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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok.... this is driving me insane... I'm finding it really hard to cum. Does this happen to others?

I love sex and everything that goes with it. I am so in love with my man its ridiculous. I honestly feel he's the sexiest person alive. Just looking at him makes me horny as.

I have no problem getting excited but it takes me soooooo long to cum.

We've tried everything...and I mean everything

I'm getting so frustrated (which I know isn't helping) but I actually think I'm broken...or old..

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I have had that problem.The only thing to do is just relax and don't think about it. If it is on your mind it will make it harder.Just enjoy the pleasure and it will cum.Good luck to you.Merry Xmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes just try to relax am sure your climax when your relax and settle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worst thing to do is overthink it when you start thinking shit I haven't cummed yet it takes even longer !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to my world. My issue is being in an unhealthy marriage for 19yrs with very one sided sex. I had to finish myself off every time, he had 0 interest in my needs.

I find it hard to fully let go with MrD. Its my head. Not his lack of skill or willingness to keep going on me. I can cum no problem on my own.

My advise would be to talk about it with your partner. Explain your frustrations. If he is willing to keep going, do. Dont give up. Masturbate with him beside you, ask for his assistance to help you out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't cum from blow jobs. I have only cum twice from them. And I have had some skilled ladies try. Is there anything I can do to help the situation? Maybe similar problem to op

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Ok.... this is driving me insane... I'm finding it really hard to cum. Does this happen to others?

I love sex and everything that goes with it. I am so in love with my man its ridiculous. I honestly feel he's the sexiest person alive. Just looking at him makes me horny as.

I have no problem getting excited but it takes me soooooo long to cum.

We've tried everything...and I mean everything

I'm getting so frustrated (which I know isn't helping) but I actually think I'm broken...or old..

I've never cum with anyone else, I think it's because I don't relax enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone x

Thankfully my man is an absolute trooper and will persevere.

I.do try to relax but it's so hard to not feel as if theres something wrong, which then starts the overthinking and the frustration. It's a viscous circle.... ggggrrrrrr

I'm even wearing sock as I read in here that can help!! Ha...

Oh well, just got to carry on trying.... oh what a shame...NOT!! X

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

The wand is magic also the lelo discovered today. Orgasms are alot in the mind, let it run wild

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you’re overthinking it? Putting yourself under too much pressure?

Can you orgasm alone? Perhaps share that secret with your partner?

Ask your partner to focus on your G spot and clit together? Usually works in my humble experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst thing to do is overthink it when you start thinking shit I haven't cummed yet it takes even longer !"

You just need a helping hand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The wand is magic also the lelo discovered today. Orgasms are alot in the mind, let it run wild

We've invested in a wand. I do cum, eventually but it doesn't give me anywhere near the explosive orgasms I (eventually) get from my man. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst thing to do is overthink it when you start thinking shit I haven't cummed yet it takes even longer !

You just need a helping hand

Well that worked I just cummed a little, see op it's easy when you don't overthink

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like you’re overthinking it? Putting yourself under too much pressure?

Can you orgasm alone? Perhaps share that secret with your partner?

Ask your partner to focus on your G spot and clit together? Usually works in my humble experience!

Yes, I can alone but it still takes ages...

We've had plenty of practice with the clit g-spot combo..again, takes so long.. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Worst thing to do is overthink it when you start thinking shit I haven't cummed yet it takes even longer !

You just need a helping hand

Well that worked I just cummed a little, see op it's easy when you don't overthink

Haha.... Mr G, if you get a meet out of this thread, I want a prize!!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"The wand is magic also the lelo discovered today. Orgasms are alot in the mind, let it run wild

We've invested in a wand. I do cum, eventually but it doesn't give me anywhere near the explosive orgasms I (eventually) get from my man. X "

Hubby always best unreal orgasms, worth waiting for, sounds like your body greedy making most of the pleasure build up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The wand is magic also the lelo discovered today. Orgasms are alot in the mind, let it run wild

We've invested in a wand. I do cum, eventually but it doesn't give me anywhere near the explosive orgasms I (eventually) get from my man. X

Hubby always best unreal orgasms, worth waiting for, sounds like your body greedy making most of the pleasure build up

This has made my day....I'm not broken, just greedy!!!!! Haha...

This is going to be my mantra from now on..

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"The wand is magic also the lelo discovered today. Orgasms are alot in the mind, let it run wild

We've invested in a wand. I do cum, eventually but it doesn't give me anywhere near the explosive orgasms I (eventually) get from my man. X

Hubby always best unreal orgasms, worth waiting for, sounds like your body greedy making most of the pleasure build up

This has made my day....I'm not broken, just greedy!!!!! Haha...

This is going to be my mantra from now on..

It's not a race more an indulgent journey

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

OP - how long does it take you?

Ms x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP - how long does it take you?

