FabSwingers.com forum: When do you give up?

By *iner69er OP Man
over a year ago

inverness

Do any guys on here reckon they will eventually give up the site? After spending years getting nowhere, at what point do you think, thats it, im out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe put some pics on your profile. We girlies don't really like meeting silhouettes. And go to some clubs and parties. I know it's not easy for guys on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best give it up when it stops being fun,we will pack it in when I’ve blocked over 20,000 men who can’t or won’t read.

Good luck and chin up.!!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been here over a year and your profile is really basic! Doesn’t help at all

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By *iner69er OP Man
over a year ago

inverness

"You have been here over a year and your profile is really basic! Doesn’t help at all"
i put relevant info and photos in my messages. Dont want to have my photo on the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get out what you put in...

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

"You have been here over a year and your profile is really basic! Doesn’t help at alli put relevant info and photos in my messages. Dont want to have my photo on the profile. "
Doesnt have to be your face anything but what you have as id pass over because of it ...

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By *impleSailorMan
over a year ago

the moon

It can be frustrating but if this is the life you want then why give up?

Update profile, post some pictures.

Have a look at other male profiles to get an idea of what you think makes a good profile.

There are a lot more men than women here and you have to make yourself standout, not with looks but with personality

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Results are based on the effort you put in. The site is just a tool. It’s up to you to use it wisely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sigh .... so much good advice here. But if you don't want to hear it, it is pointless people replying really.

You need some photos. Not necessarily face pics, just something to give us ladies a clue. Torso. Bum. Chest. All are ok. Don't need your face, although you could put some in friends only for when you get chatting to people. You can't be that ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have no expectations then you can’t be disappointed.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Maybe rethink your profile

And have a profile photo, when couples message us and have no photos we just delete them without even looking, buy always chat to people who have photos and a half decent profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always the same this isn't tinder, even that's hard I'm told, as a couple we still have to do a lot of effort into making our profile stand out. Trying even to find couples who have similar interests, likes and dislikes is not easy so single guys really have to try harder than us.

As a couple and I'm also on here as a single guy I see both sides of the problem. You need to go to clubs and socials as a single guy to get yourself seen just putting something on here won't generally make it happen unless you really stand out to someone, not with just cock pics lol. Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me about six months to realise some basic rules:

1. Complete your profile - description, pictures. People want to know you're real, sensible and can at least write a few sentances.

2. Be honest - abour your age, preferences, sexuality. People will discover allnof this eventually so better to be up front.

3. Read profiles before messaging. Keep it short but make it informative and interesting. And don't rush to set up a meeting. Chat first. If you met someone at a party you wouldn't immediately suggest going back to their place for a fuck would you?

4. Expect to be ignored. And deleted. And blocked. Don't take it personally, that's just the way it is for guys.

5. Leave the occassional status update. Doesn't have to be every day. And it can be simple and innocuous as well as overt or raunchy. It will get you noticed a bit more.

6. Once you make contact, take your time. Have a conversation, ask questions, say a few things about yourself. Be cheeky, mysterious, flirty, candid. Just like you would chatting anyone up. For many ladies, the 'getting to know you' part is just as important as the first meeting.

7. DON'T arrange a meeting and not turn up. The first few meets can be daunting, but if you bail your reputation will suffer (yes, experiencef swinger do talk to each other and will check you out!) Plus every guy who stands a lady or couple up makes it even harder for the rest of us.

8. Don't be desperate. Men think dozens of veris will get them more meetings. Women on the other hand are looking for guys who have just a few genuine veris and are demonstrably discrete, reliable and fun to be with.

Hope that helps.

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By *iner69er OP Man
over a year ago

inverness

"Sigh .... so much good advice here. But if you don't want to hear it, it is pointless people replying really.

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was going to show you the photo i send in messages, but im not a site supporter. I dont think im that ugly, but it would appear most women do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate 90% of the woman on here you're better off knocking one out yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, one more thing... Become a site supporter. It's cheap as chips and shows you are committed to the site. Ladies have told me they ONLY responded because I was a supporter.

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By *iner69er OP Man
over a year ago

inverness

"Oh yes, one more thing... Become a site supporter. It's cheap as chips and shows you are committed to the site. Ladies have told me they ONLY responded because I was a supporter."
bit of a swindle. You get the impression its £5 for 50 days. Sounds good, but when you click on it, you have to pay more. Cant see it helping much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do any guys on here reckon they will eventually give up the site? After spending years getting nowhere, at what point do you think, thats it, im out? "
now

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Nope. It’s £5.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Oh yes, one more thing... Become a site supporter. It's cheap as chips and shows you are committed to the site. Ladies have told me they ONLY responded because I was a supporter.bit of a swindle. You get the impression its £5 for 50 days. Sounds good, but when you click on it, you have to pay more. Cant see it helping much. "
I think I pay £5 for 30something days.. so its hardly going to break the bank. Like many of my friends.. my profile is set to not even allow non site supporters to message.

