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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last couple I meet she was d*unk. He tried to fuck me without asking after I had sucked him off when she wanted sex on the living room floor. She then took the Huff because I couldn't cum because as I said he was trying to fuck me. And because I had been sucking him at the same when I was trying to fuck her she said I didn't like her.

They wanted me dressed but only let me dress in the kitchen and my clothes ended up on the floor. And the cat sat on them.

They where that d*unk that they forgot to mention their house number. Because they wanted me to go to the back door. I couldn't get parked near the house and every time I phoned to ask someone to open the gate he took the Huff.

Because I was late

Never again. I thought I was just going to clean lol

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

No is the short answer. Unicorns and compatability are very rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X "

I think it is more a case of people are rude at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What a bad experience for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely don't know what this is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X "

I'm with you on this. I find couple's rarely take notice of my preferences and still message when we're clearly not a match. Mostly trying to get a show for the man of the couple.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X

I'm with you on this. I find couple's rarely take notice of my preferences and still message when we're clearly not a match. Mostly trying to get a show for the man of the couple."

This is generally my experience. I have met some nice ones though, where we have all joined in.

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie

Unicorn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are definitely interested in meeting a female to play with but we dont actively seek it. Weve probably had about 10 women message us in the 5 months we've been here and I think 9 of them were fantasies hiding behind a fake profile. The one real one just randomly stopped messaging one day

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"Last couple I meet she was d*unk. He tried to fuck me without asking after I had sucked him off when she wanted sex on the living room floor. She then took the Huff because I couldn't cum because as I said he was trying to fuck me. And because I had been sucking him at the same when I was trying to fuck her she said I didn't like her.

They wanted me dressed but only let me dress in the kitchen and my clothes ended up on the floor. And the cat sat on them.

They where that d*unk that they forgot to mention their house number. Because they wanted me to go to the back door. I couldn't get parked near the house and every time I phoned to ask someone to open the gate he took the Huff.

Because I was late

Never again. I thought I was just going to clean lol"

Oh how awful xx

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X "

Oh my! We would bend over backwards for a unicorn!

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We feel very honered when a unicorn joins us. We ensure that she is the focus of the play and the center of attention. Her pleasure first! Although like a bi one, so I - fem can join in.

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By *ucilleWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

I enjoy playing with couples too, I've met some fun couples, but overall it's been a bit of a headache.

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie

Is a unicorn a single person who plays with a couple?

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By *ucilleWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne


"Unicorn?"

A bisexual single woman who has sex with male/female couples.

As in, they're as rare as unicorns

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We would love to play with a unicorn but unfortunately we aren't having any luck at all

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'm with you on this. I find couple's rarely take notice of my preferences and still message when we're clearly not a match. Mostly trying to get a show for the man of the couple."

This has been my experience too. I've had a few really great ones but they have come from big socials or clubs. The messages I get are mostly them wanting me to be a 'treat' for the man or to put on a show with the woman x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been a unicorn to a couple before (successfully) it was mostly a spontaneous thing (obviously we talked boundaries but it wasn't planned out) and I already knew the male half of the couple on a friendly basis. They made me feel really included and we're so lovely before and after and I didn't feel like I was disposable or just there to put on a show, which is a common problem with couples and unicorns.

So yeah, it can be great =)

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

I (mrs) ended up changing my sexuality to straight as we were getting couples messaging us saying female must play with other female, put on a show for my man or worse, doesn’t matter if hubby doesn’t play. I’m in a couple and got sick of being spoken about like a commodity. Can see my single females are put off.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X "

Some people are just clueless. And entitled. I can't see how it works for them, but maybe it pays off occasionally? Or they are the definition of stupid.

I'm not bothering with couples on here at the moment. There are definitely some lovely people out there, and I've had lovely socials, but finding two people I feel a vibe with is difficult and it doesn't work well otherwise. A lot of fakes as well. And I've had pretty rude messages - the women have been worse - a list of what I should and shouldn't do with their man - have to have full sex, can't have full sex but have to give bj etc.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Tbh on here (Forum) all we ever hear is “I don’t want to be a show, Spare part” etc. Surely it is your picking process that’s at fault if this is an experience you have had?

