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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples." Thanks OP for taking the time to make this post! Very descriptive and helpful. High up on our list and hopefully we find a unicorn in 2020. Happy xmas  | |||
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"Thanks OP for taking the time to make this post! Very descriptive and helpful. High up on our list and hopefully we find a unicorn in 2020. Happy xmas "You're welcome! | |||
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"Here, here. Imma put a link to this on my profile. Thanks, OP!" Aw thanks! Just wanted to help ?? anything you want to add?? | |||
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"Thanks for the advice. Weve all but given up recently but who knows. X" Does this guide help you to change anything? The main things for me are where you live and when you can meet? Have you tried clubs or events? | |||
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"Super advice. " Thanks! I do try ?? | |||
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"Never ever seen a unicorn Dartmoor ponies and donkeys now that's a different story good luck to all the unicorn hunters out there and happy Christmas x"  | |||
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"Thanks for the advice. Weve all but given up recently but who knows. X Does this guide help you to change anything? The main things for me are where you live and when you can meet? Have you tried clubs or events?" Clubs are tricky in cornwall we have none at all!! We do try to go to secrets as much as we can. The twice weve spent a fortune travelling to clubs most people stick to their groups and dont speak. We will try some clubs next year again. We have a child so we have to arrange meets in advance. It can be done weve done it before. Then we make the effort and the meets get cancelled!! Also in cornwall 90% of single females are fake male profiles or straight females. Getting C in more photos would be useful I'll have to nag some more over christmas hahaha. To be honest its fab in general at the moment!! Its quiet as anything around here in cornwall. We're not just looking for women we will meet couples too and the odd single guy. But it's becoming difficult as theres so many damn fakes. X | |||
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"Thanks for the advice. Weve all but given up recently but who knows. X Does this guide help you to change anything? The main things for me are where you live and when you can meet? Have you tried clubs or events? Clubs are tricky in cornwall we have none at all!! We do try to go to secrets as much as we can. The twice weve spent a fortune travelling to clubs most people stick to their groups and dont speak. We will try some clubs next year again. We have a child so we have to arrange meets in advance. It can be done weve done it before. Then we make the effort and the meets get cancelled!! Also in cornwall 90% of single females are fake male profiles or straight females. Getting C in more photos would be useful I'll have to nag some more over christmas hahaha. To be honest its fab in general at the moment!! Its quiet as anything around here in cornwall. We're not just looking for women we will meet couples too and the odd single guy. But it's becoming difficult as theres so many damn fakes. X" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad  I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
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"As a unicorn myself, this is brilliant. Thanks OP for this "Aw thanks! Feel free to suggest any additions | |||
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"Amen sister, I'm reasonably straight so I don't play with couples, but I know a lot of single ladies and gentlemen and the Most important thing message ... Singles are not your toys... Treat them with respect! " The amount of couples who just expect us to be their playthings...  | |||
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples." Definitive. Brilliantly done!!! | |||
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"Thanks for the advice. Weve all but given up recently but who knows. X Does this guide help you to change anything? The main things for me are where you live and when you can meet? Have you tried clubs or events? Clubs are tricky in cornwall we have none at all!! We do try to go to secrets as much as we can. The twice weve spent a fortune travelling to clubs most people stick to their groups and dont speak. We will try some clubs next year again. We have a child so we have to arrange meets in advance. It can be done weve done it before. Then we make the effort and the meets get cancelled!! Also in cornwall 90% of single females are fake male profiles or straight females. Getting C in more photos would be useful I'll have to nag some more over christmas hahaha. To be honest its fab in general at the moment!! Its quiet as anything around here in cornwall. We're not just looking for women we will meet couples too and the odd single guy. But it's becoming difficult as theres so many damn fakes. X I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
"I can imagine it's more difficult you guys!! Being a single lady you have to ensure your own safety first and foremost. Secrets is fab but yes sometimes cliquey. Its £110 for us and a caravan. Not last time but the time before C spent the whole time looking after a d*unk lady whis partner wasnt very nice. So a bit of a wasted night for us. I can imagine some couples have no respect for you single ladies. Which is sad because it makes things harder for the rest of us. Weve always said for us it's not about a box ticking or anything for us. But as so many people dont think like this it makes it harder. | |||
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"As a unicorn myself, this is brilliant. Thanks OP for this "You fall into the category "too good to be true" | |||
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"There are real couples here too please don't taint us all with the same brush x" I agree with you on this. We arent all fakes. | |||
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples." Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too | |||
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" I can imagine it's more difficult you guys!! Being a single lady you have to ensure your own safety first and foremost. Secrets is fab but yes sometimes cliquey. Its £110 for us and a caravan. Not last time but the time before C spent the whole time looking after a d*unk lady whis partner wasnt very nice. So a bit of a wasted night for us. I can imagine some couples have no respect for you single ladies. Which is sad because it makes things harder for the rest of us. Weve always said for us it's not about a box ticking or anything for us. But as so many people dont think like this it makes it harder." **Being a single lady you have to ensure your own safety first and foremost.** THIS!! Wowzers! That's terrible that's great that you looked after her, but such a shame It can a bit of a disorganised free for all!
