FabSwingers.com forum: Opening message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all looking for s bit of advice, ive find i am not having many replys to my messages, i understand not every one will respond, i usally open with a message something like,

Hey how are you both doing? Fancy chatting here's a few pics of me. I am a 31 year old fella from Filey looking for couples and singles to sexually explore with. Hope I can maybe be your type?

Shpuld i say more, or less, whats a acceptable way to start a chat xx

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Advice is usually to include something from the profile of the person you are messaging and what you are offering them. You haven't asked for profile advice so wont comment other than to say that people often read profiles before replying.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Hey all looking for s bit of advice, ive find i am not having many replys to my messages, i understand not every one will respond, i usally open with a message something like,

Hey how are you both doing? Fancy chatting here's a few pics of me. I am a 31 year old fella from Filey looking for couples and singles to sexually explore with. Hope I can maybe be your type?

Shpuld i say more, or less, whats a acceptable way to start a chat xx"

I wouldn't reply to your message because first thing I do after getting a message before even reading it is check that person profile to see how serious they are about this site and what effort they have made...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wouldn't even look at the profile because that's a copy paste message that could have been sent to anyone.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

"Hey all looking for s bit of advice, ive find i am not having many replys to my messages, i understand not every one will respond, i usally open with a message something like,

Hey how are you both doing? Fancy chatting here's a few pics of me. I am a 31 year old fella from Filey looking for couples and singles to sexually explore with. Hope I can maybe be your type?

Shpuld i say more, or less, whats a acceptable way to start a chat xx"

The reason probably why you’re not getting much response to your messages is the scantily of information on your profile. Most people will look at the sender’s profile to judge whether you are for them, despite what you think. Profiles with more information and tasteful pictures shows effort, and may have a better chance of a reply.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

You could send exactly that message to a thousand people without changing a single word. If we received it we would delete it because for all we know you have no interest in us - you're just carpet-bombing in the hope you hit somebody interested.

Here are our top tips:

Say hello using their names.

Say what you liked about their profile and have something interesting to say in response to something they have written.

Say why you think you might be compatible with them.

Don't make any sexual advances.

Sign off using your name.

A message like that would guarantee a response from us, although it would still say we're not looking for single guys, but it would be polite and potentially trigger a conversation.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

There’s nothing that’s personal to the recipient in your message.

I would suggest you read all of the profile and compose a message that includes something that’s written in their profile.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your comments and advice i will put it into practice and hopefully have some luck xx

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