Or do some put this that haven’t actually played with a couple, just had this sort of contact from couples? ie. the “I want to watch hubby/wife with you are you interested?”

Find it amazing that you would travel an hour under the rules you posted OP, We wouldn’t travel to the end of our road with someone giving instructions like that!

& yet when a couple is here that do none of that, offer more etc. We get nothing, so we walked away, looked elsewhere & found Poly much more to our liking.

Far less demanding, more involved, more than a one off fuck, see us because they want to etc. Not just a tick for the bucket list for them.

Perhaps couples that don’t treat singles as playthings or “Spares” are the real unicorns?

;-)

S

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I (mrs) ended up changing my sexuality to straight as we were getting couples messaging us saying female must play with other female, put on a show for my man or worse, doesn’t matter if hubby doesn’t play. I’m in a couple and got sick of being spoken about like a commodity. Can see my single females are put off."

I've done the same thing, I got fed up with couples pestering.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We've met some lovely women since we started swinging, and have had some amazing meets / play sessions with them.

And yeah, we put effort in. We get to know them as best we can, share face pics, discuss boundaries and desires of the three of us.

There is obviously a smaller number of women wanting to meet couples than there is couples wanting to meet women on fab. And then when you take attraction and compatibility the numbers obviously go down..

However, we try and put the same level of respect and effort into anyone we want to meet, whether they're male, female or a couple.

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

I played as a bisexual single for a while and to be honest it was overwhelming. I advertised for a fuck buddy lol.

Even now the amount of couples who ask for me to play with them without Charlie is insane. I must get at least one or two a day. Regularly they will try to contact me separately on WhatsApp or kik. It really puts you off.

Once we meet couples and I am comfortable with them I am happy to meet them separately but this aggressive sneekiness is completely off putting.

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

I was threatening to do exactly the same thing over the weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last couple I meet she was d*unk. He tried to fuck me without asking after I had sucked him off when she wanted sex on the living room floor. She then took the Huff because I couldn't cum because as I said he was trying to fuck me. And because I had been sucking him at the same when I was trying to fuck her she said I didn't like her.

They wanted me dressed but only let me dress in the kitchen and my clothes ended up on the floor. And the cat sat on them.

They where that d*unk that they forgot to mention their house number. Because they wanted me to go to the back door. I couldn't get parked near the house and every time I phoned to ask someone to open the gate he took the Huff.

Because I was late

Never again. I thought I was just going to clean lol

Oh how awful xx"

Am submissive to women not to men.So if am meeting with a couple they have to understand that I would only obey the female. And please her 1st.

But a lot of the time the guy think am there just to suck them of and be fucked.

When 90% of the time the female has just asked me to clean for her.

Or be spanked etc.

I only really play with the guys if they are in the submissive role to the female and we have to obey her.

But I still get guys saying come and clean wife at work and you have to please me because she said to him I have to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn’t travel an hour, another poster had the bad experience. I think I prefer poly too. My best experience on here was with a guy I had been meeting up with and after a few meets his wife came along too.

Generally couples who have messaged me I find not enough pics of guys, lots of does/don’t s (No oral with him, no penetration, no kissing) takes A LOT of the fun out. And they’re basically asking you to turn up, fuck us and leave and I just think, could you at least say please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it quite difficult and think we have a variety of pics in of us both.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East


"I played as a bisexual single for a while and to be honest it was overwhelming. I advertised for a fuck buddy lol.

Even now the amount of couples who ask for me to play with them without Charlie is insane. I must get at least one or two a day. Regularly they will try to contact me separately on WhatsApp or kik. It really puts you off.

Once we meet couples and I am comfortable with them I am happy to meet them separately but this aggressive sneekiness is completely off putting. "

You're very close to me, want a unicorn? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t travel an hour, another poster had the bad experience. I think I prefer poly too. My best experience on here was with a guy I had been meeting up with and after a few meets his wife came along too.