To be honest, it's very rare that I even get to the point of looking into a couple's relationship etc - finding a couple who is available when I am to even get to a social is the hardest part. Don't even get to that stage 99% of the time. Despite me having my schedule on my profile AND being very clear from the beginning when I can and can't meet and what I'm prepared to do in terms of travelling... | |||
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"Amen sister, I'm reasonably straight so I don't play with couples, but I know a lot of single ladies and gentlemen and the Most important thing message ... Singles are not your toys... Treat them with respect! The amount of couples who just expect us to be their playthings... "Yes and sadly a good few seem to have the attitude "you should feel privileged to be joining us". Not all obviously, I know some lovely couples | |||
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"There are real couples here too please don't taint us all with the same brush x I agree with you on this. We arent all fakes." I said that we would expect to see both of you in some kind of live video call and/or a social to make sure you're not fake. There are a HUGE number of fake accounts on here. Very few Unicorns would consider meeting a couple without their own verification first. I appreciate that not everyone is fake and I was not assuming anything. | |||
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too "Copyright pending... | |||
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It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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" I can imagine it's more difficult you guys!! Being a single lady you have to ensure your own safety first and foremost. Secrets is fab but yes sometimes cliquey. Its £110 for us and a caravan. Not last time but the time before C spent the whole time looking after a d*unk lady whis partner wasnt very nice. So a bit of a wasted night for us. I can imagine some couples have no respect for you single ladies. Which is sad because it makes things harder for the rest of us. Weve always said for us it's not about a box ticking or anything for us. But as so many people dont think like this it makes it harder. **Being a single lady you have to ensure your own safety first and foremost.** THIS!! Wowzers! That's terrible that's great that you looked after her, but such a shame It can a bit of a disorganised free for all!
To be honest, it's very rare that I even get to the point of looking into a couple's relationship etc - finding a couple who is available when I am to even get to a social is the hardest part. Don't even get to that stage 99% of the time. Despite me having my schedule on my profile AND being very clear from the beginning when I can and can't meet and what I'm prepared to do in terms of travelling..."Yes it wasnt great her partner was terrible and now it seems theyve split and hes heavily on the scene. We have bo inclination to be involved with him after that. I can imagine it can be difficult and there are lots of dreamers too. The amount of times I get asked to meet couples on my own. And they're always non verified just looking for a single woman. It something I will do if I know a couple but I took it off the profile because they were the only messages we got!! Not addressing us as a couple just me like a shiny prize to collect!! Yes I'm bi and love playing with the ladies but I'm not a performing seal! | |||
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
"Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them. Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle. We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that. | |||
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that."No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping... )
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad "We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy! | |||
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I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad
We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy!"It's always absolutely rammed until 10 and then everyone goes back to their hotels for a shag lol. | |||
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad
We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy!
It's always absolutely rammed until 10 and then everyone goes back to their hotels for a shag lol. "Bloody perverts! Sounds like we're going to need a big bed | |||
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad
We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy!
It's always absolutely rammed until 10 and then everyone goes back to their hotels for a shag lol.
Bloody perverts! Sounds like we're going to need a big bed "Mm I reckon the bugger, the better
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad
We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy!
It's always absolutely rammed until 10 and then everyone goes back to their hotels for a shag lol.
Bloody perverts! Sounds like we're going to need a big bed
Mm I reckon the bugger, the better
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad
We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy!
It's always absolutely rammed until 10 and then everyone goes back to their hotels for a shag lol.
Bloody perverts! Sounds like we're going to need a big bed
Mm I reckon the bugger, the better
I mean if we had a decent club in Bristol, then everyone could just head there but hey-ho!
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples." I absolutely love this and may add this onto my profile. Swinging with a friend has changed some aspects of these but many are still very applicable. Thank you for taking the time in writing this out and have a happy Christmas xxx | |||
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It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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I initially put bi curious as (for me personally) stating bisexual means that I would have an equal relationship with a woman as I would with Ian, which I know I wouldn’t, so prefer the other so it shows I will play with women, just not have a relationship with them; hope that makes sense? 
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It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples." From a fellow Unicorn this is spot on.
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I initially put bi curious as (for me personally) stating bisexual means that I would have an equal relationship with a woman as I would with Ian, which I know I wouldn’t, so prefer the other so it shows I will play with women, just not have a relationship with them; hope that makes sense?
Millie x"I did something similar when I was first labeling myself. My advice, do whatever you feel comfortable and if you want to speak about it. Personally I do not need all your previous relationship details to play with you, maybe a little on sexual experience if I get the hint that you are a little new that's all. xxx | |||
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Millie x"That's an interesting view and something I hadn't considered. I see bisexual as you would DEFINITELY have sex with a female (as a female) and bicurious is you're not sure if you would have full sex (as it were) and am nervous/unsure about the whole thing? I consider myself bi but have had relationships with women so would be bi either way lol. Interesting concept though | |||
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad
We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy!
