FabSwingers.com forum: Depression

By *llan133 OP Man
over a year ago

rhosniger

Any one els feel depression wen you don’t have sex at all been a long time since I had some and starting to feel down all the time or is jusd me

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie

I think it’s pretty common.

But if you’re worried about depression, go see someone about it sooner rather than later

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By *llan133 OP Man
over a year ago

rhosniger

True but I haven’t got the balls to tell the doctor that I’m feeling down all the time cos of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True but I haven’t got the balls to tell the doctor that I’m feeling down all the time cos of sex "

Why? The doctors have heard all sorts... you could say you're feeling low because of the lack of intimacy in your life?!?

Is that the only reason you're feeling down or is that what you're focusing on?

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By *llan133 OP Man
over a year ago

rhosniger

No it not jusd that is other things aswell but mainly it lack of sex like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really think you should go to the doctor. Low mood and depression can materialise in lots of different ways.

It really is better to go to the gp...

Or maybe do an online test? I think theres one in the nhs website. That will advise you on what to do next.

Just don't leave it, its really not worth it x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

They've heard it before, go to the doctor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clinical depression can often destroy your sex drive. If you think you're actually depressed speak to your doctor. If you're feeling lonely and longing for some intimacy in your life then with respect I really don't think you're in the right place but I hope you find it in wherever you choose to look. If you're just pissed off that you're not getting any then I'm sorry but there's no treatment for that.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Don't think of myself as depressed but do miss having a partner I can chat to. Miss not being able to enjoy a sexual relationship. Even some casual would be good....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doctor is going to judge you for the cause of your depression. People can get depressed for lesser things. Go see someone before it gets worse and harder to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is great and fun but if you are suffering from what you think is depression then I’m no expert but I’d guess there may be other factors that maybe you are missing and your lack of sex may just be a part of the overall problem.

The key is to be honest and talk talk talk to family friends and yes your doctor but beware that some and not all anti depressants can in some people but not all surpress orgasms.

I know they did for me so I binned them after a week and learnt to deal with it my self.

And if it helps(which it won’t) I havnt had sex in over ten years and I was a sex addict but I suppose I’ve got the memories.

Good luck

Chin or chins up

And talk to real people

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really think you should go to the doctor. Low mood and depression can materialise in lots of different ways.

It really is better to go to the gp...

Or maybe do an online test? I think theres one in the nhs website. That will advise you on what to do next.

Just don't leave it, its really not worth it x"

What they said!

Plus, do you have close mates you can chat to about this and the other things?

Google men’s mental health - lots of good stuff can be found there.

Hope it helps OP

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By *llan133 OP Man
over a year ago

rhosniger

Thanks everyone for your advise and your help I will deffo go to the doctor and tell them. thank you soo much for your help it means a lot to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please go to the GP asap. My wife was depressed 4/4 years ago, none of the family or myself recognised the signs, withdraw from social life, being silent, sleeping a lot more, as no one in our family have experience of mental health issues. Unfortunately she went to the GP too late the damage was done and she went into a downward spiral culminating in a very serious attempt to take her own life, it wasn't a cry for help and she was saved only because I came home from work early. She was eventually admitted to a psychiatric hospital where she deteriorated further eventually becoming psychotic and was sectioned for 8 months, she spent 14 months in hospital and was discharged a wreck, she never recovered but cancer took her quite quickly last Easter. I urge you to look after yourself and me and my family wish we had recognized the signs earlier and perhaps she wouldn't have gone through all the anxiety

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By *iscreet gent2018Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I’m on the first day of sick leave due to depression. I’ve been trying to juggle life for too long. Feeling crap is so corrosive, so please go and see the doctor, regardless of the reason, depression isn’t nice. I’m hoping I’m back on my feet soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m on the first day of sick leave due to depression. I’ve been trying to juggle life for too long. Feeling crap is so corrosive, so please go and see the doctor, regardless of the reason, depression isn’t nice. I’m hoping I’m back on my feet soon

You've done the hard bit which is asking for help. Truly hope things get better for you soon. One in four of us, hun. You're not alone, just do a day at a time and you'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression sucks, I’ve had patients who come in & talk to me and it’s hard to listen to the stories. One thing I don’t do is tell them to medicate it. Personally suffered from depression myself, medication never helped me. So I always try & encourage the small things, structure, exercise, speaking to somebody & in that hopefully open a gateway where we can find a solution.

Chin up buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depression sucks, I’ve had patients who come in & talk to me and it’s hard to listen to the stories. One thing I don’t do is tell them to medicate it. Personally suffered from depression myself, medication never helped me. So I always try & encourage the small things, structure, exercise, speaking to somebody & in that hopefully open a gateway where we can find a solution.

Chin up buddy

But it does help some people. It helped me, it saved my life. Its helped my partner. Its helped scores of other people I know. It seems crazy to not even consider it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Another vote for "medication saved my life". Not on its own, not as a mere plaster over a gunshot wound. But I couldn't have dealt with years of my life without it.

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By *iscreet gent2018Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You've done the hard bit which is asking for help. Truly hope things get better for you soon. One in four of us, hun. You're not alone, just do a day at a time and you'll get there

Thanks for the very kind words, Hun. Means a lot to know that genuine people care for others. You’re right, that hard bit is done and I’m going to concentrate on getting back on track. Hope you’re well too. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your advise and your help I will deffo go to the doctor and tell them. thank you soo much for your help it means a lot to me x"

Good for you.

I've been off work since july because I hit rock bottom. It's scary accepting that something is wrong but it really is worth it.

You've taken the first step by admitting theres something going on. Good luck and keep us posted...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up buddy

I’m not disputing medication doesn’t work. But I’d rather work on things first. It depends on the person individually.