Generally couples who have messaged me I find not enough pics of guys, lots of does/don’t s (No oral with him, no penetration, no kissing) takes A LOT of the fun out. And they’re basically asking you to turn up, fuck us and leave and I just think, could you at least say please? "

Everything has to work for everyone, and all couples habe different rules. I'm perfectly happy for my other half to do anything with the other girl as long as we're all having fun. But some other couples or females aren't happy with the more intimate stuff. As a couple it makes things really hard to actually find someone who is completely compatible and who everyone is attracted to (from all parties). But when you find someone it can be fantastic, we were really lucky to find one girl who does tick everyone of our boxes and we all have so much fun together.

Just keep going, the right couple will make you feel comfortable and put in as much as effort as you. As long as you are all happy it can work really well, hope you find someone to match what you are after :D

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach


"I played as a bisexual single for a while and to be honest it was overwhelming. I advertised for a fuck buddy lol.

Even now the amount of couples who ask for me to play with them without Charlie is insane. I must get at least one or two a day. Regularly they will try to contact me separately on WhatsApp or kik. It really puts you off.

Once we meet couples and I am comfortable with them I am happy to meet them separately but this aggressive sneekiness is completely off putting.

You're very close to me, want a unicorn? Lol "

Lol, would love to xxx

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We know a few single ladies who play with couple's(most dont like being labelled)we have found if you just treat them like people you would like to spend time with,and take the time to find out what they like and want out of a meet,9/10 thay are more than willing to play with you

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"I didn’t travel an hour, another poster had the bad experience. I think I prefer poly too. My best experience on here was with a guy I had been meeting up with and after a few meets his wife came along too.

Generally couples who have messaged me I find not enough pics of guys, lots of does/don’t s (No oral with him, no penetration, no kissing) takes A LOT of the fun out. And they’re basically asking you to turn up, fuck us and leave and I just think, could you at least say please? "

Apologies, That’s me multitasking

The rules & all that side of things was why we gave up on here, stay for the forum & group socials (which we’ve missed due to our house move). We are deffo enjoying leaning more towards poly though, we’ve now had half a dozen meets with our poly gf, they might not even be for play she has spent a day out with H & gone to the cinema with me to see a film H didn’t want too, we helped her do her Christmas shopping as she doesn’t drive so I was bag carrier for the day for both of them

I guess for many that’s too involved, to us though it’s like being in a pool you can paddle around in the shallow end (literally sometimes) Or five straight in at the deep end & possibly struggle, we see ourselves about chest height atm

The more you get to know someone the more you get to know what makes them smile or tingle.

S&H

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I didn’t travel an hour, another poster had the bad experience. I think I prefer poly too. My best experience on here was with a guy I had been meeting up with and after a few meets his wife came along too.

Generally couples who have messaged me I find not enough pics of guys, lots of does/don’t s (No oral with him, no penetration, no kissing) takes A LOT of the fun out. And they’re basically asking you to turn up, fuck us and leave and I just think, could you at least say please?

Apologies, That’s me multitasking

The rules & all that side of things was why we gave up on here, stay for the forum & group socials (which we’ve missed due to our house move). We are deffo enjoying leaning more towards poly though, we’ve now had half a dozen meets with our poly gf, they might not even be for play she has spent a day out with H & gone to the cinema with me to see a film H didn’t want too, we helped her do her Christmas shopping as she doesn’t drive so I was bag carrier for the day for both of them

I guess for many that’s too involved, to us though it’s like being in a pool you can paddle around in the shallow end (literally sometimes) Or five straight in at the deep end & possibly struggle, we see ourselves about chest height atm

The more you get to know someone the more you get to know what makes them smile or tingle.

S&H"

That sounds like an amazing arrangement x

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X

Some people are just clueless. And entitled. I can't see how it works for them, but maybe it pays off occasionally? Or they are the definition of stupid.