It's always absolutely rammed until 10 and then everyone goes back to their hotels for a shag lol.
Bloody perverts! Sounds like we're going to need a big bed
Mm I reckon the bugger, the better
I mean if we had a decent club in Bristol, then everyone could just head there but hey-ho!
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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" I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
Know exactly what you mean although we're only half an hour from secrets we find that the southwest is very hard place to swing. We are both still very much surprised with the size of Bristol it's never gained a couple of good clubs? There's one but we've not experienced it yet, the Bristol social was very busy . Although we have a few single female friends and would like to meet single ladies for fun we haven't been inclined to actively hunt them.
Not saying that it's common but we did get chatting to one local unicorn and let's just say that the content of flirting was a bit odd it's like we're supposed to worship her like some deity and some how expected to be ok about been driven apart in some sort of jealousy triangle.
We both started swinging as singles and when meeting with couples really respected the boundaries of been a 3rd so kind of got put off by that.
No way?! That's bizarre. I hope we don't come across like that? I can sometimes get my Princess Mode on if I'm having a weird day but wouldn't like people to think I wanted to be worshipped (though there's a time and place for worshipping...)
Bristol has Dare To which is not my cup of tea and I've been barred for leaving an accurate review and challenging the owner about paying some of the 'girls' to 'service' guys during swinging events. Just be careful and aware of this if you go there.
Other than that and a few events, we don't have anything. It's terrible. And very sad
We are trying to get on the list for the Bristol Social. Looks like it's going to be busy!
It's always absolutely rammed until 10 and then everyone goes back to their hotels for a shag lol.
Bloody perverts! Sounds like we're going to need a big bed
Mm I reckon the bugger, the better
I mean if we had a decent club in Bristol, then everyone could just head there but hey-ho!
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"There are also ladies that play with couples out there from all walks of life that none of the above fits ... that are quite happy to buy a round of drinks or pay there own club entry/babysit/accommodation, that are able to accommodate, that don't have children or whose children are grown up, who work shift patterns or are self-employed etc etc etc Ladies that play with couples come in all shapes, sizes, ages, circumstances etc etc so the above will not fit all ... Never lose hope but you can meet them anywhere or anytime ... make your own go To's or rules and be happy But my only piece of advice to anyone would be enjoy yourselves and remember to be there equally for all involved!" Absolutely true! I wasn't implying that this fits all single ladies. Hence the disclaimer at the beginning most unicorns I know for into most of these as you can tell by the other comments. But swinging is never 'one size fits all' so there will definitely be more than just these out there.
For clarification, I wasn't suggesting that single ladies won't pay their own way and the couple should pay for everything. I was just trying to make a point that single ladies need to consider paying for travel, hotels and drinks as a single person with one income and that might be difficult - a couple might have more luck finding someone if they want/can be more flexible in this area.
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It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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"This is a great post. We thought we implemented this on how we do things. Still struggle! Nice to see a good guide in one place though. Thank you. Happy Christmas to you and thank you again. x" Yeah it's not easy, but it's not easy for us singles to find a couple either
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Obviously everyone can have their own rules but definitely won’t meet couples where I can’t kiss the guy. Or suck or ride his dick.
My best experience on here was with a guy I’ve was already meeting and his wife came along too one time and we had lots of fun.
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Obviously everyone can have their own rules but definitely won’t meet couples where I can’t kiss the guy. Or suck or ride his dick.
My best experience on here was with a guy I’ve was already meeting and his wife came along too one time and we had lots of fun.
I’d be totally up for a one off if I was at an event or club but hate getting messages expecting me to just turn up to be a couple’s plaything"Perfect, the club environment is a brilliant place for a little experimentation. If everyone really clicks then it can evolve into pan sexual outside clubs. I find it funny that it is often the ‘unicorn’ that is hunting in a club. | |||
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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"Thanks for the advice. Weve all but given up recently but who knows. X Does this guide help you to change anything? The main things for me are where you live and when you can meet? Have you tried clubs or events? Clubs are tricky in cornwall we have none at all!! We do try to go to secrets as much as we can. The twice weve spent a fortune travelling to clubs most people stick to their groups and dont speak. We will try some clubs next year again. We have a child so we have to arrange meets in advance. It can be done weve done it before. Then we make the effort and the meets get cancelled!! Also in cornwall 90% of single females are fake male profiles or straight females. Getting C in more photos would be useful I'll have to nag some more over christmas hahaha. To be honest its fab in general at the moment!! Its quiet as anything around here in cornwall. We're not just looking for women we will meet couples too and the odd single guy. But it's becoming difficult as theres so many damn fakes. X I think the West Country is just terrible for swinging. We don't have the clubs or events for it - which is really sad I'm in Bristol and we don't have any clubs otherwise I'd be there every week. Even the events we do have are in the middle of nowhere and a cab can be £50+ to Bristol, God knows what it's like in Cornwall.
