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Entitlement from potential meets.

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By *ssexhampton OP   Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of people don't have those expectations. I look for those that don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can express what they like it doesn't mean they will get it though the odds are stacked against it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?"
its NSA for many which is cold and how does your example make them entitled, i grant you that sort of request will go unrequited but its a request at best not an entitlement

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I would be more than happy to just "hook up", enjoy a chat, coffee, drink or meal and see where things go.... No more than that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think entitlement is different from expectation.

I expect certain things from my meetings here. If I can't find it, I don't meet. I'm not entitled to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads enjoy last min encounters

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Expressing your wishes is unlike entitlement, as the audience has full ability to ignore it.

Find those who match, not the others who don't.

Sexual and relationship needs are diverse here, so you have lots of freedom of choice

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

I don't get the "entitlement" thing.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?"

I think there’s a wide variety of types of attitude in the lifestyle.

From the “walk in, fuck, walk out” to the people who want to develop friendships and experiences with people of a similar intellectual level.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?

I think there’s a wide variety of types of attitude in the lifestyle.

From the “walk in, fuck, walk out” to the people who want to develop friendships and experiences with people of a similar intellectual level. "

Just got to find your level I guess

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don't get the "entitlement" thing."

Some people seem to demand meets and get angry when it doesn't happen. To me that's entitled.

I can say, I'm not meeting unless I find a seven foot man with eleven toes wearing pink polka dots on a unicycle... I'm not trying to make him show up, I'm not entitled. I'm just going to end up wanking because I won't get what I want.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?"

In my opinion, that’s not entitlement. People are allowed to express their wishes on their profile, in the forum or in a message.

Entitlement to me is someone who feels aggrieved at not getting a meet after messaging or socially meeting someone, and expresses this in an arrogant and abusive way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get the "entitlement" thing."
exactly me neither, youre entitled to ask anything whether you get it or not is another thing entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can ask. Doesn't mean they get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your example isn’t too rude, loads of guys put requests up like that - I doubt their inbox is full. But you never know if someone’s looking for something. But I agree, I hate profiles saying ‘we’re all here for the same thing, get over it, it’s not dating.’ Etc. Yeah but I’ve also got plug in and battery operated devices if I just want to cum and nothing else

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think your example isn’t too rude, loads of guys put requests up like that - I doubt their inbox is full. But you never know if someone’s looking for something. But I agree, I hate profiles saying ‘we’re all here for the same thing, get over it, it’s not dating.’ Etc. Yeah but I’ve also got plug in and battery operated devices if I just want to cum and nothing else "

Yeah, "we're all looking for the same thing". Evidently not, if anyone thinks that anyone should just get over it and drop standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?"

There’s nothing entitled about asking people if anyone wants to meet them for sex. It’s not entitled to have standards either. I don’t see your point

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

There are plenty of flavours here.

Plenty to enjoy.

Finding the flavour you like and they like too is the key.

So for every profile you read that says they are not your flavour, at least you know from the start and can move on to he next profile. Until you find the right.

On another thread it was well written to a Lady you will kiss many frogs before you find a Prince.

Happy swinging all in 2020.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People may have somewhat distorted or unrealistic expectations, typically when they join fab, which may be perceived as a sense of entitlement by others.

Everyone has complete ability to decline interest at any time, even once sex may be underway.

The beauty of a site with thousands of people here, is that you can find diverse interests and people. Move away from those that you have no interest in, for whatever reason. Even if you are different from others, you may often learn a lot from them.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?"

Cold and uncompassionate is exactly what some people want. While some see Fab as a dating site others see it as the best way to get anonymous nsa sex, because that is exactly what turns them on. We tend more to the latter which is why we usually play in clubs.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I have been a member of Fab for a while but have never met anyone from here. Over the years I have met people through everyday life, work etc, in the same situation as me. A relationship has followed with us both respecting each others situation and the limitations due to our circumstances. Looking through the forums and reading comments for potential meets its astounds me how entitled people seem to be. Comments like "I finish work at 10pm anyone up for a meet?", or a long list of do's or don't. The expectation to have sex within hours of meeting at a time and place of their choosing. It all seems a bit cold and uncompasssionate......or is it just me?"

Putting up a meet does not guarantee a meet or mean they will get the sort of person they are looking for. We have put up a number of meet requests in recent months and got little to no interest from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone want to meet behind Tesco from 5pm til 7pm

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