I'm not bothering with couples on here at the moment. There are definitely some lovely people out there, and I've had lovely socials, but finding two people I feel a vibe with is difficult and it doesn't work well otherwise. A lot of fakes as well. And I've had pretty rude messages - the women have been worse - a list of what I should and shouldn't do with their man - have to have full sex, can't have full sex but have to give bj etc. "

Their Fab their rules ...if it doesn't fit with your Fab, your rules then it is just a mismatch....nothing rude about it...simply smile and move on

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


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That sounds like an amazing arrangement x"

Thanks, It is but not without difficulties too, bringing someone else into a relationship of sixteen years especially an unusual one like ours where we both work from home so in each other’s company pretty much 24/7 was difficult for us & them at first but as a couple we don’t argue as such more discuss stuff & issues.

Biggest argument we have is who’s turn is it to wash up usually

What we would say though is the same negativity that can be found on here from some single ladies is also on the Poly scene, more so in fact I’d say.

Also this is our third poly gf. As others have said Equal attraction is hard to find & we have had one of each, too much towards me or too much towards H so they didn’t work for us,

x

S

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By *ucilleWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne


"I enjoy playing with couples but don’t particularly seek it out. Maybe this is a bit of a rant because I was asked to travel an hour to meet a couple and didn’t even send face pics and couples hardly ever have pics of the guy. Are ‘unicorns’ really so easy to come across that couples don’t need to put any effort in? Success stories? X

Some people are just clueless. And entitled. I can't see how it works for them, but maybe it pays off occasionally? Or they are the definition of stupid.

I'm not bothering with couples on here at the moment. There are definitely some lovely people out there, and I've had lovely socials, but finding two people I feel a vibe with is difficult and it doesn't work well otherwise. A lot of fakes as well. And I've had pretty rude messages - the women have been worse - a list of what I should and shouldn't do with their man - have to have full sex, can't have full sex but have to give bj etc.

Their Fab their rules ...if it doesn't fit with your Fab, your rules then it is just a mismatch....nothing rude about it...simply smile and move on "

It's fine to have rules, yes, they're not rude in themselves. But people can be rude or not rude in how they put that across.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone’s free to have their own limits and I respect that so don’t even entertain meeting couples whose requirements don’t match but when they’re looking for a woman to join but said woman can’t kiss the man or receive oral from him or penetration then it seems to me more like the woman in the couple has finally acquiesced to her partner’s request but she isn’t actually happy about it so doesn’t want him too involved. (That’s how it looks to me, but I understand people have different dynamics in their relationships too.) my husband isn’t into swinging but I wish he would cos seeing him pleasure a woman would turn me on so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know a few single ladies who play with couple's(most dont like being labelled)we have found if you just treat them like people you would like to spend time with,and take the time to find out what they like and want out of a meet,9/10 thay are more than willing to play with you "

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I live playing with a couple but I really have to get on with them both to actually meet. I tend to focus on singles now but I dont rule it out, just sometimes its easier xx

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

* love

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By *ucilleWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne


"I live playing with a couple but I really have to get on with them both to actually meet. I tend to focus on singles now but I dont rule it out, just sometimes its easier xx"

I know what you mean, I'm more focused on singles at the moment too.

My ideal situation would be to find a long term female partner in crime, and have the occasional guy join us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

My ideal situation would be to find a long term female partner in crime, and have the occasional guy join us. "

I found one!!!! But then she got pregnant with her partner so we never got to have all that fun!! It is rare to find. But been recommending guys to my ‘friend’s’ wife and maybe we will all play together soon

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Single females wanting to play with couple's aren't that rare, but attractive ones definitely are.