I have to travel to London or the Midlands to go a decent club which is £250+ for a weekend with a hotel, drinking and travel. Secrets is good but quite cliquey and still £100+. I just can't afford it swinging is an expensive hobby unless you're in the north or London and can swap the hotel for a taxi.
I really feel your pain, but it's just as difficult for me with fake profiles and being in the back ass of nowhere.
"Your best bet to cut down that ridiculous cost is to make some girl friends in other areas of the country? Some will happily accommodate you for the night if you're trying the clubs out around their area, provided you get along. Also if it's a decent sized event you're going to, put the feelers out well beforehand, there may be others headed there from your direction which may make travel cheaper. Hope this helps!
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It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples. Perfectly done, I might add link to this on my profile too
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Fuck me ...your ego knows no bounds...
It was a joke.
What? The whole post? A bloody long joke, and completely missed the punch line...
If you wanted to be bitchy about the original posting then that's what you have to reply to. Adding your bit of vitriol at the point that you did, implies that you have a problem with the latter part of the conversation, which is clearly a joke. If you are going to describe yourself as a sapiofile, you might want to demonstrate in yourself that which you seek. At least the bratty bit is true.
Merry Christmas "Lol...actually the whole post IS a joke...unicorns my arse...self inflated egotistical women who fanny around with men and women ... And nice stalk on my profile...aren't you the clever one | |||
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"Thanks for the advice. Weve all but given up recently but who knows. X Does this guide help you to change anything? The main things for me are where you live and when you can meet? Have you tried clubs or events? Clubs are tricky in cornwall we have none at all!! We do try to go to secrets as much as we can. The twice weve spent a fortune travelling to clubs most people stick to their groups and dont speak. We will try some clubs next year again. We have a child so we have to arrange meets in advance. It can be done weve done it before. Then we make the effort and the meets get cancelled!! Also in cornwall 90% of single females are fake male profiles or straight females. Getting C in more photos would be useful I'll have to nag some more over christmas hahaha. To be honest its fab in general at the moment!! Its quiet as anything around here in cornwall. We're not just looking for women we will meet couples too and the odd single guy. But it's becoming difficult as theres so many damn fakes. X" I'm sorry you find it so negative in Cornwall! I'm in West Cornwall so much further down than you and harder to get anywhere but find it very different to you! There are often parties and organised socials. Yes we all have to travel to clubs but there are often lift/accommodation shares on the go. Lots of honest straight and bi ladies down here and I often work away and down here there are no more fakes than anywhere ... actually I find less tbh though the fan "tourist trade" can be annoying but I know a few that find them fun! It's just horses for courses but down here as long as you're prepared to put the work in the fun rewards are loads and loads! People have party places and loads of naturist beaches around ... really sorry you're finding it so hard! | |||
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""We aren't going to steal all your men, we promise to bring them back in mostly the same shape we took them" Whilst we appreciate the honest sentiment, if you're going to bring the men back to her, then couldn't you just kill us rather? Show some mercy! It's Christmas! Lol shall I set you free into the wilderness instead? You could form your own colony
If that's the only alternative. We shall build a fortress to protect us from angry sapiophiles.
I quite liked the idea of being stolen and kept. Why play fair? I'm house trained and conveniently short so I don't take up much room. I'm self inflated just like unicorns so no pump required. "Oh you can inflate the blow up unicorns ready for summer in winter parties we always have a lot of fun with them. And keep your long words to yourself it's the holidays time to play | |||
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If that's the only alternative. We shall build a fortress to protect us from angry sapiophiles.
I quite liked the idea of being stolen and kept. Why play fair? I'm house trained and conveniently short so I don't take up much room. I'm self inflated just like unicorns so no pump required.
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"We would love to find a single lady who would like to play with us. Never see people as toys have lots of them already. I find I don’t like to message as I don’t want to come across as pushy or anything so wink, have given you a wink OP in the hope you see something you may like
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- we ignore winks. We get 100s everyday. Send a message, be thoughtful and make sure you read our profile first.
Would you travel to Bristol for a social? "I’ve been brave and messaged you  lol
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"As a unicorn myself, this is brilliant. Thanks OP for this
I second this!
I initially put bi curious as (for me personally) stating bisexual means that I would have an equal relationship with a woman as I would with Ian, which I know I wouldn’t, so prefer the other so it shows I will play with women, just not have a relationship with them; hope that makes sense?
Millie x
That's an interesting view and something I hadn't considered. I see bisexual as you would DEFINITELY have sex with a female (as a female) and bicurious is you're not sure if you would have full sex (as it were) and am nervous/unsure about the whole thing?
I consider myself bi but have had relationships with women so would be bi either way lol.
