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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? " If you mean on fab you need to give it time. 2 weeks is absolutely nothing but people join with high unrealistic expectations that you'll be balls deep in women from day one(not saying you think that) Attend socials and clubs and get on the forums so people get used to you. I'd have fab as a back up plan to your normal fun seeking in pubs, clubs etc Good luck | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? If you mean on fab you need to give it time. 2 weeks is absolutely nothing but people join with high unrealistic expectations that you'll be balls deep in women from day one(not saying you think that) Attend socials and clubs and get on the forums so people get used to you. I'd have fab as a back up plan to your normal fun seeking in pubs, clubs etc Good luck " I have been here many times over the years so yes im aware of how slow this place can be. Was referring to more in general life. Thanks for the reply anyway | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? If you mean on fab you need to give it time. 2 weeks is absolutely nothing but people join with high unrealistic expectations that you'll be balls deep in women from day one(not saying you think that) Attend socials and clubs and get on the forums so people get used to you. I'd have fab as a back up plan to your normal fun seeking in pubs, clubs etc Good luck I have been here many times over the years so yes im aware of how slow this place can be. Was referring to more in general life. Thanks for the reply anyway "  good luck mate | |||
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"In general life it's up to you to make an effort as plenty of women want fun the same as men so smile, say hi and you never know you might get a response Worth reading up on body language as you might be thinking someone isn't interested but they actually are" I know how to be with women im not a socially awkward person or anything. Just curious if others have similar experience | |||
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"Too young for me, and no 'interests' indicated" Your name cracks me up every single time. Lmao | |||
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"I'd suggest more details in your profile. I hear it's hard work for guys, but if there's no sense of who you are, I'd generally skip on. " Thanks | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? " Why straight? | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? Why straight?" Are you asking why am i straight? | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? Why straight? Are you asking why am i straight? " No I'm asking why this only applies to straight guys. | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? Why straight? Are you asking why am i straight? No I'm asking why this only applies to straight guys." Because op is straight  | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? Why straight? Are you asking why am i straight? No I'm asking why this only applies to straight guys." Ah ok. Well just because im straight so was asking about similar experiences to mine. And i might be wrong but it doesn't seem, from what i see on here, that gay or bi guys dont seem to struggle very much | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? Why straight? Are you asking why am i straight? No I'm asking why this only applies to straight guys. Ah ok. Well just because im straight so was asking about similar experiences to mine. And i might be wrong but it doesn't seem, from what i see on here, that gay or bi guys dont seem to struggle very much " Mate, just from your pic alone, you have more going for you than I have. So just hang in there and don't get desperate. Because of the ratio of men to women, Fab is a game of chance nowadays. | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? Why straight? Are you asking why am i straight? No I'm asking why this only applies to straight guys. Ah ok. Well just because im straight so was asking about similar experiences to mine. And i might be wrong but it doesn't seem, from what i see on here, that gay or bi guys dont seem to struggle very much " Fair enough. If it makes any difference I have more luck on fabswingers with women than I do on fab guys with men. At clubs I am essentially a straight male until I tell someone otherwise. I think fab is a microcosm of society in that the more you put into it the more you get out. You seem like a nice guy so if you are polite and respectful you will do well on here. Good luck. I hope things pick up for you. | |||
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" And i might be wrong but it doesn't seem, from what i see on here, that gay or bi guys dont seem to struggle very much " Side note: not even remotely true btw, especially here. You'd think we've got double the odds, but so many guys on here are unfortunately struggling with their sexuality so the percentages of last minute 'car breakdowns' are also much higher. Guys, the internet is a shit way to meet people in general. Swingers are no different. Get down to a social or a club, and then use this place to keep in touch with the folks you meet.You'll get more attention once there's some reason to trust that you're not a pretender. And for the love of god don't treat this site, or this scene, as just an easy way to get laid....it's definitely not that. | |||
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"Do you mean that you don't notice people checking you out? Because women have mastered the art of slyly looking. Or because women don't approach you? That might be because not many women are comfortable making the first move. Either because they're intimidated or because strong, confident women are usually shit down. " Lol yes mostly the checking out, so that makes sense. I havnt ever expected to be approached by women and know its not that common. Would be nice though  | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? " I know you haven't asked for profile advice, and there's nothing especially wrong with yours, but it doesn't really say anything about you or your personality. Sell yourself a bit more. | |||
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"Do you mean that you don't notice people checking you out? Because women have mastered the art of slyly looking. Or because women don't approach you? That might be because not many women are comfortable making the first move. Either because they're intimidated or because strong, confident women are usually shit down. Lol yes mostly the checking out, so that makes sense. I havnt ever expected to be approached by women and know its not that common. Would be nice though "So that's your issue? You don't see people checking you out? Thats not anything to be getting torn up over  | |||
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"Hi all, just thought if throw this one out there. Do many other guys just in general life and poss even on here get zero sexual attention. This seems to be the case for me so wondered if others experience this. Im not the most chatty or flirty guy around but still i thought there might be some exceptions. Anyway...? " A lot of it is confidence, not how good looking you are. I have known average looking straight lads over the years who were so cheeky and confident they were pulling good looking girls. A shy awkward attractive man may come across as unapproachable. This goes for all sexualities. | |||
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" So that's your issue? You don't see people checking you out? Thats not anything to be getting torn up over "Well of the two things you mentioned yes | |||
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" So that's your issue? You don't see people checking you out? Thats not anything to be getting torn up over