We've had two single girls as regular playmates. The first was great except our male half didn't fancy her (size 12, slightly too big for him). Second was perfect for both of us, but she was a bit crazy

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie

Happy to be a male unicorn for a couple any time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve only ever managed to play with 1 female who was willing to play with us! So much fun as well as I(female) could have unlimited fun with her too! It’s a shame that some females think people want to put on a “show”. Couldn’t think of anything worse! We are quite a Dom duo when fucking a girl too. It was sooo much fun

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"We’ve only ever managed to play with 1 female who was willing to play with us! So much fun as well as I(female) could have unlimited fun with her too! It’s a shame that some females think people want to put on a “show”. Couldn’t think of anything worse! We are quite a Dom duo when fucking a girl too. It was sooo much fun "
I had the experience of the unicorn but she was just a straight lady that enjoyed playing with us both and it was the best night ever for all of us ,few years ago now and all still in touch

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"We are definitely interested in meeting a female to play with but we dont actively seek it. Weve probably had about 10 women message us in the 5 months we've been here and I think 9 of them were fantasies hiding behind a fake profile. The one real one just randomly stopped messaging one day "

This is exactly the same for us, most female profile messaging are so obvs fakes. Our profile shows both the male and female faces so people know what they are getting from the start. V x

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

We’ve met five single ladies, three of which went much further than just a social. Two became good, close friends, and one of those is still a good friend now.

From the couples perspective, you need to be honest and open. Absolutely no pressure or expectation. Always socials to start and just see if you click as a three.

What’s important is that you make her feel part of your personal couples intimacy. You’re inviting her to join you as an equal, and that requires total respect, of her boundaries, desires, but also of the fact that she is a single person joining you when you are a couple. Nerves and insecurity are natural and as the couple you should be putting her at ease.

All of the above, we might add, is also the same if you have a guy joining you.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"We’ve met five single ladies, three of which went much further than just a social. Two became good, close friends, and one of those is still a good friend now.

From the couples perspective, you need to be honest and open. Absolutely no pressure or expectation. Always socials to start and just see if you click as a three.

What’s important is that you make her feel part of your personal couples intimacy. You’re inviting her to join you as an equal, and that requires total respect, of her boundaries, desires, but also of the fact that she is a single person joining you when you are a couple. Nerves and insecurity are natural and as the couple you should be putting her at ease.

All of the above, we might add, is also the same if you have a guy joining you.

"
Its lovely to have another lady sucking your cock as your lady is kissing you passionately then swap around and the lady gives your lady oral and you enter just before she cums

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Everyone’s free to have their own limits and I respect that so don’t even entertain meeting couples whose requirements don’t match but when they’re looking for a woman to join but said woman can’t kiss the man or receive oral from him or penetration then it seems to me more like the woman in the couple has finally acquiesced to her partner’s request but she isn’t actually happy about it so doesn’t want him too involved. (That’s how it looks to me, but I understand people have different dynamics in their relationships too.) my husband isn’t into swinging but I wish he would cos seeing him pleasure a woman would turn me on so much. "

This works with us too, We are the first couple our girlfriend has been with & she enjoys watching us, H enjoys watching us & O enjoy watching them but none of us to the level of comfy chair & a cup of tea, we are all still in the same bed hole all playing or caressing.

We had long conversations between all three of us about boundaries, turned out ours move with time, ultimately we want to be three or any combination of two for both social & sexual meets, but for that to work successful you all have to be 100% happy with the relationship as unlike just letting hubby or wifey out to play there’s much more involved.

S

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Everyone’s free to have their own limits and I respect that so don’t even entertain meeting couples whose requirements don’t match but when they’re looking for a woman to join but said woman can’t kiss the man or receive oral from him or penetration then it seems to me more like the woman in the couple has finally acquiesced to her partner’s request but she isn’t actually happy about it so doesn’t want him too involved. (That’s how it looks to me, but I understand people have different dynamics in their relationships too.) my husband isn’t into swinging but I wish he would cos seeing him pleasure a woman would turn me on so much.

This works with us too, We are the first couple our girlfriend has been with & she enjoys watching us, H enjoys watching us & O enjoy watching them but none of us to the level of comfy chair & a cup of tea, we are all still in the same bed hole all playing or caressing.

We had long conversations between all three of us about boundaries, turned out ours move with time, ultimately we want to be three or any combination of two for both social & sexual meets, but for that to work successful you all have to be 100% happy with the relationship as unlike just letting hubby or wifey out to play there’s much more involved.