Interesting concept though "Appreciate the feedback and I have played with F as F and also as part of a couple. Maybe change it in the new year
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"Agree with every single point, we’ve had lots of FFM meets and our number one piece of advice is, don’t put a single lady on a pedestal or treat them like a toy, it’s equal way dynamics from conversation to play x" Equal dynamics, so treat them as human beings but....they want to play with you & you want to play with them. End of, Forget the unicorn shite. Couples shouldn’t put the ladies on pedestals & some of the ladies need to leave their pedestals at home.. But the OP’s post covers much, what it doesn’t cover is deceit by some who only really want to play with one of you & deceit where after a meet they start chatting more with one than the other & try to cause disruption & disharmony, We’ve had that before & just cut them dead. But no warning of that? What we would say though is it’s easier to find a single female outside of this site than in it. Partly this is because there are too many fakes & players here, not just the guys with female profiles or straight guys that meet for bj’s, but the women who have bi on their profiles when they are either not bi or not actively seeking women or couples. It’s almost like some want to “Fill out” their profiles to fit in with what maybe they think they need to put as it’s a swingers site after all & putting straight wanting cock is well “Sooo normal” & then they only meet with guys anyway.
Our advise is the similar to others, if your trying to meet purely through here you are pretty much wasting your time, get to clubs or if like us they are miles away get to some socials & meet face to face & put the feelers out.
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"Wow! Merry Christmas everyone!! Some people will just find negativity anywhere
Have a great day and happy fabbing! "Merry Christmas lovely lady | |||
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"Wow! Merry Christmas everyone!! Some people will just find negativity anywhere
Have a great day and happy fabbing! "Not negative at all, realistic & with experience which let’s be honest a lot of couples on here haven’t had yet & if we had just sat here messaging people for the last four & a bit years we probably wouldn’t have had either. None of our meets came purely through messaging & then meeting privately on this site. There are many positives but you’d covered most of those you just didn’t point out a single negative/risk/problem there might be for a couple in going down the road of finding another to share their bed, it was all from your perspective as the single lady which is understandable. We have had more meets this year from H’s social networking & the Poly sites purely to start with online & then just meeting them/us for a one/one social & going forward or not from there than we have had in all the time we have been here trying to use the same method. So to us a couple thinking they will message & then meet someone without the need to go to a club or a large group social are wasting their time & effort & it would be better spent elsewhere. We just thought a little bit of a check using our past experiences was required (as thats what we have to go on). Anyway, soon time to get up & open pressies so to everyone have a very Merry Christmas xx S&H | |||
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"Wow! Merry Christmas everyone!! Some people will just find negativity anywhere
Have a great day and happy fabbing!
Not negative at all, realistic & with experience which let’s be honest a lot of couples on here haven’t had yet & if we had just sat here messaging people for the last four & a bit years we probably wouldn’t have had either. None of our meets came purely through messaging & then meeting privately on this site.
There are many positives but you’d covered most of those you just didn’t point out a single negative/risk/problem there might be for a couple in going down the road of finding another to share their bed, it was all from your perspective as the single lady which is understandable.
We have had more meets this year from H’s social networking & the Poly sites purely to start with online & then just meeting them/us for a one/one social & going forward or not from there than we have had in all the time we have been here trying to use the same method.
So to us a couple thinking they will message & then meet someone without the need to go to a club or a large group social are wasting their time & effort & it would be better spent elsewhere.
We just thought a little bit of a check using our past experiences was required (as thats what we have to go on).
Anyway, soon time to get up & open pressies so to everyone have a very Merry Christmas
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"Wow! Merry Christmas everyone!! Some people will just find negativity anywhere
Have a great day and happy fabbing!
Not negative at all, realistic & with experience which let’s be honest a lot of couples on here haven’t had yet & if we had just sat here messaging people for the last four & a bit years we probably wouldn’t have had either. None of our meets came purely through messaging & then meeting privately on this site.
There are many positives but you’d covered most of those you just didn’t point out a single negative/risk/problem there might be for a couple in going down the road of finding another to share their bed, it was all from your perspective as the single lady which is understandable.
We have had more meets this year from H’s social networking & the Poly sites purely to start with online & then just meeting them/us for a one/one social & going forward or not from there than we have had in all the time we have been here trying to use the same method.
So to us a couple thinking they will message & then meet someone without the need to go to a club or a large group social are wasting their time & effort & it would be better spent elsewhere.
We just thought a little bit of a check using our past experiences was required (as thats what we have to go on).
Anyway, soon time to get up & open pressies so to everyone have a very Merry Christmas
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"Wow! Merry Christmas everyone!! Some people will just find negativity anywhere
Have a great day and happy fabbing!
Not negative at all, realistic & with experience which let’s be honest a lot of couples on here haven’t had yet & if we had just sat here messaging people for the last four & a bit years we probably wouldn’t have had either. None of our meets came purely through messaging & then meeting privately on this site.
There are many positives but you’d covered most of those you just didn’t point out a single negative/risk/problem there might be for a couple in going down the road of finding another to share their bed, it was all from your perspective as the single lady which is understandable.
We have had more meets this year from H’s social networking & the Poly sites purely to start with online & then just meeting them/us for a one/one social & going forward or not from there than we have had in all the time we have been here trying to use the same method.
