FabSwingers.com forum: Taking the plunge from meeting as a couple to solo meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for advice/opinions. We have met a few guys now for mfm fun and very much enjoyed and would like more.

As a couple we have recently started talking about D meeting guys on her own which we both like the thought of but unsure if we want to make this fantasy a reality.

Anyone like to share their experience of this, we would really like to hear your thoughts.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Sounds great

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I’d like meet her .. she looks smoking ... I’d look after her and then her back to you so she can tell u all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tried to find a male for Scooby the criteria we had was

that there was a sexual chemistry

They weren't in complicated relationships no drama

They could accommodate

They would meet about once a month

I would sometimes attend

That we had a social to verify and check for safety for Scooby.

And last

They would be comfortable with kissing and caressing more than just bang bang.

We gave up after the 5th social they all said they fulfilled the criteria we set out but none of them got through the first 4 conditions in reality unfortunately. Mr

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Agde

"We tried to find a male for Scooby the criteria we had was

that there was a sexual chemistry

They weren't in complicated relationships no drama

They could accommodate

They would meet about once a month

I would sometimes attend

That we had a social to verify and check for safety for Scooby.

And last

They would be comfortable with kissing and caressing more than just bang bang.

We gave up after the 5th social they all said they fulfilled the criteria we set out but none of them got through the first 4 conditions in reality unfortunately. Mr "

We are much the same, but guys like that are really hard to find, which surprised us.

Becky had a lover for nearly 20 years when we lived in the UK and it worked really well for us.

We've had a few in France and Spain but for various valid reasons, the long term element is always missing.

Having spoken to several other couples looking for the same thing, it's always the same reason.

Guess that those guys who fit the bill will easily find a partner, vanilla or otherwise.

Good luck with the search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for advice/opinions. We have met a few guys now for mfm fun and very much enjoyed and would like more.

As a couple we have recently started talking about D meeting guys on her own which we both like the thought of but unsure if we want to make this fantasy a reality.

Anyone like to share their experience of this, we would really like to hear your thoughts."
i think it makes perfect sense and D should start with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about solo meets with a couple would that make things better. We have considered elements of this. So wondered what you op and others thought about it.

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

We have dipped our toes into that (finding couples we both like/like us both has been nearly impossible).

Mrs has had a few socials with potentials from here. Very clearly stating "only social", to manage expectations (and also an easy get-out if needed).

A select few have gone into the next stage which has been fun for her (and me)

A couple of rules we do have though are hotel meet only (for safety) and no overnighters.

I just want to find the female equivalent now (only fair)

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

We didn't go looking to play seperate but the right couple came along that ticked all our boxes and so that journey began.

More difficult to find in singles than with couples though with the ratio of guys to gals. Have the guy already lined up and primed

We just like to both be engaged at the same time. Complex diaries follow...

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

As my (Jay) work pattern doesn't always allow us the time we need to swing together, I'm always happy for Sarah to meet single guys that I have met before and trust. Sarah also goes to clubs without me but only if she is going with a couple who are friends of ours.

It works for us, that's not to say it will work for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We tried to find a male for Scooby the criteria we had was

that there was a sexual chemistry

They weren't in complicated relationships no drama

They could accommodate

They would meet about once a month

I would sometimes attend

That we had a social to verify and check for safety for Scooby.

And last

They would be comfortable with kissing and caressing more than just bang bang.

We gave up after the 5th social they all said they fulfilled the criteria we set out but none of them got through the first 4 conditions in reality unfortunately. Mr

We are much the same, but guys like that are really hard to find, which surprised us.

Becky had a lover for nearly 20 years when we lived in the UK and it worked really well for us.

We've had a few in France and Spain but for various valid reasons, the long term element is always missing.

Having spoken to several other couples looking for the same thing, it's always the same reason.

Guess that those guys who fit the bill will easily find a partner, vanilla or otherwise.

Good luck with the search.

Thanks but we probably won't revisit the search again, never say never, as it took 4 months to connect with 3 guys who Scooby felt she would be attracted to in their profile for it to go no where. Heh ho

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

How about SeX factor style gameshow... you could have a panel ( op could be like Simon) and if guys go through etc etc....this would be tv gold lol

just an idea but best of luck with your plans as your lady looks not unpleasant!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for replies all, think we will keep discussing it for a while then maybe try. We always say if we try something and neither of us likes it then we don’t do it again and we move on simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you lay down some ground rules and stick to them. Also spend some time both of you getting to know and trust the person you wish to meet.

We tried it once and a rule was broken which threw a huge spanner in the works for us almost tearing us apart. It's not something that will be happening again apart from one couple which L likes to go and see now and then

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By *kdkityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We first went solo with a couple we met a few times , we all met up swopped partners and went our separate ways and met up for breakfast the following morning, since then I’ve met up with single guys but only guys we have both met before mainly at parties they have to be guys we both trust , you got to be really careful, the guys I’ve been with have become really good friends , me and my hubby have even been on holiday with one Gran Canaria Lol

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By *entcockslutCouple
over a year ago

canterbury

We have done this lots of times but its always hard to find the right guys, we currently have 2 regular guys who zoe meets a couple of times a week and we have a few friends who she meets for quick sex when ever they are free, it works for us but it's not for everybody

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Well if the both of you are comfortable with it why not I mean at least give it a try

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think it’s worth a try, we are both rarely free together to play due to general life and see this as one way to keep the fun going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just be greatful to get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something I can't get my head round at the moment and it's doing my head in coz I can't seem to get past it, and I want to.

I've no interest in meeting alone but it is something B wants to do so I'm trying to find the "how" to get there so he can meet others without it tearing me to shreds inside. Past experiences have tainted it massively and it's like my brain is locked onto the negatives, of which there are many.

Makes a lot of sense those saying maybe go from a couple you have got to know and trust. They know the risks involved and also have a world that could come crashing down around them if things went tits up. I have found though that those that meet separately are in the minority, and I can totally understand why. Another poster mentioned a rule getting broken and it almost tearing them apart, for me that's a huge thing.

I think all it can take is for someone to get too clingy or lie for whatever reason and that seed of doubt has then been cast, potentially sending your relationship down the shitter. I'd say need to be 100% solid and secure and have faith in that if shit got slung in your direction that it would just bounce off ya.

Is the reward really worth the risk? That's what I can't get my head round, where I stand right now on the matter, is it fuck worth it.

Sorry I know I've been no help whatsoever apart from to say I reckon meeting a couple who will then be happy to meet separately seems a sensible idea.

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