S"
Yes you have to be comfortable in your relationship and have no hangups you're never going to leave your partners that's not what it's about its about mutual enjoyment and who ever said that it was only ever meant to be two people, am not religious I think outside the box

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
over a year ago

Sussex

I am occasionally a unicorn for couples. We have also as a couple had a unicorn girlfriend for the last 2 1/2 years. We see each other every week or two. For us/me in these situations is to make sure no one feels left out. Communication and lots of it works for us.

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By *xpanding our horizonsCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

I've been a unicorn and part of a couple.

Wouldn't play as a unicorn again. Too dangerous to be honest.

But having said that...I am looking for one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (mrs) ended up changing my sexuality to straight as we were getting couples messaging us saying female must play with other female, put on a show for my man or worse, doesn’t matter if hubby doesn’t play. I’m in a couple and got sick of being spoken about like a commodity. Can see my single females are put off."

This is why my profile states straight now.

All these demands of we want this and you have to do that.... i’m Sorry i’m Not a performing monkey!

I tend to just browse and see what happens now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've met a few single women over time and had a blast each time, as long as you remember they're also a person and not a living sex toy then you should do well.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"I (mrs) ended up changing my sexuality to straight as we were getting couples messaging us saying female must play with other female, put on a show for my man or worse, doesn’t matter if hubby doesn’t play. I’m in a couple and got sick of being spoken about like a commodity. Can see my single females are put off.

This is why my profile states straight now.

All these demands of we want this and you have to do that.... i’m Sorry i’m Not a performing monkey!

I tend to just browse and see what happens now x"
very sensitive people on here , I know it's not the debating society lol merry xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (mrs) ended up changing my sexuality to straight as we were getting couples messaging us saying female must play with other female, put on a show for my man or worse, doesn’t matter if hubby doesn’t play. I’m in a couple and got sick of being spoken about like a commodity. Can see my single females are put off.

This is why my profile states straight now.

All these demands of we want this and you have to do that.... i’m Sorry i’m Not a performing monkey!

I tend to just browse and see what happens now xvery sensitive people on here , I know it's not the debating society lol merry xmas "

I feel that when you question someone’s preferences adhoc it can be perceived as none of your business, a nice finish to a private message doesn’t make the content any better!

Obviously that’s my personal view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve met five single ladies, three of which went much further than just a social. Two became good, close friends, and one of those is still a good friend now.

From the couples perspective, you need to be honest and open. Absolutely no pressure or expectation. Always socials to start and just see if you click as a three.

What’s important is that you make her feel part of your personal couples intimacy. You’re inviting her to join you as an equal, and that requires total respect, of her boundaries, desires, but also of the fact that she is a single person joining you when you are a couple. Nerves and insecurity are natural and as the couple you should be putting her at ease.

All of the above, we might add, is also the same if you have a guy joining you.

"

Reading this made me smile. I hope to cross paths with couples with the same outlook : )

Open, honest and transparent with heightened communication skills.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We have a long-term hope that we have a fully bi mff with a lady. Everybody fancies everybody. Everybody gets it on with everybody else. The additional lady knows that we really like and we want her to enjoy it as much as we do and not feel like an extra.

We do not go out searching for that person. We just have normal conversations and get to know people. When people like each other and get on well, doors open. We have had invitations to meet single women who say they don't meet couples, I think because they can tell we are not pushing an agenda. We don't have an agenda when we meet anybody.

When the time is right, it will happen. We don't know who it will be, but we have had enough conversations to be confident we will click with somebody without us trying to achieve a goal.

If we have nice time meeting somebody socially but nothing happens sexually, we don't feel disappointed.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

We found one which the missis talked with and had social with but has since left because she was trying for a baby but we all patisipated in a full swap

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I (mrs) ended up changing my sexuality to straight as we were getting couples messaging us saying female must play with other female, put on a show for my man or worse, doesn’t matter if hubby doesn’t play. I’m in a couple and got sick of being spoken about like a commodity. Can see my single females are put off.