So to us a couple thinking they will message & then meet someone without the need to go to a club or a large group social are wasting their time & effort & it would be better spent elsewhere.
We just thought a little bit of a check using our past experiences was required (as thats what we have to go on).
Anyway, soon time to get up & open pressies so to everyone have a very Merry Christmas
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Not sure that was directed at you....
Correct! Not directed at them at all... Don't mind a few realistic comments and different experiences it's the rudeness and downright negativity that I was commenting on lol. "X Ah ok, I just tend not to go back through threads past my last message so assumed (The mother of, as they say) it was aimed at our last post which was a little in he negative to be fair. Enjoy your Xmas x S&H | |||
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"As a unicorn, I want to put across how difficult it is for US to find a couple to play with. I’ve been swinging for over a decade, five years as a swinger. Lots of this is tongue-in-cheek and based on my own experiences, but hope you all get the meaning ?? 1. Yes, we want to see both of you at the same time in the same place at least once - a video chat will do but most likely a face-to-face/social BEFORE we arrange a meet. If you can’t/won’t do this then we’ll assume you’re fake and won’t take it any further. 2. You might need to get your hands in your pocket. Yes, this might mean getting a babysitter, travelling, getting a hotel, going to a club etc. We’re in demand and meeting you on our own, so you can’t act like entitled snowflakes. 3. There has to be sexual attraction to both of you. This is totally subjective and down to our own preferences so you might be turned down/ignored/ghosted if we don’t like the look of one or either of you. It’s not personal, just down to taste and we can afford to be picky 4. We will want to play with both of you and we are not a toy. We will assume we can kiss both of you and have penetrative sex. If you put rules down, then it’s unlikely we’ll take it any further - there are plenty of couples who won’t put rules in place. 5. As a single female, we are travelling/meeting you on our own. Please put yourselves in our shoes and understand how difficult this is at times and could be potentially unsafe for us. We don’t know you, we could be meeting you somewhere we don’t know and could be putting ourselves in danger. Be flexible and understanding. 6. You might need to answer some pretty personal questions and analysis of your relationship. We do not want to be stuck in the middle of a drama and a domestic and will look to make sure we are happy that you are in a strong position before we meet you. 7. We have lives, kids, work and other commitments outside of our sex lives and are often single mums. We can’t drop everything and rush to meet you so we need to plan in advance and our schedules can be limited. Conversely, sometimes we find ourselves with a few hours spare and might be able to meet you at the drop of a hat! Again, understanding and patience is appreciated here. We don’t expect you to drop everything but we don’t expect abuse or twatiness if we let you know that we’re suddenly available and you’re not. We understand that you might not be available, but we’ll always ask, just in case! 8. Get yourself to swinging clubs and events. These are excellent places where we hang out and feel safe. Buy us drinks and treat us like normal people and we’ll really appreciate that - might even give you a shag as a thank you lol. 9. Most of us are fully bi and will expect to play with BOTH of you. If the female of the couple is only bi-curious and/or not been with a woman before then make this VERY clear as soon as possible. Some Unicorns won’t appreciate popping bi cherries and we are not toys or robots to act on your whim and for only your benefit. 10. We don’t mind answering questions and are usually very open, but there is often a lot to find on our profiles - read everything, be interested in us as actual human beings and that will get you a long way. 11. Don’t get offended if you get ghosted or ignored. We are busy and in demand (also often single working parents) and we don’t have time to reply to everyone. Especially if you don’t fit our preferences, can’t accommodate, won’t travel, aren’t available when we are, don’t look like our type, have a shit profile etc etc 12. Make the time to read our profiles and ensure you fit in with our preferences before you message. This is the first thing we’ll look at and probably won't even reply if you don’t check those boxes. These can include: looks, body shape, location, smoking, piercings, tattoos, hair, accommodate, travel, availability, accents, colour of your eyes and anything else! Again, we can afford to be fussy and we often are... 13. We sometimes know other unicorns and have FWBs but we can’t just magic them up if you fancy a gangbang/orgy. Get yourself to clubs and events if this is something you want to try, or at least build a relationship and have one meet before broaching this as a serious suggestion. 14. We tend to carry a lot of sway in the swinging community, so try to be nice and respectful. Don’t act like twats. We will warn other unicorns about you if you are abusive/fake/liars so keep that in mind. 15. A verification on Fab from a unicorn will really help you meet others so try to meet us for a social - even at a social event is good. Have your Fab profile name written down or get the Unicorn’s Fab name then and there are send them a message asap to remind them who you are. I’ve met loads of amazing people at socials who I can’t verify the next day because I can’t remember their Fab names after a few gins (and Fab names are weird). 16. Sometimes people pretend to be Unicorns (to get you to meet them and not notice that they are a guy?? Who knows!). If they’re too good to be true, then they probably are. Be aware of who you might be arranging to meet or invite your house. If you think you’re talking to a unicorn and they DON’T ask to see you as a live couple, then this should sound major alarm bells. 17. Ask us how long we’ve been swinging, how long we’ve been a unicorn and what our own experiences are. We’re rare but that doesn’t mean you should invite someone into your house/bed/relationship without asking important questions. I wouldn't be offended at being asked anything like this. It shows that you’ve thought about what you’re doing and are taking it seriously (as you should!) 18. An experienced unicorn won’t mind taking the lead in contact, making arrangements etc but newbie unicorns can be very shy and find the whole thing just as overwhelming as you can so think about what you want/need and how that’s going to work for socials and meets to play. Always happy to answer questions and meet couples." THANK YOU FOR THIS! especially n3.
