 club visits, three of which I had a friend with me lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been to Eureka (daytime) a couple of times on my own, had a great time and made friends quickly! Not quite got up the courage to go to a club night alone though!

That’s helpful to know! I want to go to a club on my own, sounds like a daytime trip is the best idea - thank you for posting.

I got invited one Saturday night

My impression

Lots of voyeurism

Sex on dance floor

Naturism club

Some go naked

Its way off the beaten track so need a car to get there

Bring your own drinks

Its like a club but you can fuck people on floor or rooms

Can stay the night

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