I’m just glad whoever suffers from depression, gets help one way or another.

But it does help some people. It helped me, it saved my life. Its helped my partner. Its helped scores of other people I know. It seems crazy to not even consider it. "

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport

First off, well done for talking about it; that takes guts, even with the relative anonymity here.

Go see your doctor talk about it. They won't judge you and all the doctors I've known are very broad minded!

Medication can really help, it did for me, but there are other options too. Take care, good luck.

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

"Any one els feel depression wen you don’t have sex at all been a long time since I had some and starting to feel down all the time or is jusd me "

You may just be imagining it’s lack of sex that’s bringing you down, the reality could be it’s another underlying problem, so as others have said, there’s no shame in getting help.

I was single for a long time before I met Kim , I had plenty of sex because I worked in the adult industry, however, I ended up feeling lonely and desensitised, it wasn’t a good time in my life. I’d get a temporary high from sex and then a massive low after. So my point is, don’t think sex will cure your lows, it could end up making things worse. Fix the route of the problem.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately we all get depressed and having expections from this site will make it worse...

Get out more and get away from 'the screen'... There are a lot of nice people in the 'real world' and replace your fantasies with honest people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing comes from negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up buddy

But it does help some people. It helped me, it saved my life. Its helped my partner. Its helped scores of other people I know. It seems crazy to not even consider it. "

It saved my life too!! Hard to admit but I had a short stay in a mental health unit because things had got so bad.

Medication is not the cure but it definitely helped me by taking the edge off. I'm not ashamed to say I'm in medication. I've been through absolute hell....thankfully I can see the light now.

Sending everyone who's suffering a big fat hug. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up buddy

I’m not disputing medication doesn’t work. But I’d rather work on things first. It depends on the person individually.

I’m just glad whoever suffers from depression, gets help one way or another.

But it does help some people. It helped me, it saved my life. Its helped my partner. Its helped scores of other people I know. It seems crazy to not even consider it. "

Totally this, doc

and as someone else said its not enough on its own. It just helps you do the things you need to do to get better. You still have to do them and if you don't then you'll make no progress. But I won't forget opening my eyes one morning after three weeks and everything feeling different. The black, hopeless void was gone. There was still so much to do but I wasn't catatonic and paralysed, I could do it. My doctor stood up and hugged me when I told her she'd saved my life and I'd never forget it or her. I'm so grateful to you and everyone like you for the help you give us.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Please go to the GP asap. My wife was depressed 4/4 years ago, none of the family or myself recognised the signs, withdraw from social life, being silent, sleeping a lot more, as no one in our family have experience of mental health issues. Unfortunately she went to the GP too late the damage was done and she went into a downward spiral culminating in a very serious attempt to take her own life, it wasn't a cry for help and she was saved only because I came home from work early. She was eventually admitted to a psychiatric hospital where she deteriorated further eventually becoming psychotic and was sectioned for 8 months, she spent 14 months in hospital and was discharged a wreck, she never recovered but cancer took her quite quickly last Easter. I urge you to look after yourself and me and my family wish we had recognized the signs earlier and perhaps she wouldn't have gone through all the anxiety"

So sorry for your loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mild depression can go away on its own but that depends on your mindset. Moderate to severe depression needs expert help. Sadly, like the rest of the NHS, mental health is underfunded but their are charities out there. Samaritans, definitely for crisis moments, and MIND.

Do not self medicate with alcohol, it is a depressant. If you have a support network (family, friends, neighbours) use them. Many people don't, so be your best friend and definitely reach out to your GP.

If you have issues tha go deep (such as into your childhood) and you can afford a counsellor, do consider this root. Talking therapies do work.

If you are prescribed meds, don't expect a quick fix. Other ways to help you is taking a look at your sleeping pattern, how you relax (look into mindfulness), exercise and nutrition.

Remember depression can be a long road which you can take with others by your side, but they cannot do the work for you. There are no quick fixes.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah don’t get depressed about sex

I get depressed every time my 6 lottery munbers draw a blank

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"Any one els feel depression wen you don’t have sex at all been a long time since I had some and starting to feel down all the time or is jusd me "

Hi op(Allan)

I had depression which was not diagnosed and stress for years, got help in 2015 and got through it, but the medication did give me erectile disfunction and. Started feeling more feminine. I also think this ( the stress and depression) caused the cancer..

Chin up, get yourself to the docs and try and live life rather than life leading you..

Xxx

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

Op if your employed, many , certainly larger employers, have anonymous counselling schemes nowadays. Worth checking it out. Get advice from your own GP too, not listen to a doctor on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mild depression can go away on its own but that depends on your mindset. Moderate to severe depression needs expert help. Sadly, like the rest of the NHS, mental health is underfunded but their are charities out there. Samaritans, definitely for crisis moments, and MIND.

If you have issues tha go deep (such as into your childhood) and you can afford a counsellor, do consider this root. Talking therapies do work.

If you are prescribed meds, don't expect a quick fix. Other ways to help you is taking a look at your sleeping pattern, how you relax (look into mindfulness), exercise and nutrition.

Remember depression can be a long road which you can take with others by your side, but they cannot do the work for you. There are no quick fixes.

Good luck. "

Damn, that's a good post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have issues tha go deep (such as into your childhood) and you can afford a counsellor, do consider this root. Talking therapies do work.

If you are prescribed meds, don't expect a quick fix. Other ways to help you is taking a look at your sleeping pattern, how you relax (look into mindfulness), exercise and nutrition.

Remember depression can be a long road which you can take with others by your side, but they cannot do the work for you. There are no quick fixes.

Good luck.

Damn, that's a good post

Awww thank you

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