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"I've read and re-read this several times,and I'm sorry OP but it reeks of entitlement. The whole thing reads like a testament to "we hold all aces and you mere mortal couples can cow tow to our every whim" There's not a hint of mutual respect and understanding in what you say.Guess what? Us couples are human beings too. We're not simperingly obligated to any "unicorn" who deems us worthy of her attention and who requires us to treat her like some kind deity. It could be that tiredness has caused me to misinterpret what you're trying to get across but somehow I doubt it " I would tend to agree with this. When I read the original post, I was like "wow they are that high up on a pedestal now???". MsDub | |||
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Yes, I'm aware that not every unicorns likes to be called a unicorn but that's not something I can personally change. Most unicorns I've met and spoken to know what it means and my inbox (and this thread) has been mostly full of positive comments and agreement. Again, if you don't like it, you can just ignore this thread. No need to be nasty, negative and abusive. Total waste of your time.
If you think we're/I'm entitled because of this or any other thread then that's great. Just keep scrolling and fuck off it's a Unicorn's World and we can pick and choose who we want to sleep with. Supply and demand is in our favour and we can put whatever filters we want in place to let whomever we want to touch our bodies. Most woman also have that right (unless I'm mistaken??) and the online dating game is the same. More of us and less of them. I've had meets with men, women and couples from all walks of life, shapes, sizes and colours. I've also been turned down, ignored, ghosted and been abused by a fair few couples and singles too so it's not like I can just snap my fingers and get to shag whomever I want in an hour. If anyone thinks that this is what we're thinking, then this is exactly who this thread was aimed at - we're trying to educate you on why we do what we do. Unfortunately, some people seem to behave with more ignorance than understanding and don't get it. What a shame.
As I said in the very first paragraph, this is meant to be tongue-in-cheek and light-hearted. I didn't think it would take off like it has but I'm chuffed that the majority of people have taken it as it was meant - as a guide to why unicorns are hard to find and what couples can do to help find one. It seems to be the biggest issue in swinging for couples and I like to help solve problems.
Thanks to everyone who has appreciated the post - it's been lovely to read your comments and messages. Everyone else can just fuck off. You're all blocked and I doubt me or any other unicorn reading this thread will go near you, but I'm sure your dazzling personalities will win out in person. Lol.
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I'm in!! "I'm now considering this seriously. Pity the venue is secret otherwise I would get a few adjoining rooms at the venue. | |||
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I'm now considering this seriously. Pity the venue is secret otherwise I would get a few adjoining rooms at the venue."Bit of a slog for us, Cardiff is nearly two hours away! Although we are doing a couple of Welsh socials in the new year S&H | |||
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For me, popping to a club for a social on a couple's and single ladies night is far less daunting (and filters out the fantasists). I much prefer to chat/flirt in person x"We’ve had are most successful unicorn meets at a club for that reason. I (the Boy) genuinely think the way Kitty and I interact with each other and other people works in our favour. That way a unicorn knows we’re both into the situation! | |||
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"Let's get this straight shall we? Statistcally the most common fantasy the couples have is to have a single bi woman join them in the bedroom. There are many 'professional' people willing to do this but this is not what most couples want. There are not many single women on fab and fewer who want to join couples. Therefore the ratio of couples to 'unicorns' is redicilously in favour of the 'unicorn' (and hence the name) who is now in a position to pick and choose. You would think, therefore that unicorns are treated well for their troubles. Consider the above mentioned risks: 1) They go to a stangers house where they are outnumbered two to one. 2) The chances of emotional conflict are doubled in terms of jealousy. 3) Almost exclusively the unicorn does the travelling. 4) The 'bicurious' female in the couple often chickens out. 5) The couple sometimes ignore the unicorn once her role is complete. The unicorn gets very little out of it considering she could probably have a man or woman any time she chooses. Single women, be they for a couples meet or if you are a single guy, are a PRIVILEGE not a right. While you are enjoying the company of this single woman, many people are not. So the reality is that if couples are willing to poo poo the honour of having that privilege then I would say that it is THEM that are being entitled thinking women should be grateful to allow them into their bed. It certainly explains the disgusting behaviour of some couples toward a guest in their homes. As a man who meets women on their own as well as couples with my gf. I am conscious that many of these women are single mothers who bear much of the expense of a meet in terms of babysitters etc. I think it is only fair to at least offer to cover half those expenses. As an old fashioned guy, I am always willing to cover all those expenses plus take the lady in question out for a nice meal provided it is understood there is no quid pro quo in the arrangement. " Some great points. And to be honest, it’s not even that easy to find a ‘professional.’ You’ve still got to find one you both find attractive, who is willing to meet couples, is actually bi (for most it’s a marketing ploy) and some charge double for couples if they are even willing to meet at all. It is not easy to find a bi fem to join a couple. Easiest/best way I have found is if you have a couple of fuck buddies, ask if they are up for it! | |||
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I've had one where the experience itself was ok, but the guy then started messaging me afterwards really pushing for a single meet with him behind his wife's back. In the end I told her what he was doing because he wouldn't stop - then got a load of shit from both of them.
