FabSwingers.com forum: First time swap

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we’re are super new to the scene and thinking about our first soft swap with a single guy.

Firstly is a pre arranged meet the best shout or winging it at our local club.

Secondly is it still attractive for single guys to be in a soft swap situation

Thirdly how we go about setting boundaries without killing the mood.

Thanks Fab

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Well what a lovely video you guys have and how does a guy start then with you guys

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"So we’re are super new to the scene and thinking about our first soft swap with a single guy.

Firstly is a pre arranged meet the best shout or winging it at our local club.

Secondly is it still attractive for single guys to be in a soft swap situation

Thirdly how we go about setting boundaries without killing the mood.

Thanks Fab

Anyone who isn’t ok with soft swap isn’t worth meeting. Your boundaries and rules are the most important. It’s far more important to all be on the same page than to run into a problem mid play.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Maybe a bit of both? Respond to one the many event threads for townhouse and see who in the thread catches your eye.

Drop them a line to see how you feel about each other then treat the club as a social with potential to play if you get on.

We've soft played with guys at TH on a couple of occasions and have had no complaints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we’re are super new to the scene and thinking about our first soft swap with a single guy.

Firstly is a pre arranged meet the best shout or winging it at our local club.

Secondly is it still attractive for single guys to be in a soft swap situation

Thirdly how we go about setting boundaries without killing the mood.

Thanks Fab

Anyone who isn’t ok with soft swap isn’t worth meeting. Your boundaries and rules are the most important. It’s far more important to all be on the same page than to run into a problem mid play. "
great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly, it’s your boundaries and you should set the limits accordingly and expect anyone else to follow those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I would to say a soft swap I would say the word swap means the single go would have to have something/someone to swap( he doesn't being single.) we are well experienced on the scene but pretty new together but have clear rules for us, if you would like to talk about any queries you have then have no fear of messaging us

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By *upernudeMan
over a year ago

plymouth

I hate to say this, being a single guy, but your the couple, he’s the single guy, you tell him how it’s going to go, set all the boundaries, if he in anyway doesn’t like them, don’t meet, even if you think he’s going to be a bit funny with the boundaries once you meet, don’t meet, or call it off. This also goes with meeting other couples , fab can be great fun, but there are a few idiots, avoid pushy people, and have fun .

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

In regards to boundaries, we always discuss them before we meet so we all now where we stand. So in that respect we find organising a meet instead of trying to have a random encounter at a club is better, so you can get everything out in the open before anything happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks very much that’s really lovely. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s really sound advice Thanks very much. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always respect boundaries when invited to join a couple or single woman. Seems like a no brainer to me. Soft swapping is just a fun and enjoyable as full swapping.

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By *elsh_ElMan
over a year ago

Llangollen

Mention to the other guy what your looking for. Once you have set your boundaries. If it's a male.or female they should respect. If they don't.

Shame them as your not here to be disrespected x

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