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Ex partner was down for swinging... put only her way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else have this or see the problems with it? She was all for playing with other guys but even me seeing the sight of another women with less clothes on infuriated her. I wasn’t too fussed with not playing with other women anyway. But it was too OTT

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By *rancis6Couple
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jealousy a disaster in the making SEEN THAT LOOK MANY TIMES u both need too talk its onl ses NO LOVE ALL THE BEST "

Yeah I tend just let her have it her way as at least we both enjoyed it. Just prevented us from ever going to clubs or her going with a guy in a couple

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By *rancis6Couple
over a year ago

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jealousy a disaster in the making SEEN THAT LOOK MANY TIMES u both need too talk its onl SEX NO LOVE ALL THE BEST

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jealousy a disaster in the making SEEN THAT LOOK MANY TIMES u both need too talk its onl SEX NO LOVE ALL THE BEST "

^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first married the wife wanted to swing.

We did a couple of times.

Then her whole attitude changed and it became a no no.we ended up after many years sleeping in separate rooms.i think she couldn't see the difference between sexy fun and love.we are divorced now.. emotions are a strange thing.especially as it was her that instigated it.i didn't play away for 34 years until she completely lost interest in everything

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I first married the wife wanted to swing.

We did a couple of times.

Then her whole attitude changed and it became a no no.we ended up after many years sleeping in separate rooms.i think she couldn't see the difference between sexy fun and love.we are divorced now.. emotions are a strange thing.especially as it was her that instigated it.i didn't play away for 34 years until she completely lost interest in everything"

Oh Christ!! So after the swinging she couldn’t switch from sex to love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs has had a couple of wobbles along the way, but she quickly realises that she's being silly and it's just fun with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to visit a lady in her home, husband was sometimes there but either went out as I arrived or sat downstairs. I initallypresumed it was a cuckold vibe kind of thing, but apparently she’d given him the ultimatum that she wanted to see other men and stay together. He didn’t like it but wanted to stay with her. Seemed a tad unfair and cruel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mrs has had a couple of wobbles along the way, but she quickly realises that she's being silly and it's just fun with others. "

Glad I wasn’t the only one! Thankfully yours come round, mine seemed to be such a big thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to visit a lady in her home, husband was sometimes there but either went out as I arrived or sat downstairs. I initallypresumed it was a cuckold vibe kind of thing, but apparently she’d given him the ultimatum that she wanted to see other men and stay together. He didn’t like it but wanted to stay with her. Seemed a tad unfair and cruel. "

Wow haha, that’s crazy!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Swinging isn't an equal opportunities pastime. Each person involved needs to be comfortable with what they're doing and what they're witnessing. It isn't selfish to not want to do something sexually in my opinion but it is (again in my opinion) selfish to expect someone to do something because you want them to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mrs has had a couple of wobbles along the way, but she quickly realises that she's being silly and it's just fun with others.

Glad I wasn’t the only one! Thankfully yours come round, mine seemed to be such a big thing"

Deep down she's as bad as me, that's probably why

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


"Swinging isn't an equal opportunities pastime. Each person involved needs to be comfortable with what they're doing and what they're witnessing. It isn't selfish to not want to do something sexually in my opinion but it is (again in my opinion) selfish to expect someone to do something because you want them to. "

Very eloquently put. If only all would read this, and most importantly understand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Swinging isn't an equal opportunities pastime. Each person involved needs to be comfortable with what they're doing and what they're witnessing. It isn't selfish to not want to do something sexually in my opinion but it is (again in my opinion) selfish to expect someone to do something because you want them to.

Very eloquently put. If only all would read this, and most importantly understand.

"

Not so much, feel like the point has gone right over your head

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Swinging isn't an equal opportunities pastime. Each person involved needs to be comfortable with what they're doing and what they're witnessing. It isn't selfish to not want to do something sexually in my opinion but it is (again in my opinion) selfish to expect someone to do something because you want them to.

Very eloquently put. If only all would read this, and most importantly understand.

Not so much, feel like the point has gone right over your head "

Could you explain your point further

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Swinging isn't an equal opportunities pastime. Each person involved needs to be comfortable with what they're doing and what they're witnessing. It isn't selfish to not want to do something sexually in my opinion but it is (again in my opinion) selfish to expect someone to do something because you want them to.

Very eloquently put. If only all would read this, and most importantly understand.

Not so much, feel like the point has gone right over your head

Could you explain your point further "

Sure, my point was that in terms of swinging I was the one that suggested it and she was also open to the idea. I wouldn’t ever want her doing anything out her comfort zone. So when she said it just has to be her playing and that’s it, that was fine with me. However, when it was her visiting a couple to play with the man I was banished from going and even when I did it use to cause such a stir because even if the wife spoke to me it’d be world war 3. That’s also what prevented us from going to clubs because she said she’d love to go, however if there was women there it was a huge no. She didn’t even want me having the site of a women wearing less. Felt like it caused a lot more issues than needed when to me it was no problem because I wouldn’t ever do anything with the wife of the couple etc. Just seeing if anyone else had this experience

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Swinging isn't an equal opportunities pastime. Each person involved needs to be comfortable with what they're doing and what they're witnessing. It isn't selfish to not want to do something sexually in my opinion but it is (again in my opinion) selfish to expect someone to do something because you want them to.

Very eloquently put. If only all would read this, and most importantly understand.

Not so much, feel like the point has gone right over your head

Could you explain your point further

Sure, my point was that in terms of swinging I was the one that suggested it and she was also open to the idea. I wouldn’t ever want her doing anything out her comfort zone. So when she said it just has to be her playing and that’s it, that was fine with me. However, when it was her visiting a couple to play with the man I was banished from going and even when I did it use to cause such a stir because even if the wife spoke to me it’d be world war 3. That’s also what prevented us from going to clubs because she said she’d love to go, however if there was women there it was a huge no. She didn’t even want me having the site of a women wearing less. Felt like it caused a lot more issues than needed when to me it was no problem because I wouldn’t ever do anything with the wife of the couple etc. Just seeing if anyone else had this experience "
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Ok, thanks.

As you say, she wanted to swing but only her way.

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