Well of the two things you mentioned yes "They may be checking you out and you don’t notice. I dont notice people checking me out but my friends notice people checking me out. It is not something to worry about! You need to be more confident, you probably giving off the wrong atmosphere without realising. | |||
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"Too young for me, and no 'interests' indicated Your name cracks me up every single time. Lmao" I bet her pussy gets a lot of deserved attention  | |||
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"Use fab as a distraction and not a main source of interaction. The less you expect, the more pleasant a surprise it is when things go your way. I have some lovely friends through fab, none of them have been intimate, but I can count on them for good advice. " This is good advice too. For me Fab is supplement to REAL life, not my main source of sex. Get out there in the real world and speak to real people in person. You'll have way more luck and actually boost your deflating confidence. If you visit swing clubs or Fab socials then you can have best of both worlds. | |||
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"Too young for me, and no 'interests' indicated Your name cracks me up every single time. Lmao I bet her pussy gets a lot of deserved attention "Not from me unfortunately  | |||
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"I don't want to poke holes in anyone's views but a couple of years back I was poorly and amused myself on fab. In marginally over a week I received over 500 messages from 11 different people mainly couples and women, one of whom I went on to meet on a regular basis. I am 50 years old, bald and nobody's Yul Brynner. In just over 5 years on fab I have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of lovely ladies. I have a couple of straight male friends who meet at least twice as many ladies as I do and they aren't Brad Pitt either. We all have one thing in common. We aren't awkward or socially withdrawn. If I can do it anyone can do it." You grew up without Internet dating and had to find women in the real world...no hiding behind a screen And now you are in good shape for a 50 year old ...have got good pictures and a good write up...so armed with you personality...it should be like shooting fish in a barrel... | |||
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"I don't want to poke holes in anyone's views but a couple of years back I was poorly and amused myself on fab. In marginally over a week I received over 500 messages from 11 different people mainly couples and women, one of whom I went on to meet on a regular basis. I am 50 years old, bald and nobody's Yul Brynner. In just over 5 years on fab I have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of lovely ladies. I have a couple of straight male friends who meet at least twice as many ladies as I do and they aren't Brad Pitt either. We all have one thing in common. We aren't awkward or socially withdrawn. If I can do it anyone can do it. You grew up without Internet dating and had to find women in the real world...no hiding behind a screen And now you are in good shape for a 50 year old ...have got good pictures and a good write up...so armed with you personality...it should be like shooting fish in a barrel... "I have all of the above and still drawing blanks lol  | |||
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"I don't want to poke holes in anyone's views but a couple of years back I was poorly and amused myself on fab. In marginally over a week I received over 500 messages from 11 different people mainly couples and women, one of whom I went on to meet on a regular basis. I am 50 years old, bald and nobody's Yul Brynner. In just over 5 years on fab I have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of lovely ladies. I have a couple of straight male friends who meet at least twice as many ladies as I do and they aren't Brad Pitt either. We all have one thing in common. We aren't awkward or socially withdrawn. If I can do it anyone can do it. You grew up without Internet dating and had to find women in the real world...no hiding behind a screen And now you are in good shape for a 50 year old ...have got good pictures and a good write up...so armed with you personality...it should be like shooting fish in a barrel... "On my first fab meet the young lady who met me drove away literally with her tyres squealing. I was fat, unkept and sloppy. I don't blame her. Now I prepare for a meet. Don't meet straight after work so I have time to shower, dress in nice clothes, put some nice smellies on. It makes a difference. The confidence I have is because of the positive response I get from some drop dead gorgeous ladies. Most of my fitness is because of having lots of sex not the other way around. The point is I started somewhere. Some people say I punch above my weight looks wise. Maybe it's because I'm too stupid or arrogant to know when someone is 'out of my league'... but honestly I used to believe in such a thing. I don't now. You'd be surprised how many people will respond to something as simple as a smile. Confidence feeds success which feeds confidence. It's an upward or downward spiral depending on what your attitude is. I get rejected a lot too. I can't walk around with my verifications like a CV. I say well I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Just as well because I'm limited as to how many ladies I can pay full attention to. | |||
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"I don't want to poke holes in anyone's views but a couple of years back I was poorly and amused myself on fab. In marginally over a week I received over 500 messages from 11 different people mainly couples and women, one of whom I went on to meet on a regular basis. I am 50 years old, bald and nobody's Yul Brynner. In just over 5 years on fab I have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of lovely ladies. I have a couple of straight male friends who meet at least twice as many ladies as I do and they aren't Brad Pitt either. We all have one thing in common. We aren't awkward or socially withdrawn. If I can do it anyone can do it. You grew up without Internet dating and had to find women in the real world...no hiding behind a screen And now you are in good shape for a 50 year old ...have got good pictures and a good write up...so armed with you personality...it should be like shooting fish in a barrel...
On my first fab meet the young lady who met me drove away literally with her tyres squealing. I was fat, unkept and sloppy. I don't blame her.
Now I prepare for a meet. Don't meet straight after work so I have time to shower, dress in nice clothes, put some nice smellies on. It makes a difference. The confidence I have is because of the positive response I get from some drop dead gorgeous ladies. Most of my fitness is because of having lots of sex not the other way around.
The point is I started somewhere. Some people say I punch above my weight looks wise. Maybe it's because I'm too stupid or arrogant to know when someone is 'out of my league'... but honestly I used to believe in such a thing. I don't now. You'd be surprised how many people will respond to something as simple as a smile.
Confidence feeds success which feeds confidence. It's an upward or downward spiral depending on what your attitude is. I get rejected a lot too. I can't walk around with my verifications like a CV. I say well I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Just as well because I'm limited as to how many ladies I can pay full attention to."I agree. Fab keeps you on you’re toes | |||
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