As others have said.. you need some photos on... doesnt have to show much.. and a catching profile photo can make all the difference.

Status updates that show your personality can be great. I've messaged and subsequently met guys I've thought had good status updates.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Green arrow.

You’ve had plenty of advice on other posts you’ve started or been active on. Why are you asking for advice that you’ve already had and not heeded? Either change what you’re doing and get a different result, or carry on as you are and get the results you get now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best give it up when it stops being fun,we will pack it in when I’ve blocked over 20,000 men who can’t or won’t read.

Good luck and chin up.!!

Tony"

You've blocked 20k profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best give it up when it stops being fun,we will pack it in when I’ve blocked over 20,000 men who can’t or won’t read.

Good luck and chin up.!!

Tony

You've blocked 20k profiles

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who needs men right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bash one out you won't be so sensitive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate 90% of the woman on here you're better off knocking one out yourself"

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best give it up when it stops being fun,we will pack it in when I’ve blocked over 20,000 men who can’t or won’t read.

Good luck and chin up.!!

Tony

You've blocked 20k profiles

who needs men right

How long would it take to shag 20k men... And how would you go about it... Alphabetically to be fair??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up? You don't look like you've started yet dude, you've not even got a profile picture

You only get out what you put in on sites like these

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give up hope of meeting anyone years ago. But I only stay on here because I don't pay anymore.And if anyone near is looking at me they must not want me if they don't mail so I don't have to know who doesn't like me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it wasn’t for the forum I’d be long gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think all the guys on here should give up and leave! The sooner the better!

(Those fools will never figure out my cunning plan?. I'm gonna get so much pussy when I'm the last guy on here. I'm a genius!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless my luck changes I'll be off at the end of the month when my silver membership ends.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do any guys on here reckon they will eventually give up the site? After spending years getting nowhere, at what point do you think, thats it, im out? "

Inverness is a sexual metropolis get out there and stop moping about. Don’t be addicted to fab this place will drive you insane.

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

A couple of pictures and decent description would do wonders for you mate. You get out what you put in at the end of the day

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Unless my luck changes I'll be off at the end of the month when my silver membership ends."

You have a great profile, I’m surprised you’re not doing better. You also have a great body. Maybe some teasing torso pics would help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot do next to naff all to entice willing victims, whinge about the site n how crap it is and say things like "it's not a dating site" or "I am genuine and will always show up" or also "you have to be tall, ripped and have a huge cock to get anywhere on here", put on their status they are leaving, every few days for a month, to see if that makes them more attractive , leave (although quite often stay too) , return and do exactly the same as before...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

problem is alot of men arent prepaired to put in the effort on here, its a swinging site not instashag, alot of women only meet couples, and for balance its not that easy for couples, but we make the effort, go to socials etc, plus dont forget there are many more men than couples or women on here, so there is alot of compatition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plus with your profile we wouldnt meet you sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry but how do you expect a meet with a profile like yours put some effort in and maybe you’ll have a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s really easy on here. You have to get out and meet people. If you are relying on this site you’ll be disappointed. Go to clubs and talk to people it’s so easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless my luck changes I'll be off at the end of the month when my silver membership ends.

You have a great profile, I’m surprised you’re not doing better. You also have a great body. Maybe some teasing torso pics would help?"

Thanks. I put my lack of sucsess down to my age,a lot of people have an upper age limit of 55 & the fact I'm married & playing solo.

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By *iner69er OP Man
over a year ago

inverness

"Do any guys on here reckon they will eventually give up the site? After spending years getting nowhere, at what point do you think, thats it, im out?

Inverness is a sexual metropolis get out there and stop moping about. Don’t be addicted to fab this place will drive you insane."
sexual metropolis? Your joking, its nothing like that. Theres nothing doing here, either on fab or in real life.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Do any guys on here reckon they will eventually give up the site? After spending years getting nowhere, at what point do you think, thats it, im out? "

Enjoy the forums don't stress. The more u stress the more pressure u put ursekf through no need

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By *irtuousBullMan
over a year ago

lake district

Take a break and come back refreshed, have a think why people may be ignoring you and how you could show yourself off better in your bio etc. Don't take yourself too seriously either, no one wants that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do any guys on here reckon they will eventually give up the site? After spending years getting nowhere, at what point do you think, thats it, im out? "

Is fab the only way you swing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont get disheartened. Ive only been on 20 months now after a year I had 100 veris. Put a little effort into your profile. Get to a club and meet people.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"It took me about six months to realise some basic rules:

1. Complete your profile - description, pictures. People want to know you're real, sensible and can at least write a few sentances.

2. Be honest - abour your age, preferences, sexuality. People will discover allnof this eventually so better to be up front.

4. Expect to be ignored. And deleted. And blocked. Don't take it personally, that's just the way it is for guys.

5. Leave the occassional status update. Doesn't have to be every day. And it can be simple and innocuous as well as overt or raunchy. It will get you noticed a bit more.

Hope that helps."