Ms x"

It's usually just under an hour x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fella can go for hours without cumming even with 3somes and moresomes, he calls it a blessing and a curse at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok.... this is driving me insane... I'm finding it really hard to cum. Does this happen to others?

I love sex and everything that goes with it. I am so in love with my man its ridiculous. I honestly feel he's the sexiest person alive. Just looking at him makes me horny as.

I have no problem getting excited but it takes me soooooo long to cum.

We've tried everything...and I mean everything

I'm getting so frustrated (which I know isn't helping) but I actually think I'm broken...or old..

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you need me......... i am the only cure, others will say them but its me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Train your brain.. I once read that this is the most 'prolific organ'..

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By *onglegs888Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Same here!

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I had this from some tablets I’m on. Can’t be bothered to wank now, too much effort.

Seem to be able to cum from sex, and no risk of it all being over in seconds

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Train your brain.. I once read that this is the most 'prolific organ'.."

Working on training my brain... enjoying the lessons! Ha

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By *haggynMuffCouple
over a year ago

Kidlington oxtord

Have u tried sensation play? Hot and cold touch, either with lube, toys or things u might find around the house or in the fridge.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I have this problem

We should have this problem together

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Ok.... this is driving me insane... I'm finding it really hard to cum. Does this happen to others?

I love sex and everything that goes with it. I am so in love with my man its ridiculous. I honestly feel he's the sexiest person alive. Just looking at him makes me horny as.

I have no problem getting excited but it takes me soooooo long to cum.

We've tried everything...and I mean everything

I'm getting so frustrated (which I know isn't helping) but I actually think I'm broken...or old..

I'm sure you will work something out...I on the other hand cum pretty damn quick-think one minute man!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Are you able to give yourself an orgasm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't cum with a guy I've slept with for way over 6 months.

I can cum by myself in seconds especially with my wand

I've faked a few over the years as some guys are so adamant you have to cum but sometimes I just enjoy the act of sex without cumming.

I always get to that point where I'm going to cum but for some reason I just can't get it passed that bit where you can't stop it any more. I guess I just don't let go enough to let it happen. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you able to give yourself an orgasm?"

Yes and so can my man. It's just the length of time it takes that's driving me bonkers....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have u tried sensation play? Hot and cold touch, either with lube, toys or things u might find around the house or in the fridge."

Yeah we have. Tried lots of different things... still the same problem..

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By *ontinentalCockMan
over a year ago

London

Interesting thread maybe I can get some tips from you guys.

I can not come from oral sex for some reason. And oh my have my partners tried. Deepthroat, ball play and sucking sometimes being down there for 40+ mins and still nothing..

Any tips?

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By *antrelWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham/Cardiff

"I haven't cum with a guy I've slept with for way over 6 months.

I can cum by myself in seconds especially with my wand

I've faked a few over the years as some guys are so adamant you have to cum but sometimes I just enjoy the act of sex without cumming.

I always get to that point where I'm going to cum but for some reason I just can't get it passed that bit where you can't stop it any more. I guess I just don't let go enough to let it happen. X"

I know how you feel, I can have several orgasms on my own but rarely cum with a guy but that doesn't stop me absolutely loving sex.

OP - cumming in just under an hour sounds heaven to me

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Are you able to give yourself an orgasm?

Yes and so can my man. It's just the length of time it takes that's driving me bonkers.... "

Maybe you are worrying about it too much. Why not just enjoy the act of sex rather than focussing on having to cum. You may find it might happen more naturally if you stop thinking about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok.... this is driving me insane... I'm finding it really hard to cum. Does this happen to others?

I love sex and everything that goes with it. I am so in love with my man its ridiculous. I honestly feel he's the sexiest person alive. Just looking at him makes me horny as.

I have no problem getting excited but it takes me soooooo long to cum.

We've tried everything...and I mean everything

I'm getting so frustrated (which I know isn't helping) but I actually think I'm broken...or old..

Have you tried Hieneken ?

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By *adylydfordWoman
over a year ago

altinkum

Drink water before sex

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Sometimes with someone new it does take me a while to be able to cum easily.... I can relate and the more you and they want it and you want it - it doesn’t happen...

I have a really fantastic toy - a satisfyer pro - it may be helpful - it’s much better than a wand for me. And it makes me squirt. Feels like the wand just overstimulates me at times.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guys, thank you so much for taking the time to reply.

We're definitely going to continue trying everything....and enjoy without (me) putting pressure on... that's definitely not helping. X

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I have this problem

Me too. Can cum from wanking, but nothing else. Char has done it once for me but her poor arms must have been aching. I don't mind as we've just built it into our sex life. Work with what you have

Bry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner can go and go with her toy alone, when we have sex she seems to orgasm quickly into it and then thats it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regularly happens to me.. takes ages some people love it, some find it a curse... nothing you can do except learn to live with it?

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By *aveed74Man
over a year ago

a round and a bout Midlands

Anti-depressants can have that effect. My gf didn't complain...

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