This is why my profile states straight now.

All these demands of we want this and you have to do that.... i’m Sorry i’m Not a performing monkey!

I tend to just browse and see what happens now xvery sensitive people on here , I know it's not the debating society lol merry xmas "

I think you mean they have preferences.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

When we we play with other women, men or couples we assume that each and everyone playing is equally important and they are treated accordingly. Similarly we have found that this is the way we have been treated. However almost of our swinging takes place in clubs, so perhaps its just a different type of swinger that you find there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When we we play with other women, men or couples we assume that each and everyone playing is equally important and they are treated accordingly. Similarly we have found that this is the way we have been treated. However almost of our swinging takes place in clubs, so perhaps its just a different type of swinger that you find there."

I think at a club you’re on more of a level playing field, neutral location etc makes for more relaxed fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We once had a Unicorn who wanted to play with us travel from the otherside of Oxford to Norwich.

We put up a meet request and she travelled over.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"We once had a Unicorn who wanted to play with us travel from the otherside of Oxford to Norwich.

We put up a meet request and she travelled over."

We had a Poly internet friend we’d never met travel to us from Doncaster (210 miles & five hours) off her own bat. Didn’t work out in the end long term but was good while it lasted.

S

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"When we we play with other women, men or couples we assume that each and everyone playing is equally important and they are treated accordingly. Similarly we have found that this is the way we have been treated. However almost of our swinging takes place in clubs, so perhaps its just a different type of swinger that you find there.

I think at a club you’re on more of a level playing field, neutral location etc makes for more relaxed fun "

Clubs/socials are definitely the way forward for couples to meet the ladies.

You just cut out the fakes, players & messers really & as people have said it levels the field & what you see is what you get, which isn’t quite true for many profiles on here of all persuasions.

x

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been quite successful in meeting single ladies in a club environment. It’s very brave for a single lady to just meet up with a random couple that they don’t possibly know all that well ie personal security etc . We have never had contact from a single lady requesting to meet ( only fakes) via a hotel which we fully understand so never pursue it by advertising a meet either. So as I said earlier leave it to a club environment where all parties feel comfortable and safe

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"When we we play with other women, men or couples we assume that each and everyone playing is equally important and they are treated accordingly. Similarly we have found that this is the way we have been treated. However almost of our swinging takes place in clubs, so perhaps its just a different type of swinger that you find there.

I think at a club you’re on more of a level playing field, neutral location etc makes for more relaxed fun "

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Wed love to meet a single female but not actively looking for one. If it happens whilst at a club pr party fab!! We will occasionally contact one but dont want to come across as pestering.

We did have one contact us but sadly I think she was a fake profile. As soon as like she asked the chat went female to female on WhatsApp the chat very much sounded like I was chatting to a bloke.

I K am fully bi so I do love play with the ladies when I can!! I used to have in our profile I'd meet couples alone. Until that all we ever got messages about was just meeting me!! A lot of the time the women had never been with a woman or their chap was out of bounds. I dont like feeling like I'm performing for someone elses benefit.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Wed love to meet a single female but not actively looking for one. If it happens whilst at a club pr party fab!! We will occasionally contact one but dont want to come across as pestering.

We did have one contact us but sadly I think she was a fake profile. As soon as like she asked the chat went female to female on WhatsApp the chat very much sounded like I was chatting to a bloke.

I K am fully bi so I do love play with the ladies when I can!! I used to have in our profile I'd meet couples alone. Until that all we ever got messages about was just meeting me!! A lot of the time the women had never been with a woman or their chap was out of bounds. I dont like feeling like I'm performing for someone elses benefit."

I prefer to keep things on fab, at least we can contact admin if there are any issues. Totally agree with the performing thing as well, I would want to play equally with both halves of a couple. Works better when the whole thing just flows naturally without ant expectations in my experience. Hope you find what you are looking for. X

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Wed love to meet a single female but not actively looking for one. If it happens whilst at a club pr party fab!! We will occasionally contact one but dont want to come across as pestering.