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"Fabulous post OP Personally I just tend to come across couple's at club nights. Never planned. I don't actively look for couple's via Fab. I used to advertise as "looking for couples" but mostly got bombarded with faceless messages asking me to pop cherries or be a birthday gift . Worse still, a list of rules or instructions for if we did meet.
For me, popping to a club for a social on a couple's and single ladies night is far less daunting (and filters out the fantasists). I much prefer to chat/flirt in person x
We’ve had are most successful unicorn meets at a club for that reason.
I (the Boy) genuinely think the way Kitty and I interact with each other and other people works in our favour. That way a unicorn knows we’re both into the situation! "Bang on (pardon the pun). I wish we had more clubs in Bristol and I didn't have to go to the vast expense and time to get to a decent one miles away it's the best and safest way for me to meet people... | |||
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"As a former 'unicorn' myself I agree with the OP 100%. I've had to make my own way to couple's houses (I didn't drive then) in all weathers. Not even offered a lift home from one encounter. I've got to the house and been told the lady won't be playing and we 'had to be done before she got off the phone talking to HIS Mum' also I had taken a taxi there and didn't have a way out. I used to get messages and basically felt like I was a hooker/escort for the evening. Girls play only. No kissing from Male, no penetration from Male to Unicorn. Blurgh! A whole list of things which I could go on and on about. I know not all couples are like this and these are extreme examples but couples need to be prepared to give a little bit as well. And not just sex. Lol. If you won't kiss or penetrate another person then maybe a single woman/man isn't for you. Build yourself up to it maybe? No woman wants to watch a couple have sex while she sits on the bed, there's nothing in it for HER. My 2p, take it or leave it. Happy Boxing Day! BDCAW Xx Agree with all this, too many couples have too many rules, no kissing, penetration blah blah blah, never been our issue we think that’s why we get lots of FFM meets, generally a single lady will avoid any couples with a sniff of an issue and that ironically includes couples looking for single females only lol x" Yep. There are SO many red flags and that would be one for me. Especially if both people are listed as 'straight' or the woman is just 'bi-curious'. You then get a message making it very clear that Mrs is not actually too keen but is going along with it for Mr's sake/birthday present/put the spark back or whatever. It's not to say that I always want an experienced bi woman, but I want to know that I'm not being brought in against someone's wishes or, God forbid, being involved in some kind of sexual abuse scenario. I think a lot of couples put that they want friendship as well, but I'm not sure they understand the dynamics of that and how that would work? Is it bordering on Poly? What about if Mrs or Mr wants to meet with the Unicorn separately? What if someone develops the Feels? Do you do everything in a group chat? There are SO many questions and it CAN get very complicated... | |||
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"Fabulous post OP Personally I just tend to come across couple's at club nights. Never planned. I don't actively look for couple's via Fab. I used to advertise as "looking for couples" but mostly got bombarded with faceless messages asking me to pop cherries or be a birthday gift . Worse still, a list of rules or instructions for if we did meet.
For me, popping to a club for a social on a couple's and single ladies night is far less daunting (and filters out the fantasists). I much prefer to chat/flirt in person x
We’ve had are most successful unicorn meets at a club for that reason.
I (the Boy) genuinely think the way Kitty and I interact with each other and other people works in our favour. That way a unicorn knows we’re both into the situation!
Bang on (pardon the pun). I wish we had more clubs in Bristol and I didn't have to go to the vast expense and time to get to a decent one miles away it's the best and safest way for me to meet people..."Get yourself to Route69 in Weston! We like it there! | |||
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" Yes, I'm aware that not every unicorns likes to be called a unicorn but that's not something I can personally change. Most unicorns I've met and spoken to know what it means and my inbox (and this thread) has been mostly full of positive comments and agreement. Again, if you don't like it, you can just ignore this thread. No need to be nasty, negative and abusive. Thanks to everyone who has appreciated the post - it's been lovely to read your comments and messages. Everyone else can just fuck off. " You say there is no need for people to be abusive and then go on to be abusive yourself. In fact people had not been abusive like you had, they just didn't agree / like your post. Not liking or disagreeing with a post is fine, being abusive by telling people to fuck off isn't. | |||
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