We did have one contact us but sadly I think she was a fake profile. As soon as like she asked the chat went female to female on WhatsApp the chat very much sounded like I was chatting to a bloke.

I K am fully bi so I do love play with the ladies when I can!! I used to have in our profile I'd meet couples alone. Until that all we ever got messages about was just meeting me!! A lot of the time the women had never been with a woman or their chap was out of bounds. I dont like feeling like I'm performing for someone elses benefit.

I prefer to keep things on fab, at least we can contact admin if there are any issues. Totally agree with the performing thing as well, I would want to play equally with both halves of a couple. Works better when the whole thing just flows naturally without ant expectations in my experience. Hope you find what you are looking for. X "

We just go with the the flow now and see what happens.

We find for us couples who swap where the lady is also bi works well... but it seems they're getting harder to find.

Such is life so just going with it, looking at finding more clubs and adventures and see what happens really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to write a long post, but it comes down to feeling a bit jaded about playing with couples. I have had some extraordinary times with couples, but they almost all seem to succumb to ‘couple-think’ and just stop communicating until they’re horny again. I’m not a sex vending machine, you drop in 3 nice messages and pussy pops out. I won’t tolerate it with men and I won’t with couples. If you can’t make the effort to keep in touch (we all have busy lives) then don’t be expecting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (mrs) ended up changing my sexuality to straight as we were getting couples messaging us saying female must play with other female, put on a show for my man or worse, doesn’t matter if hubby doesn’t play. I’m in a couple and got sick of being spoken about like a commodity. Can see my single females are put off."

I've put straight on my single profile because of this too. And blocked couples. But saying that on our profile we have put about FF play and how all must be included etc etc we STILL get messages from couples who primarily want FF play then have sex with own partners.

Everyone has their wants and needs but when you make an effort to actually outline what you are looking for and its ignored...very frustrating. But hey, that's Fab!

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I was going to write a long post, but it comes down to feeling a bit jaded about playing with couples. I have had some extraordinary times with couples, but they almost all seem to succumb to ‘couple-think’ and just stop communicating until they’re horny again. I’m not a sex vending machine, you drop in 3 nice messages and pussy pops out. I won’t tolerate it with men and I won’t with couples. If you can’t make the effort to keep in touch (we all have busy lives) then don’t be expecting to meet."

See I agree here. Its why we regular play mates. We always keep in touch and chat even if it's about day to day boring stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was going to write a long post, but it comes down to feeling a bit jaded about playing with couples. I have had some extraordinary times with couples, but they almost all seem to succumb to ‘couple-think’ and just stop communicating until they’re horny again. I’m not a sex vending machine, you drop in 3 nice messages and pussy pops out. I won’t tolerate it with men and I won’t with couples. If you can’t make the effort to keep in touch (we all have busy lives) then don’t be expecting to meet.

See I agree here. Its why we regular play mates. We always keep in touch and chat even if it's about day to day boring stuff. "

Yep those are the light touch friendships I enjoy. Just that brief effort to keep in touch makes a lot of difference.

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

No unicorns are extremely rare, we’ve not had a full MMF experience to date!!

We would love to meet a hot unicorn to spoil in the bedroom while both of us pleasure her, it’s as much about the unicorns experience as it is ours x

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We have been lucky enough to have quite a few great experiences with single ladies on and off here. Many of them have stuck around for quite a while and we've had a fwb thing going. We treat ladies like our friends. Go out for dinner/drinks and catch up about our lives, what everyone has been up to, interests and the likes. We let the lady take the lead with things like how often they would like to communicate, is it just in the lead up to meeting or a more regular check in for chats sort of thing. We don't have loads of rules, the only one is no bareback and we won't accom at our home, but we are more than happy to pay for a nice hotel. We like everyone to be equally involved, there's no fun if someone is just sat in the corner watching! We like to think of the people we play with as our friends and we will treat them as such.

Gem

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